Showing posts with label false relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label false relationship. Show all posts

Sunday, May 17, 2009

Eurovision 2009 Song Winner: Norway




LYRICS

Years ago when I was younger
I kinda’ liked a girl I knew.
She was mine, and we were sweethearts,
That was then, but then it’s true

I’m in love with a fairytale
Even though it hurts.
‘Cause I don’t care if I lose my mind;
I’m already cursed

Every day we started fighting,
Every night we fell in love.
No one else could make me sadder,
But no one else could lift me high above

I don’t know what I was doing
But suddenly we fell apart.
Nowadays I cannot find her.
But when I do we’ll get a brand new start

I’m in love with a fairytale
Even though it hurts.
Cause I don’t care if I lose my mind;
I’m already cursed

She’s a fairytale
Yeah
Even though it hurts.
Cause I don’t care if I lose my mind;
I’m already cursed
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Monday, April 6, 2009

Today's Relationship

A Young handsome man was walking down the hill, near the country side in west virginia, CA., He was just watching the scenery and beautiful hill side. He was watching without any differences in his mind, his eyes caught attention to one couple who were fighting on the top of their roof.

He started to look after those two couples and thought, "why are these two humans fighting?" he visualized his own life and relationship. He remembered, once his wife also did the same and went very far from her. She killed herself., It was not young handsome's man fault neither it was his wife's fault, during those times, both of them were going through bad crisis (Economy, depression, job cuts, recession, natural disaster and most importantly fear of death) When so many negative things were popping up and down like a popcorn in their head; definately, there was going to be misunderstanding betweens couple.

Young handsome man went close to these two couples who were fighting (on the top of the roof) and said,

"Hey two of you, what are you doing?" he asked.
"It is none of your business, son." replied the man from the roof.
"I know that is not my business, you both are fighting for nothing- I can solve your problem."
"What? tell us how?" asked the man
"You both, Jump from the top of that roof." replied the young man and started to move on.

Both the couples who were fighting on the top of roof, now started to look close to each other and stopped the fighting.

What is the lesson from the story?

Friday, September 19, 2008

Wish my brother- a happy love life.

My brother has couple of big problems. First problem is that he is madly in love with some one who he thinks also loves her. The madness of love is limitless. He do not know he can even do anything almost anything for this one girl.

How do you know if that is love ? Showing that some one care's for you or sacrificing for this special some one. I always have told him that love is not life. Love is shared, it has to be taken and given. He says, to me that the girl loves him too but if she loves him then why is she afraid of not coming close to him.

What is the reason she is not intending to live with my brother? When some one loves some other person and if she is especially a girl then she would like to stay with the person for a while. She will then see if this person is really suitable for her entire life.

When a person says something and do not commit to what he/she says then ... what is the point of showing ?

I want to that lover, who thinks she is in love with the guy or shows that she is really in love....

How do my minor brother will understand that she is not in love but she is showing as if she is in love.

Ok for a instant let us suppose that she is really in love with my brother but why she could not come and live with him ? It can happen only in one circumstaces and that is- she is not totally devoted to be or fall in love.

When a person is fully devoted then they do not show the problems of .. or ... I mean, when a person is in love, they love.

It is not only the problems of the women or my brother but the problem lies with the circumstances. The problem is nothing but the solution also lies inside this problem. It is easy for both of them.

Look for example "they are in the same country". When you are close to each other then you will not know if you really love that person. You just have to go far and then a person will realize if that person is really in love.

Some times the greatest journey is the distance between the people. My brother should realize that, Imagine a situation where two person are very far from each other and they really are in deep love. What kind of solution would you then offer them ? Will they exit their love just in wish of meeting one day. or will they move on with their life ?

Being in same place gives you the chance of being close to each other and other elements you need is except that is "trust". A trust is achieved when you are more close to each other then very far from each other.

However, love is difficult thing to express. Love is not only in being close to or getting a person or being with that person, love is just love. Either it is for country, religion, mother or your own life.

Wish my brother a happy loved life. I wish he gets success in his love endeavor.

Cheers for them !

Monday, July 7, 2008

Building Trust.

Hello, hello,, hello.. who are you ? I am asking you. Yeah, you sir who are you. Do you know who are you ? Come on tell me. Why do you want to know ? Who are you to ask ? Why are you asking me such questions ? Are you crazy ? Do you know me ?

These are the general conversation when a two unknown person talk for the first time. A person is trying to ask something but the other person is not trying to tell him about himself just because the unknown person is not known to him in one way or another.

