Q&A: What is more important Love or trust?

Dear all,

Q)If you have to choose between a person you love and a person you trust in, which one would you choose? In other words, what’s more important in a relationship: love or trust?

A)Choose that person whom you love because the person whom you love, is the person whom you already trust, and that person whom you are trusting or have started to trust, you will slowly start to love.

Mr. A is lovable and Mr. A is nice, trustworthy. Choose Mr. A
Mr. A is not lovable and Mr. A is nice, trustworthy. Choose or Not

In relationship, love cannot proceed without trust and those who are trustworthy not necessarily are capable of love.

To be in safe side, as Paulo did- it is better to say, "Both".

But, Nothing is above Love nor below love. It is love which moves the earth, it is love which brings the sunlight and energy, it is love which makes you awake and enlightened. Without love there is nothing, everything will be void, everything will explode and erode.

God bless you all !

Today's Relationship

A Young handsome man was walking down the hill, near the country side in west virginia, CA., He was just watching the scenery and beautiful hill side. He was watching without any differences in his mind, his eyes caught attention to one couple who were fighting on the top of their roof.

He started to look after those two couples and thought, "why are these two humans fighting?" he visualized his own life and relationship. He remembered, once his wife also did the same and went very far from her. She killed herself., It was not young handsome's man fault neither it was his wife's fault, during those times, both of them were going through bad crisis (Economy, depression, job cuts, recession, natural disaster and most importantly fear of death) When so many negative things were popping up and down like a popcorn in their head; definately, there was going to be misunderstanding betweens couple.

Young handsome man went close to these two couples who were fighting (on the top of the roof) and said,

"Hey two of you, what are you doing?" he asked.
"It is none of your business, son." replied the man from the roof.
"I know that is not my business, you both are fighting for nothing- I can solve your problem."
"What? tell us how?" asked the man
"You both, Jump from the top of that roof." replied the young man and started to move on.

Both the couples who were fighting on the top of roof, now started to look close to each other and stopped the fighting.

What is the lesson from the story?

Image of the day: Breakup

How to tear down walls?

Dear Readers,

With curiosity and passion of reading your ideas and opinion, I, one among you all would like also to give some words to this question, "How to tear down walls?".

May be, My explanation will not give any insights or great ideas- Please excuse me for this.

Let us get started then-

Tearing down a wall or breaking wall or breaking boundaries are simple stuffs to do. These are physical entity created by us and could easily be destroyed by us.

Many of us around here are discussing on the issue related to tearing down the walls within your self such as greed, race, religion, sex and so on.

How can we even think this could be successful? Well, those elements which are inside us are never going to change and those which are outside us are already broken.

We live by opinion and ideas, with our own philosophy of life. All those elements such as love, race, religion, life and culture etc. These are all part of every individual. These elements are different and we have our own personal "definitions" based on our personal "experiences".

When we try to listen other people's opinion and their definitions about these factors we tend to disagree and to some we agree.

Those who can lie can gain popularity easily. I do not know if there is something which called "believe". As said by Oscar Wilde, "Experience are mistakes", are we really gaining experience of are we just committing the mistakes?

A civilized society is formed when every individual in that society are bound to obey the rules and regulation which is for the benefit of their own society.

How much civilized society we have in this world? And, why do we think we are civilized? We might think that we are civilized society since we have power of intellectuals, full of resources and big fat rules which strictly has to be followed.

I feel pity for such society. The best rule in the world is No rule.
Once you start to follow the rules and regulation of your society you are bound to have "differences". When you have self differences within yourself, how can you have civilized society?

There are many examples and theories which are piled up in the dust of some libraries around the world. Those theories and books are food for rats and insects. At least some form of animals can sustain their lives with those rotten theories.

We are living by Scriptures, opinions and demoralizing elements which are root cause of our own self destruction. When will our tiny brain realize that, "We are all equal".

Difference is religion and culture has become mirror illusion. There is nothing popping up without the knowledge of others around us.

How can you break the barrier of relationships? We still are fighting for it, don't we? My first wife, second wife and so on...

Self differences inside us creates self destruction. We are destroying our destiny by creating the difference all around us. WE have walls of communism, race, relationships, religion and many those factors where our understanding is very limited.

Wake up people, please wake up....

Live the way you want to live but try to listen what others have to say too. You can always disagree but try to find what is the alternative of disagreement.

A week ago, I was watching a movie based on Jesus Christ and his life. I do not know how many times he has said, "I tell you the truth..."

When a person says, "I tell you the truth..." Is he really telling the truth?

Well, that is another point of discussion and let me not open it here. But, let me go back to the same question of how to tear down the walls?

Physically, Very simple-
1. Hire some machines which can be operated by human.
2. Use the machine to tear down walls.
3. Remove the walls
4. Now, you are successful. Good luck.

