Q&A: SK

Dear all,

Q)What would be your view in the term ‘cheating’ and ‘faithful’ in a relationship?

A)If you have not kept relationship then the term, 'cheating' and 'faithful' would have different meanings but as you have asked 'in a relationship...' so these two words has little narrow scope. Here is what I would say,

In a relationship, 'cheating' is seen as sin, a crime, negligence, dominance. When you lack trust then you start to judge and show symptoms of different kinds of behavior to your partner. The lack of trust and lack of personal gain be it a sex, a change or different settings will result into cheating of the faithful partner. There are many settings and many scenarios for the cheating. The most common is girl having an affair with third party or, guy having an affair with third party.

-"To cheat your partner means lack of your own personal strength to satisfy your partner."

-"Cheating could could be because of lack of trust, change, motivation and satisfaction."

-"In today's world, very few or rarely you will find the true partner who will not cheat."

-"Only those chosen few are true lovers who believe in the power of love and respect mother, nature, self, humanity and environment. In addition those lovers remain as Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet Love story."

-"Cheating is a best medicine if you are not satisfied with your partner, go for it."

Now coming to another word which is, 'faithful'--

Do you believe in God? If you do, then you also believe in beauty, beast, demons and devils. If you don't then also you believe in beauty, beast, demons and devils.

In Christianity there is Satan, in Hinduism, there is Rawan, ...Similarly, ask yourself how much faithful are you with your own self? Can you kill the demon inside you? Can you live one year without having sex? Can you distance yourself with your partner and wait for him/her as long as he/she would come back again to see you? Can you...?

If your answer is 'yes, I can'
then
You are faithful child.
If your answer is 'no, I can't'
then
you are unfaithful child.


-"Believe or not to believe is your personal interest and it does not matter as long as you can alway change the your thinking according to time."

-"Being faithful in a relationship is like being faithful to the mother like a child."

I can write more but you should ask for it.

God bless you all !

Q&A: What is more important Love or trust?

Dear all,

Q)If you have to choose between a person you love and a person you trust in, which one would you choose? In other words, what’s more important in a relationship: love or trust?

A)Choose that person whom you love because the person whom you love, is the person whom you already trust, and that person whom you are trusting or have started to trust, you will slowly start to love.

Mr. A is lovable and Mr. A is nice, trustworthy. Choose Mr. A
Mr. A is not lovable and Mr. A is nice, trustworthy. Choose or Not

In relationship, love cannot proceed without trust and those who are trustworthy not necessarily are capable of love.

To be in safe side, as Paulo did- it is better to say, "Both".

But, Nothing is above Love nor below love. It is love which moves the earth, it is love which brings the sunlight and energy, it is love which makes you awake and enlightened. Without love there is nothing, everything will be void, everything will explode and erode.

God bless you all !

What is a Youth ?

Song: "What is a Youth"
Lyrics by Eugene Walter
Music by Nino Rota
Vocal by Glen Weston

And here is the lyric:
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What is a youth? Impetuous fire.
What is a maid? Ice and desire.
The world wags on.

A rose will bloom
It then will fade
So does a youth.
So do-o-o-oes the fairest maid.

Comes a time when one sweet smile
Has its season for a while...Then love's in love with me.
Some they think only to marry, Others will tease and tarry,
Mine is the very best parry. Cupid he rules us all.
Caper the cape, but sing me the song,
Death will come soon to hush us along.
Sweeter than honey and bitter as gall.
Love is a task and it never will pall.
Sweeter than honey...and bitter as gall
Cupid he rules us all

Happy Easter, Happy New Year (2066), Happy ...

Dear all,


Happy Easter to you all (human beings), and to all animals (birds, lions, elephants, ants,...) and to all other living beings (plants, objects, nature, climate, rain, lake, sea, stars, universe, sun,..)

