The Valentine's Day also called as St. Valentine's Day is the day when lovers express their love. To my utmost surprise, I am little confused, how am I going to celebrate this special day? As commonly said, “I am single ready to mingle”.
I am poor and lonely who do not have any girl friend or wife. That is not the whole part of the story. Do you know that I am not even famous since Wikipedia under my name defines the biography as, “This article may not meet the general notability guideline?” I know I am not famous and I do not want to, maybe that is one reason why I am still single.
Under extreme condition of cold windy winter of Finland, I am sitting on my couch and thinking: “What should I do during Valentine's Day?” Suddenly 'somebody inside me' suggests that I should call all my friends and relatives around the world and express them my gratitude for being part of me. But on the contrary, other half of the 'very somebody inside me' suggests that I should find someone beautiful just to love me.
Sometimes, I hear the voices inside me saying, “Your days are coming soon, so love yourself more each passing day.” However, my idiotic mind is against that very someone inside me and rather it suggests me to go drinking whiskey or smoking cigarette or to visit red, blue or white streets.
Most of the times, it seems that one always falls prey of the mind and do not listen to the voices that come from deep inside. However, whatever be the reason, I am still thinking how would I spend my valentine's day?
Once, one beautiful angel used to love me, but she gave up the “so called” relationship on the Valentine's Day, simply because I did not belong to her “caste”. Then couple of years later, another girl found me interesting, and it was again on the same Day, I was dumped by her. Poor Me!
After these sad experiences, it is no surprise that, Valentine's Day has become an important day to me. You see, I keep on losing love. On every new Valentine's Day, my heart is broken and I have to suffer extremely.
This valentine's day, I do not want to suffer. I will not start a new relationship since relationships are meant to be broken. I will not visit any red, blue or white streets either, since those streets do not have my name written on them. I will not drink or smoke to rectify my feelings. Above all, I will just be alone.
Some wise man has said, “Aloneness is the first lesson of love.” Maybe, I should learn from my mistakes and rather be alone. I had my heart broken into pieces but now I would like to mend them and put them back where it belongs, once again, on this Valentine's Day. Happy Valentine's Day!
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Showing posts with label how to live a life. Show all posts
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Monday, February 8, 2010
Wednesday, November 4, 2009
Randy Pausch Last Lecture: Achieving Your Childhood Dreams
More about Randy:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Randy_Pausch
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Press Releases:"20 Love Poems and the economy crisis"
Mr.Santosh Kalwar has yet another book lined up in his new project entitle, "20 Love Poems and the economy crisis" published by Lulu.com, This is the fifth book written by Mr. Kalwar.
Currently, The book is free to download in an free e-book version from publisher lulu.com
Here is the complete press-release.
Mybheja congratulates the author of the book !
Currently, The book is free to download in an free e-book version from publisher lulu.com
Here is the complete press-release.
Mybheja congratulates the author of the book !
Monday, April 6, 2009
Today's Relationship
A Young handsome man was walking down the hill, near the country side in west virginia, CA., He was just watching the scenery and beautiful hill side. He was watching without any differences in his mind, his eyes caught attention to one couple who were fighting on the top of their roof.
He started to look after those two couples and thought, "why are these two humans fighting?" he visualized his own life and relationship. He remembered, once his wife also did the same and went very far from her. She killed herself., It was not young handsome's man fault neither it was his wife's fault, during those times, both of them were going through bad crisis (Economy, depression, job cuts, recession, natural disaster and most importantly fear of death) When so many negative things were popping up and down like a popcorn in their head; definately, there was going to be misunderstanding betweens couple.
Young handsome man went close to these two couples who were fighting (on the top of the roof) and said,
"Hey two of you, what are you doing?" he asked.
"It is none of your business, son." replied the man from the roof.
"I know that is not my business, you both are fighting for nothing- I can solve your problem."
"What? tell us how?" asked the man
"You both, Jump from the top of that roof." replied the young man and started to move on.
Both the couples who were fighting on the top of roof, now started to look close to each other and stopped the fighting.
What is the lesson from the story?
He started to look after those two couples and thought, "why are these two humans fighting?" he visualized his own life and relationship. He remembered, once his wife also did the same and went very far from her. She killed herself., It was not young handsome's man fault neither it was his wife's fault, during those times, both of them were going through bad crisis (Economy, depression, job cuts, recession, natural disaster and most importantly fear of death) When so many negative things were popping up and down like a popcorn in their head; definately, there was going to be misunderstanding betweens couple.
Young handsome man went close to these two couples who were fighting (on the top of the roof) and said,
"Hey two of you, what are you doing?" he asked.
"It is none of your business, son." replied the man from the roof.
"I know that is not my business, you both are fighting for nothing- I can solve your problem."
"What? tell us how?" asked the man
"You both, Jump from the top of that roof." replied the young man and started to move on.
Both the couples who were fighting on the top of roof, now started to look close to each other and stopped the fighting.
What is the lesson from the story?
Friday, March 13, 2009
I will be born in 2039
Welcome, Dear Readers- Please do not get surprised, with the title of this column. I am no God, neither Spiritual Guru, nor Religious teacher or saint. I am just like you, Human being.
I am not born but wait a moment-do not get to the conclusion. You might be wondering, if this person is not born who wrote this column? What is that he is trying to prove? Well, there is nothing that author wants to prove or claim. It is just a simple joke.
Today, looking at the Nations situation- I think I will be born in 2039. Now this is not the entire story, with doom of Economy (Global, National or Regional) there is no point in living a life of jeopardy. We have seen the country ruled by Kings (Razas and Maharazas), We also have seen so called “Democracy” and currently, “Federal Democratic System” and “…” in near future. There is no change in creation of Jobs, Security, Electricity, Economy and Transportation to name few. I do not blame our beloved Prime Ministers neither I blame all the top-executive Politicians; I blame myself; because I know I will be born in 2039.
Yesterday, I heard the news where, a young man who was just seventeen years old kills reportedly fifteen and then himself at a school in Germany. A friend of his told police today, that he was bullied by class mates, teachers for many years. When he wanted to speak to them (Teachers, friends, parents) no one listened to him. Personally, I feel what my friend Paul from Austria feels- The young Gunman was innocent simply because, no body listed to his anguish. The tragedy could have been avoidable if there was the presence of love in his life.
Children of today are treated like valueless and useless beings. The world depends on them and the future of the entire world is dependent on how we treat them today. This is a sad story and this is just the beginning- I think. As we can see everybody is busy in their own personal life and nobody wants to LISTEN to anybody, simply because we all have point to make and grow within the society. Then a quote popped into my tiny little brain which states, “Love is integral part in human life, without the sense of its presence no human wants to live life in despair.”
Let me get back to your questions, one very good friend of mine named Teemu, from Finland asked, “Santosh-when were you born in your country?” This is a good question, I thought- and before making my statement open, I visualized that- “We are in 2065, even ending it soon”. Then, I replied him back with the smile on my face stating-“I will be born in 2039.”
I am not born but wait a moment-do not get to the conclusion. You might be wondering, if this person is not born who wrote this column? What is that he is trying to prove? Well, there is nothing that author wants to prove or claim. It is just a simple joke.
Today, looking at the Nations situation- I think I will be born in 2039. Now this is not the entire story, with doom of Economy (Global, National or Regional) there is no point in living a life of jeopardy. We have seen the country ruled by Kings (Razas and Maharazas), We also have seen so called “Democracy” and currently, “Federal Democratic System” and “…” in near future. There is no change in creation of Jobs, Security, Electricity, Economy and Transportation to name few. I do not blame our beloved Prime Ministers neither I blame all the top-executive Politicians; I blame myself; because I know I will be born in 2039.
Yesterday, I heard the news where, a young man who was just seventeen years old kills reportedly fifteen and then himself at a school in Germany. A friend of his told police today, that he was bullied by class mates, teachers for many years. When he wanted to speak to them (Teachers, friends, parents) no one listened to him. Personally, I feel what my friend Paul from Austria feels- The young Gunman was innocent simply because, no body listed to his anguish. The tragedy could have been avoidable if there was the presence of love in his life.
Children of today are treated like valueless and useless beings. The world depends on them and the future of the entire world is dependent on how we treat them today. This is a sad story and this is just the beginning- I think. As we can see everybody is busy in their own personal life and nobody wants to LISTEN to anybody, simply because we all have point to make and grow within the society. Then a quote popped into my tiny little brain which states, “Love is integral part in human life, without the sense of its presence no human wants to live life in despair.”
Let me get back to your questions, one very good friend of mine named Teemu, from Finland asked, “Santosh-when were you born in your country?” This is a good question, I thought- and before making my statement open, I visualized that- “We are in 2065, even ending it soon”. Then, I replied him back with the smile on my face stating-“I will be born in 2039.”
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
Where do you find inspiration?
1. Writers drew there Inspirations from themselves staying like a child.
2. Learning is every day phenomenon from ourselves and from others around us.
3. Nature and Environment teaches us and bring even closer to it, every day and in every moments.
4. Einstein said that all of his great inventions were because he stayed to be child. Being in the state of the child bring curiosity and passion for work.
5. As you said Paulo coelho, "I am my books and they are part of my soul." Most of the writer should feel in the same way, here is one question you would like to add if you have not already posted. What do you associate with books?
