Monday, January 12, 2009

Romeo and Juliet-I

Imagine doing the things that you would dream of in your life. Mr. Romeo was a great lover. Will you agree after reading this story.

Romeo decided that he wants to see her. She is the only women whom he never wants to stop looking at. He is medium height, in his mid thirty, medium build and looks like a scholar. He has good body and nice ash-thinks his wife-Juliet.

Juliet is a typical Finnish girl and is under age. She is just sixteen years of old. She is all the time thinking about good looking men. She has nice body and good boobs-thinks Romeo.

Juliet lives around five hundred kilometers from the Romeo and there is distance between two of them. They cannot come and meet very often. But they want to talk and usually they encounter in a good conversation.

Romeo is a true Man. He is the Man of his words. He lives in one philosophy and that is-"If I say, I will do then I give my life to do it". Whereas, Juliet knows and trusts him very much. Just because Romeo has never lied or done anything wrong to Juliet.

Time changes everything in life and relationship. Romeo is little worried that, Juliet might go with another Men. Romeo thinks that, A girl is like a fish in the pond.

Juliet gets confused and has no right answer to her own problems because she likes to talk with other men too. When she is talking with other men then she is confused. She then thinks that Romeo is not the prince charming for her. She then thinks that all men are same.

Juliet once says that she wants her man to one day come and visit her house. She wants to see her man to visit her room. Romeo thinks will her ever do it? If He is the right guy in her life then He should do something unthinkable. Something which is punishable by the Government of Finland.

"A person who has sexual intercourse with a child younger than sixteen years of age ... shall be sentenced for sexual abuse of a child to imprisonment for at most four years."

He knows that the law does not allow the Romeo to do this-

There is another guy who is in love with Juliet. He is Mr. Fox. Many of the times he says to the Juliet that, "He loves her and he knows that she love him too". Juliet most of the times feels confused because she does not know what to say after he says such a statement.

Fox was involved with her before she met Romeo. Fox and Juliet were seeing each other some three months before Juliet met Romeo. Juliet does not know what to do? Should she go with Fox or should she go with Romeo?

How do she knows that Romeo or Fox is better for her?

One side there is Romeo who is trustworthy and like a very good man. Another side there is Fox who is little naughty but says he likes her and believes that Juliet likes him too.

Juliet sees no wrong in Romeo because he is very good and humble, he can be trusted and he does what he says. He cares about Juliet most of the times. But Fox is the first man in her life that is what she thinks. Some times she just wants to forget Fox but she could not.

One day-Fox says to her that, He will come to meet her in her house. Juliet sends the text message to Romeo and tells that, She will meet Fox in the night and they might be together on that night. Romeo thinks on what to reply. He is little worried for her. But again, why should he worry like a Mother? He says, "It is OK, but please be careful".

That night, Romeo starts to drink a Scottish Whiskey. He prays that nothing wrong should happen to Juliet and Fox will not do anything wrong to her. Romeo tries to sleep but he could not sleep properly. He wakes up in the middle of the night and sends her the message stating that, "I am worried, I hope you are OK". He gets no reply. That makes him worry more.

The entire night he could not sleep properly. In the morning, he gets the reply from the Juliet stating that, Fox did not come on that night. Romeo starts smiling and thinks,"whatever happens, happens for good".

He is happy that nothing happened. But he was terrified if something would have happened then, it would have be problem or it would have hurt him.

One fine day, He decides to visit Juliet's house. He talks with Juliet and says that he will come and meet her. Juliet is excited but knows that if Romeo has said then he will come to meet her. Romeo travels some five hundred kilometers to meet Juliet. The road are difficult, there are no lights on the street and the natural temperature is below seven degrees.

The freezing cold of Norther Finland with whitish snow everywhere and in the cold dark midnight Romeo have to walk some nine or ten kilometers to just see her prince. He dares to do it. He is walking, there is wind blowing and in the middle of the highway sounds of uncertainties are flowing. There are exceptions- will he make it? Would he see her on that Night? What if some wild animals from the forest comes and kills him.

He might looks like a idiot or stupid going to meet a young Juliet in the Middle of Cold Finnish Weather. How can even he dare to do such an act when Nobody will ever think about this?

His legs are hurting, he cannot walk properly now. He is feeling the pain and pressure all around. He has walked for couple of hours already and there are no signs of anything around him. He is alone, he is crazy and he is not sure about his life. He is only thinking about Juliet. He wants to see her. That is his mission and motive. Nothing else. Juliet gives him direction on how to reach to her in the phone. But the phone direction does not help that much to Romeo.