Mentally, Very Very Simple-
1. Accept everything which comes in your life.
2. Be truthful not to others but to yourself.
3. Life a life full of simplicity, the beauty will blossom along the way.
4. Respect, Obey, Follow, Give, Share, Encourage, Motivate and Smile to yourself and those around you.
5. Be like a child.
6. No human should claim he is God or (he is son of God as done by Jesus), or I am God itself. (Allah, Krishna, Buddha ...) Let us call them "Pure humans". A human with no self motives.
7. Live one day and die the same day. (How?) Do not care about yesterday and do not over think on tomorrow because you are not living in past or future, you are living now. (As I am writing this comment, I have started my day. After the sunsets and darkness prevails, I am going to end my day. I am going to die, Please do not worry because hopefully, I will be awake again tomorrow But again, hope is not with me it is for your satisfaction. I only hope to live only one day.)

Let me put it in a loop now.

Could any one of us follow 1-7 steps?

Yes
No

If your answer is Yes, then you are in Human civilization group.
If your answer is No, then ask yourself why not?

The Human civilization group is the world of "no difference". A world of complete peace and no walls. Where there is people and all those live are god. A pure humans existence.
(I am sorry, I have to wake up from this dream)

Alright now, I have to stop typing because I think these seven point steps will clarify what the writer ones to say.

Sorry I am still working on those seven points. Therefore, Let me put my greed attribute here-

-Author of the self published book "Nature God" and "Human behavior on the Internet".

Alone on the path.

I like the idea of Alone on the Path. Especially the saying. Here is the end quotes-

Sufi Dhu ‘l - Nun (Egyptian, died 861 AD) describes the positivity of life.

“Oh Lord, when I pay attention to the voices of animals, the sounds of the trees, the bubbling of the waters, the chirping of the birds, the howling wind or the crashing thunder, I perceive in them evidence of Your unity; I sense that You are the supreme power, almighty, the supreme wisdom, supreme justice.

“Oh Lord, I recognize You in the trials I am enduring. Allow, Lord, Your satisfaction to be my satisfaction. May I be Your joy, that joy which a Father sees in his son. And may I recall You with tranquility and determination, even when it is difficult to say that I love You.”


Alone on the path. We are all alone on our own path. We choose to come on this planet from the women who is very complex organism in itself. A women can be called as earth itself. A women whose complexity can be called as simplicity. A women creates us from the very core of her inner self. She takes care as the earth and Nature does. Once we come down to the earth then we are on our own.

One thing every human should understand is “a person is always alone on the path”. It does not mean that the person is in the stage of the loneliness or being alone but he is living a life of the alone.

Those four elements for the survival are really necessary to understand why you are walking down the alone path. Love is always necessary to understand either is it the love of mother or it is the love of the true lover.

Death is necessary to know that the very existence of your own self is going to end one day. It is also necessary simply because it keeps us alive in every moment we live. Every moment should be lived as if there is no moment next coming up. Every moment should be adventorus and exciting. Live with total joy and blessing.

I do not know if in the movement of trees, chirping of the birds and black cloud over the sky are the symbols of something extraordinary creature we called as GOD but I would fairly accept the fact that these are true color of Natures itself.

We can learn from just being present in the moment but at the same time we can loose nothing except our time for the present. The time is the moment, time is being present and passing with the moment.

As it is difficult to fist understand the “love”, it is also difficult to understand the phenomenon of “life”.

We all have to one day realize and will realize that whatever we are doing or whatever we are thinking to do are not that much of essential because these are just our logical mind which needs much more attention then anything else.

We fear death but why do not we fear the love ? It is just the matter of knowing yourself better than anything else. The person who knows himself will never ask who you are ?

The person who answer who he is; actually is not what he really is. The meaning is in finding yourself and to walk or take the journey in own way. It is like writing your script and taking the path but in case you have trouble to reach to the final destination that you really meant to reach. Simply learn from others and take there experience into your account. It will take you to that long long journey very easily.

When she

When she walks away from you mad [ Follow her ] When she stare's at your mouth [ Kiss her ] When she pushes you or hit's you [ Grab her and dont let go ] When she start's cussing at you [ Kiss her and tell her you love her ] When she's quiet [ Ask her whats wrong ] When she ignore's you [ Give her your attention ] When she pull's away [ Pull her back ] When you see her at her worst [ Tell her she's beautiful ] When you see her start crying [Just hold her and dont say a word ] When you see her walking [ Sneak up and hug her waist from behind ] When she's scared [ Protect her ] When she lay's her head on your shoulder [ Tilt her head up and kiss her ] When she steal's your favorite hat [ Let her keep it and sleep with it for a night] When she tease's you [ Tease her back and make her laugh ] When she doesnt answer for a long time [ reassure her that everything is okay ] When she look's at you with doubt [ Back yourself up ] When she say's that she like's you [ she really does more than you could understand ] When she grab's at your hands [ Hold her's and play with her fingers ] When she bump's into you [ bump into her back and make her laugh ] When she tell's you a secret [ keep it safe and untold ] When she looks at you in your eyes [ dont look away until she does ] When she misses you [ she's hurting inside ] When she calls you a dick [ she still really loves you ] When she repost this bulletin [ she wants you to read it ] - Stay on the phone with her even if shes not saying anything. - When she's mad hug her tight and don't let go - When she says she's ok dont believe it, talk with her - because 10 yrs later she'll remember you - Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her - Call her before you sleep and after you wake up - Treat her like she's all that matters to you. - Tease her and let her tease you back. - Stay up all night with her when she's sick. - Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show even if you think its stupid. - Give her the world. - Let her wear your clothes. - When she's bored and sad, hang out with her. - Let her know she's important. - Kiss her in the pouring rain.

