Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Thursday, August 12, 2010


After Friedrich Nietzsche declared that "God is Dead" - the word FUCK has become the most important word in the English language.

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

The Art of Loving

I was reading a book called, “The Art of Loving” by Eric Fromm written during 1956. The book consists of wide range of ideas, not about “how to love” but “what love is”. It makes us think that love can be an art.

It is apparent that definitions of love vary based on people attitudes, experiences and believes. In addition, what love is, to me, may not be the same, for another person. We all are philosophers, at some point in life. In particular, when we talk on “world perspectives” for example, love, life, faith, religion and politics. Therefore, to generalize about love and on love, is to make an understatement about world perspectives.

In the final chapters of the book, Fromm articulates and answers if love is an art or not. He suggests that love is an art just like any other art, music, poetry, painting, carpentry and engineering. In every art, there are key elements. Three key elements which are necessary ingredients for love: Discipline, Concentration and Patience.

Generally, Sex plays a vital role in love. Fromm argues on Freud theory of “sexual pleasure” on love and rather suggests, “Sexual happiness” which is based on penetrating ‘hearts and minds’ of partner and ‘touching’ him/her in much, deeper sense. Maybe he meant ‘some kind of karmic connection’ is necessary to be happy and satisfied in love.

Many a great philosophers, poets and scientist have an opinion on love. My view is no different from Fromm’s perspective on love. He has clearly shown in his book that love is an art. There are several objects of love such as brotherly love, motherly love, erotic love, self –love, and love of God. Each of these love are different in one ways or another and these grow in time and space, as we do.
After reading a book, I have acquired a great deal of knowledge on love. However, love without practice and experience is not love. I have experienced many objects of love but still unsatisfied with the hunger for love. In a world where, we are consumers of food, drinks, a big bottle, a big breast; a big house, awesome car and great job. In more poetic sense, it seems that Love is not something for consumption.

Love is omnipresent and our appetite will always be unfulfilled for love. It is better for us because, without love, earth will not rotate, seasons will not change, birds will not sing and life will not exit.

As Eckhart has said, “If you love yourself, you love everybody else as you do yourself. As long as you love another person less that you love yourself, you will not really succeed in loving yourself, but if you love all alike, including yourself, you will love them as one person & that person is both God and man. Thus he is great & righteous person who, loving himself, loves all others equally.” I love you, all!

Monday, February 8, 2010

Ready for love

The Valentine's Day also called as St. Valentine's Day is the day when lovers express their love. To my utmost surprise, I am little confused, how am I going to celebrate this special day? As commonly said, “I am single ready to mingle”.

I am poor and lonely who do not have any girl friend or wife. That is not the whole part of the story.  Do you know that I am not even famous since Wikipedia under my name defines the biography as, “This article may not meet the general notability guideline?” I know I am not famous and I do not want to, maybe that is one reason why I am still single.

Under extreme condition of cold windy winter of Finland, I am sitting on my couch and thinking: “What should I do during Valentine's Day?” Suddenly 'somebody inside me' suggests that I should call all my friends and relatives around the world and express them my gratitude for being part of me. But on the contrary, other half of the 'very somebody inside me' suggests that I should find someone beautiful just to love me.

Sometimes, I hear the voices inside me saying, “Your days are coming soon, so love yourself more each passing day.”  However, my idiotic mind is against that very someone inside me and rather it suggests me to go drinking whiskey or smoking cigarette or to visit red, blue or white streets.

Most of the times, it seems that one always falls prey of the mind and do not listen to the voices that come from deep inside.  However, whatever be the reason, I am still thinking how would I spend my valentine's day?

Once, one beautiful angel used to love me, but she gave up the “so called” relationship on the Valentine's Day, simply because I did not belong to her “caste”. Then couple of years later, another girl found me interesting, and it was again on the same Day, I was dumped by her. Poor Me!

After these sad experiences, it is no surprise that, Valentine's Day has become an important day to me. You see, I keep on losing love. On every new Valentine's Day, my heart is broken and I have to suffer extremely.

This valentine's day, I do not want to suffer. I will not start a new relationship since relationships are meant to be broken. I will not visit any red, blue or white streets either, since those streets do not have my name written on them. I will not drink or smoke to rectify my feelings. Above all, I will just be alone.

