Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Happy New Year

Welcome 2009 !!!

Last day of 2008

Last day of 2008 !

A new day to new calendar

May this change bring loads of happiness

To all the readers and viewers of Mybheja.

Good luck and see you in new Year 2009.

Quote of the day.

"In every steps that you take in your life-either you pass or fail. If passed step, you are on right track. If failed, you simply need to change your step."

"Every relation has robbed women."

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Monday, December 29, 2008

What is your Resolution for 2009?

This is little difficult for me-

As I am very bad at making plans and it is good idea to make a plan and work for these plans ahead. How about doing the things you like most at a given time? How about doing what your heart says? How about not planning ahead in advance.

There are people who waste time making calendars and put there events in the calendar but I just try to remember everything in my little head.

In 2008, I has some things in my mind. For example,

I will write around 365 posts in 2008 and if you will check now at the end of 2008 you will find that, I have really accomplished what I thought.
I am little doubtful if I will post 365 articles or posts in the same blog. It will depend on which place I will live. If I remain in Finland then I think, yes but if not, then I doubt on my own abilities this year.I do not know what would be my resolution in 2009 but let me try to make the list and see if I will achieve by the end of the year 2009.

There is some career accomplishments, personal voyage and many other random stuffs which I personally would like to do in 2009.

"Humans desires never end, every time we want more and more-it just never ends."

I truly believe in the above cited quotes. Therefore for coming new year 2009 which is-
Total is equal to Eleven

There is a book written by Paulo, called "Eleven Minutes". I have not yet read that book, I wish I could.

-May be Paulo will post his book "Eleven Minutes" in the blog and I will read them in 2009.

But just wait a moment, When we add "Eleven" i.e. 1+1=2

The final single number after the end of year 2009 is,

2+0+0+9=11 =1+1=2 (Two)

Two has a great meaning, it could mean "good" or "bad", it may also mean "right" or "wrong". In technology two means, 10 (Binary representation of decimal number 2)

When we go further deep we can find that in Electricity two mean either "on" or "off".

Now-let me see what this two has to do in my personal life. Well, Oh-

Alright, I got it.

I am presently in Finland,and Two could mean-I can go back to my home country in Nepal or might again, come back from Nepal to further study here in Finland.

May be, Two means I would have two wifes. I think I have to work very hard to make this happen. Simply because Generally, People say that "Behind every successful man, there is a women". Since the economic crisis is going on these days, jobs are being cut and there are loads of problems floating in around the air. Therefore, So, I think if someday I am going to become successful then, I need not just only "a women" but may be "two women".

What else two could mean in my life,
May be I will finish my second book which I am working on currently.Since this book will be the work of fiction, and I will try to find a publisher for this one. I do not want them to "self-publish". Simply because, it does not reach to wide audience until and unless you are famous.

What else, May be couple of "Scientific Journal" should be researched and published. But I still do not know if I will first be given any position for the study. Especially the research funding for the work by the University.

I think in 365 days these resolutions are good enough and if I complete even half of these then I think I have accomplished what I have promised with myself.

Now as you said Paulo, that you will again post these list at the end of year 2009, I will summarize them below.

1) Post 365 articles, opinions and views on the blog with average post of one article every day.

2) If possible read the book "Eleven minutes" by Paulo. (if posted for free or given to me by Paulo as gift)

3) Travel back to home country Nepal (and come back again in Finland.) If not offered the Residence permit on any grounds such as study or work here in Finland then I have to see the other opportunities elsewhere.

4) Try to make two wives. The term wives does not mean that I will marry them officially but I prefer to call "wife" rather than calling them as "girl friend" simply because, I believe the term "girl friend" is misleading in this era where you keep on changing them every time. My definition of "wife" is those ladies who are dedicated and committed to you as much as you are committed and dedicated to them. (Both of them different, both of them should like me more than they like anybody else, both of them should care more about me more than any one in the entire world, both of them should help me in any given ways and both of them I should like as well more than my life.)

5) Finish my second book. A work of fiction. Currently I have started to think on this project. Let us see if I can complete it by the end of year 2009.

6)Find the suitable publisher for the my second book. (If not, then self publish.) This one is very difficult, I know.

7) May be one two papers on "Scientific Journal or Conference" by the end of the year through my research work.

OK, I must stop now. This is already very ambitious dreams and even if I complete half of them or some of them, then I will be satisfied.