Wake up, escape from ...

A early morning cool bridge blowing just to make sure that you feel lazy lying in the bed and do not want to wake up to start the day. However, as you are determined to start and see the day through-you put all your energy to wake up. Some people find it very difficult to wake up and some people wake up just naturally. I have seen many around me wake up with the help of machine that is an alarm clock.

Without an alarm clock many find it difficult to wake up. Why ? Why are you waking up with the help of alarm clock and not my yourself ? What is the reason ? The most simple answer is- difficulty to wake up. Some times it is not good for health once you make yourself routinized like a machine that you are going to wake up at this particular time. The simple techniques to wake up is to relax when you sleep. The relaxing does not mean anything-in sleeping mode also you can go for the meditation. This kind of meditation is called unconscious level meditation. You just have to think nothing.

The brain will try to think many thousand different things but do not let your brain go anywhere. Try to focus and sleep. Once you sleep and you do know know you are living or breathing then the state will start. Before going to bed try to remember the last important things that is to wake up early. Just ask your mind that, I have to get up at this time in the morning and then try to go bed without putting alarm clock on. The habit once formed is very difficult to change but once you start slowly changing it, you will find it much more easy to change.


Girls are always girls to me. They will show every bit of them to tell you the fact that they care, but once you are fed up with the carefulness of them-you will then try to ignore them. There are thousand different ways to ignore the girls you are involved with. You can just simply do not receive the calls or just try not to send any text or just ignore her completely. One of my friend was going through the same phase and I asked him not to worry. "As long as you have legs, you will get the shoes of your size". No wonder we are different not only physically but mentally.

The overall complexity of their physical and mental body part allows them to think in different ways-do this, do that, go for this, go for that, make this, make that, do not do this, do not do that... all these then to men may seem like an rules. One thing is sure for the men is that, men do not like to be in the rules and do not ever want to follow the rules. Most of them hate the rules.

A sense of security is good to some extent but once it cross the level than that starts becoming like a burden. Many of the men do not want to be in room playing hide and seek with their mates. They just want to explore the world, want to go outside and see what's going through. When such kind of freedom is taken away or when men start to feel that such things are going away from them, they start behaving in different manner.

Two different entity cannot be same but they could be same for some period of time. There are also an example of two entity living for the entire period of life. In such cases, it is because they are really determined to take any sort of excuses, promises, any pain together. Such kind of relationship last than one life. It is for the infinity. It last more than ever and ever. Such relationship are very difficult to be made or just difficult to find. It is not only about the commitment but also about the promises. It is not only about the living a life but about living a life by sharing pain and sorrow or happiness and sadness together.

She

A desire of Women is just like a pain. A pain which is not easily healed. Despite he fact that she wants something it cannot be fulfilled until and unless she gets really satisfied.

She is satisfied when she fulfills her personal desire. A desire then leads to "want" or "need", She is feeling the pain most of the time in her heart. The pain is not the physical but it is similar to thinking a thought. A pain in the thought-which desires a person to fulfill it. It is hurtful to many of the times but at the same time it is not hurtful.

It exits and if you will ask them then they will not say-they really are feeling it. A feeling is generated in some corner of heart. A feeling and emotions are different. An emotions could be controlled. A feeling is difficult to control. It is not easily controllable.

Feeling leads to desire, she is there somehwhere she remembers you, she thinks every day and night about you. She needs you to be with you. She most of the time thinks about you. She wishes you to be with you. She is the one who really cares about you. Despite she might have a desire which could not be fulfilled without you, she promises that she will keep her desires with her. She promises that she will show up her desire only when you will be with her.

She is there all the time waiting for you. She knows when you are exactly feeling depressed or when you are feeling good. She knows that you do the same as she has been doing for you. A man on other hand will misinterpret the messege. He will feel the "desire" as the "sex". He will most of the time think only sex on his mind.

A man's mind is just like a dog. He wants to fulfill the desire by doing it. He knows only one mantra and that mantra is to fulfill the desire by realsing the sperm. Either it is in women or anywhere else.

Many men will not agree with me, as I would not also. It is same like saying that- I stole something but I would not accept it. She is the one who is there and she will take care of you but do not forget to understand her better. It would not be difficult to understand if you desire to do so. To understand a women is very difficult and it would be impossible as long as we will thik the word "difficult" is really difficult.

To some people "difficult" is very simple and the simple many of the times seems difficult. A beauty of early morning sun falling in the lake saimaa with resilent flower blossoms. A women desire remains unfulfilled just because the sun has not shine on her.

A sun shines in her when a man she feels will fulfill her desire will be with her most of the times, when she needs it and when she thinks about him. Till then a black cloud is not making her seen. A cloud which does not make a person visible-how can her desire be visible ? Forget about the other people, a husband or a lover will also not find it easily or see her desire.

