Showing posts with label destiny. Show all posts
Showing posts with label destiny. Show all posts

Saturday, October 31, 2009

Question to Shakira





Why is it, do you think, that hips don't lie?

Santosh Kalwar

LAPPEENRANTA, FINLAND

Whenever I'm in the recording studio or rehearsing and I'm not convinced about the way it sounds, I know because my body doesn't react to the music. So I always ask, Hey, am I moving? Are my hips moving? My hips don't lie.


Source:
http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1933193-2,00.html

Monday, February 9, 2009

Suffering

Suffering,

Let us go first by what our renowned dictionary has to say,
1: to endure death, pain, or distress
2: to sustain loss or damage
3: to be subject to disability or handicap

etc.

My opinion on Suffering,

Suffering is another open question where this column and my thirty minutes of work on this comment or article will not be enough to all the hungry mind of PCBR (Paulo Coelho’s Blog Readers).

Anyways, Let me give a shot on “Suffering”.

Suffering inevitable, it exits and it will never fade away. As the humanity exits so is suffering. There is no remedy to it and there is no single right answer by anyone.

We are all because of Suffering, we exits because we suffer, we are living because we have to suffer. Every morning I wake up, I start my suffering and every night before I go to bed, I die. Will you belive this? Well, this is what I am.

It does not mean that, I am speaking the what Jesus spoke long time back. I am just saying that “We all are God”. We have Jesus and Mary inside us, within us. We are made up of bones, muscles and physical entiry with eternal lives of Jesus, Mary, Buddha, Allah and all.

Those people (I am sorry since I am saying them people), those were all God since they were normal human being like us. So we are too.

Christianity speaks about Jesus being the child of God, Mohammad being child of God speaks Khoran, Ram being child of God speaks Ramayan, Buddha being child of God speaks Buddhism and similar alike.

I say to all those around me, They were not a child of God but they were God and We are too. There is no child of God but only God. We all humans are God. Sufferings exits in all of us. We cannot avoid it. Sharing suffering can loosen your burden. (Well, Please disagree with me.)

Every new idea is a disagreement, Value of exisiting being is never given by us because we do not see the importance. (Why all the fuss, when Jesus was dead after being hung up for so many days in the nail pierced hands?) Why do not people realize the his value when he was alive ?

I have my own opinion which states that, “We all are God”. I agree on all the religion and respect all what they preach. You can always disagree with me on this.

Now, Let me go to the point again on Suffering-

There is nothing called “happiness, or love, or faith, or destiny or whatever…”, Everything is written well in advance when we are in Mother’s womb.

The process of writing starts from day one till nine months. These nine months are the process of writing your own scripts. The script of your life. You write it, nobody else. You do not know it, until and unless you become concisous or awake. The real awakening could take some years like 5-7 years.

When you are awake, I mean when you realize that you are alive. How? When you can see the things around you, start to remember your house, your mother, your father, your school and your religion then from that onwards your suffering starts.

Now, there is a gap between the time you are born to the time you are awake. This gap is about “adaptablity”. You are newly born and when you are newly born you want to adapt to the environment. The environment is not aboout Nature but about your home, family, religion and so on.

This is how it works. Or, atleast this is what I think.

Now, Since you have already written your script and hidden somehwere in back of your memory you do not know what you have written. It is secret script. You cannot read it all. This implies, you do not know what you have written.

Now, what your family, brother, sister, nature, country, religion will teach is observed by you. The observation will be stored in your “human brain”. The brain decides on your daily activities. The day to day work, daily hustle and bustle of your own personal lives are because of all the observation that you have done in your lives. You keep on repeating “those stuffs” which you have been influenced by or want to make some impression to.

This is how we live in Today’s world. Then suddenly, when we want to choose some career path, it does not work out. Or let us say, when you want to become Writer, you do not become writer but you end up being painter, or let us say, when you want something then that particular thing will not come in your life. (Why?)

Is this because of suffering? Yes, why not.
How?

Suffering is already written by you now, when you want to do something agaist your own script, that will not work out my dear friend.

Nobody is to blame, only you !

There is no heaven or hell. There is nothing after death. Nothing. Trust me on this. There is nothing after death because it will be same as before you were fully “awake”.

This is cyclic, We are born, we live and then we die then again after some gap, we are born again, we live and then we die. It is the cyclic process and it continues forever and ever.

Now, some of our brilliant mind will think-if we are born again then why don’t we remember anything from our past?

It is because when we write our script in Mother’s womb, we do the same when we are near the deathbed, Just before we are going to die- the before death period of “Nine Months”, we start to Erase everything that we wanted to do and did, being on this Earth.Our Consciousness, will fade away at that period.This is simple explanation.

Now, let me again look back to what Paulo’s question- Ok, I am sorry Christian question,
Is suffering important to get enlightenment ?
Well, for this I have already written one Newspaper Journal, you can find it here-
“Anyone can be a Gautam Buddha…”
http://mybheja.blogspot.com/2007/08/enlightenment.aspx

My Mother always used to say,
Sukh-ke-sub-saathi-dukh-me-na-koi. (Plenty of friends in happiness, none in Dukh or disquietude or suffering.)

I think this is the process of life, No one wants to share Suffering because you just have to suffer your own sufferings. Nobody will help you suffer your sufferings. You are the creator of your sufferings.You just have to solve your own sufferings. It is easy. You need some time and you will figure it out that, you have solved your sufferings.

By the meanwhile, you can enjoy some videos on this topic-

Spiritual fun-
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=azYQqzoEjgU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=59bA0LBRcKY

Hippie’s fun-
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h0OhqCYUaRY
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kYDulMYVj1U

Valentine's Week: Poem of the Week.