6. A single moment of joy and complete peace, satisfaction in that moment and words of wisdom gained and shared are what most of the writer would like themselves to associate with.
7. I do not know if God exits but I know, if he exits then he must live inside us, inside our body,being invisible but controlling our body and driving us forward, to take very next step in our life. I am the bilogical body and my books are representation of that very next step which God wants me to take.
2. Learning is every day phenomenon from ourselves and from others around us.
3. Nature and Environment teaches us and bring even closer to it, every day and in every moments.
4. Einstein said that all of his great inventions were because he stayed to be child. Being in the state of the child bring curiosity and passion for work.
5. As you said Paulo coelho, "I am my books and they are part of my soul." Most of the writer should feel in the same way, here is one question you would like to add if you have not already posted. What do you associate with books?
6. A single moment of joy and complete peace, satisfaction in that moment and words of wisdom gained and shared are what most of the writer would like themselves to associate with.
7. I do not know if God exits but I know, if he exits then he must live inside us, inside our body,being invisible but controlling our body and driving us forward, to take very next step in our life. I am the bilogical body and my books are representation of that very next step which God wants me to take.
Thursday, January 15, 2009
Adam and Eve
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Once upon a time there was a guy named Mr.Adam, in his mid thirties, long haired, good looking just like a scholar. Adam was happy with his life. He was a computer professional and most of the times he was working on the computers. The first love that he has discovered was only the computers since he was not involved with any women.
Despite he was good looking and nice, there was no women who wanted to approach him and love him. One day he finished his degree and returned back to his country. He saw one girl who was busy in the Phone. He looked at her and thought, "She looks good". Next day on the same place during same time-Adam saw her again talking in the phone.
He thought, "She must be talking with her boyfriend". Adam did not gave much of the importance after that thought. The girl was also in her mid thirties and very good looking and nicely build. She was beautiful as the Rose. Eve as her sister would like to call her.
After few days, Eve looked at the Adam and Smiled. She must have thought something before smiling but Adam had no clue. May be Adam thought He knew with whom she was talking-her boy friend named Fox.
Adam friend Moore was good at talking with the girls and he talked with Eve about Adam and his characteristics. Moore admired a lot about the Adam and he said many good things about the Adam to Eve.
For couple of weeks on the same place and during same time, Adam could not see Eve anymore. His eyes were searching for Eve but he could not find her. "Where is Eve?", Why did not see come today or yesterday to talk with her boyfriend?. These questions were on the mind of Adam.
During this period of the time Adam was reading a Novel by Paulo called "Veronica decides to die". While Adam was very fast learner, it did not took long for him to finish Paulo's Novel. He finished it within the couple of weeks time. He learned about the women and why they are committing the suicide.
After the couple of weeks period, Adam saw Eve but this time she looked little sick and weak. She was not even talking with anyone, silent and cold. She was just frozen or something thought Adam.
Adam went close to her and said, "what happened to you?" why are you not talking any longer". Eve replied that nothing has happened and she was OK.
As Adam's Nature was outgoing and friendly, he talked about the book which he read recently with Eve and with her sister Maria. They wanted to know about the book which Adam had read. The topic of the book was very fascinating to them.
Adam explained all the details about the book and he told how a girl decides to commit a suicide and what goes wrong with her. He explains it is a coward act to commit a suicide and give up your life for some "reasons".
While Adam was explaining the story, Eve was smiling looking at Adam but she said no word. Adam and Eve started seeing each other like this and they continued for some time may be it was for couple of weeks or so.
One day, Eve was alone in her shop and Adam went there to talk with her. Adam wanted to know where she went during those two weeks period since he could not talk with her. Eve started saying that, she was in hospital bed since she committed suicide.
Adam was shocked to listen this- Adam asked her why?, Eve replied it was because of the Fox. I worshiped him more than the God, he was my God. I never used to eat before he has eaten, I never used to do anything before he used to say to me, I was truly and madly in love with him but he said that he cannot marry me.
When he said he cannot marry me after we being together in love for four years, I was broken. My heart was broken and I thought for whom should I live? There is no one for whom I should live my life. That is why I decided to kill myself.
After listening to Eve, Adam was sorry for what has happened with her. Adam asked one question to her, "Did he said-I love you to you?". Eve replied with Yes, Many many times. Almost every day.
Adam started thinking-"What is the value of I love you when you really do not feel the love for the person?"
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Saying one thing and doing one thing is common human nature.
We say one word and we do not even care or mean it seriously. Every words spoken cannot be taken back. A good listener could be a good partner and it is one of the essential element to be in the relationship. Let us think, If you say "I love you" do you really mean that you really really love that person?.
What if you are just faking? I do not know if there is any reality in it. "Want" does not describe love, "Needs" does not fulfill "thirst" or quest in our life.
When the words like "I love you" is so much valuable. We should make it more valuable by saying only when you really really mean it and when your inner self says to do so. Most of the times we just say that words and we do not even know the value behind these three great words which make a complete sentence and this complete sentence could mean a lot to the other person.
Written things or words could be edited but spoken words could not be taken back.
All we need to do is make it more valuable and precious. Since these are most important sentence A Man would like to tell to her Princess.
Good day !
Once upon a time there was a guy named Mr.Adam, in his mid thirties, long haired, good looking just like a scholar. Adam was happy with his life. He was a computer professional and most of the times he was working on the computers. The first love that he has discovered was only the computers since he was not involved with any women.
Despite he was good looking and nice, there was no women who wanted to approach him and love him. One day he finished his degree and returned back to his country. He saw one girl who was busy in the Phone. He looked at her and thought, "She looks good". Next day on the same place during same time-Adam saw her again talking in the phone.
He thought, "She must be talking with her boyfriend". Adam did not gave much of the importance after that thought. The girl was also in her mid thirties and very good looking and nicely build. She was beautiful as the Rose. Eve as her sister would like to call her.
After few days, Eve looked at the Adam and Smiled. She must have thought something before smiling but Adam had no clue. May be Adam thought He knew with whom she was talking-her boy friend named Fox.
Adam friend Moore was good at talking with the girls and he talked with Eve about Adam and his characteristics. Moore admired a lot about the Adam and he said many good things about the Adam to Eve.
For couple of weeks on the same place and during same time, Adam could not see Eve anymore. His eyes were searching for Eve but he could not find her. "Where is Eve?", Why did not see come today or yesterday to talk with her boyfriend?. These questions were on the mind of Adam.
During this period of the time Adam was reading a Novel by Paulo called "Veronica decides to die". While Adam was very fast learner, it did not took long for him to finish Paulo's Novel. He finished it within the couple of weeks time. He learned about the women and why they are committing the suicide.
After the couple of weeks period, Adam saw Eve but this time she looked little sick and weak. She was not even talking with anyone, silent and cold. She was just frozen or something thought Adam.
Adam went close to her and said, "what happened to you?" why are you not talking any longer". Eve replied that nothing has happened and she was OK.
As Adam's Nature was outgoing and friendly, he talked about the book which he read recently with Eve and with her sister Maria. They wanted to know about the book which Adam had read. The topic of the book was very fascinating to them.
Adam explained all the details about the book and he told how a girl decides to commit a suicide and what goes wrong with her. He explains it is a coward act to commit a suicide and give up your life for some "reasons".
While Adam was explaining the story, Eve was smiling looking at Adam but she said no word. Adam and Eve started seeing each other like this and they continued for some time may be it was for couple of weeks or so.
One day, Eve was alone in her shop and Adam went there to talk with her. Adam wanted to know where she went during those two weeks period since he could not talk with her. Eve started saying that, she was in hospital bed since she committed suicide.
Adam was shocked to listen this- Adam asked her why?, Eve replied it was because of the Fox. I worshiped him more than the God, he was my God. I never used to eat before he has eaten, I never used to do anything before he used to say to me, I was truly and madly in love with him but he said that he cannot marry me.
When he said he cannot marry me after we being together in love for four years, I was broken. My heart was broken and I thought for whom should I live? There is no one for whom I should live my life. That is why I decided to kill myself.
After listening to Eve, Adam was sorry for what has happened with her. Adam asked one question to her, "Did he said-I love you to you?". Eve replied with Yes, Many many times. Almost every day.
Adam started thinking-"What is the value of I love you when you really do not feel the love for the person?"
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Saying one thing and doing one thing is common human nature.
We say one word and we do not even care or mean it seriously. Every words spoken cannot be taken back. A good listener could be a good partner and it is one of the essential element to be in the relationship. Let us think, If you say "I love you" do you really mean that you really really love that person?.
What if you are just faking? I do not know if there is any reality in it. "Want" does not describe love, "Needs" does not fulfill "thirst" or quest in our life.
When the words like "I love you" is so much valuable. We should make it more valuable by saying only when you really really mean it and when your inner self says to do so. Most of the times we just say that words and we do not even know the value behind these three great words which make a complete sentence and this complete sentence could mean a lot to the other person.
Written things or words could be edited but spoken words could not be taken back.
All we need to do is make it more valuable and precious. Since these are most important sentence A Man would like to tell to her Princess.
Good day !
Friday, January 9, 2009
A happiest person alive in heaven
Today at this moment-
Let us assume that the story that I wrote yesterday (Today Thursday at 17 hours-) is Fiction. Then at least my readers and friends could and will relax a bit.