To fulfill a womens desire does not mean you only satisfy only the physical needs. It is more than that. It requires your part of commitment. It requires dedication. It requires more out of you. It is not her desire you are fulfilling, you are satisfying yours most of the times.

It is upto you to decide, want to be or do not want to be, Feeling to live with her or feeling to live without her. Behind every person they say there is no one. But Behind every successful Man there is women. A women who will understand her man, she will take him far far away from others and she will give her man support, care, and most importantly satisfaction in physical, personal and emotional level.

Womens knows the path or destination you are travelling. She knows exactly where you will end up or where you will reach. A man knows nothing about the destination but he will try his best. A women will take her man to the destination he was willing to visit. Try to understand your women in your life. Try to learn from her. It is easy. Do not ask her or do not let her know that you are trying to learn from her but just ask her if you do not understand any minor of the details. She will surely let you know. If you are not involved with any women then do not worry-every dog has its day. It will come sooner or later. Do not hurry up but just do not slow down too. Move in your rythm, in your pace and by enjoying the music in your life.

Listen to your heart.

Men cannot leave the women but it is always the decision of women to leave the Men. I am not generalizing but many of the times I have seen many women dumping the Men not the opposite way around.

It is the nature of women which is constantly changing and which always want to feel good or happy or depressed at the same time. The unpredictablel nature of the women makes it vulnerale to many men. They could not resist and suddenly they have to break the relationship.

The lasting relationship need load of commitment from the both side. It requires the dedication and hardwork of liking some one. Of giving your entire life for the happyness and good of some one. It also requires that you care, you are worried if your partner is worried and your partner is worried when you are worried.

Some body needs you constantly, how would you know ? Just be with the person, even the person makes you cry- there will be time he will make you happy too. The time you decide you are no longer want to be the person is the time you make a worng move. When it is enough, you think you cannot tolerate but you are not making an intelligent decision by not facing the problems.

The problems you face are just the part of life. One has to face it and try to solve it together because "Together you can". It is the mutual work, it requires both of you and your partner.

Be yourself, listen to your partner and ask what makes him feel good. You can do one more task by the time you decide that you are no longer want to be with your partner. Just sit and write a note. Write all the good in one column and all the bad your partner has done for you.

If the good exceeds the bad then you are making a worng move. But once you wil see that bad has exceeded the good then you will try to fogive your partner. This process will help you to know more about yourself then the person who likes or loves or cares about you.

Some times by making a decision does not solve the problem and some time by not making solves it. It is just there somewhere flying in the air you got to find it. It is close to you but you could not see it. The place you were born will be the place you will die but that is reality and that won't change. Only thing you can change in yourself is your habit, you personality, your life, your behaviour, your attitude, your feelings toward other person. You can also change many other things about you if you wish to do it, you will do it.

Relationship are difficult for many people. I find it very easy. I think I am related to everything around me. I am related to the path that take every day to school. I am related to the air that touches me whenever I walk. I am related to all the songs that bird sing. I am related to all those drop of water that fall to make you cool in hot summer months. I am also related to many of the beautiful women who are like angel taking care of me all the time.

It does not matter you being in love or love being with you. Only things matter is how you see yourself in whole situation. How you relate your life in such a context.

Once a strange person saw me and asked me what would happen if I shoot you right now ? I said you will be feel total satisfaction of what you want to do. It does not matter for you me being alive or dead, but It matters to you to kill me and that will give you complete satisfaction.

Do those activities which satisfies you. Remeber to listen your heart and the music that gives pleasure in your soul.

Am we really in love ?

This spring season, weather is fantastic, shiny, bright, with rays of light crossing your body part giving you some smile to cheer. Love is in the air this spring. Some times I think I am being addicted to it.

You can see from the last three four of the post I am writing all about love, I do not know. I am being addicted to love. I am confused, I am in puzzled, surprised and want to know what is love. In the process of knowing love, you have to first be in love.

Being in love, is similar to being alone. When you are alone you love your self, you love what you do and what you do not do. Being in love is some what similar to that. I do not what is love therefore I will tell you what it feels to be addicted in love.

When a person is addicted in love, the person constantly thinks about the person whom he thinks he should be with, the constantly thinks about that very special person in his life, he remembers all those memories he has shared with her, his memoir, his thoughts are in constant motion towards the love of her lady.

Addiction is some what similar to being addicted in sex, without sex nobody in the relationship can survive but can you ask a person to be in love especially in long distance relationship not to do sex and be in love with the person of his/her dreams ?

It depends upon the person, it also depends upon the commitment and it depends on the truthfulness, trusworthyness of your partner. How can a person be said or judged that he is talented, skillful and intelligent. Person who are educated cannot be categorised as perfect or intelligent.

The categories we give and our concept does not help in case of love, Which is very difficult itself to understand. How do you know that you are in love ? Is sex love ? Where every body knows that lust and love cannot be mixed together. Sex can never be love and love can never be sex. Is sex necessary than for love ?

Can a person be in love without sex and can a person be also in love with sex ? I think yes. A person can be in love without sex and also a person can be in love with sex. It depeneds upon the relationship you are building. It is process, it requires your commitment, it requires sweat and it should be based on truth.