Plot: Gloomy Sunday( The day after 14th of Feb, 2009) it is, when a man's love is preparing for her marriage and this young handsome man has decided to take away his life and to rest in peace.

Note:
On 15th Feb, 2009 there will be no posting. In memory of this yong man's lady who is marrying on that day.

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Where do you find inspiration?

1. Writers drew there Inspirations from themselves staying like a child.
2. Learning is every day phenomenon from ourselves and from others around us.
3. Nature and Environment teaches us and bring even closer to it, every day and in every moments.
4. Einstein said that all of his great inventions were because he stayed to be child. Being in the state of the child bring curiosity and passion for work.
5. As you said Paulo coelho, "I am my books and they are part of my soul." Most of the writer should feel in the same way, here is one question you would like to add if you have not already posted. What do you associate with books?
6. A single moment of joy and complete peace, satisfaction in that moment and words of wisdom gained and shared are what most of the writer would like themselves to associate with.
7. I do not know if God exits but I know, if he exits then he must live inside us, inside our body,being invisible but controlling our body and driving us forward, to take very next step in our life. I am the bilogical body and my books are representation of that very next step which God wants me to take.

Thursday, January 15, 2009

Adam and Eve

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Once upon a time there was a guy named Mr.Adam, in his mid thirties, long haired, good looking just like a scholar. Adam was happy with his life. He was a computer professional and most of the times he was working on the computers. The first love that he has discovered was only the computers since he was not involved with any women.

Despite he was good looking and nice, there was no women who wanted to approach him and love him. One day he finished his degree and returned back to his country. He saw one girl who was busy in the Phone. He looked at her and thought, "She looks good". Next day on the same place during same time-Adam saw her again talking in the phone.

He thought, "She must be talking with her boyfriend". Adam did not gave much of the importance after that thought. The girl was also in her mid thirties and very good looking and nicely build. She was beautiful as the Rose. Eve as her sister would like to call her.

After few days, Eve looked at the Adam and Smiled. She must have thought something before smiling but Adam had no clue. May be Adam thought He knew with whom she was talking-her boy friend named Fox.

Adam friend Moore was good at talking with the girls and he talked with Eve about Adam and his characteristics. Moore admired a lot about the Adam and he said many good things about the Adam to Eve.

For couple of weeks on the same place and during same time, Adam could not see Eve anymore. His eyes were searching for Eve but he could not find her. "Where is Eve?", Why did not see come today or yesterday to talk with her boyfriend?. These questions were on the mind of Adam.

During this period of the time Adam was reading a Novel by Paulo called "Veronica decides to die". While Adam was very fast learner, it did not took long for him to finish Paulo's Novel. He finished it within the couple of weeks time. He learned about the women and why they are committing the suicide.

After the couple of weeks period, Adam saw Eve but this time she looked little sick and weak. She was not even talking with anyone, silent and cold. She was just frozen or something thought Adam.

Adam went close to her and said, "what happened to you?" why are you not talking any longer". Eve replied that nothing has happened and she was OK.

As Adam's Nature was outgoing and friendly, he talked about the book which he read recently with Eve and with her sister Maria. They wanted to know about the book which Adam had read. The topic of the book was very fascinating to them.

Adam explained all the details about the book and he told how a girl decides to commit a suicide and what goes wrong with her. He explains it is a coward act to commit a suicide and give up your life for some "reasons".

While Adam was explaining the story, Eve was smiling looking at Adam but she said no word. Adam and Eve started seeing each other like this and they continued for some time may be it was for couple of weeks or so.

One day, Eve was alone in her shop and Adam went there to talk with her. Adam wanted to know where she went during those two weeks period since he could not talk with her. Eve started saying that, she was in hospital bed since she committed suicide.

Adam was shocked to listen this- Adam asked her why?, Eve replied it was because of the Fox. I worshiped him more than the God, he was my God. I never used to eat before he has eaten, I never used to do anything before he used to say to me, I was truly and madly in love with him but he said that he cannot marry me.

When he said he cannot marry me after we being together in love for four years, I was broken. My heart was broken and I thought for whom should I live? There is no one for whom I should live my life. That is why I decided to kill myself.

After listening to Eve, Adam was sorry for what has happened with her. Adam asked one question to her, "Did he said-I love you to you?". Eve replied with Yes, Many many times. Almost every day.

Adam started thinking-"What is the value of I love you when you really do not feel the love for the person?"

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Saying one thing and doing one thing is common human nature.

We say one word and we do not even care or mean it seriously. Every words spoken cannot be taken back. A good listener could be a good partner and it is one of the essential element to be in the relationship. Let us think, If you say "I love you" do you really mean that you really really love that person?.

What if you are just faking? I do not know if there is any reality in it. "Want" does not describe love, "Needs" does not fulfill "thirst" or quest in our life.

When the words like "I love you" is so much valuable. We should make it more valuable by saying only when you really really mean it and when your inner self says to do so. Most of the times we just say that words and we do not even know the value behind these three great words which make a complete sentence and this complete sentence could mean a lot to the other person.

Written things or words could be edited but spoken words could not be taken back.

All we need to do is make it more valuable and precious. Since these are most important sentence A Man would like to tell to her Princess.

Good day !

Monday, September 15, 2008

Sing a happy birthday song.

As I always try to get rid of my fears, they always and most often tend to come during Mondays. The Monday is starting of the week days, it also bring loads of excitment for those who do 10-5 jobs. I do not feel very excited on Mondays. I am really feeling as if this day should never come in my life again.