Some wise man has said, “Aloneness is the first lesson of love.” Maybe, I should learn from my mistakes and rather be alone. I had my heart broken into pieces but now I would like to mend them and put them back where it belongs, once again, on this Valentine's Day. Happy Valentine's Day!

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Sunday, November 1, 2009

I loved you, I will forever

No doubt in my heart
I loved you, I will forever
I don’t have patience at all
I am sorry to break your heart
But I am not perfect at all
Shared my tears and pain all days
And all night all alone
You know, love
I loved you, I will forever

Friday, September 4, 2009

I am your only satisfaction

You may want to go,
I won’t let you go,
When you want to give up,
I won’t let you give up,
When you feel this is too much,
I won’t let you feel,
This is even enough,
When you feel your love will never work,
I will work even harder,
When you will feel lonely,
I will feel lonely too,
When you will feel sad,
I will feel sad too,
When your mum won’t let you be with me,
I will ask you to decide on your own,
When nobody will accept us,
I will stop listening to nobody,
When life will give up,
I will ask life to wake up
When everything will fall apart,
I will pick up every dust to make home in sand
Just understand little more,
Just try to be spend time together,
Little more,
You will then know,
Your choice isn’t so bad,
Your decision isn’t so bad,
Your love isn’t like others,
Your honey is forever
Forever, forever and forever
Till the existence of the universe,
Till the existence of moon,
Till the very existence of sunlight,
I am your, nobody tonight
But I am hoping to be at your side,
O my bright and beautiful light,
Bless you with affection and care,
Bless with you happiness and love,
Bless with you satisfaction
Which matters, most
When will you ever understand?
This poor life is only satisfaction alive
Nobody is satisfied,
Except this poor life
Nobody will ever make you happy,
Just this poor life will,
How do I know all this?
I took the train which goes along
Which travels very fast?
And is expensive at every instance,
This is how people should live
But let’s not be worried,
About what others think,
Let us move along this difficult journey,
I guarantee you; I am your only satisfaction
O dear honey, O my bright eternal light,
Yes, My sunlight, Yes,
I am your only satisfaction
Which will collide?
Which will fight?
In darkest of dark nights,
I will ease your pain,
I will do whatever it takes,
Just let me be me,
Let us move on with thee,
Welcome abroad on my journey,
We will see and divide the problem
Whatever it would be

Sunday, August 30, 2009

Cinderella’s story

Your dreams are shattered; your reality is too weak,
I have run down with pain, every day and every week,
Hopeless I remain in my journey; I have left nothing to weep,
However, I will move on and complete my this stupid speech,
It starts with the Cinderella’s story,
Once was a sweet guy, far far away,
Once was a sweet girl, far very far away,
Both met once in some country,
They thought, they were made for each other,
Then came a devil, who confused the girl,
Girl once confused, lost his guy who was from far north,
Love was paused, life was at halt,
There was break in the journey of guy was travelling, now all alone,
But He had a hope, faith in his God,
He said, “True love always waits,”
I will wait till; I will see my sunlight once after this fall,
The princess girl was asked to marry devil from some other country,
Poor guy heart was broken and never before,
He started his journey and met an very old man, as he came across,
He said his sad story,
Old man replied, “With some suggestions, life cannot just move on”,
He added, “If you have desire to think from heart, you will never fail in whatever things you are willing to do, my son.”
Poor guy from North, inspired from old man
Ran into the house of Princess and kidnapped her
Princess could not recognize the poor boy, as he was wearing a mask,
Princess hated the guy with the mask,
She didn’t knew, he was her love,
Poor guy in mask took her very very far,
Across seven hundred rivers, several hundred kilometers,
Finally, when once poor boy took off his mask,
She realized, it was him
She said, “You are my prince”
They both were living happily ever after,
One day the dream turned into reality,
They both woke up and realized, this was just an story,
They both were in their respective countries,
They both were made for each other but were found in different journey,
It was all written before the story was even told,
After several years, they did same as the story unfold,
Today, it become a Cindrella’s story,
Yesterday, it was just a mere reality,
God bless you all,
May love traces be also be found in your heart