When you say that you are in love how do you feel that you really are in love ? Do you really fall for your partner ? Do you think you can do whatsoever for her/him ? Do you really want to dedicate your entire life for your partner ?

If your answer is yes, then you are not in love. If your answer is no, then surely you might have some chance of being in love and if you say you do not know then their is more chances of being in love.

Do not get surprise by such interpretation. It might seem absurd but it is not. When you say a person that you are in love with him/her. You are finished. At that very point, your love is an end. You do not have anything to give. You have pour all the water in the sea to ocean and the sea is empty.

When the sea is empty their is nothing, it has lost its value, it has become a plane land. Every body will ignore the value of the sea which has turned into land. When you retain as the sea and do not tell your partner that you love however show her in some way that you are in the process. As that time, you are letting your partner guess.

When a girl is in constant guess, when a girl do not get what she really wants she will spend her whole entire life to get it. She will be more committed.


Please note the couple of lines above those are very important.I do not know from where all these thoughts comes or pops up in my mind but these are coming regularly recently in my mind. I hope this is the theory I believe in love. I do not suggest you to do the same but do think after it.

Scent of Women

Some times you feel as if you really need some body with you, a girlfriend, your wife and the women beside you to talk share, have fun, enjoy. The situation does not let you do that. You want to be close with some one you know, some one you really care for and that person is far from you.

How would you react ? You will be mad just like me. You will have thousand and one things in your head every other humans see you as if you have broken jail. Nothing comes easy and like itself will teach you that.

Some time you want to talk with your friend but you do not want to just because you feel as if you will end up in the same situation again. You want to go dating, talk with your sweet girl again but again you cross check yourself.

When Mr. X and Miss Y are together they will share, have fun, laugh, care, fight, do every little things that they want to do together but imagine a situation where they have to be far- suddenly their is distance which aparts you ard your life. What would you think in such situation ?

Time is big teacher my dear friends, you will learn through this time and you will forget everything in this time too. You will ask yourself when you are just adult why these older people look at me like that and at some time you will be saying the same.

No Scientist ever found out the reality of time, no sceientist will capture it and no scientist will ever control it. We say their is every thing possible but I guess Time is impossible not about its discovery or new invention on it but only to find out the about it. Time is not money but time is movement how can you control the movement ?

If some one can stop the movement of entire earth and from entire human beings to all the living beings then you can capture time. Well, that is another idea.

Now, Look at the present situation of relationship where one has to find out everything about life without your partner. It is difficult. It is impossible and it really is depressing.

To sum up, Let's not get bother about it because whatever we think we prioritize it in our brain and we keep them stored once we start working on these priorities we will acheive what we wanted.

Cheers !

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Why you are Finnish ?

The Finland, lands of finns where every finns are very close to Nature. Now, Can any one other than Finnish People think they too are Finnish ?. Yes, This is what I think. You are also finnish if you have "sisu" I don't know the English meaning of this word built in inside you.

The meaning of this word is very simple.As simple as it can get, it simply says that you do what you say or think you will do. As far as my understanding, it is like if you say something than you do that thing. Now, How many of us do such activities ? We say something and we do something else. We often forget what we said a moment ago. Their is thousands of media footage about the Finland and depressing Nature of Coutry but None of the gentleman has ever thought why ?

The reason is the reason itself. What do you do to earn a trust or build a relationship. I would say the most important aspect in relationship is either you have to be a man of the words or you will no longer will have good relationship. To build Trust between two people the basic stuff is to be the man of your words. I would say Finnish People are exactly that.

If you mean it, then only you should say it. If you do not mean it why should you waste your energy. Just be silent. Just live with your-self. We may talk bigs, make loud cries or have great speech on our future, our past or what so ever but What I personally think you are wasting your time speaking all nonsense. You have all the knowledge in world to build Rockets, Big explosive bombs and what so ever but you do not have common sense to understand that our feets should always be in earth not in sky.

The last sentence is important and these will tell you why you are Finnish. It is not because you don't say "I love you !" Why should you ? Just tell me, its like routine- You follow it every day, you say it even you do not mean it. It have become routine and you are just following the routine.

Every thing is boring when it becomes routine. Expereice something new, learn from the beauty of nature. Nothing is stable in Nature itself. Why should it be ? It shows great different pattern in sky every day just to say that I am different than yesterday, It has so many different colors , so many different climate and so many things that my words limit them to tell you.

Nature will tell you that you have to become strong, at the same time you have to be emotional, you have to weep, you also have to laugh, sing by the singing of birds, wind will tell you you also should flow with time and as per own habit, flow with me, rain will teach you that you need to wash your dirt whenever you feel you are dirty. Washing of dirt does not mean only your skin but to your soul.

Imagine your life, it is just like a vehile. It needs the drive and the drive here What I personally believe is Nature. We are build from it, we cannot live without it and we will die for it oneday ! Welcome to Nature God.


