Showing posts with label love doesnot last forever. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love doesnot last forever. Show all posts

Thursday, May 7, 2009

Q&A: SK

Dear all,

Q)What would be your view in the term ‘cheating’ and ‘faithful’ in a relationship?

A)If you have not kept relationship then the term, 'cheating' and 'faithful' would have different meanings but as you have asked 'in a relationship...' so these two words has little narrow scope. Here is what I would say,

In a relationship, 'cheating' is seen as sin, a crime, negligence, dominance. When you lack trust then you start to judge and show symptoms of different kinds of behavior to your partner. The lack of trust and lack of personal gain be it a sex, a change or different settings will result into cheating of the faithful partner. There are many settings and many scenarios for the cheating. The most common is girl having an affair with third party or, guy having an affair with third party.

-"To cheat your partner means lack of your own personal strength to satisfy your partner."

-"Cheating could could be because of lack of trust, change, motivation and satisfaction."

-"In today's world, very few or rarely you will find the true partner who will not cheat."

-"Only those chosen few are true lovers who believe in the power of love and respect mother, nature, self, humanity and environment. In addition those lovers remain as Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet Love story."

-"Cheating is a best medicine if you are not satisfied with your partner, go for it."

Now coming to another word which is, 'faithful'--

Do you believe in God? If you do, then you also believe in beauty, beast, demons and devils. If you don't then also you believe in beauty, beast, demons and devils.

In Christianity there is Satan, in Hinduism, there is Rawan, ...Similarly, ask yourself how much faithful are you with your own self? Can you kill the demon inside you? Can you live one year without having sex? Can you distance yourself with your partner and wait for him/her as long as he/she would come back again to see you? Can you...?

If your answer is 'yes, I can'
then
You are faithful child.
If your answer is 'no, I can't'
then
you are unfaithful child.


-"Believe or not to believe is your personal interest and it does not matter as long as you can alway change the your thinking according to time."

-"Being faithful in a relationship is like being faithful to the mother like a child."

I can write more but you should ask for it.

God bless you all !

Sunday, May 3, 2009

Princess and Poor Priest Son

I saw a dream today, as everybody sees some dreams my dream was very romantic and very sad at the same time. The dream was about a love affair of princess with a poor priest child. There was a princess and her mother, the princess was going to get married and the princess mother invited priest to see the proper man for her daughter’s wedding. The princess, princess mother, priest and poor priest son was in one room checking for man for the wedding. Princess saw few man and she rejected them. After a short while, princess said to her mother, “mama, I like the priest son, he is the one who will make be happy, I know.., please mama, can I marry him?” princess mother was not happy with such response. She said, “no, the poor priest guy cannot get married with you, I would never allow this to happen…” princess was very sad and she started fighting with her mother but her mother never agreed for her proposal.

The poor guy saw in the eyes of princess and through their eyes the electrical signal of love passed on to their hearts, they both started communicating and felt that they will not be together… poor priest child was sad too…

Poor priest child said,

Oh sweet, beautiful princess
Love is the great sin,
Although, our heart is same,
World will never feel the pain
I was made for you, but
World insane will divide for material gain

Tears in heaven, useless as it remains
This bloody earth,
Is not for lovers in rain

She is your mother will you leave her?
For this poor priest son,
I cannot promise anything,
But I can promise,
Togetherness, trust, and love ever and ever again
Please don’t worry,
For happiness and satisfaction
Was born only with them

Tears in heaven, useless as it remains
This bloody earth,
Is not for lovers in rain

The dream was over and the new day started, the day where there were no vital pills for humanity such as love, hope and faith. The priest son hanged himself and died, because he thought world is full of material gain, nothing exits only money which remains and world is dividing for pleasure to gain.

Wednesday, April 29, 2009

What is a Youth ?




Song: "What is a Youth"
Lyrics by Eugene Walter
Music by Nino Rota
Vocal by Glen Weston

And here is the lyric:
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What is a youth? Impetuous fire.
What is a maid? Ice and desire.
The world wags on.

A rose will bloom
It then will fade
So does a youth.
So do-o-o-oes the fairest maid.