Thank you Paul for letting me know that, "Don’t try to be all things to all… women… it’s impossible, and… it’s not our responsibility… this one belongs to a higher intelligence… and the universe holds the answer…"
Thank you Jessica for your heart touching article. I think I know the answer and I will try to put words to your question. ("how I can sort my feelings out").
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Women is the source of every energy in the Universe. They are not impossible but our intelligence does not let us understand the possibilities in them. We are limited by our knowledge to understand the vast range of possibilities a women has and carries every day.
There are no right answers or wrong answers but all of the answers are just answers. Some of those answers satisfy us and some of them are just words.
Life is a lesson which should be learned in every moment and in every path we take. There are lessons that we learn from our family, from our friends, from our school and others. But a lesson women teaches us in our lives are far more important than anything else. A women if wants can create the universe and destroy the universe. She has the potential which I feel very little to describe.
In marriage- she is the one who should decide weather to stay with the person or leave the person.
In life- she is the one she should decide how to care her children and husband.
In love- she shows how she can care more than her life about her partner and she is ready to accept him at any given time.
In Career- She is the blessed to give the direction and motivate her partner.
So and so forth. There are many ways a women is vital human without whom a existence seems impossible. Well- W O M E N .The five letter words have great meaning. The last three letters means us- MEN. But has any body ever wondered why there are two additional letters in front of the MEN.
English language experts might tell us why? If I have to make a guess then I would say- W and O these two characters could represent many things and many words.
Love is not the destiny.Love is just love. Tomorrow if I have to leave the person whom I love then I will have many reasons in front of me and these "reasons" will force me to take the decisions against me. These reasons will ask me to take the decisons which I do not like but again, I have to make the decision.
A human nature is very childish. When we get something in life we are happy and we do not get that particular thing or person in our lives we are bound to be sad. We regret and we feel the guilt we are thinking thousand times what did I do wrong? What is my fault? Why did she left me? Did my words does not come out right?
A person is wise when he understands that not everything can be gained easily. For example love- A love is a fresh feeling which is momentary just like a smile.
See for example the differences in culture, race and religion but smile has a common form and presentation. WE all smile and when we all smile it is same despite any culture, race and religion.
Feelings cannot be easily suppressed. When Miss B saw Mr. A for the first time they fell in love. They wanted to be together but Miss B was raped and tortured. Miss B felt that she is not eligible and good enough for Mr. A she decided to go away from Mr. A and live her own life. While she decided she will go away, she thought the distance would shorten and lessen her pain from what she had encountered. She knew that she cannot now give fresh love to Mr. A. She wants to quit her life but some how she lives and marries with other person. She has couple of kids. She has a family. She has children but she lost her love.
She wants to know about his life, what is he doing or where is he? How would he feel when I feel something? She has questions which concerns her life and mostly about "his" life. She wants to know about him.
Because once she went far away from him. Now even though she has family she thinks most of the time about him.
Mr. A came back in her life when her sister somehow stayed with him. Mr. A is alone and he does not yet have any girls. Mr.A still has the feelings for Miss B but Miss B is married and settled.
How could Miss B happy? Is her happiness means watching others around and feeling the same? Will she ever forgive her about the decisions she took on his own while departing from Mr. A?
What if she would have told the story just after she was tortured to Mr. A? Would Mr. A accept her then? What would have happened ?
Many of the times women are very negative in the decisions they make. It is because they are thinking always good for US (MEN). They do not want to hurt our feelings or even go away from our lives without any valid reasons.
However there are people and women who take such decision.
1)Some women might think that, Mr. A's are not good and they cannot make her happy through entire live.
2)Some women might think that, Mr. A's are too good and easy, let us try those who are little difficult and non predictive.
3)Some women just cannot be with Mr. A simply because they are now tortured or raped and they think they are impure. They cannot give pure love to Mr. A's.
4)Some women just wanna have fun.
5)Some are going through difficult situation because they have sufficient valid reasons in front of them to leave Mr. A's.
Now Among these five mentioned points depending upon the women and there inner self they choose it. These points can vary depending upon the time, circumstance and many other factors.
Therefore, The decision is about how to live a life with happiness after not getting the love of your life?
What would you do? Should you leave every day with compromise or should we try to find other women or men in your lives. What is your mental state of mind currently saying? Would you take the initiative and be brave with yourself and fight with every single period in your lives thinking about the person who would have been perfect partner?
There are few steps if you want happiness-
http://www.kalwar.com.np/2008/12/7-things-to-do-to-be-happy.html
(I would suggest to think about these because I have been testing these steps with people and I still do not know if they are really going to be the final seven steps in future. A valid theory for every one of us. Just try to ponder on them too. )
Now if you want to get love that is Mr. A back in your life--
Again, there are reasons in front of you. These reasons will not let you decide against you. If you go against your reasons then it could result into problems. Such as (Your family members might say you something bad, your culture resists you, etc)
Now at this moment- Think if you are Miss B what you want? I know you cannot resist the feeling because your sister is close to Mr. A. If you are really a sister then wouldn't you want your Mr. A to come home -- May be he is interested in your sister and he might even want to get married ?
But again, His decisions are important. After hearing all these happenings if your partner understands how you are feeling then he might just let you go.
However, it all depends on the way you want to live.
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Well, I am not alive. I am not human and my life is the life of an angel. I can see the pain and sorrow. I can feel what Miss Y feels about love for her life. I am a air which can just be felt. Nothing else.
I want to touch her. I want to sweep her tears from her eyes when she is feeling the pain. But I know even if she could see me, she will not feel the touch of human in me.(Because I am a angel)
I wish I could come down to earth and live for a day. I wish I could come down to be with her for a day. I wish I would touch her and kiss her. I wish, the feeling of her first touch and the first kiss. I want to experience only once. Can I?
I do not know what is happiness but I wish if I am on earth with that loving memory of her first kiss and first touch I will spend my rest of life.
I wish in finding pleasure to those feelings are called happiness then that is what I am.
At this moment and on this day -
A happiest person alive in heaven.
Let us assume that the story that I wrote yesterday (Today Thursday at 17 hours-) is Fiction. Then at least my readers and friends could and will relax a bit.
Thank you Paul for letting me know that, "Don’t try to be all things to all… women… it’s impossible, and… it’s not our responsibility… this one belongs to a higher intelligence… and the universe holds the answer…"
Thank you Jessica for your heart touching article. I think I know the answer and I will try to put words to your question. ("how I can sort my feelings out").
****************************************************************
Women is the source of every energy in the Universe. They are not impossible but our intelligence does not let us understand the possibilities in them. We are limited by our knowledge to understand the vast range of possibilities a women has and carries every day.
There are no right answers or wrong answers but all of the answers are just answers. Some of those answers satisfy us and some of them are just words.
Life is a lesson which should be learned in every moment and in every path we take. There are lessons that we learn from our family, from our friends, from our school and others. But a lesson women teaches us in our lives are far more important than anything else. A women if wants can create the universe and destroy the universe. She has the potential which I feel very little to describe.
In marriage- she is the one who should decide weather to stay with the person or leave the person.
In life- she is the one she should decide how to care her children and husband.
In love- she shows how she can care more than her life about her partner and she is ready to accept him at any given time.
In Career- She is the blessed to give the direction and motivate her partner.
So and so forth. There are many ways a women is vital human without whom a existence seems impossible. Well- W O M E N .The five letter words have great meaning. The last three letters means us- MEN. But has any body ever wondered why there are two additional letters in front of the MEN.
English language experts might tell us why? If I have to make a guess then I would say- W and O these two characters could represent many things and many words.
Love is not the destiny.Love is just love. Tomorrow if I have to leave the person whom I love then I will have many reasons in front of me and these "reasons" will force me to take the decisions against me. These reasons will ask me to take the decisons which I do not like but again, I have to make the decision.
A human nature is very childish. When we get something in life we are happy and we do not get that particular thing or person in our lives we are bound to be sad. We regret and we feel the guilt we are thinking thousand times what did I do wrong? What is my fault? Why did she left me? Did my words does not come out right?
A person is wise when he understands that not everything can be gained easily. For example love- A love is a fresh feeling which is momentary just like a smile.
See for example the differences in culture, race and religion but smile has a common form and presentation. WE all smile and when we all smile it is same despite any culture, race and religion.
Feelings cannot be easily suppressed. When Miss B saw Mr. A for the first time they fell in love. They wanted to be together but Miss B was raped and tortured. Miss B felt that she is not eligible and good enough for Mr. A she decided to go away from Mr. A and live her own life. While she decided she will go away, she thought the distance would shorten and lessen her pain from what she had encountered. She knew that she cannot now give fresh love to Mr. A. She wants to quit her life but some how she lives and marries with other person. She has couple of kids. She has a family. She has children but she lost her love.
She wants to know about his life, what is he doing or where is he? How would he feel when I feel something? She has questions which concerns her life and mostly about "his" life. She wants to know about him.
Because once she went far away from him. Now even though she has family she thinks most of the time about him.
Mr. A came back in her life when her sister somehow stayed with him. Mr. A is alone and he does not yet have any girls. Mr.A still has the feelings for Miss B but Miss B is married and settled.