"I am in pain and I know how it feels to be in pain. I bless you, you will never have pain in your life, after me." -Mybheja

Below is the poem which states that,

An old man is begging Lord, to take away his life. He cannot commit sucide because he is very old and he does not have love in his life so he is begging from lord to give him death, as soon as possible. I hope his prayers will be fulfilled.

(Afterwards, the poorest guy in earth will never appear anywhere...)



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I beg you lord
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I am begging for god to take away my life
I do not want to live, without love
Man who lives oneday and dies the same day
I am powerless, without energy
Oh love, why is it so difficult?
Differences dividing us

When would world understand?
Love is beyond any culture, age and religion
Love is very simple, beautiful
Your face with early morning sunrise
Your love for love

I do not want to live any longer
I don't know, why I am alive?
I am without you, you are without me
We need each other,
World is dividing thee

I am hoping beyond hope
You might just change your heart
Road ahead is difficult
Trust me, I am your only one

I am your only happiness,
Time will tell

There are two ways that you can choose
Easy is very easy and difficult very difficult
Easy will lead you to sorrow and pain, the end.
Difficult will ask you,"Kill yourself.", the beginning.

Mr. Happy and Mr. Difficult are best friends,
True loving friends, they live together, forever
Mr. Easy and Mr. Happy are enemies
False loving friends, they hate each other, ever and ever

Decide from your heart
I beg you lord, take away my soul from this useless body
I know now, the meaning of pain
Every time, I wake up I beg you to take away my life
I beg you lord, life is useless without love

A smile, a touch, a kiss, a hug
All are missing, for so long
I am begging you lord, to give me death
For so long,

I hope she will be happy
I know she will not be
Between "hope" and "knowing"
I am nobody who should decide
Her fate and her life
I am in pain and I know now, meaning of pain

I want to die but I cannot kill myself
I am too coward who fears death
O dear lord, I beg you to give death
I beg you lord, I beg you.

This human life, is for moment
In this moment, is my story
I am living in this moment
My story is living with me
Oneday, I will fade away
My story will fade away with me

I beg you lord, take away my life
I don't need this flesh, without soul
I don't need this world, without her love
I hate, cry, feel pain, suffer than
your sons has ever suffered,
Jesus, Krishna, Buddha, Mohmaad ...

I beg you lord, please take away my life
I beg you lord, I beg you...

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© Santosh Kalwar

God blesses you !

and

God bless you, all !

"What do you associate with Heart?"

"Heart". Here is one quote which my mind generated in less than few nano seconds. It says, "Heart is the place where "happiness" lies".

As you mentioned Paulo, Heart is the corner stone for many religions.Yes it is ! If you see physically, the heart can be associated with some physical organ which lies in our body. I would suggest you one question.

Why do people associated "love" with the heart symbol ? Many book, many literature has tried to answer the question of love. Every body has their own story but I would say love is a simplest form of human need which desires happiness and nothing beyond.

Where there is happiness, there is love and where there is love there is happiness. Heart is the symbol for love. The place where no one decides through the virtue of one's mind but just gives it away. Why do I say, give it away?

Heart is the place where we do not want to preseve anything but just give, When you give you will feel happiness. When you want to preserve and keep it on your own then, you are hiding something with not only yourself but with others around.

There is one common analogy in some religion. Here is that- "Soul is like a air, and human body is flesh". When you have only flesh, it does not count but when you have flesh and the soul, it brings you to life.

Life is combination of soul and the body. Let me give you one example. You have a car, but you do not have a driver for the car. You do not know how to drive but you need urgently to reach for some work. Now what would you do ? Forget about the alternatives like taking taxi or not going or whatever but you just have to move or go. Imagine !

When you have to think of this situation what would be best approach ? How would you be able to tackle such problem, leave the problem. That is one thing but the point is that, the human body is like the car which is a body but do not have a driver, without heart.

When there is only human body or the car the car does not move but when there is driver inside the car then car does moves. The same principal can be applied with humans.