I do not invite the problems but they come to me. It is very automatic and I never want them to come in my life. I have heard thousand theories that you should not consider the days as good or bad but let it go. However, it does not give me silence.

I want to breath but I could not, I want live in silence but even though it could not come because inside me there is something which is creating loads of problems.

But, Why do I make my readers feel as if I am really depressed. Even though I am not feeling good, I hope you will feel good. Here is what I received in my Inbox couple of days ago from a friends.

The picture shown below is a puzzle that you need to solve.



"Imagine you are in Africa . You have been tied hanging on a tree with
a rope anchored on the ground, a candle is slowly burning the rope,
and the lion is waiting for you to drop and be his lunch."


"Your survival hinges on the rope staying intact, there is no one
around to help you. What to do now ............ "



What would you do ?


Do you have any other option ?

Will you be able to survive ?


If yes, how could you survive ?

Now, do not take it very seriously.



Sing a Happy Birthday song.


Here is what you need to do-




Cheers !

Tuesday, September 9, 2008

Happiness.



One of the friend send me the pictures in my email and I liked this picture so much that I am writing something about it. Look carefully at the picture and look again. Look for some minutes and now compare these picture with your life. Think about your life with this picture and ask one question to yourself- Are you happy ?

The happiest people in the world are not with blue collar shirts and working in big multinational companies. The happiness lies in sharing emotions together. Happiness lies in being satisfied with what you have got not with what you will get in future.

Happiness is taken very seriously in many ways in the life. Some times happiness is just measured with the person who smiles is thought as happy, some time we read something about the great people and stories about them and we think those people are very happy. Money can never buy you happiness, neither can marriage or any relationship does not come with package of "happiness".

Happiness is being, happiness comes along with satisfied mind. The worry face does not say that a person is happy or not happy. The surprising face will not tell you that if a person is happy or not. The face will just give a picture of the person but once you talk and share your emotions with others then you realize if the person is really happy or not.

Happiness and sadness are two opposite things and these two opposite have one common meeting point. The meeting point is that sadness will always remain with you. It is in you. It can come any times as is happiness. But happiness doesn't stay longer. Sadness will with you all the time. It is your best friend, (if you do not have one.)

Therefore, happiness is a very good thing and again, it can be bad thing, It is bad because it will remain with you only for very short period of the time and after that it will go away. It is momentary,it comes and goes with the moment. It is due to the fact that you had a pleasant moment in your life and that pleasant moment is somewhere stored in your memory that always reminds you about it.

It keeps on coming, and you think about the moment and you never stop thinking about it over and over again. You like it so much that you think you are the happiest person in the world. But, you are not. You can be happy only when you are satisfied with what you have and you do not expect anything from your life. Can we be satisfied with what we have ? Never, simply because we are human beings and it is rooted in us that, we always are in need of something. We always want more.

The pictures speaks more than my words. Look again at that picture and related to your life in past and now in present. See what you have achieved. Look in the mirror and ask yourelf if you are really happy with your luxurious things or you were happy when you did not had any of those material possessions.

The most important thing in life is to satisfy your needs together with those who care about you. The most important thing can be achieved by knowing your self and your own life together with those around you. It is easy.

It does not matter if I do not have a car
It does not matter if I cannot buy you a house.

Only thing that matter is my dear, I care more than myself about you.
I may live longer but I do not know that
Because I know who am I
and I care will die one day saying, "I loved you" so much.

It does not matter if I do not have enough money
I will rest assure you that, I will work hard to feed us.

It does not matter, if I am alone and you are far.
Distance cannot tear our love apart

I hope it all pays off one day
Together we will see this day

It does not matter whatever my words say
I know we will land up one day in the paradise

It does not matter if it will be heaven or hell
but It matters that you will be with me...

Happiness is not known to us
but we will share this broken bed,
Our kids may sleep together in it
Our dogs may sleep together with us

It does not matter if we do not have golden bed
It does not matter if we do not have pet rooms
It does not matter if we do not have our child room

Only thing that matter would be you.
Only thing that matter would be us, together in a room.
Sharing our satisfaction of being all together.

Having fun, and being satisfied with all we have done.

It does not matter ...

Monday, September 8, 2008

Little words

Today is the fresh start of the new age, the age which many has already spent doing something in there life. Well, every weekdays starts with the Monday and the Monday's are not so good for me. I know the fact that every day is the same day and it does not make difference to anyone for any day. The day as food is not bad by itself. It is our taste that says, it is bad or it is terrible. Similarly, the day itself is not bad but it is my mood that always says to me that, this day is not good for you.

Something wrong will happen to you. I do not know weather you call this as psychological things but it is the process of mind which creates such an atmosphere.

To answer the why is the biggest difficulties in modern world. We are born in such a way that we never want to question the facts such as why is 2+2=4 ?, why is earth round ? Why is my religion this and your religion that.. why I have to wear clothes even in summer ? Why ? These facts are learned and hard coded in our memory. These do not change easily.

When something that we learned are encoded in our brain, it is very difficult to take it out. For example, we know the place where we live and that will not go at any cost. But when we learn the skills those skill might go away once we do not practice them at all.

These skills have to be practice all the time. Whatever way the brain learns the object around,is not the matter of discussion here.

However, it is good that one should always have to follow the heart and listen to brain. Once you follow what you are going to do next in your life then you will end up in the right position.

Tuesday, September 2, 2008

Dream

Once upon a time there was a man, who was very eager to achieve something in his life. He was dreaming everyday that he will one day fulfill his dreams. No matter what, he was thinking that one day his dreams will become a reality.