Anyways, Juliet runs away from her house and comes to see him too. She says that she cannot leave him alone in those forest and in the darkness. He is happy that she is also coming to pick him. He has already walked three hours now, tired and sweat in his forehead in the cold freezing temperature. Unbelievable and stunned on his situation ! Desperate for a look of Juliet.

There is a light swinging in the middle of the road. Romeo thinks that might be an animal he is terrified. He wants to pick up his mobile and call Juliet suddenly he sees that there is no battery in his mobile. Romeo is frightened- is it a wild animal? Some forms of light attached in the neck of animal and the animal is approaching towards him? What would not happen if that animal will come closer and will take a first byte from his body? Oh God, Now I am going to be dead!-thinks Romeo.

Why did I came here to die? There is sweat coming out of Romeo's head and he is really really terrified. What would now happen if the light hanging and moving comes close to him?

Is it Juliet with the torch light or is it the wild animal?
How would Romeo reach if that invisible object was Juliet?
How would that invisible object react if that was an wild animal?

There are plenty of questions and no answers. I came here to sacrifice my life just to see her and now I am in the middle of nowhere. That is what Romeo thinks. Happy but Sad since he does not know what an "invisible object" is.

Friday, January 9, 2009

Quote of the day

Pleasure should not result into guilty feelings.

A happiest person alive in heaven

Today at this moment-

Let us assume that the story that I wrote yesterday (Today Thursday at 17 hours-) is Fiction. Then at least my readers and friends could and will relax a bit.

Thank you Paul for letting me know that, "Don’t try to be all things to all… women… it’s impossible, and… it’s not our responsibility… this one belongs to a higher intelligence… and the universe holds the answer…"

Thank you Jessica for your heart touching article. I think I know the answer and I will try to put words to your question. ("how I can sort my feelings out").

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Women is the source of every energy in the Universe. They are not impossible but our intelligence does not let us understand the possibilities in them. We are limited by our knowledge to understand the vast range of possibilities a women has and carries every day.

There are no right answers or wrong answers but all of the answers are just answers. Some of those answers satisfy us and some of them are just words.

Life is a lesson which should be learned in every moment and in every path we take. There are lessons that we learn from our family, from our friends, from our school and others. But a lesson women teaches us in our lives are far more important than anything else. A women if wants can create the universe and destroy the universe. She has the potential which I feel very little to describe.

In marriage- she is the one who should decide weather to stay with the person or leave the person.

In life- she is the one she should decide how to care her children and husband.

In love- she shows how she can care more than her life about her partner and she is ready to accept him at any given time.

In Career- She is the blessed to give the direction and motivate her partner.

So and so forth. There are many ways a women is vital human without whom a existence seems impossible. Well- W O M E N .The five letter words have great meaning. The last three letters means us- MEN. But has any body ever wondered why there are two additional letters in front of the MEN.

English language experts might tell us why? If I have to make a guess then I would say- W and O these two characters could represent many things and many words.

Love is not the destiny.Love is just love. Tomorrow if I have to leave the person whom I love then I will have many reasons in front of me and these "reasons" will force me to take the decisions against me. These reasons will ask me to take the decisons which I do not like but again, I have to make the decision.

A human nature is very childish. When we get something in life we are happy and we do not get that particular thing or person in our lives we are bound to be sad. We regret and we feel the guilt we are thinking thousand times what did I do wrong? What is my fault? Why did she left me? Did my words does not come out right?

A person is wise when he understands that not everything can be gained easily. For example love- A love is a fresh feeling which is momentary just like a smile.

See for example the differences in culture, race and religion but smile has a common form and presentation. WE all smile and when we all smile it is same despite any culture, race and religion.

Feelings cannot be easily suppressed. When Miss B saw Mr. A for the first time they fell in love. They wanted to be together but Miss B was raped and tortured. Miss B felt that she is not eligible and good enough for Mr. A she decided to go away from Mr. A and live her own life. While she decided she will go away, she thought the distance would shorten and lessen her pain from what she had encountered. She knew that she cannot now give fresh love to Mr. A. She wants to quit her life but some how she lives and marries with other person. She has couple of kids. She has a family. She has children but she lost her love.

She wants to know about his life, what is he doing or where is he? How would he feel when I feel something? She has questions which concerns her life and mostly about "his" life. She wants to know about him.

