Last night, I was watching a movie called "The notebook". A movie which has a story theme-"Every great love has great story". A truly exceptional movie of love. Two couples who love each other, more than themselves.
The story has a great ending and every two person in love would like to end there life in the similar fashion. A love which has no story is not a love. It does not matter weather the story has to be great or not-great; it is basically up to others to judge it but every love has some story.
When a person is in love, he is in love and can do anything for his love to become a reality or success. A guy in this movie has a dream, a dream of building a old house into the dream house for him and his girl friend. But due to financial problems of the guy he could not easily make his dream come true.
A girls family is very rich and famous so her mother do not likes her to get married with the guy and she takes her away from the guy. Later, they separate what is important is the distance between the two people which reminds them about how much they love each other.
A truly nice movie with load of good lesson to be learned from it. Life is full of surprises and some times we get more surprises then expected. It is very nice and good to see the things as they are and not as they would be.
One of the beauty of life is to see the beauty in everything. The place, the things, the people, environment, surroundings, friends, family and everything else. When a person sees the beauty in everything else then they can really make a difference. They can create a difference not in there heart or mind but the difference in society, difference of change, difference over religion and knowledge and difference over lives of other people.
It is good to see good things and try to neglect or take a experience from the bad things in lives. A love is love, cannot be explained, cannot be judged and cannot be estimated. A love of a person is for a life. A life till the existence of the person. A love for a country, for a nation, for a family and for a girl and for a religion all are same. Only the context is different. Only to whom and what visualized is different.
No one can measure the love, it is vast and deep, deeper than the ocean and deeper the human emotions. Deeper than one's judgment and opinion. It is a virtue by which we are existing today.
A love of Nature towards us has made us survive. How many us can raise our hands and say that we are the creators of Nature ? 10, 100, 1000 or not even one. It is up to us to decide. Are we a Nature child or are we not ? These answers will be best described when one can realize that we are saved by Nature most of the times. Without it we cannot exit. With it we can exit forever and ever.
Welcome to become a child of Nature and worship a love for it.In a sea of lake full of water, The water is water. Dirt in water does not make the water dirty. It is the way we look it. After the dirt thrown into a water, it will still be pure as it was before.
Well, I hope you all have a great start of the week. Enjoy the beauty that is presented in front of you not with imaginary smiling face but with real smiling face from inside you.
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Friday, February 15, 2008
Love doesn't last forever
The success or failure of relationships depends on how popular you and your partner are. Creative artistes, emotionally volatile and difficult to handle as they are, are more likely than others to jump into relationships. However, that’s not to say mere mortals are any less discerning or changeable as far as their love partners are concerned.
In fact, multiple lovers do seem built into the very human DNA. Or, so says the Coolidge Effect. When a male rat is dropped into a box with a female rat, there’s an initial frenzy of sex between them. After a while, the male tires and his libido drop. If a new female rat is brought in, the male rat’s libido rises again. You can keep repeating this process with new females and it keeps performing till it almost drops dead with sheer fatigue. Female rats too flirt more with unknown, rather than known rats.
This phenomenon, known as the Coolidge Effect, is true of all mammals. Yes, even humans. And, amongst humans, it certainly seems to be truer! Surveys claim love doesn’t last beyond three and a half years. That is the maximum time one can be “in love” with another person. So what if the object of love changes — so be it if that’s the only way to keep romance alive! After all, what is it that kills romance? Why is it that the moment a relationship settles into normal companionship, the excitement peters out?
Coolidge Effect says it all boils down to the fact that sex with a new partner raises the dopamine levels, to the Don Juan curse, which says men and women are wired to look for newer partners in the hope of improving their genetic success in future generations. However, my personal favourite is what Robert Johnson, in his book “We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love” says.
He explains that the sparks that romance or attraction arouse are actually a yearning for a spiritual connect that goes beyond physical. As we settle into relationships, we forget to connect in a spiritual manner with our regular partners; the daily rigmarole of life sees to that. And so, if we find other ways to achieve that spiritual connect, dramatic highs that are present in a new relationship would be ours in our stable relationship as well.
In fact, multiple lovers do seem built into the very human DNA. Or, so says the Coolidge Effect. When a male rat is dropped into a box with a female rat, there’s an initial frenzy of sex between them. After a while, the male tires and his libido drop. If a new female rat is brought in, the male rat’s libido rises again. You can keep repeating this process with new females and it keeps performing till it almost drops dead with sheer fatigue. Female rats too flirt more with unknown, rather than known rats.
This phenomenon, known as the Coolidge Effect, is true of all mammals. Yes, even humans. And, amongst humans, it certainly seems to be truer! Surveys claim love doesn’t last beyond three and a half years. That is the maximum time one can be “in love” with another person. So what if the object of love changes — so be it if that’s the only way to keep romance alive! After all, what is it that kills romance? Why is it that the moment a relationship settles into normal companionship, the excitement peters out?
Coolidge Effect says it all boils down to the fact that sex with a new partner raises the dopamine levels, to the Don Juan curse, which says men and women are wired to look for newer partners in the hope of improving their genetic success in future generations. However, my personal favourite is what Robert Johnson, in his book “We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love” says.
He explains that the sparks that romance or attraction arouse are actually a yearning for a spiritual connect that goes beyond physical. As we settle into relationships, we forget to connect in a spiritual manner with our regular partners; the daily rigmarole of life sees to that. And so, if we find other ways to achieve that spiritual connect, dramatic highs that are present in a new relationship would be ours in our stable relationship as well.
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