Satisfaction will not come to me, if I will complete these above mentioned "To do" lists but the real satisfaction will come to me when I will start doing them.

Therefore, I would like to stop here by saying that-

"Whatever you do, whatever you get- at the end the most important of all, simply ask one question:
Are you satisfied?
If your listen from your inner voice-yes, then you are the most happiest on earth, if no-then try to ask again and say, why not?"

Good luck to you all, in 2009 !

Quote of the day

If you want to see god, look into the eyes of the child

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Christmas Poem

Today was the day when Jesus Christ was born.
Today is the day when many womens are giving birth.

Today is the day, many people are dying.
Today is the day, women and children's are crying.
Today is the day, some are happy and some are sad.

Some feel the pain and some feel the pleasure.
Some are writing poem and some are reading chime.

Whatever be the case, we all are down to re-climb.
Oh, What a beautiful day !

Should we celebrate or should be mourn ?
Should we pray or should we dine ?

Anyways, Those who believe in Christianity
Merry Christmas, those who don't Merry Christmas too.

Quote of the day

One of the land you should not miss, guess?
It is called "Finland".

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

Poison - Every Rose Has it's Thorn

We both lie silently still
In the dead of the night
Although we both lie close together
We feel miles apart inside

Was it something I said or something I did
Did my words not come out right
Though I tried not to hurt you
Though I tried
But I guess thats why they say

Every rose has its thorn
Just like every night has its dawn
Just like every cowboy sings his sad, sad song
Every rose has its thorn

Yeah it does

I listen to our favorite song
Playing on the radio
Hear the dj say loves a game of easy come and
Easy go
But I wonder does he know
Has he ever felt like this
And I know that youd be here right now
If I could have let you know somehow
I guess


Though its been a while now
I can still feel so much pain
Like a knife that cuts you the wound heals
But the scar, that scar remains


I know I could have saved a love that night
If Id known what to say
Instead of makin love
We both made our separate ways

But now I hear you found somebody new
And that I never meant that much to you
To hear that tears me up inside
And to see you cuts me like a knife
I guess

Quote of the day

I am born every day and I die every day.

Comments on "What is your call?"

Just when I was writing the comments on your blog, something happened I do not know who did it but something really worse happened. The worse means, I was about to finish the comments but somehow I could not submit it in your blog because whole comments were deleted by mistake.

I am little surprised who did this? Was it me? Should I blame on the Keyboard of the computer? Should I blame on the God? Should I blame on your Web page, tell me Mr. Coelho?

What should I do? Should I say that it was my fingers which went on these keyboards and accidentally something happened? I am little confused to think NOW.

I think the previous comments that I wrote was better, I think that those comments has beautiful insights on how to express feelings at this particular moment.

What should I do now? Should I say that, I am feeling bad or should i think God does not wanted to show my true potentials for your valued question? I want your help, Just tell me what should I think? Should I think whatever happened was not my mistake or should I think that what am doing is not good?

There are many answers by many authors in your blog and I have read most of them. Some of them are stating that, they have published the books on there web pages, some of them are posting that they want to listen music, learn and educate and some still do not know what is there call?

What would be the best answer ? Our vision and emotions drive our action, but I am worried that you will not like my comment because this comment is not good then the before. The comment which I was going to "just submit", which was far better than the comment which I am writing it now.

Who is to blame on this situation? or I think I should just ignore it completely and do not blame on anybody else. Why am I thinking that this comment is not better than the comment that I wrote previously, why am I thinking that I am not good reader than others who read your questions and answer them regularly? Well, I think I should accept the things as they are.

However, How can I forget the previous event that happened just before my eyes. The comments that I was writing could not be successfully be posted because something flashed in the Screen of my computer and it went disappearing. I was so disappointed. I think I should not, but I could not forget that event. I want to but i cannot.

Let me stop now. As far as my understanding of the question- it stated that,what is that I am doing now, or thinking now ? Tell me if I am wrong.

Well, all the above sentences and paragraphs will explain you that I was fighting to right good comment on this post. This is what I was trying to do and I was all the time thinking about what is that I am doing? Since I was thinking on what is that I am doing, I was all the time thinking the event that happened just before my eyes and writing in this blog about it.

Please read this article which was published in the Newspaper

After reading this article you will learn what I was trying to tell you.

