How can I solve others problems if I can't solve even my own promblems?

A question thrown by my very good friend is the title of the discussion today. I would like to try and give an answer to this question. The question is very nice and very good one. It is an intelligent question asked by an intelligent mind. It truly asks a problem which we face in our day to day activity. It is very true that why should one focus on others people problem if one cannot find the solutions to his.

Now, for the answer to this question let me tell you one thing- "There are two ways of walking the path of life one is looking at your own self and other is looking at your self together with the looking at those who are in suffer." Now let me clarify why I think there are two ways to see the path of life. The first is self, thinking always about our problems and trying to find the solution for it. We strive our entire life because problems are always occurring every time. From the moment we are born to the time we are in the state of dieing we face the problems, it is always there occurring. Every new day, every new journey we take these problems will always occur till the time we have lived our life.

Second, the other way one can walk through the path of life is looking at self together with learning from those who are around us, who look similar to us and who are human beings. One cannot solve the all the problems they face in life by only themselves, they have to look after others, learn from others and try to see it for themselves.

The priority is the key, which one would you like to priotize and keep is upto you. It is the decision made by you and only you. If tomorow some body is giving you the advice or suggestion or if you are following the path of some guru or some leader or some spiritual god then you are not letting your own self to guide you to the path of desitnation.

A journey is always made by a person but there can be many in ways who can guide you to the real destination. However, you should not follow what they say but take there advice and make your own decision. A decision made by self is the only right decision.

Well, let me tell you one thing, Looking at my own life I can assure you that I love my family, I love all who are around me and all those things that are connected to me in one way or another. I do not know what is love and I do not say in verbal way that I really feel the same. But I pray for all those things, friend and family every day. I am not joking and I am not trying to prove anything. I am only letting to know that- It is my decision and only mine. I am also not worried if some body else is angry or being unhappy and it is because of me only because it is there problem and not mine.

I do not know how to get angry and I know most of the finnish friends I have seen, do not get angry for any reason. One of the best thing about this place is that, It reminds you and only you. It begs you to ask a question about your own self than others. It has plenty to teach and plenty to give and take from it.

Our problem can be easily solved if we see them not as problem but as the way of finding the solutions to the problems.There are no problems if we live in moment and do our day to day activity, and not keep as pending. Our task are the one of the great problem in our daily life. If we keep on pending our task then one day these task will lead us to higher problems. This is one example of problem we face in life.

It is not easy to solve others problem because one will not the same problem for the same but one can atleast pray or give some advice or just speak a couple of words which can motivate a person with a problem. A couple of words like "wish you get over it", "thank you", "all the best", "I hope you enjoy", "I pray that your problems would be overcome easily", "I hope you recover soon" and many more if we dig it.

All these words if spoken will also motivate the person with a problem. If it cannot solve then it can really help a lot.Therefore, It is just you, who decides if you want to solve your problem or try to see others problem and give some advice or give motivating words or insipirational words if you really cannot see the solution for a problem.


These are what I think, but again I am not fighting with my friend or not trying to say that I am absolutely right or correct. I am just saying that this is what we can think about. This way also we can think of problems of ours over others. Well, It is just you who decides if I am right or wrong. and I accept both with my both hands joined, a face with smile and saying it in true way-"Namaste" !

Mind, Breathing and Body

Everything is determined by there key elements in our body, Breathing, Mind and Healthy nutrition. Once a person have a disease he is has asked or invited that disease for himself. A disease never comes automatically it is your own invitation for the same.

A mind is one of the central part of our body. A ears connected to your mind has around 200 millions neurons attached to it. Your eyes connected to your brain has also many more numbers of veins or neurons attached to it. All these are connected with your brain and your brain decides what to do and what not to do.

One of the key element in living healthy is taking care of your breathing techniques. One can live free by without any disease from breathing properly. Breathing has a lot to do with how you inhale the oxygen. Many Yogis and Gurus have said that a person breathing style determines what kind of a person is in front of you.

A person who breathes very fast, has something wrong or is in worries. A person who breathes slow is slow and a person who breathe in cool and calm way deeply has a very nice attitudes developed in his life. It is all about breathing properly. Once you start breathing properly you will develop a good sense of coolness and calm or rather I would called peace in mind. It will create a good sense of feelings which will develop in you a rather very good way of keeping yourself fit and fine.

For example, when we play some games we breath very fast once we breath very fast and inhale more amount of oxygen we are consuming more oxygen only because our body needs it more. We are working and we need more amount of it. Once you are doing nothing, you need a good amount of oxygen but it is important to keep in mind how you breath.

Once your immune system is damaged, you will have loads of problem. A problems with your lungs, and any part of your body. A lot of disease will occur and you will feel very bad in yourself. Therefore, it is important to keep in mind how you breath.

Apart from breathing there is one more thing which is important to know. About our conscience and unconsciousness mind. It is the state where we have to be alive. It is presence. One example of such mind is when you are sleeping and when you are awake. When we are sleeping, we are in unconsciousness sates and in that state we see dreams. Dreams are nothing but the images. A images which after we wake up i.e. in Conscience state try to find meaning to those images. It is like saying I will give thousand images when you are sleeping, after you wake up try to give meaning to me about these images.

