The Art of Loving

I was reading a book called, “The Art of Loving” by Eric Fromm written during 1956. The book consists of wide range of ideas, not about “how to love” but “what love is”. It makes us think that love can be an art.

It is apparent that definitions of love vary based on people attitudes, experiences and believes. In addition, what love is, to me, may not be the same, for another person. We all are philosophers, at some point in life. In particular, when we talk on “world perspectives” for example, love, life, faith, religion and politics. Therefore, to generalize about love and on love, is to make an understatement about world perspectives.

In the final chapters of the book, Fromm articulates and answers if love is an art or not. He suggests that love is an art just like any other art, music, poetry, painting, carpentry and engineering. In every art, there are key elements. Three key elements which are necessary ingredients for love: Discipline, Concentration and Patience.

Generally, Sex plays a vital role in love. Fromm argues on Freud theory of “sexual pleasure” on love and rather suggests, “Sexual happiness” which is based on penetrating ‘hearts and minds’ of partner and ‘touching’ him/her in much, deeper sense. Maybe he meant ‘some kind of karmic connection’ is necessary to be happy and satisfied in love.

Many a great philosophers, poets and scientist have an opinion on love. My view is no different from Fromm’s perspective on love. He has clearly shown in his book that love is an art. There are several objects of love such as brotherly love, motherly love, erotic love, self –love, and love of God. Each of these love are different in one ways or another and these grow in time and space, as we do.
After reading a book, I have acquired a great deal of knowledge on love. However, love without practice and experience is not love. I have experienced many objects of love but still unsatisfied with the hunger for love. In a world where, we are consumers of food, drinks, a big bottle, a big breast; a big house, awesome car and great job. In more poetic sense, it seems that Love is not something for consumption.

Love is omnipresent and our appetite will always be unfulfilled for love. It is better for us because, without love, earth will not rotate, seasons will not change, birds will not sing and life will not exit.

As Eckhart has said, “If you love yourself, you love everybody else as you do yourself. As long as you love another person less that you love yourself, you will not really succeed in loving yourself, but if you love all alike, including yourself, you will love them as one person & that person is both God and man. Thus he is great & righteous person who, loving himself, loves all others equally.” I love you, all!

Press Releases:"20 Love Poems and the economy crisis"

Mr.Santosh Kalwar has yet another book lined up in his new project entitle, "20 Love Poems and the economy crisis" published by Lulu.com, This is the fifth book written by Mr. Kalwar.

Currently, The book is free to download in an free e-book version from publisher lulu.com









Here is the complete press-release.

Mybheja congratulates the author of the book !

Eurovision 2009 Song Winner: Norway

LYRICS

Years ago when I was younger
I kinda’ liked a girl I knew.
She was mine, and we were sweethearts,
That was then, but then it’s true

I’m in love with a fairytale
Even though it hurts.
‘Cause I don’t care if I lose my mind;
I’m already cursed

Every day we started fighting,
Every night we fell in love.
No one else could make me sadder,
But no one else could lift me high above

I don’t know what I was doing
But suddenly we fell apart.
Nowadays I cannot find her.
But when I do we’ll get a brand new start

I’m in love with a fairytale
Even though it hurts.
Cause I don’t care if I lose my mind;
I’m already cursed

She’s a fairytale
Yeah
Even though it hurts.
Cause I don’t care if I lose my mind;
I’m already cursed
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Princess and Poor Priest Son

I saw a dream today, as everybody sees some dreams my dream was very romantic and very sad at the same time. The dream was about a love affair of princess with a poor priest child. There was a princess and her mother, the princess was going to get married and the princess mother invited priest to see the proper man for her daughter’s wedding. The princess, princess mother, priest and poor priest son was in one room checking for man for the wedding. Princess saw few man and she rejected them. After a short while, princess said to her mother, “mama, I like the priest son, he is the one who will make be happy, I know.., please mama, can I marry him?” princess mother was not happy with such response. She said, “no, the poor priest guy cannot get married with you, I would never allow this to happen…” princess was very sad and she started fighting with her mother but her mother never agreed for her proposal.

