Love doesn't last forever

The success or failure of relationships depends on how popular you and your partner are. Creative artistes, emotionally volatile and difficult to handle as they are, are more likely than others to jump into relationships. However, that’s not to say mere mortals are any less discerning or changeable as far as their love partners are concerned.
In fact, multiple lovers do seem built into the very human DNA. Or, so says the Coolidge Effect. When a male rat is dropped into a box with a female rat, there’s an initial frenzy of sex between them. After a while, the male tires and his libido drop. If a new female rat is brought in, the male rat’s libido rises again. You can keep repeating this process with new females and it keeps performing till it almost drops dead with sheer fatigue. Female rats too flirt more with unknown, rather than known rats.
This phenomenon, known as the Coolidge Effect, is true of all mammals. Yes, even humans. And, amongst humans, it certainly seems to be truer! Surveys claim love doesn’t last beyond three and a half years. That is the maximum time one can be “in love” with another person. So what if the object of love changes — so be it if that’s the only way to keep romance alive! After all, what is it that kills romance? Why is it that the moment a relationship settles into normal companionship, the excitement peters out?
Coolidge Effect says it all boils down to the fact that sex with a new partner raises the dopamine levels, to the Don Juan curse, which says men and women are wired to look for newer partners in the hope of improving their genetic success in future generations. However, my personal favourite is what Robert Johnson, in his book “We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love” says.
He explains that the sparks that romance or attraction arouse are actually a yearning for a spiritual connect that goes beyond physical. As we settle into relationships, we forget to connect in a spiritual manner with our regular partners; the daily rigmarole of life sees to that. And so, if we find other ways to achieve that spiritual connect, dramatic highs that are present in a new relationship would be ours in our stable relationship as well.

Learning by Experience

The time of everything has to be one day reach to an end and we just move on as we change in the change itself. If we look back to our history we can easily see that we were not what we used to be. Everything is temporary and everything has to be changed in some point of time. We believe still that whatever we do today is by doing something. "Learning by doing" is not the right quote for the present day context because we do not learn by doing at present but we learn by experience. So, Here I am saying to everyone that "Learning by experiencing" is the right quote rather than learning by doing. Why ? Am I out of my mind, Am I saying something which I do not know and Which I have heard. No, The answer is big NO. I am saying it because It is my own personal experience. Well, to take a sample of 1 men out of some hundred thousand billions is stupid. Well, this is how it is. We do not learn by doing anything but experiencing what we are doing. After we get to one point we can very easily go back and say that well i know where did i came from. This is what basically we do. Not just we do and we think we are learning.

To measure the quality of an individual the grading system is not OK. Quality is not something which you can just measure by how much Mr. X brings in his exam and how much scores he maintains. Quality should be measured by how much he can give it to others and how much he can deliver. Today is the time for learning by experiencing not by doing. I know I have nothing to prove or put some references here but this is how I think and I believe in what I think. It is not generalize today but one day when I am not here it will.


Remember always that we do not know the path until we travel that path. We cannot say that i have made this path of my own because it is unknown who made that. Whatever you have achieved is already achieved by some body else and you are just following in your own life. Cheers !

Happy Valentine's day 2008 !

Picture worth thousand of words, Happy Valentine's day 2008 to every one around the world. To all those who could not go home to meet their loved ones, to those who are working in some war and to all those who are trying to find the right life for themselves so that they can one day be together with their loved ones. I can write more than 1000 words here but it is just useless because as a great man has said-Picture worth thousand words.Its not so important that one day is for love and totally named as Valentine's day the most important thing is that we should feel it in ourselves. Every day is valentine's day, every hour is valentine's hour and every second is valentine's second. It is inside us and it will come out only when we wish it to come out. Love is unknown but being together is known. Being with the person you think you like or she thinks she like you is mysterious in itself. Happy VAlentine's day to every one !

What is the name of this country ?

Why I am feeling like this ? What is wrong with me ? I am in the developed country in the world came to study here. The facilities are good, infrastructure is mind blowing-never seen such kind of infrastructure ever before. The university itself is the highest recruiter in whole city itself, got it name from the name of the city. What is my task at the university ? Well, this is not a good question because every body knows what is my task at the university. I am the student and I have to come very morning 8 am in the university and do my duties and go back at the time which is appropriate to me. How many courses can I take ? I can take the courses as per my wish and How do I manage my time table-No answer. How do I do all my project ? No answer. How do I learn the skills required to complete the project-See the slides, Google it or ask the help from the friend. How do I travel to the university ? Bus, Car, and if you are facing the condition that I am facing "Walk". How much is the tuition fee taken ? The university do not take any tution fee. Why ? It is the benefit every student in this country is eligible for either native people or international people. Wow, So interesting ! Where is this place ? You have to guess yourself. What is this place famous for ? No answer.