Monday, July 20, 2009

I look at your feet

When I see you, I look at your feet
I see them with utmost curiosity and passion,
When I am bored with your rounded nipples and waist,
I gaze towards your feet,
When I see them more closely, I find them similar to me

When I see you, I look at your feet,
I see it not for how they are,
I see your feet because of burden it carries together with your weight,
When I see more closely, I see them very close to earth, wind and water,

When I see you, I look at your feet
In some culture, it is suggested not to touch women’s feet,
In some culture, it is warmly welcomed, bringing good luck,
Whatever be the culture, I see with only one culture of Love,
When I see your feet, I see them very close to my own,

When I see you, I look at your feet,
Burden it carries outweighs many humanly burdens,
I cannot describe how beautiful is beauty,
I cannot describe how much is too much,
But when I see your feet, I see them very similar to me

I look deep into your eyes

I look deep into your eyes,
I feel there is some secret behind,
I look more deeper into your eyes,
I feel there is someone hidden inside,

I think it is me but I am confused,
I am worried to see you hiding secret instead,
Everybody says, "you are beautiful",
I am confused to say it again to you,

I look deep into your eyes,

O love, deep and deeper when I see into your eyes,
I see me in you,

Am I in love or are you confused to see me in you?
Look in mirror, you will find me and only me
Love me or hate me, I will never forget to see me in you
I look deep into your eyes,

World is at stake, hunger and full of pain,
I know you are born with pain,
Will you give me chance to share your pain?
Will you stand by me even in darkest of days?
I look deep into your eyes,

I can promise, I won't change,
I can promise, I won't betray,
I can promise, I won't let you cry,
Even I am in pain, I will show you how much happy I remain,

When I look deep into your eyes...

Sunday, July 19, 2009

I am back

I am back with consciousness; I am back with flesh, blood, pain and sadness,
I am back with emotions attached, I am back to learn myself for wonders,
I am back touching my soul with words, thinking only you my next soul,
I am back

Love, hate, black and white,
I am back with stories of our souls alike,
I am back to hear your pain, to touch your lips, to understand your pain,
I am back to feel the breeze with smooth music,
I am back to kiss you in rainy and gloomy days,

With soul touching your soul and mating of birds in cold,
I am back to heal your pain,
I will teach you, I will suffer for you,
I will take your pain; I will come along with you in nights and days,
Wherever, whenever, however and whatsoever,
I am back to make my soul jump over and over,

World runs on duality,
No two women generally accepts me,
But I am back to remain on top of every soul, every creation,
Your soul is my soul and my soul is yours,
I am back to see how similar our souls are,
I am back

Temporary it is, temporary it was,
Some run for money, some for fame, just understand, Mr. Brain rules them all,
But I am back,
To remind you, to teach you, to accept you as you are,
To tell you a simple fact that,
I am you and you are in me, one, two or many….

Saturday, June 6, 2009

One World Goverment

I was watching the video today which can be seen here-

Suddenly, I started to think about these issues- How do you really find the peace? “When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace.” -Jimi Hendrix

As the great artist said, when will we see the power of love overcoming the love of power? As your book, “Winner Stands alone” is based on love and the power or the celebrity power, when is this going to end? What can be the limit of power of love? Is there any limit for love?

I personally think love is beyond any limit and boundaries. Love is powerful than the entire universe, it is the deepest feelings which resides in human heart or body.

Maybe the answer is not suitable enough if we see other people, if we see the love of power, it can be seen that, every individual and every society are looking for power. Be it a country, be it a union or be it a group of individuals.

In the crisis situation like this- financial crisis, natural crisis of Airplane disaster where more than 270 people went missing, is this because of love of power or is this because of natural disaster.Mysteriously, Nobody knows the truth.

I personally believe, everything is inter-related. Humanity and Nature go hand in hand. Every decision that any individual does in the society affects another individual.

Nothing is going last forever and whatever being created is going to get destroyed at some point in the time. Only thing that remains is love.

The love of Nature to humanity, the love of individuals, the love human-human and the love of love itself.

We are moving with the force of sharing love to one another. But still as a writer and creator, it is our duty to tell the stories, to teach and learn at the same time, to share the big insights and power of truth with the people who are hungry for lessons, be it self-help, be it finding dreams, be it about negativity or almost anything.