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Friendship "F"

One of the famous character or an alphabet in the history of any words or letters is the letter called "f". Now, the very first thing that can come in your mind if you are an European or American is that "F" stands for "f%@$" but the same word in Asia and Some parts of Arab world will stand for "Friendship".

1. The state of being friends; friendly relation, or
attachment, to a person, or between persons; affection
arising from mutual esteem and good will; friendliness;
amity; good will.
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There is little friendship in the world. --Bacon.
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There can be no friendship without confidence, and
no confidence without integrity. --Rambler.
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Preferred by friendship, and not chosen by
sufficiency. --Spenser.
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2. Kindly aid; help; assistance, [Obs.]
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Some friendship will it [a hovel] lend you against
the tempest. --Shak.
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3. Aptness to unite; conformity; affinity; harmony;
correspondence. [Obs.]
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Those colors . . . have a friendship with each
other. --Dryden.
[1913 Webst



These are the Dictionary Meaning of the word called "Friendship". Many people have tried to define the term called friendship and every body has their own definition. If I am here going to write about this term I may end up writing a book or two books.

Imagine a house, a unknown house where their lives one person who is alone and suddenly you went their and you started talking with him. You had a good conversation with him. He liked your attitude and you then went away. Again, Next day you again went to the same place to meet the same men; you had fun talking, sharing some ideas, thoughts, emotions and so on. Again you did the same next day and so on. After a month you became a good friend.

Friendship is an approach where one person wants to get close to other. It is the mental attitude which brings together. It is a kind of thinking we built in our mind by knowing the fact that we need a person to share our emotions, values, thoughts.

Some body has rightly said that "sharing is loving" but it does not apply in many cases. Approach can be taken in many different ways to share thought, emotion, activities or what so ever. It is always two ways. Communication cannot be possible one way. Communication is always two ways, friendship is also two ways.

In above example imagine the guys in an unknown place do not want to stranger, do not share anything, do not listen to what other stranger has to say- Their won't be friendship in that case.
Every person is unique and different we got to respect others values, and thoughts but I do not know when my dear friends will understand those. Their is a difference between the knowing the path and walking the path.

Whatever one has to say does not lead to the reality. I may say thousand words on one topic but it does not necessarily is real. Truth hurts and people do not want to listen to it. I know that "Truth is exactly opposite to the utterance". The friendship is broken relationship, a relationship which is never joint, a relationship which is constantly in motion, a relationship which is never vivid, a relationship which is imaginary, a relationship which demands more every time you think you have done enough, a relationship which is unreal.

Two friends are separated only because of social settings, cultural difference and most importantly behavior, personal goals and so on. "Two cannot become one and one cannot become two." Some body also has said that, "love is friendship". To them, I would ask one question, " Define me the word love?"


I would like to add these lines-"Don't ever think you are the fastest gun alive. Because when I was in town remember there is some one just a little bit faster." This sentence is to those who those who think they are faster and smart than others around them.

My own habit is quite different and many of my friends, family and people close to me get annoyed when I say to them that,"I do not remember yesterday, a minute ago because NOW is that I am living in, Why should I bother about the Very next second because very next second is something which is going to be mysterious, adventurous and enjoyment for me."

Their is alway a space to correct mistakes in life, seek vengeance and help the unhelpful. Friendship cannot be divided by boarders. It is the love which keeps the bond alive.But you don't know what love is, Therefore, an unexpected journey will bring you the cheers in your face to smile. A journey which is far from imagination, far from any country, culture, boarders, sex,emotions and life.

We came alone and we will go alone. It is the path or journey which will remain important in life. It is not what I have achieved and What I will do It is always What I am doing makes a MAN.

Innovation and transparency

Can you define this term called innovation- Is it the creation, creativity or idea generated or something based on productivity what is this term called as Innovation ?

The dictionary meaning

1. The act of innovating; introduction of something new, in
customs, rites, commercial products, etc. --Dryden.
[1913 Webster]

2. A change effected by innovating; a change in customs;
something new, and contrary to established customs,
manners, or rites. --Bacon.


The two dictionary meaning of the term describes it all but do you agree that innovation is just only the act or change in customs or just a change effected by innovating.

I do not believe that innovation is a product of a logical thinking. It cannot be said in any sense that innovation is product of logical thinking but I assume and think the final product or achievement or change is some what related to the structure of those thinking. It is the end which is derived from the start of logical thinking. People define innovation based on the social-economic, organizational or technical inventions, improvements I define innovation as the act of creation-creation that is from your mind without any previous background knowledge.

I have to give one exam tomorrow based on this topic called "Innovation and competitiveness" I do not feel like reading anything because I am not innovative. I don't know what crap the teacher taught in the lectures. Despite the lecturer was good and best in his course. It is not his fault, It is not the fault of anybody but It is my dull mind which cannot think anything.


He defines the typology of innovation as

Product innovation, Process, System, Architecture, Incremental, Disruptive, Strategic innovations. What are these crap innovations ? Can you think of something called product innovation ? These innovation are also defined as non-technological innovation such as service, financial, organizational and social innovation.

It seems that I am writing my master thesis. Who do you think innovates ? What a stupid question ? Don't you think this question is such a stupid way to ask who is your mom or who is your dad ? Surely we all know that they are humans and we are too. Now, He ask the question called who innovates ? Surely it will be humans.