Well my dear readers, probably you know till now that which place i am talking about. If you still do not know then you do not belong to this place and please do not think of this place either, until and unless you are a tough guy like me or like some of my friends. So, want to have fun and want to enjoy the weekend and also want your dream to come true- the dream to study free, the dream to learn the skills and knowledge that you want to upgrade skills through reading the slides and doing project all the time. Come ! You all are welcome.!


This was not what I wanted to write but what to do, I like doing one thing and that is writing-thoughts comes in my mind and automatically my hands starts pressing the keyword like the machine which already knows what this mind(bheja) is talking about. I am not saying that I am good or bad, I am just what I am... So, Why am I feeling depressed and what will make me happy. The best thing that will make me happy is of course my wife. How come I do not have my wife with me ? Well, You better take a guess again. A guy who came far far away from home country to learn, to study and to earn some thing so that he will have a good life is having one of the depressing life like never before. It is not just me, its the same with my friends. Life is very good and interesting when we face problems because then we think that are actually living (said by my friend-Teemu). Yes it is true and there is no doubt about it. When we do not have any problems then we should realize that we are soon approaching the death or there is no meaning to live a life. Welcome and Happy day !

Relationship or Agreement

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Prosumerism

Today, I thought of the topic which is the combination of two words, Producer and Consumer. The word "Prosumerism" is basically both producer and consumer. We are in this planet and we do the both. We produce and we consume, What if we cannot produce ? We are then unable to consume. What if we consume then we are not able to produce and so on. You can take an example of anything in the world it has these two phenomenon. I do not work so I do not have money so I do not eat properly. This is one example next is I have a work so I buy lots of food and I eat them. This is another. The producer and consumer should always be in equilibrium. It is very difficult to survive if we cannot balance them, Wherever we go and whatever things we do. Take an instant money, Gretest motivator in the planet Every body is running for it. If we can just the name it gives us lot of pleausere. Imagine I have million euroa, Imagine I was rich, Imagine I have beautiful house somewhere near the beach or something. Money is dividing us, money is killing each one of us and money will surely damage one day this whold world. I had some money let's say 1 year ago but now i do not have anything. The whole money was consumed by me. I never thought of proucing it. I now realize that i was just consumin them but never gave the second thought on how to produce them. If i would have realized it I would not have now been with empty pocket. What is the solution I have ? I have only one solution left and that solution is to produce money. How ? Search for some job, search to get money by some means. The means can be job, work, volunteer work or build your own company, ask your friend etc. A single person in world can have balance life only if he does these two basic things properly. If we can maintain the balance between "Prouducer" and "consumer" then life will be very easy but one of the greatest challenge currently face by us is "we are not consistent" we lack the factor called "consistency" or either we are not satisfied by one thing. Therefore, Prosumerism is all about "I proudce this amount ... and I consume .." This is how life works and this is how it is, only thing is that to reach to that earlier statement is very hard job.

I am legend

This is the title of the movie, where one man stands up in the city to fight against the evils. He finally finds the cure for the disease but that cure is just useless. The idea of this movies is very impressing and a must watch. Legend is the term which itself has great meaning- No one can simply become legend. Legends are not made they are people who are born legends. It is not easy when we look back to the history of people who are legend now. They have done sacrifise in Love, for family and for country. Are we willing to do the same now ? If you ask anybody who is willing to do the sacrifise, the answer will be no ! Because we are afraid of the sacrifise we want to live a happy, cheerful and simple life. By just simply saying that I am legend, you do not become therefore it is important that some one says that this person is legend. The person who lives are not called legend, Once you have done something noticeable for your country, your society and your religion they after your death you can be declared legend.We always tend to differentiate between good, bad and evil similary we are differentiating now a days about ordinary, VIP and middle class. Why is this difference ? Can't we call every one as single normal human beings. We can't because we have different values in the society. We have put up these valuses in our society that people call by our values not by our deeds. "With desire comes dissatisfaction and a dissatisfied man is full of misery." We always desire something in our life, every instant we want something from our life that we are disatisfied when we do not get what we want. When we become dissatisfed with our desires then we become a man of misery. So, always be the way you are. Do the things you like to do the most. Do not hide the desire within you and don't let your desire get disatisfied, even if you do not get what you desire today-you might get it very next day or in some times-just have that patience and courage within you. These qualites will make you a legend.