One question which I would like to ask would be, maybe I already know the answer but-

Why do people like Ghandi, John lenon, Martin Luther King and alike has to be assassinated?

Maybe the reason would be many but there are some individuals who are controlling and monitoring each and every individuals behind closed curtains. Maybe there is some group of people who are active in creating wars for fun. Those group of people never come out in public and their vision is to make ‘One world Government’.

Anyways, let me stop here for now and hope to read your inspiration and words of wisdom through your books and work, Paulo !

God blesses you !


God bless you all !

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Press Releases:"20 Love Poems and the economy crisis"

Mr.Santosh Kalwar has yet another book lined up in his new project entitle, "20 Love Poems and the economy crisis" published by, This is the fifth book written by Mr. Kalwar.

Currently, The book is free to download in an free e-book version from publisher

Support independent publishing: buy this book on Lulu.

Here is the complete press-release.

Mybheja congratulates the author of the book !

Friday, May 15, 2009

Poor boy and Wise man

Dear all,

Enter Poor boy and Wise man, in "life changing park"

Act I, Scene I

Poor boy: Who am I?
Wise man: You are nobody.
Poor boy: What? My name is Steve and I live in Dallas, I have my family and everything, why are you saying that I am nobody?
Wise man: You know your name, which is given by somebody but you have not understood yourself, therefore you are nobody.
Poor boy: How can I understand myself?
Wise man: People in the world are doing good business over this question, they are teaching meditation, yogas and many techniques to self understand yourself... but I will not say anything to you.
Poor boy: why not, sir?
Wise man: You are born with desires,
Your name is in fire, only way to understand
Is to monitor your daily habit,
Control your life with will to share, care
Hurt no one and beg for well beings,
Do it yourself, nobody will see in you

Meditation, yoga, programs are act of fools
Who can tell you to know better you?
O poor child and humble soul, Love yourself,
Stand alone and become winner of your crown,
World is mixture of shining and falling clowns,
Read your mind with utmost curiosity and desires

Poor boy: Well, I don't still understand what you are trying to say but I hope it makes some sense..,
Wise man: This is the first step to understand yourself.
Being nobody is being somebody and in being somebody
you are not alone. The universe if your heavenly father
and earth is your mom.
Poor boy: Thank you, I will now onwards learn to understand myself.
Wise man: Say no thank you, my child.
Say no sorry, life is like of Mary,
In pain and In sorrows of ferry,
Creator was one and you are your own,
Even this world was created in confusion;

Hope, Faith and Love drives humanity,
Sufferings and Pain results into vanity,
Infinite wisdom is beauty and customization
I am nobody till I live fleshy and bloody


God bless you all !

Monday, May 11, 2009

Face of love

In response to Paulo's question on his blog, here is what mybheja has to say-

Dear Paulo,

Q)can we never discover the face of love?

A) No, we will never discover the face of love. There are many reasons behind it and those reasons does not allow to show the face of love. Some of the reasons are-

1. Those who are in love or rather true love and wants to be together throughout life forever have to trust each other than universe has trusted on earth, stars has trusted on gravity, moon has trusted on light of sun and mother earth has trusted on lights.

2. In Christianity, women was evolved from limb of a man. In Hinduism, women existed together with men and similarly in other scriptures or religion.., women existed together with men. I don't know what is on women's mind but I surely know what drives her on darkest of nights. Love.

3. Laws made by humans are another barrier, war between the families and especially those who are caretakers sometimes turned into too much care takers. e.g. Romeo and Juliet of Shakespeare ...

There could be many more such barriers but let me stop here now with few additional quotes.

-"Love has no faces and searching for humanly faces will not give love."

-"We humans see physical body and organ to get the feelings and tie nots or bots of marriage, togetherness and life long commitment when love is above such attachments."

-"Please don't search to see the faces of love they lies in your reflection."

-"When love ignites, problem multiples and difficulty collides."

-"Love is above everything: religion, race, culture, country and life."

Now, it is up to us to decide, if you want to be "happy and satisfied" without seeing the face of love or remain in "despair and sufferings" by seeing the face of love. The choice is yours, as always !

God bless you all !

Thursday, May 7, 2009


Dear all,

Q)What would be your view in the term ‘cheating’ and ‘faithful’ in a relationship?