Comes a time when one sweet smile
Has its season for a while...Then love's in love with me.
Some they think only to marry, Others will tease and tarry,
Mine is the very best parry. Cupid he rules us all.
Caper the cape, but sing me the song,
Death will come soon to hush us along.
Sweeter than honey and bitter as gall.
Love is a task and it never will pall.
Sweeter than honey...and bitter as gall
Cupid he rules us all

Monday, February 9, 2009

Valentine's Week: Poem of the Week.



Plot: Gloomy Sunday( The day after 14th of Feb, 2009) it is, when a man's love is preparing for her marriage and this young handsome man has decided to take away his life and to rest in peace.

Note:
On 15th Feb, 2009 there will be no posting. In memory of this yong man's lady who is marrying on that day.

Sunday, February 1, 2009

I will



Beatles I Will Lyrics:
Who knows how long I've loved you
You know I love you still
Will I wait a lonely lifetime?
If you want me to I will

And if I ever saw you
I didn't catch your name
But it never really mattered
I will always feel the same

Love you forever, and forever
[ Find more Lyrics at www.mp3lyrics.org/LZ ]
Love you with all my heart
Love you whenever we're together
Love you when we're apart

And when at last I find you
Your song will fill the air
Sing it loud so I can hear you
Make it easy to be near you
For the things you do endear you to me
OH, you know I will
I will

do do do do do do do do do

la la la la la la la.
Lyrics: I Will, Beatles [end]

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

"True love allows each person to follow his or her own path, aware that doing so can never drive them apart."

Finding a path in itself is fresh and true. Love is another phenomenon which cannot be described or interpreted. It is the fresh beauty which has no definition.

Love is mysterious feelings of an individual. It has no beginning and no end. Finding a path or landing upon a right path depends on the beauty a person sees or the potential the person sees in himself/herself.

Eternal beauty is priceless and the love is priceless too. There is constant struggle to achieve it in human lives but it will never be occupied or be achieved. The freshness of the early morning beauty cannot be achieved. It shows how every day is fresh and beautiful.

Sex, lust are not love and will not be the entry point of the love. These are physiological needs just like eating or drinking.

A person in love does not want anything and a person in love does not want to hesitate to give anything. This is eternal unconditional being.

A being which cannot be measured but can be shared with any object around.

Love could result into right path or even a wrong path. The discovery of the person to find his/her path depends solely on the person itself and his love.

See the beauty on the small child face who smiles more than Adults. See the early morning sun rise, see the love of mother when she is feeding her child from her breast. See it and feel how beautiful those moments are. These are all results of unconditional love.

A love of women by a men is different. This love has a feeling, this love has desires and lust or sex involved. Love could be without sex but the relationship then will break apart. or even will lead to breakage to some extent.

In past we have learned a love of Romeo and Juliet, and likes of other great lovers. But love today what we are showing and doing is different in many cases that I have seen. Every love that we perceive does not end up in the right land or path. Those who think that love could result into the right path it is because, the person has understood the beauty of love better than anything else.

Human desires never end, it has no beginning and no end. Love to me by special some one might be different then the love to others by their special some one. Love is never a finding since we all are searching for love. The true destination of love would be found when one day we will wake up and cherish the moments spend together with this special some one, because she might just be beside you. Sleeping like a child-close and together like never before. Her face as fresh of early morning rose will enlighten your spirit in pleasure and show you the day to work hard or ever harder.

Good day !

Sunday, November 16, 2008

Hope

Life is like a stream of flowing river, it goes on and on. It flows with the flow, it is never ending. It has no end and no beginning. It is just flowing with the sense of unknown. It does not have a destination and it does not have destiny.

Life like everything else will teach you thousand lesson. There are people who live for it, there are people who live for love and there are people who live just to live. Whatever be the reality and whatever they want it from the life, has some price for it.

Nothing comes for free, you just have to pay price for every part of it. But, one thing can be free and its called satisfaction. You did something and now you have to decide either you want to be happy about it or you will not be happy about it. Whichever, way you choose will solely depend on you and you alone. There is no one who will stop you, there is no one who will tell you you did it on right way or wrong you. Only thing people will do, is listen you what you feel.