How could Miss B happy? Is her happiness means watching others around and feeling the same? Will she ever forgive her about the decisions she took on his own while departing from Mr. A?
What if she would have told the story just after she was tortured to Mr. A? Would Mr. A accept her then? What would have happened ?
Many of the times women are very negative in the decisions they make. It is because they are thinking always good for US (MEN). They do not want to hurt our feelings or even go away from our lives without any valid reasons.
However there are people and women who take such decision.
1)Some women might think that, Mr. A's are not good and they cannot make her happy through entire live.
2)Some women might think that, Mr. A's are too good and easy, let us try those who are little difficult and non predictive.
3)Some women just cannot be with Mr. A simply because they are now tortured or raped and they think they are impure. They cannot give pure love to Mr. A's.
4)Some women just wanna have fun.
5)Some are going through difficult situation because they have sufficient valid reasons in front of them to leave Mr. A's.
Now Among these five mentioned points depending upon the women and there inner self they choose it. These points can vary depending upon the time, circumstance and many other factors.
Therefore, The decision is about how to live a life with happiness after not getting the love of your life?
What would you do? Should you leave every day with compromise or should we try to find other women or men in your lives. What is your mental state of mind currently saying? Would you take the initiative and be brave with yourself and fight with every single period in your lives thinking about the person who would have been perfect partner?
There are few steps if you want happiness-
http://www.kalwar.com.np/2008/12/7-things-to-do-to-be-happy.html
(I would suggest to think about these because I have been testing these steps with people and I still do not know if they are really going to be the final seven steps in future. A valid theory for every one of us. Just try to ponder on them too. )
Now if you want to get love that is Mr. A back in your life--
Again, there are reasons in front of you. These reasons will not let you decide against you. If you go against your reasons then it could result into problems. Such as (Your family members might say you something bad, your culture resists you, etc)
Now at this moment- Think if you are Miss B what you want? I know you cannot resist the feeling because your sister is close to Mr. A. If you are really a sister then wouldn't you want your Mr. A to come home -- May be he is interested in your sister and he might even want to get married ?
But again, His decisions are important. After hearing all these happenings if your partner understands how you are feeling then he might just let you go.
However, it all depends on the way you want to live.
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Well, I am not alive. I am not human and my life is the life of an angel. I can see the pain and sorrow. I can feel what Miss Y feels about love for her life. I am a air which can just be felt. Nothing else.
I want to touch her. I want to sweep her tears from her eyes when she is feeling the pain. But I know even if she could see me, she will not feel the touch of human in me.(Because I am a angel)
I wish I could come down to earth and live for a day. I wish I could come down to be with her for a day. I wish I would touch her and kiss her. I wish, the feeling of her first touch and the first kiss. I want to experience only once. Can I?
I do not know what is happiness but I wish if I am on earth with that loving memory of her first kiss and first touch I will spend my rest of life.
I wish in finding pleasure to those feelings are called happiness then that is what I am.
At this moment and on this day -
A happiest person alive in heaven.
Friday, January 2, 2009
PP theory
I truly believe that women came into existence for the purpose of only men. There are no other purpose of women existence. This does not mean that, women do not have rights. Yes they have and they should be given equal opportunity. I think there are some group of people who does not understand the value of women existence. The more pain the more pleasure phenomenon is around the world.
PP (Pain gives Pleasure) Theory is such that, the more pain you hear from your partner the more pleasure other partner will receive.
The "PP" theory is result of my own personal experience. I think the same applies in the world back when there was Adam and Eve in Christianity and When there were God and Goddesses existence in Hinduism.
This theory has never changed and will not change ever. (Why not?) This will not change simply because those who are in pain have to take it for granted.
There are laws made for those who commit such an act. Such as Rape, Visiting brothels and selling young girls and children to any humans may it be the "white" or "black" or "big guys".
To hear such a news is interesting and at the same time sad. Those events has to be stopped or even should be limited or minimized to far greater extent.
One of the common problem of this world is- Sex trafficking, child abuse, addiction (watching porno using internet or T.V.) and most importantly terrorism.
I think many countries are fighting for
1. Oil (Petrol, gas, Kerosene and etc.)
2. Land (Kashmir in case of India and Pakistan)
3. Energy (Nuclear and Electric )
4. Power (Political, Fight for recognition )
I think many humans are fighting for
1. Sex (Sex trafficking, child abuse, pleasure)
The above four listed points can vary depending on countries and there policy but the one that is listed in the bottom will stay as long as human being exit on this planet.
I am sorry to say but I know it has no end.
PP (Pain gives Pleasure) Theory is such that, the more pain you hear from your partner the more pleasure other partner will receive.
The "PP" theory is result of my own personal experience. I think the same applies in the world back when there was Adam and Eve in Christianity and When there were God and Goddesses existence in Hinduism.
This theory has never changed and will not change ever. (Why not?) This will not change simply because those who are in pain have to take it for granted.
There are laws made for those who commit such an act. Such as Rape, Visiting brothels and selling young girls and children to any humans may it be the "white" or "black" or "big guys".
To hear such a news is interesting and at the same time sad. Those events has to be stopped or even should be limited or minimized to far greater extent.
One of the common problem of this world is- Sex trafficking, child abuse, addiction (watching porno using internet or T.V.) and most importantly terrorism.
I think many countries are fighting for
1. Oil (Petrol, gas, Kerosene and etc.)
2. Land (Kashmir in case of India and Pakistan)
3. Energy (Nuclear and Electric )
4. Power (Political, Fight for recognition )
I think many humans are fighting for
1. Sex (Sex trafficking, child abuse, pleasure)
The above four listed points can vary depending on countries and there policy but the one that is listed in the bottom will stay as long as human being exit on this planet.
I am sorry to say but I know it has no end.
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
Comments on "What is your call?"
Just when I was writing the comments on your blog, something happened I do not know who did it but something really worse happened. The worse means, I was about to finish the comments but somehow I could not submit it in your blog because whole comments were deleted by mistake.
I am little surprised who did this? Was it me? Should I blame on the Keyboard of the computer? Should I blame on the God? Should I blame on your Web page, tell me Mr. Coelho?
What should I do? Should I say that it was my fingers which went on these keyboards and accidentally something happened? I am little confused to think NOW.
I think the previous comments that I wrote was better, I think that those comments has beautiful insights on how to express feelings at this particular moment.
What should I do now? Should I say that, I am feeling bad or should i think God does not wanted to show my true potentials for your valued question? I want your help, Just tell me what should I think? Should I think whatever happened was not my mistake or should I think that what am doing is not good?
There are many answers by many authors in your blog and I have read most of them. Some of them are stating that, they have published the books on there web pages, some of them are posting that they want to listen music, learn and educate and some still do not know what is there call?
What would be the best answer ? Our vision and emotions drive our action, but I am worried that you will not like my comment because this comment is not good then the before. The comment which I was going to "just submit", which was far better than the comment which I am writing it now.
Who is to blame on this situation? or I think I should just ignore it completely and do not blame on anybody else. Why am I thinking that this comment is not better than the comment that I wrote previously, why am I thinking that I am not good reader than others who read your questions and answer them regularly? Well, I think I should accept the things as they are.
However, How can I forget the previous event that happened just before my eyes. The comments that I was writing could not be successfully be posted because something flashed in the Screen of my computer and it went disappearing. I was so disappointed. I think I should not, but I could not forget that event. I want to but i cannot.
Let me stop now. As far as my understanding of the question- it stated that,what is that I am doing now, or thinking now ? Tell me if I am wrong.
Well, all the above sentences and paragraphs will explain you that I was fighting to right good comment on this post. This is what I was trying to do and I was all the time thinking about what is that I am doing? Since I was thinking on what is that I am doing, I was all the time thinking the event that happened just before my eyes and writing in this blog about it.
Please read this article which was published in the Newspaper
http://mybheja.blogspot.com/2007/07/live-in-moment.aspx
After reading this article you will learn what I was trying to tell you.
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Live in the moment
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Live in the moment
Past was never yours
Future will be yours
Today is the Present
Live in this Present
Actions are driven thoughts
Like a flowing river
We create and Change
We fell and wake up
But any given moment
Will show us, tell us
Speak for us and teaches us
That we are a Human
An animal which thinks
At any given moment
with pleasure and happiness
With joy and forgiveness
With sorrow and happiness
We are just humans
My dear child, Just humans
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Merry Christmas and Happy New Year 2009 to you all. May the power of God give you what you want,
tell you what you want to hear,
listen you what you want to say,
teach you what you want to learn,
show you what you want to see,
smells what you want to blossom,
May the power of God delivers you, everything.
I am little surprised who did this? Was it me? Should I blame on the Keyboard of the computer? Should I blame on the God? Should I blame on your Web page, tell me Mr. Coelho?
What should I do? Should I say that it was my fingers which went on these keyboards and accidentally something happened? I am little confused to think NOW.
I think the previous comments that I wrote was better, I think that those comments has beautiful insights on how to express feelings at this particular moment.
What should I do now? Should I say that, I am feeling bad or should i think God does not wanted to show my true potentials for your valued question? I want your help, Just tell me what should I think? Should I think whatever happened was not my mistake or should I think that what am doing is not good?
There are many answers by many authors in your blog and I have read most of them. Some of them are stating that, they have published the books on there web pages, some of them are posting that they want to listen music, learn and educate and some still do not know what is there call?