A)If you have not kept relationship then the term, 'cheating' and 'faithful' would have different meanings but as you have asked 'in a relationship...' so these two words has little narrow scope. Here is what I would say,

In a relationship, 'cheating' is seen as sin, a crime, negligence, dominance. When you lack trust then you start to judge and show symptoms of different kinds of behavior to your partner. The lack of trust and lack of personal gain be it a sex, a change or different settings will result into cheating of the faithful partner. There are many settings and many scenarios for the cheating. The most common is girl having an affair with third party or, guy having an affair with third party.

-"To cheat your partner means lack of your own personal strength to satisfy your partner."

-"Cheating could could be because of lack of trust, change, motivation and satisfaction."

-"In today's world, very few or rarely you will find the true partner who will not cheat."

-"Only those chosen few are true lovers who believe in the power of love and respect mother, nature, self, humanity and environment. In addition those lovers remain as Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet Love story."

-"Cheating is a best medicine if you are not satisfied with your partner, go for it."

Now coming to another word which is, 'faithful'--

Do you believe in God? If you do, then you also believe in beauty, beast, demons and devils. If you don't then also you believe in beauty, beast, demons and devils.

In Christianity there is Satan, in Hinduism, there is Rawan, ...Similarly, ask yourself how much faithful are you with your own self? Can you kill the demon inside you? Can you live one year without having sex? Can you distance yourself with your partner and wait for him/her as long as he/she would come back again to see you? Can you...?

If your answer is 'yes, I can'
You are faithful child.
If your answer is 'no, I can't'
you are unfaithful child.

-"Believe or not to believe is your personal interest and it does not matter as long as you can alway change the your thinking according to time."

-"Being faithful in a relationship is like being faithful to the mother like a child."

I can write more but you should ask for it.

God bless you all !

Sunday, May 3, 2009

Princess and Poor Priest Son

I saw a dream today, as everybody sees some dreams my dream was very romantic and very sad at the same time. The dream was about a love affair of princess with a poor priest child. There was a princess and her mother, the princess was going to get married and the princess mother invited priest to see the proper man for her daughter’s wedding. The princess, princess mother, priest and poor priest son was in one room checking for man for the wedding. Princess saw few man and she rejected them. After a short while, princess said to her mother, “mama, I like the priest son, he is the one who will make be happy, I know.., please mama, can I marry him?” princess mother was not happy with such response. She said, “no, the poor priest guy cannot get married with you, I would never allow this to happen…” princess was very sad and she started fighting with her mother but her mother never agreed for her proposal.

The poor guy saw in the eyes of princess and through their eyes the electrical signal of love passed on to their hearts, they both started communicating and felt that they will not be together… poor priest child was sad too…

Poor priest child said,

Oh sweet, beautiful princess
Love is the great sin,
Although, our heart is same,
World will never feel the pain
I was made for you, but
World insane will divide for material gain

Tears in heaven, useless as it remains
This bloody earth,
Is not for lovers in rain

She is your mother will you leave her?
For this poor priest son,
I cannot promise anything,
But I can promise,
Togetherness, trust, and love ever and ever again
Please don’t worry,
For happiness and satisfaction
Was born only with them

Tears in heaven, useless as it remains
This bloody earth,
Is not for lovers in rain

The dream was over and the new day started, the day where there were no vital pills for humanity such as love, hope and faith. The priest son hanged himself and died, because he thought world is full of material gain, nothing exits only money which remains and world is dividing for pleasure to gain.

Wednesday, April 29, 2009

What is a Youth ?

Song: "What is a Youth"
Lyrics by Eugene Walter
Music by Nino Rota
Vocal by Glen Weston

And here is the lyric:

What is a youth? Impetuous fire.
What is a maid? Ice and desire.
The world wags on.

A rose will bloom
It then will fade
So does a youth.
So do-o-o-oes the fairest maid.