When you are happy, there will be people around you. When you are sad, there will be people around but they will not be close to you ! "Those who share happiness can find many people and those who share sadness will find only himself".

The above quote says it all, whatever be the consequences every event in our life teaches something meaningful. Either it is hurtful or helpful. Nothing happens in life with coincidence.

Today, we might feel good and the very next day we might feel bad about something or some event. This is called a process of rising and falling. When you are in this process then you are either alone, either drunk, either hurt, either not fulfilled, either you did not get what you desired or either wants your plans to be fulfilled. When this state of process vanishes, then you are in the process of "satisfaction." To reach to this, level requires very hard work and determination.

I am no guru on any of the subject matter that I am explaining in mybheja, but whatever I am expressing in no just random thoughts. These are the thoughts coming from a mind of a man. This man has seen the world and has experienced problems. These problems are not only his but of those he wants to express.

Anyways, I do not want to express that I am the best but I only bless without any selfishness.

With the every ounce of oxyzen intake you are in the pleasure of having alive that very second. But at the same time, somewhere in this very planet-people are not getting that oxyzen with the pleasure. The cause of this is not our stupidity but the stupidity of behaving in well suited manner. Today, there are awareness of "green" and tomorrow there will be awareness about "water". Whatever it is and whatever it will become, who cares as long as we get our fair share of satisfaction in the environment we live in.

There is one thing and one thing in our life which keeps us alive. The word if I remember could be many but right now my bheja suggests- "hope".
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Hope
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Together everything is possible.
All the dreams and desire could be made fulfilled.

All of your dreams were mine once,
But even if you are not beside me,

I will make sure it remains alive-
till the very end.

I think we do not have any hope
But my dear ! I know without you I will fear.

With you, I was fulfilled
Without you, I am without.

Nothing is permanent as my eyes see
I had mine alone and you are at those very ends.

Why are you crying with tears
With every tears, there is hope falling very near

I think I cannot make it
All your dreams which were ours alone..

What should I do if there is no hope?

If there is no hope
Let us invent it, Oh ! dear ...

Do not ask me how ?
I know, with you I will make it.

Without you, I will die
With you, I will die with heart full of love !

Whatever be the case, I know I am nobody
But as long as you see me, I will be always be somebody.

Our love is just like a wine,
It takes time to mature

Well, I am afraid it was ...
But why did you do this to me

When darkness prevails with mystery all around
I know, I am not at my very best

With tears in my eyes all around
I hope, I will try my very best

To invent this very hope
Without you I am in darkness,

With you, I hope I will invent the light.
Well, time changes everything.

It has changed mine and
I hope, you will have pleasure with my blessings all around...

The opinion expressed are not generalized but this is the way I express my opinion. I am sorry if some one is taking it seriously.

Have a nice weekend ! :)

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Unstable mind.

Every day a success does not come you way and the success means not the achievements but getting things done as per your own expectations and experiences.It is not the life but the life with all smaller events that makes life different and challenging.

When a mind is not working prolerly, everything goes wrong and nothing works as per the mind planning activity and as yesterday, today is the same too. A real thing in life is controlling your mind. It is great challenge and the question bigger than the question iteself. It is to our mind which makes our understanding more clear and more specific to the time line or subject line.

When a person knows how to live, he will not know where to go and when he knows how to love he will not know what is love. Everything is so like puzzle and everything has to be first solved by mind. It has to be made very clear and simple. A real challenge is not in living but living with joy and madness. Living full of potential.

A purpose of life and life of purpose is different.When you are angry with yourself everything goes wrong. A person should learn to love himself. A loving part is very difficult and very complicated not because it is for one self but to others as well. One has to learn how to love oneself first. Loving oneself requires great bit of motivation and hard work. How can you love yourself ?

Can you say that your body is nice or you look beautiful or handsome or something like that or can you just say your physical body part is nice and you love yourself or is it different than loving your physical body part.

If it is different than loving your physical body part or is it the same ? How is loving physical body and love different ? Everything when tasted once, and after the liking of thing it becomes habit. Just like an addiction. A cigrate once tasted goes on beyond the likeness and it becomes addiction and later habit. Once it is changed to habit it will not be easily turned back to a normal stage.