A person who can control his mind can do whatever he wish. A mind is very difficult body to control. It needs a lot of hard work together with many more determination stages. It can also be easily controlled. It is all up to you. You may wish to visit religious places but they will just guide you to do what you can and cannot. Try to explore yourself. Try to find your self.

Breathing inhales oxygen and throws carbon dioxide. It takes many inner steps inside our body to do a simple task as these. It looks very simple and we never notice it only because we are bounded by many such problems in our life that we tend to forget what our body needs. Do concentrate in your body, mind and breathing style too.

Improve your desire

Is it a thinking that makes the event happen true. True does not merely mean the intention but the reality in the search of destiny. How do you think ? Can we think about something in our life and the thing happens exactly as we anticipated or expected or wanted or thought of.

Many of the times such thing happens but some of the times it does not happen like that. Is it then gets delayed ? What happens if it does not happen as we expected ? Again, it depends on our thoughts-how long you will search for the same thing and remind in your mind just about the same thing time and again, how many of the times in earth you keep on remembering the same thing time and again and all those things give rise to some kind of pattern.

Just as I am writing the article here, I saw a beautiful girl outside my window she is walking in her own way. She has a black dress and I could not see her from front but why should I care as long as I can see her. My eyes followed till one corner in the road where she disappeared completely. She is gone and I am left with unfulfilled desire. The very time when my eyes went outside the window it gave me an expression that she is a women, a sweet girl and amazing build creature.

The moment it gave some impression-my mind thought of sex nothing more. When my mind thought of the sex it really wanted her in my bed naked jumping and pumping all the part of body and doing all those physical exercise just to fulfill a faction of desire. I do not know how other Man minds think when they see very young, energetic, beautiful lady going on her way and when they can in-fact see her ass.

I believe many men do the same as this ordinary brain of mine. It is the exactly what we think when it comes to women but what does a women thinks when she sees the man ? Does she think the same ? I think- No. May be some women will do but many of them will not think as we men do. However when I am trying to explain such phenomenon it will not be explained since whatever I will write is just negative of what we experience and what we do.

The point of putting this women in the context of this article is that, it is our mind once we think we will want her in our bed, we will get it but the big question is how ? How can you do it ? It is very easy-the very moment I saw her, I should have stopped writing and go and apporach her try to talk with her say hi/hello. Would have talked something funny and rather would have explained the problem that I was currently facing that of seeing her in my own room. It would have drawn her close to some extent towards you.

The other approach would be after a some period of the time the emtion that was raised in the mind of mine will automatically vanish. It is momentarily created and it will automatically go off once you will concentrate on something else. Well, it is not easy as it looks but it is really very easy too. Desire are the problems said by Buddha. He says that once you remove all your desire you will reach to the stage which will lead you to total satisfaction and peace a phase called as nirvana. How much do you agree on it ?

Desire is not the problems or pain it is those that is remained when the words are no longer existing to explain them what it is. It is not what I write or what some body have said it is a want, need and fulfillment. It is created in our mind when we observe. It is through our eyes that we have seen and now we want it for us. Once you close your eyes you will now feel there is nothing except a darkness.

Put yourself with a towel or something for just a minute or two and now see the world outside. You will see nothing except darkness and you will now try to create a imaginary picture of the real world outside which matches somewhat to the real world in your imaginary picture but it is not real. Same is true for our life to some extent when I am explaining you the meaning of improving your desire not totally killing it.

Must Vs Should

I was in the kitchen again, my one of the favorite place sitting with my best friend that is my aloneness and my laptop. Doing nothing. I was preparing a coffee. Then my friend came "Dainel" I don't remember how it started but we started the converstation about relationship. It all began something like this- If a man is working and going to work and women is staying at home What would you expect your women to do ? She must do the household works, she must prepare food and she must do all the rest of the houshold chores. Well, I did not know why My friend Daniel thought like this but together with him My finnish friend Teemu also agreed with him. Now It was me who was alone defending myself. I would say that It is not must, It should be "should". I know they were right and it is true because if one is going for work and working his hard ash to earn to feed for a family women should do the other things. But I did not agreed on this. There are several factors why ? Why is that we expect that girl must do the work at home ? Let us think for some time that we are women and now think we are going for work and coming back home and we expect our husaband to prepare food and one among other stuffs. Is that we would say Husband must ? Can all the women in world agree with this ? Will every one expect their husband must do house keeping ? The word itself says that "Must" is made for men and "should" is made for women. You know why ? Care, affection and attraction comes with the women and with the word should. But aggression comes with word must. I don't know we had very good conversation about 10-20 minutes abou this and I felt it very good. I was trying to defend myself and it was obvious that it is always difficult to convince people throught your speech. In just 10-20 minutes of discussion we talked about relationsip, religion, history, present and future. It is always good to share ideas because tomorrow i may die but ideas will never die.