What would be the best answer ? Our vision and emotions drive our action, but I am worried that you will not like my comment because this comment is not good then the before. The comment which I was going to "just submit", which was far better than the comment which I am writing it now.
Who is to blame on this situation? or I think I should just ignore it completely and do not blame on anybody else. Why am I thinking that this comment is not better than the comment that I wrote previously, why am I thinking that I am not good reader than others who read your questions and answer them regularly? Well, I think I should accept the things as they are.
However, How can I forget the previous event that happened just before my eyes. The comments that I was writing could not be successfully be posted because something flashed in the Screen of my computer and it went disappearing. I was so disappointed. I think I should not, but I could not forget that event. I want to but i cannot.
Let me stop now. As far as my understanding of the question- it stated that,what is that I am doing now, or thinking now ? Tell me if I am wrong.
Well, all the above sentences and paragraphs will explain you that I was fighting to right good comment on this post. This is what I was trying to do and I was all the time thinking about what is that I am doing? Since I was thinking on what is that I am doing, I was all the time thinking the event that happened just before my eyes and writing in this blog about it.
Please read this article which was published in the Newspaper
http://mybheja.blogspot.com/2007/07/live-in-moment.aspx
After reading this article you will learn what I was trying to tell you.
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Live in the moment
---------------------
Live in the moment
Past was never yours
Future will be yours
Today is the Present
Live in this Present
Actions are driven thoughts
Like a flowing river
We create and Change
We fell and wake up
But any given moment
Will show us, tell us
Speak for us and teaches us
That we are a Human
An animal which thinks
At any given moment
with pleasure and happiness
With joy and forgiveness
With sorrow and happiness
We are just humans
My dear child, Just humans
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Merry Christmas and Happy New Year 2009 to you all. May the power of God give you what you want,
tell you what you want to hear,
listen you what you want to say,
teach you what you want to learn,
show you what you want to see,
smells what you want to blossom,
May the power of God delivers you, everything.
Sunday, December 21, 2008
Story begins...
Now I do not know why, but it feels that today she is going to take this big step and come close to me. She is the most beautiful women that I have seen. She is ever changing and blazing like never before. She looks much prettier than the red rose.
What is wrong today with this climate? Why is there sun shining when it should not shine. The temperature is below the zero and today the sun is shining above my head. Oh ! God, I am little worried but at the same time I am little happy. I want to see her. I want to take her into my arms and feel the heat.
The heat of two hearts, the hearts which are far from each other. But No way, the distance cannot make it difficult for us. The distance will never create a problem. I know. Whatever it takes, I will go and see her. Whatever be the situation- even if God does not want me to let me go, I want to just see her.
Is there any wrong in seeing the person you like? Is there any mistake that I commit in doing the things my heart wants to do? Do I have to see the difference that society sees as the blockage? Why do people talk about the sex, religion, caste, age and many of such bullish non-sense? Why should I care? I have come to the conlcusion that if we see the difference and if I see those from the eyes of the people, then I am not being myself. I am being them.
I do not want to be them no, no way. I just want to be myself. I know she like me not the society, not my race, color, religion, age and whatever. I know, she just wants to see me as I want to see her. I know she has this dramatic blaze of glory inside her. When we are together, we are only together and we do not see the world around. I know this is the most beautiful thing ever one person can imagine. I do not want to say Good bye to her. Never! I have started hating the word Goodbye. I do not now why but I do not like Goodbyes now.
She is the one. The beautiful wedding dress and the beautiful look just makes me crazy all the time. I am alive now. She makes me alive. She is the one who I always wanted. I see if we had already met before. I think we had met already before. Not in this present relationship but in the past. I know I went to war and I could not come back home. I know she waited for me. I know I have done wrong by asking her to wait for me. She was alone, She was all the time waiting for me. Every day, when she looked outside from her window, there was fear and desperation in her eyes. The desire of seeing me with my bags running and coming close to her. Smiling all the time. But after a while- sun will feel the shyness and go and hide into the darkness. She waited for me so long.
I am sorry that I made her wait. I do not want to loose her again. She is the one that I have waited for more than sixteen months. She is the true beauty that I cannot stop admiring. She is the most precious gift that I ever wanted. She is the best thing that have ever happened to me. Oh God, I am so alive now. I want to start writing about all these. I want to dedicate my life is telling the story to all. I want to say that, such a romantic love and evolve from the beauty of our story. This is the story which needs to be told. This is the story which has to come out and give the lessons to those who never have fallen in love before. This is the story also for those who fight in every day life about not living together, this is the real story of these two couple who cannot live without each other even just for a second.
The journey has started and let this journey now begin...
(Author is working on a new project)
What is wrong today with this climate? Why is there sun shining when it should not shine. The temperature is below the zero and today the sun is shining above my head. Oh ! God, I am little worried but at the same time I am little happy. I want to see her. I want to take her into my arms and feel the heat.
The heat of two hearts, the hearts which are far from each other. But No way, the distance cannot make it difficult for us. The distance will never create a problem. I know. Whatever it takes, I will go and see her. Whatever be the situation- even if God does not want me to let me go, I want to just see her.
Is there any wrong in seeing the person you like? Is there any mistake that I commit in doing the things my heart wants to do? Do I have to see the difference that society sees as the blockage? Why do people talk about the sex, religion, caste, age and many of such bullish non-sense? Why should I care? I have come to the conlcusion that if we see the difference and if I see those from the eyes of the people, then I am not being myself. I am being them.
I do not want to be them no, no way. I just want to be myself. I know she like me not the society, not my race, color, religion, age and whatever. I know, she just wants to see me as I want to see her. I know she has this dramatic blaze of glory inside her. When we are together, we are only together and we do not see the world around. I know this is the most beautiful thing ever one person can imagine. I do not want to say Good bye to her. Never! I have started hating the word Goodbye. I do not now why but I do not like Goodbyes now.
She is the one. The beautiful wedding dress and the beautiful look just makes me crazy all the time. I am alive now. She makes me alive. She is the one who I always wanted. I see if we had already met before. I think we had met already before. Not in this present relationship but in the past. I know I went to war and I could not come back home. I know she waited for me. I know I have done wrong by asking her to wait for me. She was alone, She was all the time waiting for me. Every day, when she looked outside from her window, there was fear and desperation in her eyes. The desire of seeing me with my bags running and coming close to her. Smiling all the time. But after a while- sun will feel the shyness and go and hide into the darkness. She waited for me so long.
I am sorry that I made her wait. I do not want to loose her again. She is the one that I have waited for more than sixteen months. She is the true beauty that I cannot stop admiring. She is the most precious gift that I ever wanted. She is the best thing that have ever happened to me. Oh God, I am so alive now. I want to start writing about all these. I want to dedicate my life is telling the story to all. I want to say that, such a romantic love and evolve from the beauty of our story. This is the story which needs to be told. This is the story which has to come out and give the lessons to those who never have fallen in love before. This is the story also for those who fight in every day life about not living together, this is the real story of these two couple who cannot live without each other even just for a second.
The journey has started and let this journey now begin...
(Author is working on a new project)
Saturday, November 29, 2008
Moment
"Moment", a precious time,the moment defines not a running time but the stable time. The period which does not tick on, the clock which is stable for a while. This is called a moment.
A moment can give you a pleasure, a moment can bring loads of tears in your eyes. A moment will make you happy, a very moment will make you sad.
When every seconds we live is in the edge of dynamic moment. It is always changing. Moment that Mr. A experiences should be different then what Ms. B experienced.
As we can see, there are moments with every one with every moments people have experienced many good and bad virtues. Therefore, I always tell people that moments are changing all the time. It is never yours. It will create the memories but it does not last long.
There are many good moments in my life but are all these moments really memorable ? Do I really want to cherish all of these moments? Should I filter the best moments and describe it with true beauty ? How should I tell what is good or bad ? Everything in the world is based on "dualism".
The concept where, there are two sides for the same coin. There are two aspects for example in electricity- on and off, there are only two bits in computers: 0 and 1, there are two things in human life: either you live or you die, there are two ways to look at many different things around the world.
If I have to judge a moment in my life, then I will say- every seconds that I live is full of pleasurable moments. These moments are helping me to create my life. I am because of these moments. These moments are dynamic and changing all the time. I know which one is the best and which one is the worst.
But again, I will keep both of them alive. I know those around me who have experienced the bad moments but I will like to tell them how to keep it alive. Nothing should be taken in bad ways, Everything whatever happens, happens for good. There is nothing permanent on this mother earth/
Every object around has life. Whatever you see, whatever you touch, whatever you have purchased last week is yours. The object when you purchased was given to you. It started living with you. Suddenly one fine day- you decided to eat, use, kill, hang, throw and do whatever things with these objects.
While using you will some times remember some of these object but some of them you will not. For e.g. the "pen" that your best friend gave you last Christmas, the gift that your husband gave you last summer which stays with you all the time. I am sorry to say but let us say, your husband is no more and you still have that precious gift that he gave you. That created the moment, the object was born and object is living with you.
The "moment" when your husband gave you this gift, turned into "memories". The object still remains, it is yours and no body can take aways from you. Nobody ! Not even God !!!