Why are we finding the relationship before we want to explore ourselves or want to tell about ourselves to others.The main reason is that-we do not trust the person,who is uknown. We are fearful and afraid of the unknown. Either it is a person or animal. If it is not yours then it is not secure or not trustful. It is unlikely that some one will be open and tell everything to the unknown.

The mystery is that everything in world takes time. Love, Friendship, Marriage, almost many kinds of relationship takes load of time before it puts itself in a good gear and runs smoothly. Why do we admire a couple who are old and walking down the streets catching hand in hand laughing and cherishing a long old memories gone by, kissing and hugging each other just thinking they do not have the very next day behind them and only the moment at which they are present and walking down with a joy and happiness touching every feet like never before.

Time is a journey, a movement- our movement leads to time. Nothing is immovable. Everything moves. When everything moves we are bound to move as well. This is the fact and it do not need any scientific explanation. The movement creates a matter of trust between two parties, two friends, husband and wife and the most important thing that connects these movements is communication. When you are communicating then you are in a touch with the person and the person will be trustful to you but once you loose connection you stop trusting the other person and you tend to judge after a while. You will then ask weather she really needs to be trusted.

There is one story in Indian Epic. A story of Lord who goes to jungle for 14 years and he was the king of the place. Just because he has to leave everything and go in forest to spend his life for 14 years and the main thing was he could not take his wife with him. Now when he returns from the forest after 14 years, he hears a lot of thing about his wife. He hears long long sentences that makes him doubt over his wife. He then looses a trust over his wife. He then starts to think. He is king, he is great human being in those era but now he finds himself in dilemma and trouble. How would he trust his own wife after 14 years. ? Is she really trustful or can you really believe in her, whatever she says. A wife of the king had to do some kind of examination before she really could be trusted again. She had to sit in a burning fire for a while and if the fire automatically stops burning then she is proved that she is innocent.

What happened was miracle that she really testified her trust and finally the fire stopped burning. Or something similar. I do not remember much of the story. Now, the main question that remains in this world is, It was in those days when every body was very trustful and every body really valued what they speak but Today, Oh, my God !

You do not realize how many times in a day you speak lie. You speak lie to yourself, to your friends and to many of the people you may know or do not know. you say, hello Nice to meet you ! when you do not feel nice to see the other person. you say, "I love you". Just because you have to say. you say- "This is great". When it is no longer great. These are just some of the lies that we will not know or we do not explore within us.

The trust building process to build a relationship is a one kind of art and it has to be learn by yourself. It is the just the beginning.

Monday, June 30, 2008

Be light to yourself

Some times in life there are things that you want to keep secret but it is no more secret to you and yourself. Meaning, A person who want to keep secret and is not being open has many different meaning attached to it. A person can keep his person things to himself and do not want to tell what he is doing to others.

When other people listen, see or hear about the secret of others- the first impression of them is surprised, next they then start making judgment and third they make their own statement about the person. I am not surprised if some one is keeping secret and not letting any of his personal things to come out but many people do. Some times I am surprised too when I hear the good news about my friends and relatives.

It is not hiding but it is like not showing what you are capable of or not letting others to know what can you do or not letting people to know that you are doing good work. "I am doing something" does not prove that you have done that thing. " I will do something" will not prove that you really have completed the things. It is just after you have done something, when you say- well, I have done these things then, it proves that you really have done something. It does not matter to you as long as you are in process of being but it will matter to you and your surrounding after you complete the process.

My whole life is based on a philosophy of not saying what I am doing but to say what I have done but it is in one circumstance if some one really wants to know then. Otherwise, let it be. Who cares about you and your life in this complex dynamic world. No one is yours and no one will go with you when you are dead. You came alone and you will go alone. Every body else- your parents, relatives and family all are just other human beings who are attached to you in one way or anther with some bond. The bond can be-emotional, spiritual or anything related.

A strongest bond between these humans and you is the power of love. A bond which could not be described by my meager words. A bond which is selfless and universal. A bond of true destiny and finding reality. Everything we see is connected and everything we do are affected to and by Nature.

Those types of humans who are very cautious about the health will die young and those who do not care will die old. It is because, Nature cares those who care careless and nature loves those who care very careful. It does not mean that, you stop doing what you do-eat health foods or go for diet or do take care of your health and many other activities. All these activities is for you. It is good to take these things into your account and keep on doing it. But my minds says that, totally opposite, it says that it does not matter as long as you live in a moment and do what is in front of you.