You are two steps ahead ...

Every women is two steps ahead of every men, Do you agree ? Well, if you don't then why, I do not have any proved facts about this but i can tell you this because of my own personal experiences. We are guys and guys will be always guys. We like fancy cars, bikes and one among other stuffs but girls are also there who like these things but they are born with strong mind set and strong heart. The nature of girl is very different than any other male counter part. They know what they are doing and they are capable of doing what ever they wish. They have the talent that no man will ever gain in the world through his life only thing is that they do not want to show up.Once I was watching a movie by Al Pacino and he said, " The day we stop seeing them the day we will die" ! Don't you think it is true. I personally think it is very true. When did we didn't see any girl ? We always want to see then no matter what, we always need the care they can give us. Only thing is that we sometimes get fed up with the extra cares she wants to give or rather let's say we want to change in the way that we need more. We are linked with them in very deep way and we will never can reach anywhere from them. "Behind every successful man there is women". I don't know how this comes to be true but I think yes, it is true. It is also true that women also likes successful man. They are very clever. Every body wants to be with those person who are successful because people think successful man has everything, every talents, he is good in whatever he does and he is the best in society of something. Well, if we look deep at the word "women" it says everything. "Wo" is extra added in the "men" word. It is reference to my previous article. This valentines day my tribute to all the great women in the world, and to all the women in this planet earth, You are great ! Without you we are nothing. Triubte to all the women and God bless Women ! Happy Valentines day to every women in every culture, every society and every country.

Red Rose

I am not in mood to write today, I picked up the rose from the garden put it here in the blog. Valentine's day is approaching near, People are coming closer and closer. Every body is going to celebrate this day with their loved ones, near and dear ones. Unfortunately I am not. When you are quite far from the person you like and you are willing to go and visit her but some how you could not then what would you do ? How would you celebrate this day ? You can celebrate it by giving her a call, sending her some surprises and doing some very funny and stupid things- Surely she is going to like whatever you do because She likes you and she is yours. Is a relationship very difficult thing to understand ? I don't think so, It is not Only thing is that It is broken due to lack of communications, and mainly because of small arguments which the both partner some how realizes later after they are broken. I do not want to share my own personal life experience but some how I am learning being in a relationship a lot. I think I am understanding slowly and gradually what it is like but I am just a newbie on this. Happy Valentines day to all my blog readers and to all the people on this earth, May you get what you want in your life and May your relationship goes very far and most importantly you become happy in your life and in your relationship. Happy Valentines day !

I like you but our relationship will not work out.

Well, This is what happens in many relationship. People will surely like this statement. The statement which they have heard. It is not a good statement when once you have gone through this. What happens when you like someone ? The first day or the very next moment you like some one you start to hate that person. Why ? Well, It is because From that very moment we start to see the differences among each others. This is the main reason why the differences starts or starts to come in the relationship. I don't know weather it is true or wrong but I think this is what happens. As a man or women we have multiple identity, we are father, engineer, writer, worker, daughter, son, child, husband etc. But the main thing is that we do not see it in different ways we see all of these identity as one. When we see all our identity as a single we loose. We then create some kind of difference among each others or with our partner or with some one who we like. We start to see the same kind of attributes that we have in the person you like. Every individual is unique in their own ways. Every body has different taste, different smell and different way of looking to different things like world, knowledge and life. When we like someone we relate our liking with his or her. Then if we see that we both have many things similar to each other we just think well- he is a right person or she is a right person in my life. After that slowly we start living together and when we start living together we start to find the difference that person has with yourself. When we start to find the differences the relationship starts breaking. The statement is very depressing and ver encouranging as well. One thing every one should remember is that when we expect something in our life and when we think that we have got what we wanted the very next moment their is a chance of loosing that. Yes, It happens most of the time. Do not get over excited about what you have and what you will get in life. Always expect least and do what you do the best, This way you will achieve what you do not expect to achieve. Cheers !!!