Live in the moment

Live in the moment

Past was never yours
Future will be yours

Today is the Present
Live in this Present

Actions are driven thoughts
Like a flowing river

We create and Change
We fell and wake up

But any given moment
Will show us, tell us
Speak for us and teaches us

That we are a Human
An animal which thinks

At any given moment
with pleasure and happiness

With joy and forgiveness
With sorrow and happiness

We are just humans
My dear child, Just humans

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year 2009 to you all. May the power of God give you what you want,
tell you what you want to hear,
listen you what you want to say,
teach you what you want to learn,
show you what you want to see,
smells what you want to blossom,

May the power of God delivers you, everything.

Monday, December 22, 2008

Image of the week

Quote of the day.

"Greatest mind in the earth is Ordinary Mind, not Popular Mind".

Veronica Decides to Die

A book that is very well written and greatly presented. I know I have "Veronica Decides to die". It is a hard work and great art of a brilliant author. It is you "Paulo".Well done.

After reading your book, I started seriously thinking on the question which needs real research by great researchers in the world. Only one question which researchers should answer is that-

1)Why do people commit suicide?

Let me go through some of the things that I have figured out till date.There are many answers to the same question by many people and I may sometime agree on the issue and sometimes I may not agree at all.
The point is all do one thing which is "suicide", although the execution and implementation of the suicide might be different. What causes the humans to commit for suicide? I think the suicide is higher in Women than in Male but why do people have to think that they are going to quit the life?

One common cause is that,

Depression (Extensive)
Lack of purpose in living
Kill yourself

The process is Six step phenomenon where these six step phenomenon works like this.

1) Humans
We all are humans and we know there are our needs, our desire, career, life, relationship, friends, family, culture, country and our vision and motto for life. We know that we are going to achieve something or want something in our life. We have this quest and search for living happily ever after and smiling all the times (especially even in worries)

We all face problems. Our problems can be same and at the same time it can be different too. A personal problems such as lack of skill, lack of knowledge, divorce, physically obliged, sexually dissatisfied, displeasure, also work problems, career problems, struggling to make enough money, dreams and vision which results into self problems, distress, stress, anxiety, irritation, anger and grief and many more. These are all common problems that we face in daily life.

The problems are the root cause of Sadness. The problem can result into Sadness. You feel sad, because you are going though divorce. Or, let us say, you feel dissatisfied because your friends earn better salary then you do, or let us say, you are facing career problems with no position offered for higher studies and so on. Therefore, the problems can result into Sadness in our lives.

4)Depression (Extensive)
(Why?) Well, Depression because this is root cause of making you think that you should quit your life. The depression especially extensive. It might come when you are alone, when there is nobody around you. When you feel lonely and you are in darkness. This might give you enough reasons to think that you should "check out" from your life.

5)Lack of Purpose in Living
We are humans and we live on purpose. We have a good purpose to live our life simply because we are either Engineers earning a good salary and we have a nice job or we are doctors serving patient daily, or we are professor giving lecture to the student, or we are authors writing and telling our stories all around, or we are artist who is painting his vision. Life is full of purpose and without purpose we lack everything. When there is feeling of lack of purpose in living then we think well, now I do not have anything to do. What if, you imagine that you do not have anything to do? what will happen when you do not have anything to do ?

6)Kill yourself
This is the best solution when all of your previous five steps are ready. When you are gone through above five steps or even few of them then you are finally ready to "check out" from your life. You do not feel anything in this state. You do not have any opinion on any body. You cannot take any lessons inside. Nothing can go inside you. Only thing that is going to make a mark in your life NOW-Kill yourself. Now, you want to see how would "I" be after I killed myself? Where would I go? Since Nobody wants me, why should I live anymore? There is NOBODY for me? I am alone and I was alone, why should I live? What is the purpose for me to live any longer? I am a burden in this earth? a

These question will drive a human to finally quit the life.

Therefore, when a human goes through these six steps they can really go for a long long holiday. The root cause of problems should be discovered early in the life. There are many ways to avoid it. Unlike going through these problems one should actually think about doing something positive and good.

1)Everybody in this earth are unique. They are made for some purpose.
2)All humans are born special and they should die special. (Not like a coward by committing suicide.)
3)There are never any reasons for "love", there are never any reasons for you being alone.A man who loves his aloneness is capable of love, and a man who feels lonely is incapable of love.
4)Live not for yourself, live for others.
5)When you decide you want to kill yourself, first decide to smile at 1000 child.
6)Learning never stops and imagine being old writing book, telling your story to your grandchildren or your children, Everyday event adds to one page of journal in your life.
7)Think, Learn, Educate, See and Feel the world with similarities. Hope is the best medicine in darkness.