Being selfish or being along or not letting some one tell your secrets does not make you close or introvert it makes you more of you and nothing else. What happens happens for good and one day if the secret is open, people will come to know it in any circumstances. It will be known by people and they will first get surprise, next do judgment and third give comments or make an impression on you. It can be positive, negative or whatever based on your thoughts that will process them. If you take everything as positive then it does not affect you but once you feel or flex your emotions then you are being open to yourself.

Being light and open to oneself is important then showing openness to others.Just be open to yourself and show the light of sun into your heart, once the darkness inside you is enlightened with the power of sunlight it will bring loads of joy and happiness in your life and in the life of the people around you.

Thursday, June 19, 2008

Magic or Risk ?

In Brida, a book that Paulo coelho wrote back in 1990, there are two ways to recognize soulmate. Through Magic - meaning : entering a state of transe in which you can see a bright spot over the shoulder of your soulmate - or, by taking risks, by making mistakes, by being with the wrong people until you find your soul mate.So he asked the following question: Would you try to find your soul mate through magic or by taking risks, making mistakes?

In response to above question of great Writer Paulo Coelho here is what I have to say- the article presented down has been approved by an administrator of Paulo Cohelo in his blog. You can find a copy of same article under his blog too.

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It is very easy to take the first step that is to go through the magic and just wait to see if a person is really a soulmate. But at the same time it is difficult to go and check, do mistakes and try until a right person is met at the end.

One will surely chose the first step and think something automatically happens for him, I think if I was the person to choose the soulmate I will rather go for the second and take risk because once I take the risk I will be doing the mistakes and at the same time I will be learning something new from each and every women I try. It is a process to find the right person in life.

I do not believe there is any soul mate or black mate or white mate only because there is only one thing existing in this world and that is a mate. The rest is to us, by which name we call them. We can call her as a soulmate but what is the proof that a person will really be a soulmate and not leave you after a while.

A man has no mate except a mate who is himself. A girl in his life just bring a momentary joy which we can with some name. However, even though the magic is easy I will not suggest anyone to go and see the white bright light over the shoulder just to find a true partner in life rather go and talk, enjoy, fight, laugh, weep, get angry, feel sad and feel happy by taking risk in life.

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Wednesday, June 11, 2008

Wake up, escape from ...

A early morning cool bridge blowing just to make sure that you feel lazy lying in the bed and do not want to wake up to start the day. However, as you are determined to start and see the day through-you put all your energy to wake up. Some people find it very difficult to wake up and some people wake up just naturally. I have seen many around me wake up with the help of machine that is an alarm clock.

Without an alarm clock many find it difficult to wake up. Why ? Why are you waking up with the help of alarm clock and not my yourself ? What is the reason ? The most simple answer is- difficulty to wake up. Some times it is not good for health once you make yourself routinized like a machine that you are going to wake up at this particular time. The simple techniques to wake up is to relax when you sleep. The relaxing does not mean anything-in sleeping mode also you can go for the meditation. This kind of meditation is called unconscious level meditation. You just have to think nothing.

The brain will try to think many thousand different things but do not let your brain go anywhere. Try to focus and sleep. Once you sleep and you do know know you are living or breathing then the state will start. Before going to bed try to remember the last important things that is to wake up early. Just ask your mind that, I have to get up at this time in the morning and then try to go bed without putting alarm clock on. The habit once formed is very difficult to change but once you start slowly changing it, you will find it much more easy to change.


Girls are always girls to me. They will show every bit of them to tell you the fact that they care, but once you are fed up with the carefulness of them-you will then try to ignore them. There are thousand different ways to ignore the girls you are involved with. You can just simply do not receive the calls or just try not to send any text or just ignore her completely. One of my friend was going through the same phase and I asked him not to worry. "As long as you have legs, you will get the shoes of your size". No wonder we are different not only physically but mentally.

The overall complexity of their physical and mental body part allows them to think in different ways-do this, do that, go for this, go for that, make this, make that, do not do this, do not do that... all these then to men may seem like an rules. One thing is sure for the men is that, men do not like to be in the rules and do not ever want to follow the rules. Most of them hate the rules.

A sense of security is good to some extent but once it cross the level than that starts becoming like a burden. Many of the men do not want to be in room playing hide and seek with their mates. They just want to explore the world, want to go outside and see what's going through. When such kind of freedom is taken away or when men start to feel that such things are going away from them, they start behaving in different manner.