Sex is something similar, we just first wants to taste it after getting a good taste of it we want to get more deeper into it. Once we go more deeper taste it usually becomes a addiction, In the process of wanting more then the "want" turns into habit. A habit then does not usually want to change easily.

It goes on and on. Even if you want to change or just think of changing it..,It will not change easily. It will then need a real hard work to let it go or do give up the habit that you have adapted. How many of us will live without sex ? How many of the kinds that are present in this world will live as per them and not per others. ? The last question means, can you live as per your heart ? Can you go and do everything as per you own mind surely it will be difficult because we get influenced by outside or outside society. We generally do not go and live as per our own heart.

A big challenge is living a life just as we want and not as others will make us to live. It is good to look at ours own personal habit and do things according to the personal desire. The mind which is disturbed will always talk disturbing things and the mind which is stable, cool and calm is relaxed mind. A relaxed mind will give best even in the times of difficulty.

Thursday, May 1, 2008

Without you.

Once their was a beautiful girl, living in Nepal her beauty was similar to the beauty of Nature and Nepali scent of flowers. She was perfect girl with all the blossom and smiling face every now and then. The guy who liked her was in foreign land. The problem was that the girl had never seen this guy before.

The guy always had seen her, the place she lives, the timing of her office or school and the wherever she goes in the country. The guy was very cute and was very nice too. The girl had no idea who the guy was and she never noticed anything about this guy. Girl was living in her own life.

She has a pleasant life of her own. The guy loves the girl so much that he could not express his feelings for her. The guy is shy, has a deep impact of the girl and always thinks for her. He is in love-the state of negativity the state where he is blind. Everything is fair in love and war.

The fairness of love he could not understand. He wants to express but somehow he could not express it at the right moment. It was dark and snowy day the day when he has to leave her dream girl without even getting glimpse of her. He was not feeling well. He did not want to go away from her but the situation demanded him to go, the situation asked him to visit the foreign land. He never felt a kind of love for her before.

Especially when he was in the moment of being separated. Especially when he was leaving her far behind. He is worried now. He think will it be same ? Can I see the girl in the same way I had seen her. Will she be like a morning first rays of sun that falls in sunflower and looks as if it is soon going to glow. Will it be like that ? What if she is gone and she is not anymore ? What would I do with my one way of liking her.

I could not express my love for her only because she is so far. The greatest obstacle now in my life is the journey that I am traveling. The time is the most valuable thing, it changes everything-especially people. Nature will always remain same. Oh my love, I would do anything for you. Just to see you or get to see your face.

Oh my love I would do anything do listen to your voice. Oh my love why did not or why could not I speak what I am feeling for you. I know you do not know me but what is that keeping me that feeling for you.

I am really shy, I am really feeling deep love for you. The love which no one can understand the love which will remain for me ever and ever inside me. I am not worried about you being with others but I am worried about will I be able to see the same smile on your face.

Today people are changing, will you be same my love. I do not know how people define love-every body says it is two ways it can only happen in two ways- I do not belive in two ways or one ways. I belive in simplicity of my feelings of my heart which always remembers you, your smile your tone.

I always am worried about you. I am alone without you. Only I had your number to call you , I could have done it long before. Now I realize that I should have talked with you. Now I realize that I should have shown you the feelings that I was going through.

Now I really felt that I can even die for you. When some body can give a life for the person whom I have never seen-you know that is special feelings. I am not the creator of my life but I can certainly be able to destroy for you. Why am I feeling such a stupid feelings just for you.

I hope you will be the same and our story will end up being a happy ending. I am also afraid at the same time it won't happen like that. I know that we live in real world where reality is always different then our imagination and what we think most of the times. I hope and pray even you will not be able to see me or even you will not be mine- be happy and smile as i saw you like never before., be happy and cheerful as I saw and wish you never did before.

May we meet in heaven and by the grace of GOD I would have power to express my real love for you. The way I felt for you and reality hidden in my heart which is not coming very easily outside as a expression. Oh my love- I love you as if people will never imagine the quantity, my love for you is full of sky, full of stars you see in the sky and full of flowers present in this planet. I am waiting to see you again, I am waiting if I would be alive by then the first thing I would do is visit you and say that how much I felt deep inside me for you.