Every body around him was joking and laughing at him. He never used to tell to anyone that his dreams are these and he will achieve that dream but one day suddenly some one knew what his dream was. That person started to tell others that his dreams are these. How would you interpret this story now ?

Do you think the other person who guessed the dream of that man really knew the dream ? Do you think that unlike the man who did not wanted to spread the messege of the dream, the other person really should have spreaded the messege across every one around him. Why do a person has to think what is going on somebody else's mind ? It is because, we are living in the world where no body is left alone. We always want to know what is there going on in the other person mind. If we do not know then we will indeed guess.

Every body has some little secret and these little secrets are very important in there life. No body wants to reveal them to anyone. Even though, a person might guess that his secrets are this or that; but that is not the case in most of the times.

The person who is not worried about his own life is not worried of death. The person who is worried about his life is worried from the fear of death. Whatever be the case, there is something which we should not do in real life. We should not try to look in some body else's mind. It is not good idea to guess what is going on some body else's mind and think based on those assumptions.

World is not the way we think. It is beyond our thinking. There are many countries, there are many people, there are many cultures and there are many different tradition. We have to observe these closely, these all are made for us. I do not hate difference simply because there are so many different things like country, culture, race and religion. I hate it because there are people who do not try to see similarities in those differences.

I do not know what a man dream was and I am not into it. I do not want to read the mind of anyone. It is not good to look inside some one else mind. It is very easy though. Dream are very different then the reality and the reality is some what similar to the dreams.

Once I dreamed something and I thought that would not become a reality but One day I found that it was true. How can a dream become true? May be the dream was not for me, it was for some body else. When the dream is of some one else and later after some day you see that it has become true then you feel that your dreams really are true.

Well, Whatever be the case; "Dreams are always shattered by the compromise but still believe in your dreams" One day it might come true.

Thursday, August 28, 2008

do you think that in order to believe in yourself you have to renounce first to all other beliefs?

People talk, people say but I do not have words to talk and the people to say anything. Every day has the new beginning and every body see the new day as the totally new. The journey between the two person can lead to one destination or can also not lead to any other destination.

While I was writing the blog here I visited the Paulo's blog and I found the question of the week-
do you think that in order to believe in yourself you have to renounce first to all other beliefs?

Here is what I have to say in response to his questions.

Before asking if God exist or not or do we really believe in God ask that-Do we exist in this planet ? "I don't believe in Mantra .. I don't believe in Jesus.. I don't believe in Beatles .." all these verse are of the Single person who says he does not believe in any one except him.

To believe in yourself, is the first lesson of "believing". The first thing any humans should do is to believe themselves and then if necessary believe in others.

If somebody is asking me, the question- who are you ? I would simply say- "I am nobody". It is because I do not know who am I. I am no one to everybody. I do not know who am I ? The first lesson is alway to understand your self. Learn from you and then see what that means in real world.

Life from the start to the end is full of lesson. We learn, we then think weather we should share or not the lesson that we have learned in our life. In the process of understanding "sharing" we forget that we are not going to take anything from this earth.

We came empty handed and we will go empty handed. It does not mean that we should feel depressed and become lonely and live in silence but it means that we should first understand ourselves.

There were no God and there would be no God. It is just our imagination. There were no power and there would be no powerful human being existing in this earth to save our lives.

There would be only us, there would be only the Nature. There would be only the rocks, mountains, river, trees and so on which would be existing forever and ever. It will not go anywhere. Any super power we are going to get tomorrow is from the Nature, to the Nature and on the Nature.

Understanding oneself is very essential to understand those who we believe in like Jesus, Buddha, and many more. The first question for those who ask the religion, I would ask them is- "who are you?". If anyone can answer me who he/she is then surely he will be able to answer the question weather or not they believe in God or not.

Any power can be achieved from the mother earth, any power can be achieved from the Nature and any kind of power will be destroyed by the Nature again. I recommend Nature because it has many different meaning. One is Environment which we can see by our senses and other is our own which we have to feel by ourselves.

Believing or not believing is not the question but it is the matter of trust. How often do you trust the person who said once to you that- he will never have an affair with another women in his entire life and the Next day you see the same person sleeping with the some body else in her bed.

The human who will do anything for the "words that once came from his mouth" is the real human. Just try it one day and see if you will be able to do it. If you will then, you believe in yourself.

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

A day

The day rises with the fresh thinking on the name of the God, The god of everything, He desire then goes on to fulfill the desire unfulfilled. It passes at every new steps and each new step is the lesson learned.

As every day I look at my horoscope this is what they have to say about me today-

"There's no getting around it; this is going to be a day of hard work! At the end of the day you may feel completely exhausted, but you can smile to yourself and say "I've accomplished a tremendous amount today! You are so inspired that you do the work of three people, and even manage to wrap up some old files that you hadn't dared open for awhile. Ideas come to you with ease, and you make the most of them. Well done!"

I do not know what those statements means for the fresh start of the day. It says that it is going to be the day of hard work and that is absolutely correct. It is correct that every new day is different and people do many things differently in all the new day. I hope I will manage to get that two words which says- "Well done" but will it be really that way.

Will it work in the way I thought it should work or would it even match those as said. How many of us believe that it works as it should work or how many of do not believe anything at all. Everything we do and everything we want to do are not the same many of the times.

I remembered yesterday few lines which were inspiring for some reason but I do not know what was that.

It is good to see what the "stars" are saying for the day but many of the times it does not happen in the way we want them to happen simply because there is something unpredictable going on all the time,every moment,every time and all the time.