This simple approach justifies that without human heart human will be alive but they will never be happy. Here is one poem which could help to understand or give some meaning to explain "heart".

With heart, I feel the pain.
With heart, I also feel the pleasure.

With you, I can climb the mountain
I can jump from the sky

Oh dear ! How can I survive when I feel alone
When there is darkness and no one near.

Is it my heart which is seeking love
Or is it my mind which is thinking a lot.

When would our journey come to peaceful end?
I wish I can sleep in your arms,
With ever lasting peace and silence...

My heart is for you and will always be with you.
When I wake up early in the morning

The first wish is with the God, to be with you.
I know time is passing like a steam of water

But Oh dear !, why am I left like without heart
and to ponder all around.

I see humans but they all make me think
I see object but they all make me sick

I am living and People look as if I am alive
Should I wait?, Just because both of our heart will find each other together.

I hope all your dreams and all your goals come to life.
I cannot wait to see pleasure in your eyes

When I can sleep in your arms and explain how I felt with every passing moment of my life

Is it because of our heart or should I think of your heart as mine ?


I do not know how long I can make the poem but I hope this explains a lot about what I associate "heart" with. You can always use the poem if you want but please give credit to the author. Because, this author is struggling to leave a mark on the heart of all those alive.

Hope

Life is like a stream of flowing river, it goes on and on. It flows with the flow, it is never ending. It has no end and no beginning. It is just flowing with the sense of unknown. It does not have a destination and it does not have destiny.

Life like everything else will teach you thousand lesson. There are people who live for it, there are people who live for love and there are people who live just to live. Whatever be the reality and whatever they want it from the life, has some price for it.

Nothing comes for free, you just have to pay price for every part of it. But, one thing can be free and its called satisfaction. You did something and now you have to decide either you want to be happy about it or you will not be happy about it. Whichever, way you choose will solely depend on you and you alone. There is no one who will stop you, there is no one who will tell you you did it on right way or wrong you. Only thing people will do, is listen you what you feel.

When you are happy, there will be people around you. When you are sad, there will be people around but they will not be close to you ! "Those who share happiness can find many people and those who share sadness will find only himself".

The above quote says it all, whatever be the consequences every event in our life teaches something meaningful. Either it is hurtful or helpful. Nothing happens in life with coincidence.

Today, we might feel good and the very next day we might feel bad about something or some event. This is called a process of rising and falling. When you are in this process then you are either alone, either drunk, either hurt, either not fulfilled, either you did not get what you desired or either wants your plans to be fulfilled. When this state of process vanishes, then you are in the process of "satisfaction." To reach to this, level requires very hard work and determination.

I am no guru on any of the subject matter that I am explaining in mybheja, but whatever I am expressing in no just random thoughts. These are the thoughts coming from a mind of a man. This man has seen the world and has experienced problems. These problems are not only his but of those he wants to express.

Anyways, I do not want to express that I am the best but I only bless without any selfishness.

With the every ounce of oxyzen intake you are in the pleasure of having alive that very second. But at the same time, somewhere in this very planet-people are not getting that oxyzen with the pleasure. The cause of this is not our stupidity but the stupidity of behaving in well suited manner. Today, there are awareness of "green" and tomorrow there will be awareness about "water". Whatever it is and whatever it will become, who cares as long as we get our fair share of satisfaction in the environment we live in.

There is one thing and one thing in our life which keeps us alive. The word if I remember could be many but right now my bheja suggests- "hope".
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Hope
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Together everything is possible.
All the dreams and desire could be made fulfilled.

All of your dreams were mine once,
But even if you are not beside me,

I will make sure it remains alive-
till the very end.

I think we do not have any hope
But my dear ! I know without you I will fear.

With you, I was fulfilled
Without you, I am without.

Nothing is permanent as my eyes see
I had mine alone and you are at those very ends.

Why are you crying with tears
With every tears, there is hope falling very near

I think I cannot make it
All your dreams which were ours alone..

What should I do if there is no hope?