"Every step of success or failure we make, is the step some one has already taken"
This quote is mine please give credit when you use it some where. Why am I saying this ? What value do I get when I say that you should give the credit to the creator ? Because, your creation remains but those who created this should also remain. The same idea is with the object and the moment. It is very simple ! See.
Without "moment" there is nothing, and with "moment" there is something which does not want to let go. It will remain deep inside me and us. It will only go when our body will turned into sands and the our creation will be cherised by some one like you who is reading it right now !
Have a great weekend ! :)
A moment can give you a pleasure, a moment can bring loads of tears in your eyes. A moment will make you happy, a very moment will make you sad.
When every seconds we live is in the edge of dynamic moment. It is always changing. Moment that Mr. A experiences should be different then what Ms. B experienced.
As we can see, there are moments with every one with every moments people have experienced many good and bad virtues. Therefore, I always tell people that moments are changing all the time. It is never yours. It will create the memories but it does not last long.
There are many good moments in my life but are all these moments really memorable ? Do I really want to cherish all of these moments? Should I filter the best moments and describe it with true beauty ? How should I tell what is good or bad ? Everything in the world is based on "dualism".
The concept where, there are two sides for the same coin. There are two aspects for example in electricity- on and off, there are only two bits in computers: 0 and 1, there are two things in human life: either you live or you die, there are two ways to look at many different things around the world.
If I have to judge a moment in my life, then I will say- every seconds that I live is full of pleasurable moments. These moments are helping me to create my life. I am because of these moments. These moments are dynamic and changing all the time. I know which one is the best and which one is the worst.
But again, I will keep both of them alive. I know those around me who have experienced the bad moments but I will like to tell them how to keep it alive. Nothing should be taken in bad ways, Everything whatever happens, happens for good. There is nothing permanent on this mother earth/
Every object around has life. Whatever you see, whatever you touch, whatever you have purchased last week is yours. The object when you purchased was given to you. It started living with you. Suddenly one fine day- you decided to eat, use, kill, hang, throw and do whatever things with these objects.
While using you will some times remember some of these object but some of them you will not. For e.g. the "pen" that your best friend gave you last Christmas, the gift that your husband gave you last summer which stays with you all the time. I am sorry to say but let us say, your husband is no more and you still have that precious gift that he gave you. That created the moment, the object was born and object is living with you.
The "moment" when your husband gave you this gift, turned into "memories". The object still remains, it is yours and no body can take aways from you. Nobody ! Not even God !!!
"Every step of success or failure we make, is the step some one has already taken"
This quote is mine please give credit when you use it some where. Why am I saying this ? What value do I get when I say that you should give the credit to the creator ? Because, your creation remains but those who created this should also remain. The same idea is with the object and the moment. It is very simple ! See.
Without "moment" there is nothing, and with "moment" there is something which does not want to let go. It will remain deep inside me and us. It will only go when our body will turned into sands and the our creation will be cherised by some one like you who is reading it right now !
Have a great weekend ! :)
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
Passionate about the things you do !
Welcome to new fresh day ! With joy and happiness all around, every new beginning is amazing experience, it gives pleasure to wake up and then the eternal minds start thinking on daily events. When you are just awake, the very moment when we are awake is the moment which is ours and ours alone.
This very moment, no one will take away from you. It is the moment yours and yours alone. This moment gives you pleasure, this is only moment which is your personal.Slowly, when you start thinking then this moment is taken away from you. Then you start thinking on maternal world such as work, career, life, love so on and so forth.
When you have thousand of words floating in your mind, these words has to be kept somewhere, it has to come out of your little brain. These thoughts are not random, these thoughts are not useless, These are the thoughts which can change some one's life. Why on earth I keep on reminding these things ? It is because, I know whatever I am doing is not wrong. I know I am not committing any crime. I know I am not killing any person or animals. Whatever I am doing, is not for awards or recognition.
I am doing if for you, I am doing for those who need these suggestions and advice. Even though, I am not perfect ! Even though I know I am not good at compiling my work and presenting it in correct, coherent manner. I think still it is understandable. I know this is not good way of writing but I should not stop or get discourage by this way of presenting my thoughts.
Every day brings new joy and new thoughts, let us flow with it. Let us discuss flora and fauna, let us discuss love and poetry, let us discuss the thinking on your mind and mine.
I notice today that, we are not perfect and we do not get all the skills from the birth. One example is great scientist Albert Einstein. His brain was not different than any other normal, ordinary human brain. Many Researchers did experiment on his brain but what was the end result ? They concluded by stating that, his brain our exactly similar with the brain of any other average mind. They still cannot find out how he could think in different ways than average mind.
Let me give my opinion on this. This is very simple. The answer lies in question. He was an average mind. There is no difference in the mind of humans but there is difference in how the thoughts are generated in the minds of humans. The thoughts generation is different in different people based on environment, culture, country, family, friends, and religion. Now the first question any one will ask me is- how are the thoughts generated ?
The thoughts are generated through our senses. We have five senses, when we utilize these sense then something triggers in our brain, which results into the thoughts. These thoughts will be based on what you are asking with your self ? What do you want ? What is your real vision and motto ? What do you want to achieve ? What are your inner necessity ? Are you devoted to learn ? Are you devoted to give ? Are you devoted to care ? Based on your devotion, based on your commitment to your own self, you think.
Let me give you one illustration how this might work !
Here is Ms. A, Let us assume she woke up early in the morning now the very few seconds, she will not think anything. She is on her own. She knows this is the best part. After certain time interval, she starts thinking on what to do next ? Before she starts thinking on what to do next, she questions herself. She says, "what am I going to do?".
When she completely understands what she is going to do then she starts doing this for the entire day. In between, there could be many more thoughts generation and they can be based on her own priorities, What she wants ? What she likes ? What she dislikes ?
This is one example of how thoughts could be generated. But Let us not go deeper into this issue, and let me stop it now. Because, I know this has many implications and these thinking cannot be generalized yet.
What is the moral of the story for today ?
Think, we thinking will result ideas,
With ideas, you will learn
By learning, you will want others to learn
When you want others to learn,
You will love what you do
When you love what you do
You may be called Artist
But you know you are more than that,
You do, because you want to give
When you want to give, you only think
You are happy and curious
But most importantly, you are passionate
About what you do !
This very moment, no one will take away from you. It is the moment yours and yours alone. This moment gives you pleasure, this is only moment which is your personal.Slowly, when you start thinking then this moment is taken away from you. Then you start thinking on maternal world such as work, career, life, love so on and so forth.
When you have thousand of words floating in your mind, these words has to be kept somewhere, it has to come out of your little brain. These thoughts are not random, these thoughts are not useless, These are the thoughts which can change some one's life. Why on earth I keep on reminding these things ? It is because, I know whatever I am doing is not wrong. I know I am not committing any crime. I know I am not killing any person or animals. Whatever I am doing, is not for awards or recognition.
I am doing if for you, I am doing for those who need these suggestions and advice. Even though, I am not perfect ! Even though I know I am not good at compiling my work and presenting it in correct, coherent manner. I think still it is understandable. I know this is not good way of writing but I should not stop or get discourage by this way of presenting my thoughts.
Every day brings new joy and new thoughts, let us flow with it. Let us discuss flora and fauna, let us discuss love and poetry, let us discuss the thinking on your mind and mine.
I notice today that, we are not perfect and we do not get all the skills from the birth. One example is great scientist Albert Einstein. His brain was not different than any other normal, ordinary human brain. Many Researchers did experiment on his brain but what was the end result ? They concluded by stating that, his brain our exactly similar with the brain of any other average mind. They still cannot find out how he could think in different ways than average mind.
Let me give my opinion on this. This is very simple. The answer lies in question. He was an average mind. There is no difference in the mind of humans but there is difference in how the thoughts are generated in the minds of humans. The thoughts generation is different in different people based on environment, culture, country, family, friends, and religion. Now the first question any one will ask me is- how are the thoughts generated ?
The thoughts are generated through our senses. We have five senses, when we utilize these sense then something triggers in our brain, which results into the thoughts. These thoughts will be based on what you are asking with your self ? What do you want ? What is your real vision and motto ? What do you want to achieve ? What are your inner necessity ? Are you devoted to learn ? Are you devoted to give ? Are you devoted to care ? Based on your devotion, based on your commitment to your own self, you think.
Let me give you one illustration how this might work !
Here is Ms. A, Let us assume she woke up early in the morning now the very few seconds, she will not think anything. She is on her own. She knows this is the best part. After certain time interval, she starts thinking on what to do next ? Before she starts thinking on what to do next, she questions herself. She says, "what am I going to do?".
When she completely understands what she is going to do then she starts doing this for the entire day. In between, there could be many more thoughts generation and they can be based on her own priorities, What she wants ? What she likes ? What she dislikes ?
This is one example of how thoughts could be generated. But Let us not go deeper into this issue, and let me stop it now. Because, I know this has many implications and these thinking cannot be generalized yet.
What is the moral of the story for today ?
Think, we thinking will result ideas,
With ideas, you will learn
By learning, you will want others to learn
When you want others to learn,
You will love what you do
When you love what you do
You may be called Artist
But you know you are more than that,
You do, because you want to give
When you want to give, you only think
You are happy and curious
But most importantly, you are passionate
About what you do !