Every work has something new way of doing it. It is good experience to experience. It is good that people are alive and living as the normal life. I have seen the difference in the people who are from east and the people who are from the west. I do not know the connection but people are motivated

There is no difference between whites and black, only difference lies in our eyes. Inside the white there is black and inside black there is white. I do not see any connection. I do not know why there is fights for the racism, I do not know why. Why people are looking after the differences and not the similarities. What is the main reason that people are looking after peoples in different ways.

People are same every where and the difference is not today of culture, country, race or religion. The difference is within us. The greatest difference we create lives in our mind constantly and that has to be eliminated.

As mind keeps on changing we keep on changing our activity related to our mind too. The process continues in the similar fashion.

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Alone on the path.

I like the idea of Alone on the Path. Especially the saying. Here is the end quotes-

Sufi Dhu ‘l - Nun (Egyptian, died 861 AD) describes the positivity of life.

“Oh Lord, when I pay attention to the voices of animals, the sounds of the trees, the bubbling of the waters, the chirping of the birds, the howling wind or the crashing thunder, I perceive in them evidence of Your unity; I sense that You are the supreme power, almighty, the supreme wisdom, supreme justice.

“Oh Lord, I recognize You in the trials I am enduring. Allow, Lord, Your satisfaction to be my satisfaction. May I be Your joy, that joy which a Father sees in his son. And may I recall You with tranquility and determination, even when it is difficult to say that I love You.”


Alone on the path. We are all alone on our own path. We choose to come on this planet from the women who is very complex organism in itself. A women can be called as earth itself. A women whose complexity can be called as simplicity. A women creates us from the very core of her inner self. She takes care as the earth and Nature does. Once we come down to the earth then we are on our own.

One thing every human should understand is “a person is always alone on the path”. It does not mean that the person is in the stage of the loneliness or being alone but he is living a life of the alone.

Those four elements for the survival are really necessary to understand why you are walking down the alone path. Love is always necessary to understand either is it the love of mother or it is the love of the true lover.

Death is necessary to know that the very existence of your own self is going to end one day. It is also necessary simply because it keeps us alive in every moment we live. Every moment should be lived as if there is no moment next coming up. Every moment should be adventorus and exciting. Live with total joy and blessing.

I do not know if in the movement of trees, chirping of the birds and black cloud over the sky are the symbols of something extraordinary creature we called as GOD but I would fairly accept the fact that these are true color of Natures itself.

We can learn from just being present in the moment but at the same time we can loose nothing except our time for the present. The time is the moment, time is being present and passing with the moment.

As it is difficult to fist understand the “love”, it is also difficult to understand the phenomenon of “life”.

We all have to one day realize and will realize that whatever we are doing or whatever we are thinking to do are not that much of essential because these are just our logical mind which needs much more attention then anything else.

We fear death but why do not we fear the love ? It is just the matter of knowing yourself better than anything else. The person who knows himself will never ask who you are ?

The person who answer who he is; actually is not what he really is. The meaning is in finding yourself and to walk or take the journey in own way. It is like writing your script and taking the path but in case you have trouble to reach to the final destination that you really meant to reach. Simply learn from others and take there experience into your account. It will take you to that long long journey very easily.

Monday, July 28, 2008

"The notebook"

Last night, I was watching a movie called "The notebook". A movie which has a story theme-"Every great love has great story". A truly exceptional movie of love. Two couples who love each other, more than themselves.

The story has a great ending and every two person in love would like to end there life in the similar fashion. A love which has no story is not a love. It does not matter weather the story has to be great or not-great; it is basically up to others to judge it but every love has some story.

When a person is in love, he is in love and can do anything for his love to become a reality or success. A guy in this movie has a dream, a dream of building a old house into the dream house for him and his girl friend. But due to financial problems of the guy he could not easily make his dream come true.

A girls family is very rich and famous so her mother do not likes her to get married with the guy and she takes her away from the guy. Later, they separate what is important is the distance between the two people which reminds them about how much they love each other.

A truly nice movie with load of good lesson to be learned from it. Life is full of surprises and some times we get more surprises then expected. It is very nice and good to see the things as they are and not as they would be.

One of the beauty of life is to see the beauty in everything. The place, the things, the people, environment, surroundings, friends, family and everything else. When a person sees the beauty in everything else then they can really make a difference. They can create a difference not in there heart or mind but the difference in society, difference of change, difference over religion and knowledge and difference over lives of other people.

It is good to see good things and try to neglect or take a experience from the bad things in lives. A love is love, cannot be explained, cannot be judged and cannot be estimated. A love of a person is for a life. A life till the existence of the person. A love for a country, for a nation, for a family and for a girl and for a religion all are same. Only the context is different. Only to whom and what visualized is different.

No one can measure the love, it is vast and deep, deeper than the ocean and deeper the human emotions. Deeper than one's judgment and opinion. It is a virtue by which we are existing today.

A love of Nature towards us has made us survive. How many us can raise our hands and say that we are the creators of Nature ? 10, 100, 1000 or not even one. It is up to us to decide. Are we a Nature child or are we not ? These answers will be best described when one can realize that we are saved by Nature most of the times. Without it we cannot exit. With it we can exit forever and ever.


Welcome to become a child of Nature and worship a love for it.In a sea of lake full of water, The water is water. Dirt in water does not make the water dirty. It is the way we look it. After the dirt thrown into a water, it will still be pure as it was before.


Well, I hope you all have a great start of the week. Enjoy the beauty that is presented in front of you not with imaginary smiling face but with real smiling face from inside you.

Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Faith and Science

Yesterday, We were celebrating a friends birthday and it was very nice experience with all the friends gathered to express the views, share opinion and eat a great food. We had a Nepalese special momo prepared and we had it with total joy.