Must Vs Should

I was in the kitchen again, my one of the favorite place sitting with my best friend that is my aloneness and my laptop. Doing nothing. I was preparing a coffee. Then my friend came "Dainel" I don't remember how it started but we started the converstation about relationship. It all began something like this- If a man is working and going to work and women is staying at home What would you expect your women to do ? She must do the household works, she must prepare food and she must do all the rest of the houshold chores. Well, I did not know why My friend Daniel thought like this but together with him My finnish friend Teemu also agreed with him. Now It was me who was alone defending myself. I would say that It is not must, It should be "should". I know they were right and it is true because if one is going for work and working his hard ash to earn to feed for a family women should do the other things. But I did not agreed on this. There are several factors why ? Why is that we expect that girl must do the work at home ? Let us think for some time that we are women and now think we are going for work and coming back home and we expect our husaband to prepare food and one among other stuffs. Is that we would say Husband must ? Can all the women in world agree with this ? Will every one expect their husband must do house keeping ? The word itself says that "Must" is made for men and "should" is made for women. You know why ? Care, affection and attraction comes with the women and with the word should. But aggression comes with word must. I don't know we had very good conversation about 10-20 minutes abou this and I felt it very good. I was trying to defend myself and it was obvious that it is always difficult to convince people throught your speech. In just 10-20 minutes of discussion we talked about relationsip, religion, history, present and future. It is always good to share ideas because tomorrow i may die but ideas will never die.

Is Oshama bin laden in Nepal ?

I don't know why I am writing this topic but I think and I always have thought that Oshama bin laden is in Nepal. There are more number of Muslim community in Nepal then in Nepali residing in Nepal alone. I never use to discuss whatever I write with anybody but before writing this My friends do not agree with me. They are saying that Oshama bin laden cannot be in Nepal, No way ! It is impossible and I think I have to agree with them but I don't know I feel as if Oshama bin laden is in Nepal Why any top terrorist is linked with Nepal ? Why is Our country linked as if we are a place to store all the terrorist. I think it has to do with the open border we share with India. It is very easy for any indian to come to Nepal as it is free and open. All the terrorist find them very easy to come to Nepal that is why there is a theme growing in and that theme is that "Do crime in India or in Asia or in World and visit Nepal" I may be wrong about this topic but I think Is their any possibility that Oshama bin laden resides in Nepal ?

Is Girija Prasad Koirala Really dead ?

I know you people are quite aware of the fact that Our Prime Minister is alive and living happy, healthy and prosperous life. I was the first one to write about it in a sense that Girija Prasad Koirala is dead in the way that- He might be physically alive but what is the purpose of being alive since you cannot make any changes to society and your country ? Why is he alive ? He should be dead by now. I am really not happy with the rulers in our home land- Why should I be ? What is that our rulers are giving us ? "Don't ask what a country can do for you but what you can do for your country. " It is very good quote by a great person. Well, In our Nepali context it is opposite. We all keep on asking what a country can do for us ? You can see every body is talking about this. What has our country done to us till date ? What is the benefit of being in this country ? What do we get in return ? There is always a political problems due to which education system is effected. There is always has been a Water,electric power and sanitation problem in our country. If you can see today's context of Nepal there are thousand of groups who are begging to other people. The group are easy to form as is our culture. We are beggars. We easily form a group and visit door to door to ask for donations and money.One can easily accept that well- donation is good thing to do and give however, if the donation asked is going to be utilized later in the evening for cocktail party and drinking alcohol then what is the use of donations. The country once was very near to get the status of "peaceful country in the world" is slowly and gradually becoming "violent country in world", "corrupted country in world" and so on. Why is their a link of Nepal as a nation when we see some Indian movies. Whenever they have to link some terrorist and some corruption they very easily link it to Nepal.Who is behind this ? And why are they permitted to do that ? Despite all this we have a very intellectual Prime minister living in Royal house of his and doing nothing. Why are we Nepalese people more towards "talking" and not on "doing". We always waste time and energy just like that.To some extent it is good but We do it often. Why ? The answer to this is we are not cared by our government. We are thrown as if we do not belong in our mother land. We are treated as if we came from some alien planet. We are no more multicultural, multichannel and multilingual country what I think is that remove those "multi" and that's what we are, and that is also nothing. We are heading no where and we are doing no good to our country men. Listen to Obama speech Prime Minister- In his speech he at least mentions and know what his country men are going through. He knows why he needs to be President of United States. Yes, This is real key point one should understand. "Why I am being a Prime Minster of this country ?" The reason will give you the answer and we hope hopefully you will do some good before you are really dead.