Two different entity cannot be same but they could be same for some period of time. There are also an example of two entity living for the entire period of life. In such cases, it is because they are really determined to take any sort of excuses, promises, any pain together. Such kind of relationship last than one life. It is for the infinity. It last more than ever and ever. Such relationship are very difficult to be made or just difficult to find. It is not only about the commitment but also about the promises. It is not only about the living a life but about living a life by sharing pain and sorrow or happiness and sadness together.

Sunday, May 18, 2008

I was born handsome, I will die handsome.

Hot summer day, shining with the bright blue sky and on the top of that the barbecue party at the center of the apartment with smiling and beautiful faces all around. The day was shining as it always does with many of new and exciting faces just showing the signs of joy and madness at the same time.

It was pleasant to be in the group of all men and women. Some of them were ready to go back home in the summer after the completion of there studies in Filand. Many of them were just coming to see off them. I was there to see all those of them.

It was good to be in group of all the handsome men and beautiful women. I was excited too. I said to my friends-"I was born handsome and I will die handsome". The quote became a joke and it was a funny statement to start my cheerful day.

We took a pictures, we smile, we laugh, we cook and we also eat a lot of healthy delicious and mind boggling food. It was amazing mixture of champigne and Vodka. My nature does not allow me to be so sober in such case. I mixed them both. It was amazing, quanity of alcohol rose upto 72% which when passing though the mouth felt as if i am putting the fire into it.

It might might have helped my cought just because may be it burned it out or something. Anyways, it was exciting and wonderful to see people with hopes of returning and starting from all over again. There were many who were depressed to see there friends going or leaving and there was a stupid guy like me who was sitting in one corner and smiling at seeing people cry.

Some times It takes lot of hard work to become strong and some times you cannot resist it all the along. It is by nature which has given me some power to sustain in most of the difficult situations. I can resist the wind, I can also resist the storm but I cannot resist the love.

The very "I" allows me to think and I am able to think now that "I" is some body who lives inside me who is childish, strong and Natural then the person who sees me by my Name. There are two person but people cannot see the two it is my responsibility to see one as two.

After the awesome Barbecue and good taste of food. It was the time to take a deep rest. Go back to bed and sleep but again how am I suppose to finish the day just like that-then I suddenly decided to see a movie. I saw a fantastic movie called- "Into the wild". A movie which reminded a lot about the Nature, moment, learning, walking into wild places, listening to your heart and deciding what is most important in life.

A movie which will guide you to forget all the material possessions and just live for the sake of living. A movies which does not ask you to follow the rules but to ask other to follow yours.


The day went good and as it always does. People may live some years before they die, "I live for one day and I die the same day". It is quite suprise and awkward for many to see the statement like the one I mentioned.

I do not have ... years to go or I have spent ... years in my life. I am just one day old or some hours old right now just because I woke up 3 hours ago. Therefore It makes me 3 hours old. Now, when I go back to bed in the evening then I am going to my death bed. It is the time I want to take rest from all my sins, all my pleause and all my good, bad, or whatever deeds.

Yesterday my brother who lives in Australia asked me-how come you have so many words in your mind everyday ? How are you able to write some thing everyday.? I write just because It is my passion, I write just because I do not know anything. I write just because I know there are people who read it. I am not worried about the mistakes, like grammatical or construction or whatever but I write just to write.

I will be helpful to those who will suggest me but I am again helpful to those who does not have anything to say too. Everything is art. Everything is creativity. All the women in earth are beautiful, all the religious places are best and awesome. All these places may be called with different name but the messege of all the religous places are the same.

All the women are beautiful only because all the women are same around the world. They might not look same but they are physically similar. They have this two ballons in their chest, a quite complicated structure. It might seem as if it is too easy but it is difficult at the same time.

The sound of raindrops back my windows remind me of my old days when I used to be with one beautiful women together. Now, It is my aloness which reminds me that it is the first lesson of love.

Sunday, March 16, 2008

Friendship "F"



One of the famous character or an alphabet in the history of any words or letters is the letter called "f". Now, the very first thing that can come in your mind if you are an European or American is that "F" stands for "f%@$" but the same word in Asia and Some parts of Arab world will stand for "Friendship".