Comes a time when one sweet smile
Has its season for a while...Then love's in love with me.
Some they think only to marry, Others will tease and tarry,
Mine is the very best parry. Cupid he rules us all.
Caper the cape, but sing me the song,
Death will come soon to hush us along.
Sweeter than honey and bitter as gall.
Love is a task and it never will pall.
Sweeter than honey...and bitter as gall
Cupid he rules us all

Monday, April 27, 2009

Q&A with Santosh Kalwar

In response to questions asked by blogger and reader at Paulo's blog, here is what Mybheja has to say-


Here is what I would say for your questions, Even though I will write ten books on these subject, it will not be enough to satisfy all human souls but as you have asked, here is short description of what this poor guy from Himalaya feels about these issues-

Q). How would you differentiate these 3 (Faith, hope and love) ?

A) Human being is the hope. The "H" in the "Human" words stand for "H" in "Hope". Faith is for focus of mind to certain things or object. and love is for life.

Q)Can a person survive on faith alone? or hope alone? or love alone?

A) Yes they can and they are surviving on these three elements, with or without them.

Q)or must these elements (faith, love, hope) always go together?

A) No, it is not necessary that these elements should go together. But if they go together then there will be complete peace and solitude in humanity. (Which we are currently lacking in the present world and it is even getting worse everyday!)

Q)what do you believe is the most important among these? (if you think you can live with just one OR if one of these failed you.. example, if you have had failed in love or lost the faith or hope)

A)I don't believe, I have them in me. I know how to give love, I know how to have faith and I know how to hope hope.
Having said that, if I am failed in any of these vital pills for humanity(faith, love, hope) my physical existence will be no more.

Q)would you be able to give an example (taken from your experiences or made it up–analogies ) on how these 3 link together?


-Without love there is no life, without hope there is no physical existence of humanity and you need faith to have hope and love.

-Why are we worried about these pills for humanity (love, faith and hope), just concentrate on daily normal life and when you will be very old, you will easily know the answers.

-The pills for humanity such as love, faith and hope needs to be taken every morning when you wake up and every evening when you sleep.

-Don't be afraid with any one and any body not even vampires or devils or even death then you will slowly understand the meaning for these humanity pills such as love, faith and hope.

-A Single human life good deeds will add peace and prosperity to entire humanity and with humanity pills, your behavior also will be good. Therefore, just think less and do more, don't regret and don't pretend, as the flowing of river never stops, as the rain drops touch your face in the raining days, as the sun light kills darkness as the mother earth balances herself.., we will change.., in that change, we will transform ourselves into perfect individuals, those with supreme intellect and the power just like prophets. One day, all humanity will transform into pure humanity, those with the power of truth, love, faith, trust and supreme Consciousness. That day, is not very far....,

If you need any further explanations, please write it to me.., I would be happy and try to make you satisfied with my poor words. Thank you !

God blesses you !


God bless you all !

Friday, April 24, 2009

Questions and Answers

Dear all,

Q) What is love?

A) Love is you, love is nothing but the reflection or shadow of your own. Love is not this or that but love lies in simplicity, beauty, truth and trust. Those who want to find out what love is should know how to love yourself, and learn to give without any guilt or grief, or pain or without any motivation.

Love is mother, love is father and love is in finding and remembering the day your conscience was awakened. e.g. when you were small very small and try remembering the first day when you went school or when you were in your home or when your mother said something or …

Love is knowing your day of awakening till date, love is your eyes and in each and every part of your body. Love is with you all the time and love will last ever.

Of course we see physical love such as mother love, father love, husband love, lover’s love but those are just one percent of love out of hundred percent. love is beyond all those physical society’s love. those are love but not pure form of love.

We live in society where when we say, “I love you” the other person will start to think, she/he really loves me and start the relationship or our proposal starts with such statement but how do you validate such statement.? (I can see some eyebrows raises here..)

Anyways, I must stop here but will answer if you want to know more about love.

God bless you all !

Tuesday, March 31, 2009

Your voice

I am thinking to write a book,
I need your motivation
Waiting for your phone call
When would I get a chance to hear you

Is this love, or pain?
Sufferings or Sadness
Oh dear, where are you when I need you
I want your touch, your heat

I pray, hoping you will ring me
I wish, you could-waiting,
None of these words will give pleasure
Until I hear you, Oh dear

Oh lord, Oh holy lord
What did I do wrong?
Why can’t I hear her, for so long?
I am in pain, why should someone care

Oh lord, Oh sweet honey
I wish I could hear you
Wherever you are whatever you do
I will fight for your happiness
For that, even I am ready to kill myself