Barack Obama is Next President of United States.

Yes, I am certain that this guy will be the next president of United States of America. The past speaks a lot about the future. Barack Obama Past was full of pain, hardwork and total devotion towards his country. It seems that he has been supported by mainly youth of America. If youth of the Number one country supports him that really means this guy has got some talent. He has- No doubt about it. I just saw one video on you tube from his official website and I am impressed the way he speaks and the way he expresses himself. He is the next president of United States. I know this is just a hope and hope is always good when it comes to achieving the happiness because both these two simple word starts with "h". People might say that this guys is being optimistic or something but I am certain and sure. If USA needs some change and wants to serve their country surely they will have to give votes to this guy. I myself have never given vote till date. Imagine if I were a citizen of this country I would have proudly gone there to give him my vote, because I know and I am certain that I will get some thing on return. He will not turn down my request or he will not ignore me just like that.

What has Bush done to America ? During his time, America was unnoticable country to all other coutries. To speak and to do is quite different. People should always learn from the Finnish Culture of believing in "doing" rather than wasting time and energy is wasting time "speaking". It depends though, It is always good to say that "I have done something then I will do this or that" My good luck to Barack Obama I don't know wheather any citizen of America will give him a vote or not but If I were you- I would surely have.

Next President of United States is Obama who will certainly kill Osama...
Yes, It is funny statement but it is true. The day Obama become president from that day onwards the journey of Osama will end. I think they were enemy from their very past. Before their birth ! You don't think so ? They have very common name Osama and Obama just replace "b" with "s". Since b always comes early in alphabet surely Obama is going to be the winner.

My wishes to Barack Obama, Next President of United States of America !!!

"Are we happier than US, UK and Canada?"

According to Global Happy Index Survey, Nepal Stood 54/178 among world's most happy destination. We are ahead of India, Pakistan,United States, UK and many more. It says that we may not have latest Technologies, mind blowing infrastructure but we do are happy at the end of the day, Let me tell you one story-George Bernard Shaw was once at a party, sitting by himself on the outskirts of the festivity. The hostess came over and asked him, "Aren't you enjoying yourself?" Shaw replied, "That's all I am enjoying!" The truth is, this is all you can enjoy: yourself. All outer enjoyments are but reflections of the enjoyment you have in yourself. People in develop land do not enjoy much in themselves, They tend to forget the fact that One should feel the happiness inside oneself, God is the God of the eternal NOW. To have life means to have this joyful awareness this very moment. Not after we've paid our income tax, or completed the installments on our new car. To live truly this moment, you must not live for the moment. Moments change; the eternal Now remains constant. This Now is the center of the wheel around which all outward circumstances revolve. What I think is that today people are living like a dead men. We should live a life with spiritual mindset,living constantly in the present tense, every atom of his being vibrant with vitality. I have never seen a spiritual person who did not have joy. Joy, surely, is the greatest hallmark of spirituality. Joy wells up from the depths of a vibrant, inner calmness. When they laugh, we feel like hugging the very air with delight! This world is like a symphony, and God is the great conductor bringing music out of all things. In all things God has assumed different roles. Through sunlight He is saying, "I am power". Through wind He is saying, "I am free!" Through man He is saying, "I am wise. I feel deeply". Through dogs He is saying, "Oh, how playful I am! How wonderful is it to play!" And through birds He is singing, "Oh, what melody there is in my heart!" A life without joy is not really life; it is death. Jesus said, "Let the dead bury their dead". He was referring not to corpses getting up and burying other corpses, but to people who walk around, apparently living, but with no life in their hearts, no enthusiasm, no inner happiness. In western thought, we find constantly the emphasis on doing. In the East, being is emphasized. My wife-Padhmawoti said that we should seek happiness for others, not for ourselves. But I would say that She is putting the cart before the horse. For, granting that happiness is man's greatest gift to man, how is it possible to give it if one doesn't first have it in oneself? Can you give away money that isn't yours to give? So, always remember Things are not happiness! Often they create conditions that prevent one from happiness. Happiness can be "caught", "seen" and "felt" only from people who first have it in themselves. Develop the capacity to feel the symphony of life coursing through the veins of the trees, singing and laughing with the children as they play, scudding with the clouds through the sky. Despite the fact that we are one of poorest country in world in terms of economy, GPI, infrastructure and Education but one thing for sure and certain Atleast we do not hesitate to smile infront of others and are happy.