It won't be animals who are going to say one morning that Sir- I have innovated something new for you. Take me to the outdoor. I want to shit. Their is another question he asks- The question is what is the national system of innovation ?What a crap question again

My response to any question around the world would be- "The answer of any question lies always in the question itself."

How do I know this ? I know this because the above quote came in my mind few seconds earlier when I was getting angry with this question. It is the main idea behind writing any essay or question.Do remember that every question has answers inbuilt with it. You got to find some way to look very carefully. Today My friend was suggesting that- I am not transparent. Why do I be transparent ?

What is the purpose of being transparent ? It took me few seconds to figure out what this transparency means but later I found that transparency is all about being open. Well- What a good question it is. I am not transparent or he thinks or the friend circle around think I am not transparent only because they cannot think beyond this. People see me as not transparent because they cannot see what I am doing.

I am not open-but I maintain, I write, I teach and I do not want to take anything with me. Why should I be called not transparent now ? People think I am not open only because they are living a closed life.. It is the thinking that makes a person not the saying or showing or achievement. If you open a diary of mine- Which is always very open and simple- The very first page has something written on it and it says-

"Try not to become a man of success but a man of value" Eienstein

What does it shows ? It shows and tells me every time I open a diary that I have to become a man of value not the man of success. What would I do with being sucessful. Those around me are all dissatisfied and a dissatisfied man is full of misery.

I do not feel like convincing every one around me, at present but I will certainly do what I feel doing because you can see in the top of the blog page what it tells about me.

"I am what I am and not what others make of me"

So, Let me come to the topic called National System of innovation.

It is regional, structure of economy, public policy, two major drivers are macroeconomic and microeconomic, raising output by putting more people to work and raising labor productivity.

I wish I pass but it does not matter as long as I am in the process of becoming a man of value rather than a man of success. Everything is words and words does not describe how good or bad or whatever you make out of a person. The very first thing you can observe by seeing a person is his looks which will tell you----->impression------> +/--------->impact on you-------->your approach to a person------->his/her reaction-------->starting of relationship.

Do remember one thing, these phases can only be possible with communication, two way communication does not really have to be spoken but can be sign, gesture,spoken, written etc.

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M

The letter "M" can have thousand different meaning. If you see it, it is just a letter but once we start seeing it or longer than 2 sec then we start interpreting the letter to make words.

The mind will tell us not just to stop by seeing the letter "M" but to start thinking on our own and making the assumption based on the letter "M". This is how our mind works. We first see the things or object and then we start making our own views of that object.

No body tells us anything about it. It basically comes from the level of knowledge we have acquired and the level of our understanding and learning. It also depends on how fresh our mind thinks on various aspect of object or matter or things. It is our way of looking the letter M.

To some people M really means money, to some it might mean "Men" and to some it also can mean "Move" or what so ever. This is our interpretation and our way of thinking about it. When we are in need of money then the first thing we will think about the object M is Money. When we are in need of desire and we want to get wet we will think of Men and when we are in the state where we can help others it might also mean Morality. It also can be "Mess" when we are disturbed or more specifically when our mind is disturbed.

Their was one person named Veronica she was very beautiful and her mind was constantly changing all the time. She could not decide what she wants in her life. She asked to me,"I do not know what is that going in mind". Will you tell me what I want. I have everything, I have good job, I have good salary and I have very beautiful car but despite having all those things I am not feeling well. I could not figure out what I want in my life.

I told her that you have everything. You are completely fulfilled with all those things that you ever wanted but the main thing you are missing is love in simple terms and sex in real terms.Its not just sex you need but the satisfaction in sex. Do not get me wrong but the fact is I don't know if you had sex or not but if you had sex you are lacking that satisfaction in sex. What I think is their are always two level of satisfaction in the sex both from men and women perspective.

The person whom you are engaged with will surely is lacking something which is not making you satisfy or he could not satisfy you. It might be also the way you look at that person(object) or he looks at you(object). What we see lies in our way of thinking.

She asked again what should i do now ? I could not understand your speech, its very philosophical and boring. I said in simple terms- First concentrate, Second be silent and third take rest for a week or two. What do you mean to say ?, "Veronica asked". Do you ever remember when was the last time you visited the church ? She said, "it has been very long time". The places like church, temples and holy places similar to that are for all humans go visit and concentrate to know your self. So, The very first task you do is concentrate. She started visiting the church thereafter for couple of weeks regularly whenever she felt and slowly everything went fine with her. Couple of days back she called me and said- "Thank you".


This is the first phase of living a life. She got passed in the first phase so I do not have to tell her other phases and their are many different things in the first phase itself.Therefore "M" can stand for either "Men", "Money", "March","Moral" ...

It all depends on our way of thinking and realizing about any object or things.


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Falling

The word "falling" is totally negative. I don't want to perform postmortem on this word because I do not know grammar meaning of the word. Whenever we say that we are in love it means that we are falling in love or we have fallen in love. The falling is an negative approach. By falling in love we are not being positive but we are in negative land itself.