There were loads of discussion regarding various issues, some where to political and some were just useless. The person who talks louder speaks nothing. There were loads of great issues such as spirituality and Science and which one is the best among others. Some others issues were such as how a vegetarian people can survive without eating non-veg items so on and so forth.

When taking into account the main issues of spirituality there are some concepts which they thought have to be changed but I do not believe that there is one right answer. It is totally stupid to think in the way we think now a days. People think that Science will explain everything and we all have answers to all the unknown processes. But further from the science there is something very natural which is the uppermost layer of the all. We call it by different names- Faith, God, Super Power, Natural Power etc. All these lead us to believe on something which is exceptional and something outstanding beyond our understanding.

I read yesterday in the New York Times that Scientist are using the Mirror to learn more about the understanding the human and various cognition process of how the mirror can reflect the personality and so on. Science and faith are two different branch of a tree which will lead us to one final destination.Both the ways are scary and one among the other cannot make a entire tree. A tree here is the existence of this human concept, ideas, theories and everything that makes us believe that we are existing.

Science is created by humans and is the Spirituality. Only difference is that the Spirituality came first and Science the next. The developments are made by Science therefore modern men and women believe more on science than spirituality. however, It is always good to know the roots before you take out the fruits from the tree. Learn the basics of from where we came and what would be our core existence.

Who are we ? Who am I ? The question is not to the readers but the writer himself is asking to him that who am I ? Am I any physical existence that humans around me see or am i similar to the animals who live in the forest. To answer who am i ? I have already written it in my profile that I am no body. I am a body with no in front of it. I am a body with flesh, bones and the whatever the outer part is seen from the it. A normal human being with two legs, two hands and two eyes, two ears a mouth, eyes etc.

When one can know oneself then one can try to know about who we all are ? The answer to the first question is the by understanding the answer to the next question. Without understanding who you are how can you try to understand who others are ? They might look same, they might have the same physical structure as of you but they are not thinking the same as you are thinking, they are not doing the same as you are doing, they are eating the same as you are eating so on and so forth.

Do you know why we have group of humans doing the single task ? We build up army, military and group of people only to perform a single task why ? It is because when a task in one, it will be easier if the number of humans will set the one common goal and do the task simply because the work will be done faster and the time will be saved.

Coming back to the question of faith vs science, it is long long debate and one simple answer to thing is to please go back and read the question yourself, try to find the answer to your own very existence. I am not asking you to do the thing, but if you feel you should ask these very important question then please do otherwise please leave it.

Faith is important to understand more about you and science is also important to understand how it connects to give some logical answer from our very own nature about how it really works. Which makes sense to many of us at present moment. Today, most of the humans are more involved in doing research in science then research in spirituality but by the combination of these two will lead us to new path and new way of finding our core destination will be easier.

Between Science and Spirituality there must be one very cool, calm and very sweet path which will lead us to understanding more about our human worries, depression, struggle, existence and many more. It is just again the matter of time which will be make sense to our sense.

Monday, July 21, 2008

Fortunate adaptation.

A good luck charm is the fortune which brings in your life by some means. I remember some times back in my life when nothing was working. Everything that I was trying was going hayward, nothing was according to my expectation or my wish.

All the things I was doing was the mistake or some common human error. I remember when I was visiting more than 100 companys together with my Bhutanese friend called- Subash and we both used to visit all these companies for job interview.

To our misfortune we never got any call from the companys and we were then in total frustration of living the country where we had got some education. Old college days,boozing with alchohol and caring for the native girl was total fun time.

The friends of the same country grouped together sharing emotions and playing dramas were total joy to live. Entire night staying with great alchol and marijauna party. Between the nights some one from the friends will decide to go out for the great fancy hotel for just to take some chicken kebab or some chicken item.

If some body will ask me, "mybheja is there anything in life that you will like to do ?" I would say that I have done everything. Nothing is left undiscovered but however, there would always be some thing that I am missing in my life. To fulfill all those missing I am living and I feel happy each and every breath I take for those beautiful oxyzen what people call makes me alive.

Have you ever thanked those beautiful air that you enhale from your nose or mouth. It is so nice and fresh. It is the only thing that makes our part of the engine work. I have not seen many of people who will every thank those air that they take inside their body.

The smell of air is always fresh, just like early morning breeze blowing through your windows. But when we mix them with some thing else it become awful. It does not matter. In life many of the times we think we are fortunate and many of the times we think we are not.

The reason for being fortunate and not being fortunate is the thinking of something unique happening in your life. If humans belive in miracles then to them I would suggest that it happens by some miracle which cannot be explained in plain scientific way.

It is just the good luck charm you need. Some people, some words, some look, some device, some place where you will find it all. You will think you are the king and you are very fortunate. But the same place to others can also turn out to be very unfortunate only because it is the adaptability factor which makes them sustain in the environment.

I like the place, but have you ever thought the place should also like you. It is always two way around. One has to give and one has to take. Once we live in one place, the place should take all our things that we give it to them and you have to take all that is offered to you by that place. The process is called adaptability. Once a human gets adapted to an environment, everything will work out as per your wish.

Let us be adaptable by giving and taking from the environment. Let us understand how the process works and the best way to start is-learn the place where you are living. It does not take time, it takes more of your motivation.

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Go for it.

Every thing goes according to some pattern in life. A life without any purpose is life of dull. Every body in the world lives with some purpose in life, to get a good degree, to earn a lot of money, to earn a fame, to just get something and so on.

How many of us live without any purpose ? Without any thing in mind but just living for a day and do not thinking over such event which are very important in life. It is very difficult and not possible without any purpose of life to live a life.