Good luck and live your life.

Sunday, December 21, 2008

Tanita Tikaram - Twist In My Sobriety

All God's children need travelling shoes
Drive your problems from here
All good people read good books
Now your conscience is clear
I hear you talk girl
Now your conscience is clear

In the morning I wipe my brow
Wipe the miles away
I like to think I can be so willed
And never do what you say
I'll never hear you
And never do what you say

Look my eyes are just holograms
Look your love has drawn red from my hands
From my hands you know you'll never be
More than twist in my sobriety
More than twist in my sobriety
More than twist in my sobriety

We just poked a little pie
For the fun people had at night
Late at night don't need hostility
The timid smile and pause to free

I don't care about their different thoughts
Different thoughts are good for me
Up in arms and chaste and whole
All God's children took their toll

Look my eyes are just holograms
Look your love has drawn red from my hands
From my hands you know you'll never be
More than twist in my sobriety
More than twist in my sobriety
More than twist in my sobriety

Cup of tea, take time to think, yea
Time to risk a life, a life, a life
Sweet and handsome
Soft and porky
You pig out 'til you've seen the light
Pig out 'til you've seen the light

Half the people read the papers
Read them good and well
Pretty people, nervous people
People have got to sell
News you have to sell

Look my eyes are just holograms
Look your love has drawn red from my hands
From my hands you know you'll never be
More than twist in my sobriety
More than twist in my sobriety
More than twist in my sobriety

Story begins...

Now I do not know why, but it feels that today she is going to take this big step and come close to me. She is the most beautiful women that I have seen. She is ever changing and blazing like never before. She looks much prettier than the red rose.

What is wrong today with this climate? Why is there sun shining when it should not shine. The temperature is below the zero and today the sun is shining above my head. Oh ! God, I am little worried but at the same time I am little happy. I want to see her. I want to take her into my arms and feel the heat.

The heat of two hearts, the hearts which are far from each other. But No way, the distance cannot make it difficult for us. The distance will never create a problem. I know. Whatever it takes, I will go and see her. Whatever be the situation- even if God does not want me to let me go, I want to just see her.

Is there any wrong in seeing the person you like? Is there any mistake that I commit in doing the things my heart wants to do? Do I have to see the difference that society sees as the blockage? Why do people talk about the sex, religion, caste, age and many of such bullish non-sense? Why should I care? I have come to the conlcusion that if we see the difference and if I see those from the eyes of the people, then I am not being myself. I am being them.

I do not want to be them no, no way. I just want to be myself. I know she like me not the society, not my race, color, religion, age and whatever. I know, she just wants to see me as I want to see her. I know she has this dramatic blaze of glory inside her. When we are together, we are only together and we do not see the world around. I know this is the most beautiful thing ever one person can imagine. I do not want to say Good bye to her. Never! I have started hating the word Goodbye. I do not now why but I do not like Goodbyes now.

She is the one. The beautiful wedding dress and the beautiful look just makes me crazy all the time. I am alive now. She makes me alive. She is the one who I always wanted. I see if we had already met before. I think we had met already before. Not in this present relationship but in the past. I know I went to war and I could not come back home. I know she waited for me. I know I have done wrong by asking her to wait for me. She was alone, She was all the time waiting for me. Every day, when she looked outside from her window, there was fear and desperation in her eyes. The desire of seeing me with my bags running and coming close to her. Smiling all the time. But after a while- sun will feel the shyness and go and hide into the darkness. She waited for me so long.

I am sorry that I made her wait. I do not want to loose her again. She is the one that I have waited for more than sixteen months. She is the true beauty that I cannot stop admiring. She is the most precious gift that I ever wanted. She is the best thing that have ever happened to me. Oh God, I am so alive now. I want to start writing about all these. I want to dedicate my life is telling the story to all. I want to say that, such a romantic love and evolve from the beauty of our story. This is the story which needs to be told. This is the story which has to come out and give the lessons to those who never have fallen in love before. This is the story also for those who fight in every day life about not living together, this is the real story of these two couple who cannot live without each other even just for a second.

The journey has started and let this journey now begin...