Oh my god, please give me power to stand this moment, please bless me with the power of being alone and lonely Now. Without you, it seems life would end. Without you life it seems that I have reached a dead end. I hope my dead end will soon explore the new way.

Hope is all I have dear as I am patiently waiting to see you.


(The article is especially for one brother, who lives in Dubai and the girl lives in Nepal.)

Thursday, March 27, 2008

Mr. X and Miss Y



Life, desires , women and our own values are very huge aspects and subject. What I believe is "Desire of men ends in between the legs of women whereas desire of women ends in between the arms of men."

Suppose, I want to talk with one girl let's give her name Miss Y. Now, Slowly and gradually we talk, we chat, we share our values, we share emotions, we laugh, we walk to get something from each other. Walk in a sense we progress in our relationship. Now, What happens if the desire of Men is unfulfilled, or even he things that it is no longer going to be fulfilled. Should he carry on with the relatinship ? Should he talk with the girl or should he just be in the relationship just carry on like that. Mr. X starts thinking. His feeling is of not what Miss Y might assume "want" of skin but "want" to have a relationship lasting till the end of life.


What will happen if either Miss Y or Mr. X is married ? I do not have answer to this question. Some people might even think that Love is all about giving, love is sacrifise and ... but To them if you think this as a love, My dear friend you don't know what love is. If you think "sex" as love what would define you ?

Why are we in a trap, Going back to story, What happens if Mr. X stops talking with Miss Y and Miss Y wants to talk with Mr. X. Miss Y will always think that she has done some mistake which might have hurted Mr. X but is it so ? Is that Mr. X is hurted. I think he is not. Miss Y will again think that he wants to escape from Miss Y. Is it so, well I don't think so.

If you like some one and if that some one is a Male, please be positive about it. Give him a call and say that "I love you"- If you do not like that Person and "want" to fulfill your desire then leave him. Do not worry about what will happen to that person. But again, if you just want to have simple relationship and do not want to have either desire or love then just be cool, normal and clear about it. If you do not have either of above then forget him.

Mr. X is not escaping from Miss Y, Mr. X is not trying to "avoid" Miss Y but Mr. X has got something that all men do. It is good to say "sorry" but sorry is just a word and "E should always stands for Efforts not for "Excuses". If you want to be in a relationship atleast.

(Picture taken from: http://www.amrep.org/images/
desire/photos/desire07a.jpg )

Thursday, March 6, 2008

Missing dot's.



I got a good comment on my previous article stating that their are lots of ifs and buts why only ifs and buts, well responding to my readers point of view I would say that-it is because their are lots of ifs and buts in our own life, every decision we make and every decision we take is based on ifs and buts.

Take an example of waking up in early morning, either I should wake up or i should sleep more.Now after one wakes up then you decide to do your morning activities either I should do my morning activities or I should take my morning coffee this is why their are lots of ifs and buts in that previous article. Here I am not criticizing my dear reader but i am supporting his point of view and trying to defend, and convince him at the same time.

Now, Let me jump to todays interesting topic of learning Finnish in 3 minutes. I am just a newbie in the language of this country, and I would like to make an apology before teaching you Finnish that I am using English Keyboard so please do not use it for serious purposes, their will be missing dots . One special form of language where you have to puts dots in characters like a, o, etc.

Let's start with basic-

add dots in last two a's
Hyvaa - Good
Hyvaa Huomenta - Good + Morning

Add Hyvaa and dots in last two a's in these words such as,

Paivaa- Day
iltaa - Evening
amulla- morning
illalla- evening
yota - night (dots in o and a)

One of the most important word in Finnish is (Kiitos-Thank you)

paljon ! Ole hyva /Ei kesta
a lot you're welcome/ Not to mention.