Sunday, November 23, 2008
Sunday, November 9, 2008
Saturday night.
Here are we now, in the middle of nowhere ! A jobcuts everywhere around the globe. As the economy is going down and unemployment is getting higher. One day there will no job in this planet.
Everything will be done by machine. As the laziness sides is increasing in more general way. There will be lesser and lesser opportunity to explore. I am not generalizing but this is my point of view.
A very good Saturday to start with, there was one movie that I enjoyed and I recommend to watch you to. "The Ninth Gate (1999)". A movie truly exceptional and one of the masterpiece.
A movie is about the book. The theme behind the movies is that, behind all book there is a story. Behind this movies also there is a story about the book. Truly exceptional and mind blowing.
To create you need creativity.
To learn you need motivation.
To admire you need study.
To think you need nothing.
To do all of these at once, you need courage.
and To not to do all of these, you need laziness in you.
How comfortable the life is, and how much more comfortable we want it to be? It depends on our logical mind. Once we think we are into the safe zone of our life, we just want to enjoy as much as comfort as possible but once we think we are in dead zone of our life, we just need to take it more seriously. We then strive for the excellence.
Nothing is far from the truth and nothing can be go beyond the truth. Everything that is done, or followed is based on the boundaries of the truth. Imagine a day, where you speak nothing but the truth. Later re-evaluate on the same subject. Did you really spoke the truth.
How about for example when you meet somebody unknown and suddenly you jump into too quickly and say, "It was my pleasure to meet you". Did you really felt this pleasure of what you just said.
Truth is not easy to evaluate. Truth should be spoken first with yourself. Those who just want to show how "genius" they are spread it around them. And those who we remember as "genius" had kept inside of them for the years. They knew that, Truth is not the element which can be shown but is just had to be felt. Are you really speaking or saying what you meant? Did you spoke the truth today? A hour ago, ...
Well, it can be elaborated and any thing can be said on this matter. Whatever it is, or whenever it might begin or start just follow and listen to what you want in life. It is the matter of the fact that, nobody comes easy. But again, it depends on how quickly you want or need them for yourself to be get it done. !
Have a great weekend ! :)
Everything will be done by machine. As the laziness sides is increasing in more general way. There will be lesser and lesser opportunity to explore. I am not generalizing but this is my point of view.
A very good Saturday to start with, there was one movie that I enjoyed and I recommend to watch you to. "The Ninth Gate (1999)". A movie truly exceptional and one of the masterpiece.
A movie is about the book. The theme behind the movies is that, behind all book there is a story. Behind this movies also there is a story about the book. Truly exceptional and mind blowing.
To create you need creativity.
To learn you need motivation.
To admire you need study.
To think you need nothing.
To do all of these at once, you need courage.
and To not to do all of these, you need laziness in you.
How comfortable the life is, and how much more comfortable we want it to be? It depends on our logical mind. Once we think we are into the safe zone of our life, we just want to enjoy as much as comfort as possible but once we think we are in dead zone of our life, we just need to take it more seriously. We then strive for the excellence.
Nothing is far from the truth and nothing can be go beyond the truth. Everything that is done, or followed is based on the boundaries of the truth. Imagine a day, where you speak nothing but the truth. Later re-evaluate on the same subject. Did you really spoke the truth.
How about for example when you meet somebody unknown and suddenly you jump into too quickly and say, "It was my pleasure to meet you". Did you really felt this pleasure of what you just said.
Truth is not easy to evaluate. Truth should be spoken first with yourself. Those who just want to show how "genius" they are spread it around them. And those who we remember as "genius" had kept inside of them for the years. They knew that, Truth is not the element which can be shown but is just had to be felt. Are you really speaking or saying what you meant? Did you spoke the truth today? A hour ago, ...
Well, it can be elaborated and any thing can be said on this matter. Whatever it is, or whenever it might begin or start just follow and listen to what you want in life. It is the matter of the fact that, nobody comes easy. But again, it depends on how quickly you want or need them for yourself to be get it done. !
Have a great weekend ! :)
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
A man full of truth inside.
As usual,life is running in the roller coaster. It travels in the faster pace then never before. Sometimes I realize that, it is not the life which is traveling in the faster pace but it is just my imagination which moves faster than my knowledge.
Talking about imagination, Einstein has rightly said that-"Imagination is better than knowledge". I think he is right. When a person imagines something- there is no limit, it is open, his mind is free, he does what he think is really good for him/her, he goes far beyond any boundaries, he is open to accept and give, he is selfless, he has no personal desires, he thinks, and then he behaves very childish, people might look at him as if- the person who is imagining is mad, psycho, looks weired and strange but he is similar to those who are existing in the earth. Only difference he has-"he is able to see what everybody has seen but he can think what nobody has thought". He is the the person full of imagination. You can call him a a man full of truth.
Later today, I was reading a article about "existence of human evolution being stopped".
You can find the article at the following link-
http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/science/article4894696.ece
Here is what I have to say, in response.
Human evolution prediction is good topic to catch the readers attention. A reader will surely go through the article and think that there are no more human evolving in the near future. I want to ask, Professor Steve Jones that, "how can you predict that tomorrow you are going to be hit by a car ?" or tomorrow you are going to meet some accident ? Can you predict that ? Forget about tomorrow, the very next second or the very next clock tick cannot be easily predicted, how can you be so sure that human evolution has come to an end ?
It is good to catch the readers opinion and show that, "my prediction is going to happen". There has been no one who can predict without being predicting about himself.
Evolution will not stop, it will alway be in constant movement. It will stop only when the existence of human will be no longer. I do not know, if we evolved the way it is taught in the books but I think, it is just a "sugar for my tea".
I hope, your hard work is based on correct facts !
Talking about imagination, Einstein has rightly said that-"Imagination is better than knowledge". I think he is right. When a person imagines something- there is no limit, it is open, his mind is free, he does what he think is really good for him/her, he goes far beyond any boundaries, he is open to accept and give, he is selfless, he has no personal desires, he thinks, and then he behaves very childish, people might look at him as if- the person who is imagining is mad, psycho, looks weired and strange but he is similar to those who are existing in the earth. Only difference he has-"he is able to see what everybody has seen but he can think what nobody has thought". He is the the person full of imagination. You can call him a a man full of truth.
Later today, I was reading a article about "existence of human evolution being stopped".
You can find the article at the following link-
http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/science/article4894696.ece
Here is what I have to say, in response.
Human evolution prediction is good topic to catch the readers attention. A reader will surely go through the article and think that there are no more human evolving in the near future. I want to ask, Professor Steve Jones that, "how can you predict that tomorrow you are going to be hit by a car ?" or tomorrow you are going to meet some accident ? Can you predict that ? Forget about tomorrow, the very next second or the very next clock tick cannot be easily predicted, how can you be so sure that human evolution has come to an end ?
It is good to catch the readers opinion and show that, "my prediction is going to happen". There has been no one who can predict without being predicting about himself.
Evolution will not stop, it will alway be in constant movement. It will stop only when the existence of human will be no longer. I do not know, if we evolved the way it is taught in the books but I think, it is just a "sugar for my tea".
I hope, your hard work is based on correct facts !
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
Happiness.
One of the friend send me the pictures in my email and I liked this picture so much that I am writing something about it. Look carefully at the picture and look again. Look for some minutes and now compare these picture with your life. Think about your life with this picture and ask one question to yourself- Are you happy ?
The happiest people in the world are not with blue collar shirts and working in big multinational companies. The happiness lies in sharing emotions together. Happiness lies in being satisfied with what you have got not with what you will get in future.
Happiness is taken very seriously in many ways in the life. Some times happiness is just measured with the person who smiles is thought as happy, some time we read something about the great people and stories about them and we think those people are very happy. Money can never buy you happiness, neither can marriage or any relationship does not come with package of "happiness".
Happiness is being, happiness comes along with satisfied mind. The worry face does not say that a person is happy or not happy. The surprising face will not tell you that if a person is happy or not. The face will just give a picture of the person but once you talk and share your emotions with others then you realize if the person is really happy or not.
Happiness and sadness are two opposite things and these two opposite have one common meeting point. The meeting point is that sadness will always remain with you. It is in you. It can come any times as is happiness. But happiness doesn't stay longer. Sadness will with you all the time. It is your best friend, (if you do not have one.)
Therefore, happiness is a very good thing and again, it can be bad thing, It is bad because it will remain with you only for very short period of the time and after that it will go away. It is momentary,it comes and goes with the moment. It is due to the fact that you had a pleasant moment in your life and that pleasant moment is somewhere stored in your memory that always reminds you about it.
It keeps on coming, and you think about the moment and you never stop thinking about it over and over again. You like it so much that you think you are the happiest person in the world. But, you are not. You can be happy only when you are satisfied with what you have and you do not expect anything from your life. Can we be satisfied with what we have ? Never, simply because we are human beings and it is rooted in us that, we always are in need of something. We always want more.
The pictures speaks more than my words. Look again at that picture and related to your life in past and now in present. See what you have achieved. Look in the mirror and ask yourelf if you are really happy with your luxurious things or you were happy when you did not had any of those material possessions.
The most important thing in life is to satisfy your needs together with those who care about you. The most important thing can be achieved by knowing your self and your own life together with those around you. It is easy.
It does not matter if I do not have a car
It does not matter if I cannot buy you a house.