The poor guy saw in the eyes of princess and through their eyes the electrical signal of love passed on to their hearts, they both started communicating and felt that they will not be together… poor priest child was sad too…

Poor priest child said,

Oh sweet, beautiful princess
Love is the great sin,
Although, our heart is same,
World will never feel the pain
I was made for you, but
World insane will divide for material gain

Tears in heaven, useless as it remains
This bloody earth,
Is not for lovers in rain

She is your mother will you leave her?
For this poor priest son,
I cannot promise anything,
But I can promise,
Togetherness, trust, and love ever and ever again
Please don’t worry,
For happiness and satisfaction
Was born only with them

Tears in heaven, useless as it remains
This bloody earth,
Is not for lovers in rain

The dream was over and the new day started, the day where there were no vital pills for humanity such as love, hope and faith. The priest son hanged himself and died, because he thought world is full of material gain, nothing exits only money which remains and world is dividing for pleasure to gain.

Your voice

I am thinking to write a book,
I need your motivation
Waiting for your phone call
When would I get a chance to hear you

Is this love, or pain?
Sufferings or Sadness
Oh dear, where are you when I need you
I want your touch, your heat

I pray, hoping you will ring me
I wish, you could-waiting,
None of these words will give pleasure
Until I hear you, Oh dear

Oh lord, Oh holy lord
What did I do wrong?
Why can’t I hear her, for so long?
I am in pain, why should someone care

Oh lord, Oh sweet honey
I wish I could hear you
Wherever you are whatever you do
I will fight for your happiness
For that, even I am ready to kill myself

I will

Beatles I Will Lyrics:
Who knows how long I've loved you
You know I love you still
Will I wait a lonely lifetime?
If you want me to I will

And if I ever saw you
I didn't catch your name
But it never really mattered
I will always feel the same

Love you forever, and forever
[ Find more Lyrics at www.mp3lyrics.org/LZ ]
Love you with all my heart
Love you whenever we're together
Love you when we're apart

And when at last I find you
Your song will fill the air
Sing it loud so I can hear you
Make it easy to be near you
For the things you do endear you to me
OH, you know I will
I will

do do do do do do do do do

la la la la la la la.
Lyrics: I Will, Beatles [end]

Poem of the month (Upcoming Valentine's day Special-Feb 14, 2009)

Happy Valentine's day 2008 !

Picture worth thousand of words, Happy Valentine's day 2008 to every one around the world. To all those who could not go home to meet their loved ones, to those who are working in some war and to all those who are trying to find the right life for themselves so that they can one day be together with their loved ones. I can write more than 1000 words here but it is just useless because as a great man has said-Picture worth thousand words.Its not so important that one day is for love and totally named as Valentine's day the most important thing is that we should feel it in ourselves. Every day is valentine's day, every hour is valentine's hour and every second is valentine's second. It is inside us and it will come out only when we wish it to come out. Love is unknown but being together is known. Being with the person you think you like or she thinks she like you is mysterious in itself. Happy VAlentine's day to every one !

Relationship or Agreement

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You

Some times I am so worried about you that I could not keep my mind steady. I am really worried about you thinking what you might be doing at this time. I do not know what is this ? I think if you will be remembering the way I am remembering you. I think those golden days when we were together. Why can't we be together again ? There are lots of factor which come in between I hope you understand this. I Pray to God that you will be there until I come back, I Pray to God that you will be the same person and you will not change. you will remain as I left you. How can I tolerate myself if you will change ? How will I feel if you will gone ? Am I worried about the failure or am I really worried that you will leave me ? I don't know what is this. Life is a journey and is very difficult to take this journey single. No one likes to travel this journey alone. Every one need some one who can care each other through this journey. It is a responsibility of both people in journey to take care of them and handle the situation with due care. I am in west part of this globe. people are modernized, developed and highly skillful. I am watching them-learning from them and thinking why are they like that. When I was child I used to think why there is separate country and different people with different color of skin ? Now I am learning , Why is it so. Will you be there ? How would you know how many times I remember you here ? Will we ever meet again ? What happens if I die and could not make it ? Do take care in any circumstances and do not hesitate to fight with anybody. Not physically, but with highly motivated mind. Talk about the women rights, live life the way you want to live. If I could not come then do remember that the words you wanted to listen from my heart would one day come but that day is lost in the calendar. Do assume that that lost day or date. It will give you some kind of hope. Hope will give you motivation to live a life. In case, you would be asked to get married listen to your heart. Whatever you will be doing and whatever you will missing-I will be doing the same here. The factors that had made us apart will one day bring us together. Let's hope and pray. Let's listen to our heart and inner soul. To make promise is easy but to live with that promise is challenging and to make that promise true is most difficult thing in this planet. I will living with the promise I made to you- I hope you doing the same. Nothing can be hidden. you cannot hide anything. Even if you wish to do so you cannot. The first looks on your eyes will tell everything to me. Be careful and I will be too.