(Author is working on a new project)

Guns n' Roses - This I Love (full new video)

This I Love by Axl Rose

And now I don't know why
She wouldn't say goodbye
But then it seems that I
Had seen it in her eyes

Though it might not be wise
I'd still have to try
With all the love
I have inside
I can't deny

I just can't let it die
'Cause her heart's just like mine
And she holds her pain inside

So if you ask me why
She wouldn't say goodbye
I know somewhere inside
There is a special light
Still shining bright
And even on the darkest night
She can't deny

So if she's somewhere near me
I hope to God she hears me
There's no one else
Could ever make me feel
I'm so alive

I hoped she'd never leave me
Please God you must believe me
I've searched the universe
And found myself
Within her eyes

No matter how I try
They say it's all a lie
So what's the use of my
Confessions to a crime
Of passions that won't die
In my heart

So if she's somewhere near me
I hope to God she hears me
There's no one else
Could ever make me feel
I'm so alive

I hoped she'd never leave me
Please God you must believe me
I've searched the universe
And found myself
Within her eyes

So now I don't know why
She wouldn't say goodbye
It might just be that I
Had seen it in her eyes
And now it seems that I
Gave up my ghost of pride
I'll never say goodbye

Friday, December 19, 2008

Madonna Material Girl

You know that we are living in a material world
And I am a material girl!!

Thursday, December 18, 2008

Free Content

Free Content is the biggest question now a days. As I have read the previous comments in your blog it appears to my knowledge that, there are multiple views on free contents.

Some of the authors have pointed out that, free content is good and some says, it is bad. Some has a great idea on how technology has transferred over the period of time.

The matter of choice should be given to humans and only humans alone. The choice of either using the computer and reading the content for free or visiting the book store and buying a book is different all together.

As a author, only thing that comes in your mind is you have a very good idea and this has to come out in public. People should be aware of what is going around and what is happening around the world also how your idea is really related and how you can benefit from your “best ideas”. At the point of writing you are not thinking about marketing or collecting big revenues or even dreaming to win a Nobel Prize for your work.

The path that I am traveling has been traveled by somebody else. There are millions and billions of humans in the world. Those who are currently alive and those who are no longer. Whatever I am doing has been done already. I am constantly thinking that I am doing something new but I also have to realize that what “I” as the person am doing has already been done or is being done somewhere in some part of the world.

Well, Although technology in every day life cannot be ignored and one has to benefit from the usage of the technology. It is always a good idea to use the technology and benefit from the advantage of it. After all this is for us.

The generation that are is evolving is most of the times posting the content on the internet- let us say for example “technorati” where there are millions of contents posted every day.These blog posts and articles have thousand of great ideas but how are they really making any point? Will they really reach to the right people at right time?

To have a greater impact and greater socialization of “your ideas” it has to be used efficiently, in a proper manner.

We do not know how to make benefit or money from our work but, “Giving is the best thing we know as the writer.”

It is good idea to deliver the content for free but at the same time it is bad idea to really give everything for free.

Well, I do not agree that “beauty is free”. Beauty cannot be free simply because it is in the nature. Simplicity of the beauty is free but beauty does not lies in being free. Let me give you one example.

Let us say, you see the flower. You see this flower which is red and your personal favorite color is also red but some how you have a color blindness and you cannot see the color red. One of your very best friends come near to you and she says, Wow what a beautiful color and flower. You cannot see the particular flower but you still admire with the beauty.

Imagine now you do not have color blindness and you can see the flower. In this situation, you will see the red flower, you appreciate the beauty of that flower but you cannot have it. It is not free. It has its own life. It is an object which lives on its own. The life cycle of this beautiful red flower is with the Nature.

Similar analogy holds true with the “free content”. The content and ideas are just floating around us all the time. The matter of choice for picking up “whose” idea could be trusted depends upon the humans all around the world.

Selection should be given to people either to use free or not. However, free does not makes the content valuable and not free does not make ideas famous.

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

नेपाल एकदिन फर्कन्छु

Subject: नेपाल एकदिन फर्कन्छु

A very touching poem by Birkhe Maila published in

नेपाल एकदिन फर्कन्छु (?!)

नेपाल एकदिन फर्कन्छु,
अमेरिकामा रमाउन सकिन्न!
संकल्प धेरै पटक मनमा आए।
तर, पढाइ त पुरा होस!
कलेज – डेरा, डेरा - कलेज
पढाई पनि सकियो।
यतिका बर्ष बिताईयो,
खालि हात के जानु!