Therefore, Living a life for those purpose is very important in one aspect but in another aspect it is not so useful only because those moments are not sure of becoming true. When we expect something to go our way, it does not come as our wish and when we do not expect anything then at very moment those things certainly comes true.

Some times in life we get lot of good surprises, in those surprises the most beautiful one is the "women". An angel who takes care of you all the time. These angels are not present with you but they are taking care of you living in somewhere in some place.

When you are alone, nothing works for you many of the times but once you get into the relationship it is more difficult to sustain the relationship. A person who is not involved in any sort of relationship is free to choose and do as per his wish but once he gets involved in a relationship he should be ready to face many tackles.

These are some minor problems one has to face first and then try to get deeper into the problems. Once the problems will be known then it will be easy to solve. A mind which is in constant struglle or unstable is mainly because of the problems with relationship. When you waste all your energy to make one relationship, how will you feel when it is not in right track or not working properly but once you solve the problem then you feel good, relaxed and with total joy.

A feeling as of this is good for health and some times very bad for health too. When a two person are involved they either fight or they love each other. Once you climb an everest of fight then you do not have anywhere to go so, you have to come down to earth again. It is the just simple as this. It is not so difficult but once you hang in to the top of the everest then you will have to face many problems just simply because it is the highest peak where both of you are fighting and one has to come down to earth.

How is it possible to come down to earth ? A simple answer would be "silence". A silence is the key, or if you cannot become silent then put a mouth full of water and do not drink it. Put it till you calm down or get cool then you can slowly remain in silence. A distance is always necessary in relationship tool. When a two person loves each other they come closer to each other. They share emotion, physical body, there every day problems and all those smaller things to each other but when they stop doing talking then it might lead to problem in a relationship.

It is always good to listen to heart and go as per the wish of it. I have seen many people around who are not committed in the relationship. I would call it as playing. A game played with thinking I will get many women in my life as my life goes on. It is not good. It is bad if the other person is really committed and really wants your togetherness and nothing else. A person's motive can be easily understood once you fall for him or her.

Have a good day !

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Unstable mind.

Every day a success does not come you way and the success means not the achievements but getting things done as per your own expectations and experiences.It is not the life but the life with all smaller events that makes life different and challenging.

When a mind is not working prolerly, everything goes wrong and nothing works as per the mind planning activity and as yesterday, today is the same too. A real thing in life is controlling your mind. It is great challenge and the question bigger than the question iteself. It is to our mind which makes our understanding more clear and more specific to the time line or subject line.

When a person knows how to live, he will not know where to go and when he knows how to love he will not know what is love. Everything is so like puzzle and everything has to be first solved by mind. It has to be made very clear and simple. A real challenge is not in living but living with joy and madness. Living full of potential.

A purpose of life and life of purpose is different.When you are angry with yourself everything goes wrong. A person should learn to love himself. A loving part is very difficult and very complicated not because it is for one self but to others as well. One has to learn how to love oneself first. Loving oneself requires great bit of motivation and hard work. How can you love yourself ?

Can you say that your body is nice or you look beautiful or handsome or something like that or can you just say your physical body part is nice and you love yourself or is it different than loving your physical body part.

If it is different than loving your physical body part or is it the same ? How is loving physical body and love different ? Everything when tasted once, and after the liking of thing it becomes habit. Just like an addiction. A cigrate once tasted goes on beyond the likeness and it becomes addiction and later habit. Once it is changed to habit it will not be easily turned back to a normal stage.

Sex is something similar, we just first wants to taste it after getting a good taste of it we want to get more deeper into it. Once we go more deeper taste it usually becomes a addiction, In the process of wanting more then the "want" turns into habit. A habit then does not usually want to change easily.

It goes on and on. Even if you want to change or just think of changing it..,It will not change easily. It will then need a real hard work to let it go or do give up the habit that you have adapted. How many of us will live without sex ? How many of the kinds that are present in this world will live as per them and not per others. ? The last question means, can you live as per your heart ? Can you go and do everything as per you own mind surely it will be difficult because we get influenced by outside or outside society. We generally do not go and live as per our own heart.

A big challenge is living a life just as we want and not as others will make us to live. It is good to look at ours own personal habit and do things according to the personal desire. The mind which is disturbed will always talk disturbing things and the mind which is stable, cool and calm is relaxed mind. A relaxed mind will give best even in the times of difficulty.

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Why the bumblebee flies ?

From Paulo Coelho :-

"I’m back from Milan and on Thursday I had a conference at the Teatro Dal Verme with the mathematician Michael Atiyah. This very important matematician made a very interesting speech in which he mentions the bumblebee. Indeed, according to the laws of aerodynamics and of physics, the bumbleblee should not fly. Yet, as Sir Michael Atyiah said : “the bumblebee flies because it doesn’t know about the technicalities of aerodynamics.”
That leads us to the question of the week:
How many things we don’t do in life because we think beforehand that they are impossible? Like everybody says that the bulblebee is incapable of flying? "

In response to his question:-



IMpossible is the word which if broken becomes I M possible. Everyday we wake up and we think that certain things in life are possible and some are impossible. We then judge before doing the thing. Before the reality of experiencing we judge ourselves that we cannot do it.

To those who do not experience and judge by themselves that those things cannot be done, I would like to ask one question- Why are you not trying ? Give a shot and then see. Life is for a moment, and why not to live in the moment rather think of future and past. When a person is capable of living in moment then he is capable of making things possible.

There are many things we cannot try and some times we have to just leave them not thinking those are impossible but by giving some shorts of priorities to them and letting them go.