The idea here is very old and it may be traditional but the conceptual analysis of the word speaks a lot in itself. Why are we falling in love and not rising in love ? Why didn't we use the term "I am rising in love" rather than "I am falling in love" We only know how to use it we do not know how to create it. I may be wrong on this latter sentence but I think I am right on it.

Everything is given to us and presented in front of us, we are using them. Why cannot we create them instead of using them ? Well, if some English men is reading this he will surely be against my writings and might say i am crazy or i do not know how to write or even something absurd. Coming to my point, Why cannot we create the English words or modify them in our way in such way that we use them in our daily life ? We cannot we are not the creators of these words. Whoever the creator was and which ever country claims it belongs to them. It should be made easier to use and made comfortable to speak.


The idea here is that we are negatively using the term falling, may be in love we fall but why ? Why don't we rise in love ? Why is it so important than any other things is whole world ? It is important to maintain the stability in earth. It is important to maintain calm, peace and warmness in our heart, mind, body and soul.It is important every time, every where and any moment.

The day their won't be the love their won't be this earth we are living in. Their won't be existence of man kind. Their won't be you and their wont be me. It is because of this term called "love" we are bounded to each other and we like each other. It is two way process where one gives and one takes. Also, one takes and one gives and so on.

Falling of snow, falling of rain, falling of apple and falling of sun ray in the earth teaches me that we are in land where everything is going to fall one day. It is just the matter of time. How many of you fall asleep expecting you are going to rise tomorrow morning again. If you expect that you are going to rise tomorrow again then you are following the routine, if you do not expect anything then you are being yourself. Makers are men, Creators are leaders who do you wish to be ?

The whole concept of writing this article is to give you the inspiration about life, to know your self and to understand the concept of falling. Isn't it beautiful early morning-you wake up and see everything around you falling and you are dumbstruck. Imagine, Imagination is beautiful learn learning will give you knowledge to survive and struggle but never fall because falling is negative.

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Love doesn't last forever

The success or failure of relationships depends on how popular you and your partner are. Creative artistes, emotionally volatile and difficult to handle as they are, are more likely than others to jump into relationships. However, that’s not to say mere mortals are any less discerning or changeable as far as their love partners are concerned.
In fact, multiple lovers do seem built into the very human DNA. Or, so says the Coolidge Effect. When a male rat is dropped into a box with a female rat, there’s an initial frenzy of sex between them. After a while, the male tires and his libido drop. If a new female rat is brought in, the male rat’s libido rises again. You can keep repeating this process with new females and it keeps performing till it almost drops dead with sheer fatigue. Female rats too flirt more with unknown, rather than known rats.
This phenomenon, known as the Coolidge Effect, is true of all mammals. Yes, even humans. And, amongst humans, it certainly seems to be truer! Surveys claim love doesn’t last beyond three and a half years. That is the maximum time one can be “in love” with another person. So what if the object of love changes — so be it if that’s the only way to keep romance alive! After all, what is it that kills romance? Why is it that the moment a relationship settles into normal companionship, the excitement peters out?
Coolidge Effect says it all boils down to the fact that sex with a new partner raises the dopamine levels, to the Don Juan curse, which says men and women are wired to look for newer partners in the hope of improving their genetic success in future generations. However, my personal favourite is what Robert Johnson, in his book “We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love” says.
He explains that the sparks that romance or attraction arouse are actually a yearning for a spiritual connect that goes beyond physical. As we settle into relationships, we forget to connect in a spiritual manner with our regular partners; the daily rigmarole of life sees to that. And so, if we find other ways to achieve that spiritual connect, dramatic highs that are present in a new relationship would be ours in our stable relationship as well.

I like you but our relationship will not work out.

Well, This is what happens in many relationship. People will surely like this statement. The statement which they have heard. It is not a good statement when once you have gone through this. What happens when you like someone ? The first day or the very next moment you like some one you start to hate that person. Why ? Well, It is because From that very moment we start to see the differences among each others. This is the main reason why the differences starts or starts to come in the relationship. I don't know weather it is true or wrong but I think this is what happens. As a man or women we have multiple identity, we are father, engineer, writer, worker, daughter, son, child, husband etc. But the main thing is that we do not see it in different ways we see all of these identity as one. When we see all our identity as a single we loose. We then create some kind of difference among each others or with our partner or with some one who we like. We start to see the same kind of attributes that we have in the person you like. Every individual is unique in their own ways. Every body has different taste, different smell and different way of looking to different things like world, knowledge and life. When we like someone we relate our liking with his or her. Then if we see that we both have many things similar to each other we just think well- he is a right person or she is a right person in my life. After that slowly we start living together and when we start living together we start to find the difference that person has with yourself. When we start to find the differences the relationship starts breaking. The statement is very depressing and ver encouranging as well. One thing every one should remember is that when we expect something in our life and when we think that we have got what we wanted the very next moment their is a chance of loosing that. Yes, It happens most of the time. Do not get over excited about what you have and what you will get in life. Always expect least and do what you do the best, This way you will achieve what you do not expect to achieve. Cheers !!!