नेपाल एकदिन फर्कन्छु,
अमेरिकामा रमाउन सकिन्न!
तर केहि बर्ष जागिर त खाउँ!
जागिर पनि खाइयो।
डेरा – जागिर, जागिर – डेरा
एक्लो भइएछ दुबैमा!
तर, म एक्लो भएको कुरा
मलाई भन्दा पहिला
नेपालमा आमालाई थाहा भयो!

नेपाल एकदिन साँच्चै फर्कन्छु,
अमेरिकामा रमाउन सकिन्न!
अहिले बिस दिने बिदामा आएको।
तपाईँको कपाल कति धेरै फुलेछन् आमा!
बुबा पनि कमजोर हुनुभएछ!
आमा बुबालाई मनभरि हेर्न नभ्याउँदै,
बिस दिनमा जीवन बिताउने
सम्झौता गरियो कुनै अपरिचित संग!

नेपाल एकदिन फर्कन्छु!
अमेरिकामा रमाउन सकिन्न!
तर अहिले अलिक मिल्दैन।
उसको भ्याई नभ्याई छ
मेरो बिदा उसको काम,
उसको बिदा मेरो काम!
फेरि छोरो पनि सानै छ!
छोरो अलिक ठुलो त होस!

नेपाल एकदिन फर्कन्थेँ
अमेरिकामा कहिल्यै रमाइन
तर कसलाई भेट्न जाउँ?
साथि भाईको खबर छैन
काका पनि ओछ्यान परे रे
कान्छो मामा पोहोर बिते रे!
आमा, बुबा त अब
हरदम म संगै छन्
मेरो यादमा, केवल यादमा!!

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Request for your vote.

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Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Monday, December 8, 2008

The Internet Way of Death

Last couple of weeks ago, some guy committed suicide on the Internet and some other people forced him to do so. There are many reviews from the experts on this issue. I think,These are all well known facts. We know that people have misbehaved on the Internet. They have shown the character of animals and they also have force others to do wrong.

But do not yet reach to the conclusion- "We always wanted this, don't we?". We wanted to change the way we live. We are in the world where decisions are being made on the machine, we do not get together off line often, we do not meet off line often.

Sorry I used the word "we". But why?, The only answer that comes with all those around is that- "It saves time".

We are moving at rapid pace with both of our eyes looking for more and more adventure. We want to achieve something in this world. When we want to achieve something then there are two ways-

1. Technological revolution.

2. Infrastructure development, Economy boom and Great Intellectual or Artificial Mind production.

We already have are very good at Number 1. Concerning Number 2, we are working it seems. (That is really good too.)

Now, Comes the important aspect- Let me give you one analogy,

What happens to a Mr. X who runs very fast in the crowded streets ?

- What are the chances that he will catch the train?

- What if he dies?

- What if he is successful ?

- What if he hurts some one around when he is running with lightning speed?

- What if he does not care?

He has very fast technology tools with him- like Wireless GPS System, He also has Nokia Maps, He has many more advance technology tools and he is using them too. Since his focus is to run in fast speed without caring anyone.

In the process he can hurt someone, isn't it ?

Anyways, I have to stop it now. The same things holds true when some one is using the content. The man wants to show that he is the best, he is capable of doing what he can, he can write something and hurt others feelings. For all this to control-

As one guy Pointed out, "how brain works, how mind works" these phenomenon becomes essential.

Anyways, Many Scientist has spend their lives understanding "ants, bees and Chimpanzee". I wonder where are the people who can some day understand "humans". It is good practice to start now. :)

Sunday, December 7, 2008

What do you associate with mouth?

Mouth is for words. The words come from this very mouth and the words are spoken from this very mouth. The words flows from your mouth. As you said Paulo, We eat, we drink and we do kiss, we even lick or we taste something from the tongue in the mouth.

Mouth is the way of input. We take in any food through this organ present in our body. Now there are different ways to look at this. We can see it spiritually, we can even see this culturally, we can even see this in many other ways that will have good meaning.

Let us see first what it signifies, If there was some creator why did he put this organ in the human body? What was the reason of putting the mouth? Why did we only take all these food materials from only mouth? Why cannot we use other organ for input. Let us say, Nose or ears or … Why we were taught that we should take our foods from the mouth and not from the other organ.

Probably these questions are very childish. These questions would be asked by very small child. And the beauty of this question is the simplicity of these question. Tomorrow, it can become a research questions for the Researchers.

When we were a small child, we were taught like this, we were feed by our mother in the mouth. Later we grew up, we came to know that the food goes inside this organ. Then slowly, we started to adopt to this environment and Nature.