Nothing could be possible until we have a mind which will let us think that everything is possible. An animal can finds its own way to the finding the needs and fulfill its desire.

A fly is fly it means it has a capability of flying. I do not know whether that type of flies can really fly or not but I think it tries its level best before it dies.

“Try, try and try until you die”. Every thing is based on making things possible and not thinking ahead before giving it a full experience and knowing by own-self. When a person knows by himself or herself then he can easily teach others about what he felt when he tried the things which he was assuming were impossible in the first place.

Tuesday, July 8, 2008

Suprsise

Amazing things happen in life and that is the beauty of life when things go amazing. Some times we get surprise and the surprise if it is positive or nice or even nicer than we are excited and we jump into the stage called excited state for a while.

A mind is a brilliant machine inbuilt in the humans. We are this brilliant thing called mind which we can make work as per our SE. It is the art to make the mind work as per we want. We cannot gain this ability just by learning some books or by any simple method. It is first understanding yourself. In the process of understanding yourself, you will come up with understanding every part attached to your body and the most important is mind.

Imagine a situation where you wanted something to happen for you and that particular thing did not go well, I mean you wanted something but you did not get what you wanted. In such situation you will be abit depressed and not normal. There are some three types of behavior that humans show generally and these three are Normal-excited-depressed-normal-excited-... It is the cycle. Just like after every night there is a day, every day there is night and so on. These cycle of behavior are shown by humans in day to day life. It changes with time and circumstances.

The environment is the great factor which makes the change of the behavior. The normal behavior can be changed with depressed behavior just because some one in a friends family got expired. Again the Normal behavior can be changed in excited behavior just because some one is throwing a great party in some great place and you are invited. Excited behavior can be changed with Normal behavior just because you wake up and now today is the working day and you have to go to office and do your daily work.

The pattern continues and that is the cycle of life in showing different behaviors. Now the biggest question is how can a amazing things in life be connected with the behaviors. Does it have any matching. Yes, to some extent. The excitement shown by an individual is directly related with the behavior and the unexpected event occurring in a persons life.

The most useful state for humans could be the excited state where the body is full of energy and it is in total joy. There is no worries and no sadness involved. Only thing is the body which has no control over the situation. A excited person does not mean physical arousal or something like that but excited in a event with total joy and smile on face. Amazing things happen at that particular moment.

Well, that is how the predicted pattern of behavior could be seen but I am not sure if that has been scientifically proved. However, life is full of surprises and some times it is also good to learn the ability to give surprise to others. Many relationship does not work out because the partner are very predictive nature. One has to learn the ability of giving and taking surprises. Lot of these ability does not come from the learned behavior but from the bottom of heart.

Monday, July 7, 2008

Building Trust.

Hello, hello,, hello.. who are you ? I am asking you. Yeah, you sir who are you. Do you know who are you ? Come on tell me. Why do you want to know ? Who are you to ask ? Why are you asking me such questions ? Are you crazy ? Do you know me ?

These are the general conversation when a two unknown person talk for the first time. A person is trying to ask something but the other person is not trying to tell him about himself just because the unknown person is not known to him in one way or another.

Why are we finding the relationship before we want to explore ourselves or want to tell about ourselves to others.The main reason is that-we do not trust the person,who is uknown. We are fearful and afraid of the unknown. Either it is a person or animal. If it is not yours then it is not secure or not trustful. It is unlikely that some one will be open and tell everything to the unknown.

The mystery is that everything in world takes time. Love, Friendship, Marriage, almost many kinds of relationship takes load of time before it puts itself in a good gear and runs smoothly. Why do we admire a couple who are old and walking down the streets catching hand in hand laughing and cherishing a long old memories gone by, kissing and hugging each other just thinking they do not have the very next day behind them and only the moment at which they are present and walking down with a joy and happiness touching every feet like never before.

Time is a journey, a movement- our movement leads to time. Nothing is immovable. Everything moves. When everything moves we are bound to move as well. This is the fact and it do not need any scientific explanation. The movement creates a matter of trust between two parties, two friends, husband and wife and the most important thing that connects these movements is communication. When you are communicating then you are in a touch with the person and the person will be trustful to you but once you loose connection you stop trusting the other person and you tend to judge after a while. You will then ask weather she really needs to be trusted.

There is one story in Indian Epic. A story of Lord who goes to jungle for 14 years and he was the king of the place. Just because he has to leave everything and go in forest to spend his life for 14 years and the main thing was he could not take his wife with him. Now when he returns from the forest after 14 years, he hears a lot of thing about his wife. He hears long long sentences that makes him doubt over his wife. He then looses a trust over his wife. He then starts to think. He is king, he is great human being in those era but now he finds himself in dilemma and trouble. How would he trust his own wife after 14 years. ? Is she really trustful or can you really believe in her, whatever she says. A wife of the king had to do some kind of examination before she really could be trusted again. She had to sit in a burning fire for a while and if the fire automatically stops burning then she is proved that she is innocent.

What happened was miracle that she really testified her trust and finally the fire stopped burning. Or something similar. I do not remember much of the story. Now, the main question that remains in this world is, It was in those days when every body was very trustful and every body really valued what they speak but Today, Oh, my God !

You do not realize how many times in a day you speak lie. You speak lie to yourself, to your friends and to many of the people you may know or do not know. you say, hello Nice to meet you ! when you do not feel nice to see the other person. you say, "I love you". Just because you have to say. you say- "This is great". When it is no longer great. These are just some of the lies that we will not know or we do not explore within us.

The trust building process to build a relationship is a one kind of art and it has to be learn by yourself. It is the just the beginning.