If there is no hope
Let us invent it, Oh ! dear ...

Do not ask me how ?
I know, with you I will make it.

Without you, I will die
With you, I will die with heart full of love !

Whatever be the case, I know I am nobody
But as long as you see me, I will be always be somebody.

Our love is just like a wine,
It takes time to mature

Well, I am afraid it was ...
But why did you do this to me

When darkness prevails with mystery all around
I know, I am not at my very best

With tears in my eyes all around
I hope, I will try my very best

To invent this very hope
Without you I am in darkness,

With you, I hope I will invent the light.
Well, time changes everything.

It has changed mine and
I hope, you will have pleasure with my blessings all around...

The opinion expressed are not generalized but this is the way I express my opinion. I am sorry if some one is taking it seriously.

Have a nice weekend ! :)

Prosumerism

Today, I thought of the topic which is the combination of two words, Producer and Consumer. The word "Prosumerism" is basically both producer and consumer. We are in this planet and we do the both. We produce and we consume, What if we cannot produce ? We are then unable to consume. What if we consume then we are not able to produce and so on. You can take an example of anything in the world it has these two phenomenon. I do not work so I do not have money so I do not eat properly. This is one example next is I have a work so I buy lots of food and I eat them. This is another. The producer and consumer should always be in equilibrium. It is very difficult to survive if we cannot balance them, Wherever we go and whatever things we do. Take an instant money, Gretest motivator in the planet Every body is running for it. If we can just the name it gives us lot of pleausere. Imagine I have million euroa, Imagine I was rich, Imagine I have beautiful house somewhere near the beach or something. Money is dividing us, money is killing each one of us and money will surely damage one day this whold world. I had some money let's say 1 year ago but now i do not have anything. The whole money was consumed by me. I never thought of proucing it. I now realize that i was just consumin them but never gave the second thought on how to produce them. If i would have realized it I would not have now been with empty pocket. What is the solution I have ? I have only one solution left and that solution is to produce money. How ? Search for some job, search to get money by some means. The means can be job, work, volunteer work or build your own company, ask your friend etc. A single person in world can have balance life only if he does these two basic things properly. If we can maintain the balance between "Prouducer" and "consumer" then life will be very easy but one of the greatest challenge currently face by us is "we are not consistent" we lack the factor called "consistency" or either we are not satisfied by one thing. Therefore, Prosumerism is all about "I proudce this amount ... and I consume .." This is how life works and this is how it is, only thing is that to reach to that earlier statement is very hard job.

I like you but our relationship will not work out.

Well, This is what happens in many relationship. People will surely like this statement. The statement which they have heard. It is not a good statement when once you have gone through this. What happens when you like someone ? The first day or the very next moment you like some one you start to hate that person. Why ? Well, It is because From that very moment we start to see the differences among each others. This is the main reason why the differences starts or starts to come in the relationship. I don't know weather it is true or wrong but I think this is what happens. As a man or women we have multiple identity, we are father, engineer, writer, worker, daughter, son, child, husband etc. But the main thing is that we do not see it in different ways we see all of these identity as one. When we see all our identity as a single we loose. We then create some kind of difference among each others or with our partner or with some one who we like. We start to see the same kind of attributes that we have in the person you like. Every individual is unique in their own ways. Every body has different taste, different smell and different way of looking to different things like world, knowledge and life. When we like someone we relate our liking with his or her. Then if we see that we both have many things similar to each other we just think well- he is a right person or she is a right person in my life. After that slowly we start living together and when we start living together we start to find the difference that person has with yourself. When we start to find the differences the relationship starts breaking. The statement is very depressing and ver encouranging as well. One thing every one should remember is that when we expect something in our life and when we think that we have got what we wanted the very next moment their is a chance of loosing that. Yes, It happens most of the time. Do not get over excited about what you have and what you will get in life. Always expect least and do what you do the best, This way you will achieve what you do not expect to achieve. Cheers !!!