1. The state of being friends; friendly relation, or
attachment, to a person, or between persons; affection
arising from mutual esteem and good will; friendliness;
amity; good will.
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There is little friendship in the world. --Bacon.
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There can be no friendship without confidence, and
no confidence without integrity. --Rambler.
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Preferred by friendship, and not chosen by
sufficiency. --Spenser.
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2. Kindly aid; help; assistance, [Obs.]
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Some friendship will it [a hovel] lend you against
the tempest. --Shak.
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3. Aptness to unite; conformity; affinity; harmony;
correspondence. [Obs.]
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Those colors . . . have a friendship with each
other. --Dryden.
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These are the Dictionary Meaning of the word called "Friendship". Many people have tried to define the term called friendship and every body has their own definition. If I am here going to write about this term I may end up writing a book or two books.

Imagine a house, a unknown house where their lives one person who is alone and suddenly you went their and you started talking with him. You had a good conversation with him. He liked your attitude and you then went away. Again, Next day you again went to the same place to meet the same men; you had fun talking, sharing some ideas, thoughts, emotions and so on. Again you did the same next day and so on. After a month you became a good friend.

Friendship is an approach where one person wants to get close to other. It is the mental attitude which brings together. It is a kind of thinking we built in our mind by knowing the fact that we need a person to share our emotions, values, thoughts.

Some body has rightly said that "sharing is loving" but it does not apply in many cases. Approach can be taken in many different ways to share thought, emotion, activities or what so ever. It is always two ways. Communication cannot be possible one way. Communication is always two ways, friendship is also two ways.

In above example imagine the guys in an unknown place do not want to stranger, do not share anything, do not listen to what other stranger has to say- Their won't be friendship in that case.
Every person is unique and different we got to respect others values, and thoughts but I do not know when my dear friends will understand those. Their is a difference between the knowing the path and walking the path.

Whatever one has to say does not lead to the reality. I may say thousand words on one topic but it does not necessarily is real. Truth hurts and people do not want to listen to it. I know that "Truth is exactly opposite to the utterance". The friendship is broken relationship, a relationship which is never joint, a relationship which is constantly in motion, a relationship which is never vivid, a relationship which is imaginary, a relationship which demands more every time you think you have done enough, a relationship which is unreal.

Two friends are separated only because of social settings, cultural difference and most importantly behavior, personal goals and so on. "Two cannot become one and one cannot become two." Some body also has said that, "love is friendship". To them, I would ask one question, " Define me the word love?"


I would like to add these lines-"Don't ever think you are the fastest gun alive. Because when I was in town remember there is some one just a little bit faster." This sentence is to those who those who think they are faster and smart than others around them.

My own habit is quite different and many of my friends, family and people close to me get annoyed when I say to them that,"I do not remember yesterday, a minute ago because NOW is that I am living in, Why should I bother about the Very next second because very next second is something which is going to be mysterious, adventurous and enjoyment for me."

Their is alway a space to correct mistakes in life, seek vengeance and help the unhelpful. Friendship cannot be divided by boarders. It is the love which keeps the bond alive.But you don't know what love is, Therefore, an unexpected journey will bring you the cheers in your face to smile. A journey which is far from imagination, far from any country, culture, boarders, sex,emotions and life.

We came alone and we will go alone. It is the path or journey which will remain important in life. It is not what I have achieved and What I will do It is always What I am doing makes a MAN.

Friday, February 8, 2008

I like you but our relationship will not work out.

Well, This is what happens in many relationship. People will surely like this statement. The statement which they have heard. It is not a good statement when once you have gone through this. What happens when you like someone ? The first day or the very next moment you like some one you start to hate that person. Why ? Well, It is because From that very moment we start to see the differences among each others. This is the main reason why the differences starts or starts to come in the relationship. I don't know weather it is true or wrong but I think this is what happens. As a man or women we have multiple identity, we are father, engineer, writer, worker, daughter, son, child, husband etc. But the main thing is that we do not see it in different ways we see all of these identity as one. When we see all our identity as a single we loose. We then create some kind of difference among each others or with our partner or with some one who we like. We start to see the same kind of attributes that we have in the person you like. Every individual is unique in their own ways. Every body has different taste, different smell and different way of looking to different things like world, knowledge and life. When we like someone we relate our liking with his or her. Then if we see that we both have many things similar to each other we just think well- he is a right person or she is a right person in my life. After that slowly we start living together and when we start living together we start to find the difference that person has with yourself. When we start to find the differences the relationship starts breaking. The statement is very depressing and ver encouranging as well. One thing every one should remember is that when we expect something in our life and when we think that we have got what we wanted the very next moment their is a chance of loosing that. Yes, It happens most of the time. Do not get over excited about what you have and what you will get in life. Always expect least and do what you do the best, This way you will achieve what you do not expect to achieve. Cheers !!!