Anteeksi, en ymmarra (dots in both a's). En(I don't) puhu(speak) suomea(Finnish)

Now, lets jump to hi and hello-

Mita(add dots in a)Kuuluu ?
How are you ?

samoin- same
anteeksi-sorry
ei se mitaan(puts the dots in a's)-I apologies

If you wish to say NO(Ei, En, Em) these are used depending upon the verbs used in Finnish.

viikonloppua- holiday
lomaa-christmas
joulua-summer

One of the basic question when you arrive to Finland in the Helsinki airport and somebody may ask you that

Minka(add dots in a) maalainen sina(add dots in a) olet ? that means-
Of which nationality are you ?

Olen suomalainen (Finnish)
amerikkalainen(American)

carry on and add "lainen" at the end of name of the countries.But their are some exception to this.

Do remember to say that if you are not Finnish then tell,

Oletko sina(add dots in a) suomalainen ?
Are you finnish ?
Joo, olen- Yes I am
En ole suomalainen- No I am not Finnish.
Olen italialainen- I am italian.

Now, Some more basics- Kuka sina(add dot's in a) olet ? which means who are you ?
Mina(add dots in a) olen mybheja. (I am mybheja)


One of the important word for both male and female is "han" it means both "he/she". This is one of my favorite. I like it because even two boys can marry in this country and that is legal. No proudly girls anymore !

Let's now learn some numbers-(Numerot)

yksi-one
kaksi-two
kolme-three
nelja(dot's in a)-four
viisi-five
kuusi-six
seitseman(dots in a)-seven
kahdeksan-eight
yhdeksan(dots in a)-nine
kymmenen-ten

yksi+toisa-eleven

Now add toista in those above numbers. Let's say you have to multiply(kerta) two numbers.

seven(seitseman) * seven(seisteman)= fourteen(neljatoista) and so on...

20= kaksikymmenta (add dot's in a)
27=kaksikymmentaseitseman (add dot's in a)

and add "kymmenta" at the end and so on.

These are some basic Finnish language, which are not enough but these will make you a bit comfortable when you come to visit in Finland for the first time and you do not have to be embarrassed like me. When I came here for the first time, I asked something with an old man and he did not replied anything. I was shocked and I thought well, It may be because either he is deaf or I am stupid. But later I came to realize that if Finnish people do not know anything they won't speak.

"you will succeed in every way, if you know what to say."

It is very fascinating and interesting to be here in Finland. If you are human-you must at least visit this country once in your life time because, here lives a nature god. I will talk about this later in much more detail. Now, Some of vulgar words also coming up which you will never forget. The missing dot's in the world is here. You need to have heart and courage to find it.

(Picture taken from:
http://www.touchoffinland.com/images/14599.jpg)

Friday, February 15, 2008

Love doesn't last forever

The success or failure of relationships depends on how popular you and your partner are. Creative artistes, emotionally volatile and difficult to handle as they are, are more likely than others to jump into relationships. However, that’s not to say mere mortals are any less discerning or changeable as far as their love partners are concerned.
In fact, multiple lovers do seem built into the very human DNA. Or, so says the Coolidge Effect. When a male rat is dropped into a box with a female rat, there’s an initial frenzy of sex between them. After a while, the male tires and his libido drop. If a new female rat is brought in, the male rat’s libido rises again. You can keep repeating this process with new females and it keeps performing till it almost drops dead with sheer fatigue. Female rats too flirt more with unknown, rather than known rats.
This phenomenon, known as the Coolidge Effect, is true of all mammals. Yes, even humans. And, amongst humans, it certainly seems to be truer! Surveys claim love doesn’t last beyond three and a half years. That is the maximum time one can be “in love” with another person. So what if the object of love changes — so be it if that’s the only way to keep romance alive! After all, what is it that kills romance? Why is it that the moment a relationship settles into normal companionship, the excitement peters out?
Coolidge Effect says it all boils down to the fact that sex with a new partner raises the dopamine levels, to the Don Juan curse, which says men and women are wired to look for newer partners in the hope of improving their genetic success in future generations. However, my personal favourite is what Robert Johnson, in his book “We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love” says.
He explains that the sparks that romance or attraction arouse are actually a yearning for a spiritual connect that goes beyond physical. As we settle into relationships, we forget to connect in a spiritual manner with our regular partners; the daily rigmarole of life sees to that. And so, if we find other ways to achieve that spiritual connect, dramatic highs that are present in a new relationship would be ours in our stable relationship as well.