References: http://www.happyplanetindex.org/map.htm [cited on 05 Feb, 2008 Availaible Online]

Microsoft Student Partner

Don't be surprise to see the topic. The topic itself loads of smiles in the faces of millions by just a single keyword used in the topic. The very first keyword tells a lot about what i am talking about. It is "Microsoft", where "your potential is our passion". Yes, I have been officially been selected for this program. How can you ask me now not to have a smile in my face ? This has bought new hope and exciting journey, I am enthusiastic never before- The same guy who was rejected once by great great company like Infosys, Wipro and Hp while he was in Bangalore. The guy thought that well he did not have any talent or skill. It was total end for him. The guy whose academic background speaks what kind of consistency he maintains in his life. The guy who is always determine to achieve what he desires and what he expects because he is satisfied in what he achieves in his expectations.

Don't get confuse, There are always good times and some bad times but there are some times which are in between, which gives you smile in your face, brings joy in your life and makes you proud of what you are capable of. Only thing is the realization deep inside you. I never realized that I will be selected for this Program. I am happy, excited and proud of myself. I really thank to Jukka Wallasvaara for recommending me for this program. He was the one who took a short interview and decided that this guy has got some potential.

Journey has begun, and it is not only my duty to serve for the best organization in the world but the ones who are related with me in some ways. I expect my friends, relatives and every one to help me with this process. I want to show what I can do for my favorite organization undoubtedly Microsoft. I invite you all at Microsoft Journey of Student Partner, I invite you all-friends, foes,relatives, those who want to help me. The title with MSP (Microsoft Student Partner) says it all.

Thank you to Bill Gates and his team for selecting me. I hope I am here in this planet to make some difference, it will be the good place to start with; the number one organization in world working days and nights to create the changes in society. Welcome to Microsoft. Welcome to make the difference... Welcome...Together we can make this happen and I expect the unexpected...

I cannot be killed...

There are some people in earth who thinks that they are here for ever.., They think they are very strong. I can say one example of Osham bin laden who thinks he is here in this world forever but let me come down to the earth and see it through other cases, Some people easily think they are not going to die, they gonna live for ever and ever with happy married and satisfied life- just like a cindrella story. There was one story i read once when i was very small. Ther used to be one man who was very good, routinized and every thing he did was upto his expectations. One day while he was sleeping his room- an unknow human came and bit him up with the sticks... He could not recognize who that person was. He was really shocked with this event happening in his life. He now started thinking that who that person might be. I have no enemy in my life how can some one just come and beat me up like this. What is the reason ? I did not do anything wrong to anyone or atleast I think i have not done it. But why did this happen to me ? The reason we make enemy and the reason we make the beautiful world is the words that come from our mouth and that is of no importance to us. The words that pops up from our own tounge are the words that can create peace, heaven in this earth and will make you proud one day of being a human but the same word can also do wrong things to you in the same way. If we think that we are here forever then please do not do this becasue if you think like this ... that means you are very near to living a life...Well I do not have proofs and I do not have any research on this but I am sure it works like this. As in one of my article i have said time and again that Everything is temporary please please do not think you are living here for ever, We all have to go and We do not when... Therefore It is good to think yourself as "I am smart" but do not overestimate with "over-smart". By 20 we should be "Smart", By 30 we should be "Strong", By 40 We should be "Rich" and By 50 we should be "wise"... This is how a human should be and should want to become and want to achieve these elements. Not the other way around. People will never understand what kind of words will hurt me, Nothing will hurt you if you are strong, you do not have to say to someone that "I am strong" If you say you are strong then you are not.You are weak.. The weak person in earth are those who get hurt by words because you are not satisfied and you will never be satisfied. A satisfied person is very happy in present and it does not matter to him if he is going to die the very next second...