Only thing that matter is my dear, I care more than myself about you.
I may live longer but I do not know that
Because I know who am I
and I care will die one day saying, "I loved you" so much.
It does not matter if I do not have enough money
I will rest assure you that, I will work hard to feed us.
It does not matter, if I am alone and you are far.
Distance cannot tear our love apart
I hope it all pays off one day
Together we will see this day
It does not matter whatever my words say
I know we will land up one day in the paradise
It does not matter if it will be heaven or hell
but It matters that you will be with me...
Happiness is not known to us
but we will share this broken bed,
Our kids may sleep together in it
Our dogs may sleep together with us
It does not matter if we do not have golden bed
It does not matter if we do not have pet rooms
It does not matter if we do not have our child room
Only thing that matter would be you.
Only thing that matter would be us, together in a room.
Sharing our satisfaction of being all together.
Having fun, and being satisfied with all we have done.
It does not matter ...
Monday, September 8, 2008
Little words
Today is the fresh start of the new age, the age which many has already spent doing something in there life. Well, every weekdays starts with the Monday and the Monday's are not so good for me. I know the fact that every day is the same day and it does not make difference to anyone for any day. The day as food is not bad by itself. It is our taste that says, it is bad or it is terrible. Similarly, the day itself is not bad but it is my mood that always says to me that, this day is not good for you.
Something wrong will happen to you. I do not know weather you call this as psychological things but it is the process of mind which creates such an atmosphere.
To answer the why is the biggest difficulties in modern world. We are born in such a way that we never want to question the facts such as why is 2+2=4 ?, why is earth round ? Why is my religion this and your religion that.. why I have to wear clothes even in summer ? Why ? These facts are learned and hard coded in our memory. These do not change easily.
When something that we learned are encoded in our brain, it is very difficult to take it out. For example, we know the place where we live and that will not go at any cost. But when we learn the skills those skill might go away once we do not practice them at all.
These skills have to be practice all the time. Whatever way the brain learns the object around,is not the matter of discussion here.
However, it is good that one should always have to follow the heart and listen to brain. Once you follow what you are going to do next in your life then you will end up in the right position.
Something wrong will happen to you. I do not know weather you call this as psychological things but it is the process of mind which creates such an atmosphere.
To answer the why is the biggest difficulties in modern world. We are born in such a way that we never want to question the facts such as why is 2+2=4 ?, why is earth round ? Why is my religion this and your religion that.. why I have to wear clothes even in summer ? Why ? These facts are learned and hard coded in our memory. These do not change easily.
When something that we learned are encoded in our brain, it is very difficult to take it out. For example, we know the place where we live and that will not go at any cost. But when we learn the skills those skill might go away once we do not practice them at all.
These skills have to be practice all the time. Whatever way the brain learns the object around,is not the matter of discussion here.
However, it is good that one should always have to follow the heart and listen to brain. Once you follow what you are going to do next in your life then you will end up in the right position.
Sunday, August 31, 2008
Know yourself better.
To those who do not know what is life. To those who do not know what is love. To those who do not know what is relationship. To those who do not know what is friendship. To those who do not know what is sharing. To those who do not know what is ..
I have only one thing to say- live in simplicity.It is the best way to live a life. You do not know about many great things in life,then you know what it means to be alive. If you know what all these factors mean then you are assuming something from your perspective which does not mean anything.
The difference between the things and the perception that is our perceptions are two different things. It does not have to be one or single. It does not have to get matched.
It can match sometimes but many of the times it does not match. Ask what is love to that women who is waiting her husband to return back after a year or two, Ask that person who is in desert thirsty and do not have water; what is thirst, ask that person who is in war; what is life.
These people will tell you about the proper definition of life, love, thirst,relationship and so on.
Whatever we define is based on our perspective which does not give the real meaning of these aspects in life. Whatever way we want to put it. Life comes with full of suprises and it every corner you will meet different people with different style of there own.
To start any kind of the relationship, first important thing is to understand the person. Ask, try to know what kind of person he/she is. Try to figure out his own goals, or dreams, and now after you realized or did your homework on this particular person. Now, you can think of your own goals, dreams,aims and match these with the other person. Do you really now want to be with the person ? Is it only the sex which will keep your relationship alive ? Well, think about it again.
Even though we are in relationship with person, we always the appreciate the beautiful girls, we always like the ones with good boobs and good hips. It is our Nature. Acutally, it is the mens nature.
To show to others I am very much committed in the relationship and to just simply speak the truth is different again. Therefore, it is always good to know or understand yourself. The biggest question now is-how ?
Well, that remains with you. It is upto you to know or understand yourself. I am leaving it upto you to know yourself better.
I have only one thing to say- live in simplicity.It is the best way to live a life. You do not know about many great things in life,then you know what it means to be alive. If you know what all these factors mean then you are assuming something from your perspective which does not mean anything.
The difference between the things and the perception that is our perceptions are two different things. It does not have to be one or single. It does not have to get matched.
It can match sometimes but many of the times it does not match. Ask what is love to that women who is waiting her husband to return back after a year or two, Ask that person who is in desert thirsty and do not have water; what is thirst, ask that person who is in war; what is life.
These people will tell you about the proper definition of life, love, thirst,relationship and so on.
Whatever we define is based on our perspective which does not give the real meaning of these aspects in life. Whatever way we want to put it. Life comes with full of suprises and it every corner you will meet different people with different style of there own.
To start any kind of the relationship, first important thing is to understand the person. Ask, try to know what kind of person he/she is. Try to figure out his own goals, or dreams, and now after you realized or did your homework on this particular person. Now, you can think of your own goals, dreams,aims and match these with the other person. Do you really now want to be with the person ? Is it only the sex which will keep your relationship alive ? Well, think about it again.
Even though we are in relationship with person, we always the appreciate the beautiful girls, we always like the ones with good boobs and good hips. It is our Nature. Acutally, it is the mens nature.
To show to others I am very much committed in the relationship and to just simply speak the truth is different again. Therefore, it is always good to know or understand yourself. The biggest question now is-how ?
Well, that remains with you. It is upto you to know or understand yourself. I am leaving it upto you to know yourself better.
Friday, August 8, 2008
Scald-2008
Couple of days ago, I came into the Scalds 2008, in Sweden. Right now at the present I am in Fiskoboda the name of the place in sweden. It is really getting exciting with every day. The day before that is on the 6th of August, 2008. The day started with the Conference in the expressive mood however, it was not as it should have been or as we might have expected.
I was representing the Finland. We all were invited for this conference from the different countries. Scandevia together with other countries were invited for the conference. The conference has loads of practical skill training, grouping together, networking and having loads of skill session to learn, educate, discuss and of-course party and have fun in the conference.
The entire things is about the organization called AIESEC. The theme for the conference was "Leadership development". The theme was highly big topic and I guess, this theme has loads of delegate thinking how a person will gain leadership ideas and so on.
What I personally belive was there were really some sucking plenary and boring early morning discussion as of now. Right now I am having this stupid discussion about something which is irrevelant. By the time every body is shouting in this hall I thought of something esle and start to blog about it.
How would some one hear properly when every body is talking in the room ? This is really boring part of the early morning sessions. One of the good thing we learned was "Home group". The home group has different nationalities and one leader leading his way to the home group.
In this home group, we get to know each other together with that we get to play different practical skills. There are some games related with the leadership skills. Yesterday, when I started my day it was really boring but later when we started the session with the home group, it all flied.
I felt it good and my mood was really getting better with the day progressing and with the day in the home group. Most of the times in AIESEC there is late night parties with some theme. Two parties has been finished with the first theme belonging to Ice age and the second with PinaCola.
Some couple of more days to go and not expecting anything out of this conference simply because I do not expect anything in life too. How can some one ask me to expect something from a conference or any event.
Most important things in life is knowing people, sharing and understanding what they want to achieve in life and so on.
I was representing the Finland. We all were invited for this conference from the different countries. Scandevia together with other countries were invited for the conference. The conference has loads of practical skill training, grouping together, networking and having loads of skill session to learn, educate, discuss and of-course party and have fun in the conference.
The entire things is about the organization called AIESEC. The theme for the conference was "Leadership development". The theme was highly big topic and I guess, this theme has loads of delegate thinking how a person will gain leadership ideas and so on.
What I personally belive was there were really some sucking plenary and boring early morning discussion as of now. Right now I am having this stupid discussion about something which is irrevelant. By the time every body is shouting in this hall I thought of something esle and start to blog about it.
How would some one hear properly when every body is talking in the room ? This is really boring part of the early morning sessions. One of the good thing we learned was "Home group". The home group has different nationalities and one leader leading his way to the home group.
In this home group, we get to know each other together with that we get to play different practical skills. There are some games related with the leadership skills. Yesterday, when I started my day it was really boring but later when we started the session with the home group, it all flied.
I felt it good and my mood was really getting better with the day progressing and with the day in the home group. Most of the times in AIESEC there is late night parties with some theme. Two parties has been finished with the first theme belonging to Ice age and the second with PinaCola.
Some couple of more days to go and not expecting anything out of this conference simply because I do not expect anything in life too. How can some one ask me to expect something from a conference or any event.
Most important things in life is knowing people, sharing and understanding what they want to achieve in life and so on.
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