The first step is the last step. Everything that we do in first becomes the last. It does not signifies that it will last for ever but it may last for ever too. Let me take you outside this topic and give you one example,

When we first experience the sex, Before the experience you do not know how it is like? Will this hurt? Will I feel the pain? Will there be pleasure, will there be trouble ? We think on many issues of the sex. But once you experience it and slowly you like it later. Because it will take some time before you will say- “Yes” it is great.

After some period of the time you start to like the sex and later you will be addicted to it. Then the whole way of doing something becomes like an addiction. You cannot live it, you cannot say-well, I do not want to do it. It become like an addiction and it continues. (Why?) Simply because, you know every body around you do this, you have learned in your book, you have been taught in the school, you have been seen your parents do this- then you slowly start thinking (Why should not I do the same?)

Therefore, Let us now get back to topic of Mouth. The mouth is same organ which takes input and we know this organ has a capabilities of speak, to take input (Whatever) and to even throw output(by speaking)

When you speak what comes out of your mouth?
When these words come out of your mouth, how is the impact?
-Depends on whom you speak and what you speak

Ultimately, the words are the root cause of everything. The words can bring some one close and the words can kill some one for no reasons.
Words can create peace and love, words can even create war and violence.

Mouth has vital role to play in the way we use it.

Isabel Allende on "A tale of Passion"

Thursday, December 4, 2008

Rwanda Internet Evolution.

"Internet Evolution's Web Wide World takes us to Rwanda, a country torn apart by genocide, and now attempting a radical transformation from an agrarian society to a knowledge-based economy, via the Internet"

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Your Opinion On : How can social communities prevent cyber-bullying?

OK, Here I go-


I have been working lately on this topic. My research paper could be found from the following link. (If you are interested on technical details together with the social aspects of using the Internet)


I read the post written by many authors in above, Every body argues on how can the child be bought up with security and should get enough privacy.

Well, I think to some extent yes, we need to have the proper mechanism to control the content on the Internet. As we can see every day number of user accessing the online content is increasing at very rapid pace.

Till date there are 50 Countries which has the access to the Internet, according to World Fact Book. It is increasing daily and sooner or later, there will be all the countries in the world which will have access to the Internet technology.

It is a good thing not to consider the Internet as having bad effect because it is not about the technology as such, but it is all about the content available on the Internet.

There are many different kinds of humans around the globe. Some are very hard and some are very soft. Those who are hard hearted do not care about anything that comes and goes in life. But those who are soft hearted cares a lot about even a minor things in the life.

I believe that, "Women are made for multitasking" and "Men are made for "single tasking". If you see for example any women, you will easily figure out that- they perform more than one task at the same time. But we men cannot some how do more than one task at the same time.

When you are doing more than one task at the same time, there is a chance of having psychological problems. These psychological problems are not caused by the task itself but with the amount of information that flows between the task and the person involved.

There is also another way of looking at this issue. If we go more deeper in to this issue, then first of all we must understand how brain works. If we can understand how brain works then our job would be to understand how behavior is triggered ? Since till date, there is no good theory on brain or behavior. We cannot generalize the fact that "this particular thing caused this".

What I mean to say is that, when you are using the Internet you cannot say that it is because of the Internet, you have been suffering from the psychological problems.

The best solution of understanding the behavior is to have a control over own behavior. Is it possible ? If you ask me- I would say, Yes. It is very much possible to control owns behavior. There are many ways but the simplest way is to control your daily emotions. The best approach would be to use- "Punk approach". In this approach you have to understand these key functionalities.

1. You are born, you will die one day. (So will every one else !)
2. Whatever I am doing is good.
3. "Who cares !"
4. I know who I am.
5. I can control my mind.

In The punk approach the most important is (3). The statement with the quotes- "who cares". If you can understand this phenomenon, then no one is going to commit suicide on the Internet.

Therefore, It is very important to understand what goes in the mind of human and how can behavior is triggered. What makes them unhappy ? What are the major types of anxiety felt by an individual. One good web pages which can predict the behavior of humans is by Dr. Kimberly Yong. She has been doing loads of research on this issue. (Center for online addiction)

Mary Jander suggests that, "Cultural reticence or public affect doesn't translate into private Internet addiction." Therefore, Internet addiction is a growing trend in many countries now a days.

Social or Not social only time will tell when people will feel more types of anxiety of using the Internet technology later in future.