Youth condition in Nepal

The reality is quite different when it comes to how we are living a life in our country. Every where there is a corruption and every body is doing it. If given an opportunity I would do for some cause. The question is not why ? But the question is why not ? Our politicans cannot talk about them- Now there is no such words made in English slang which is left to use on them. Not even single politican we can believe on. Why the hell on earth are we relying so much on them ? It is our system that needs to be modified or completely removed. We have everything but it seems we do not have anything now. It always sound good when we say we are from the land of himalayas with mount everest, temples and rich natural resources etc etc.. So, What is our condition now ? Every youth in Nepal will tell you what they are planning recently. Which country they want to visit for study or for work. Where to go and what to do ? There needs no survey or research to be done on this topic because it will quite general now that-after finishing your studies aims for higher study in foreign study in foreign land. The place where you are born is when we become young and matured is not ours or does not seems to be ours. Why is this happening ? Why are we slowly living in those awful situations ? It because of one word and that word is unemployment. We lack jobs, we lack resources and we lack money. What is the future of the country where we lack the unemployment. We cannot employ our own country men ? What is the future of the country where we do not have any jobs opening for our people ? Did any politician thought about this before ? We live in miserable world and the world becomes more miserable when we lack the basic sanitations and basic facilities that are needed for every country men. We are said as pillars of nations. Wow slowly those pillars is going to be removed. Who can then handle the country. Good luck to our sweet politicans. Despite having a good academic background you will not have good job to do, why to stay in that country which cannot gaurantee your safety, security and sanitations. Well, every body will have different opinion in this topic but to say the truth the youth condition in nepal is not good and it needs to be checked not once, but many times consistently.

Peace

I am in the kitchen, asking my finnish friend about the one word that he likes most and he says-"Peace". What is this word and what is the true meaning of this word called peace. Is peace has something to do with peace of mind, peace of soul, rest in peace or peace in earth or peace of family or peace for truth. Every body has the defition for the peace, every body has described abou the word called peace. From John lenon to the guy who sang "No women no cry" every singer, every great politicans and every great writer has focus this word called peace. "Give peace a chance by john lenon". What did he do wrong. He was just singing the song and that song was had nothing to do with his personal life. Is war a peace ? How can man acheive a peace or go into the state some one calls it as peace for the inner self. Can you imagine a world where you can get this state of mind where you would say I am feeling peace in my mind and heart. When would you say that ? Or you have never heard about this before. Why do we call when some one dies "Rest in peace" ? Is it because he did not attain this phase when he was alive ? Is that state never never achieved until a person dies ? What is the reason we call a person Rest in peace ? I do not see any more reason then the reason itself. I am resting in peace because i did not live a life in full peace. I committed sins and I am living my life with full of tensions, crimes, struggle and so on. I did not have 10 minutes out of my one single day (24) hrs to see blue sky and to see the beauty of earth. Start seeing the patterns in the sky, Every day there is new patterns in the sky, have you asked why? It is just for us. The one who created this wanted us to know that every day is different- every day i am making new patterns in the sky and ever day i am giving you to explore yourself live upto your expectations and live a life with the feeling of peace. Peace cannot be described in single article and i am not perfect person to do so. I am doing it because may be some one will one day attain this state peace before resting in peace.

Who am I ?

The question is very interesting and very self asking one. It is very easy to ask this question on the basis of physical level therefore we usually say, "Who are you ?" and People will reply with this kind of answer- "I am doctor, I am engineer, I am an architect or I am a writer ...." but the true meaning of this question no body knows. It is same like saying what is love and what do you mean by life. There are thousands of book written by self knowledge, meditation and how to learn about your self. Every body has written it just because they have found something or they think they have found something about the question itself. The real problem is that when we say and expect that we have got the result that very time we do not have any result. We have not reached to the conclusion but it is an virtual conclusion. Why do we assume that we know the factor "x" ? Why don't we say truly that we do not know. or I do not know. Is it because we want to maintain the reputation of being smart, intelligent and very brilliant in whatever we do. Well, if we think so then we are doing no good my dear friends ! Let's be truthful of what we do and what we get. Many of us write something expecting that we will be rich one day with brilliant car and brilliant house and we will become world famous but those who write with this kind of attitude in their mind land up nowhere. It is not the success that makes the man special or intelligent for example it is the true value that man has or possess in the society. So, Why not to become a man of value then man of success ? Therefore, Who am I is the question of reality, it should be first asked with yourself, Sit in silent place for some 2 hrs and ask this question- remember your past and then from the very past come to the present; that means just trace what you have been doing in your life from the day you remember or from the day you remember anything in your mind and come to the present. Now, Write down the key words in some paper or you do not have to do this . You will now realize that the things what I have doing and the things long gone by were very interesting and funny or may be very boring or inspiring. Ask question with your own self. Ask as many times as you wish. Now you will come to know who you are. After experiencing this phenomenon for yourself you can explains who you really are. This is how you do it. This is the process and the process continues. I am not asking you to do it with strict time table but do this whenever you feel you want to know who are you. I hope you will come up with answers.