Because once she went far away from him. Now even though she has family she thinks most of the time about him.

Mr. A came back in her life when her sister somehow stayed with him. Mr. A is alone and he does not yet have any girls. Mr.A still has the feelings for Miss B but Miss B is married and settled.

How could Miss B happy? Is her happiness means watching others around and feeling the same? Will she ever forgive her about the decisions she took on his own while departing from Mr. A?

What if she would have told the story just after she was tortured to Mr. A? Would Mr. A accept her then? What would have happened ?

Many of the times women are very negative in the decisions they make. It is because they are thinking always good for US (MEN). They do not want to hurt our feelings or even go away from our lives without any valid reasons.

However there are people and women who take such decision.

1)Some women might think that, Mr. A's are not good and they cannot make her happy through entire live.
2)Some women might think that, Mr. A's are too good and easy, let us try those who are little difficult and non predictive.
3)Some women just cannot be with Mr. A simply because they are now tortured or raped and they think they are impure. They cannot give pure love to Mr. A's.
4)Some women just wanna have fun.
5)Some are going through difficult situation because they have sufficient valid reasons in front of them to leave Mr. A's.

Now Among these five mentioned points depending upon the women and there inner self they choose it. These points can vary depending upon the time, circumstance and many other factors.

Therefore, The decision is about how to live a life with happiness after not getting the love of your life?

What would you do? Should you leave every day with compromise or should we try to find other women or men in your lives. What is your mental state of mind currently saying? Would you take the initiative and be brave with yourself and fight with every single period in your lives thinking about the person who would have been perfect partner?

There are few steps if you want happiness-
http://www.kalwar.com.np/2008/12/7-things-to-do-to-be-happy.html

(I would suggest to think about these because I have been testing these steps with people and I still do not know if they are really going to be the final seven steps in future. A valid theory for every one of us. Just try to ponder on them too. )

Now if you want to get love that is Mr. A back in your life--

Again, there are reasons in front of you. These reasons will not let you decide against you. If you go against your reasons then it could result into problems. Such as (Your family members might say you something bad, your culture resists you, etc)

Now at this moment- Think if you are Miss B what you want? I know you cannot resist the feeling because your sister is close to Mr. A. If you are really a sister then wouldn't you want your Mr. A to come home -- May be he is interested in your sister and he might even want to get married ?

But again, His decisions are important. After hearing all these happenings if your partner understands how you are feeling then he might just let you go.

However, it all depends on the way you want to live.
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Well, I am not alive. I am not human and my life is the life of an angel. I can see the pain and sorrow. I can feel what Miss Y feels about love for her life. I am a air which can just be felt. Nothing else.

I want to touch her. I want to sweep her tears from her eyes when she is feeling the pain. But I know even if she could see me, she will not feel the touch of human in me.(Because I am a angel)

I wish I could come down to earth and live for a day. I wish I could come down to be with her for a day. I wish I would touch her and kiss her. I wish, the feeling of her first touch and the first kiss. I want to experience only once. Can I?

I do not know what is happiness but I wish if I am on earth with that loving memory of her first kiss and first touch I will spend my rest of life.

I wish in finding pleasure to those feelings are called happiness then that is what I am.

At this moment and on this day -
A happiest person alive in heaven.

Thursday, January 8, 2009

"Anything a man does can bring him closer to the Supreme Wisdom, as long as he works with Love in his heart."

A person with loving heart could work or will work with loving will and determination. He will follow his heart even though he might be directed by his mind.

A person with loving heart has desires but at the same time destiny. Even though he might not be close to his destiny he will look at his destiny with the shadow of becoming true one day.

Optimism is the reflection of what he could accomplish in his life. Without the difficulties and problems. A person full of love only knows how to give.

Oscar wild once said, "A man kills what he loves". Is it true? Yes, might be to some extent. But what if a man lives with what he loves? Will he achieve his dreams and conquer the world.? May be he will.

Love has no beginning and no end. Love is just love in any form and in any time, circumstance or situation. Love is selfless. If you can love yourself, your body your own self then you are full of giving. A person who is full of giving is full of love.

Being wise is not only the result of love but also the result of watching through the lens of your heart to those who have suffered. Getting the lessons from not only your problems but also from those of whom you could have answered. Being wise, or being lazy is the same.

A wise has intellect and power of healing. A single word spoken or written has wide range of impact in many forms and factor.

Today Thursday at 17 hours-

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At this very moment there are loads of happenings occurring around the world. When I feel that at this very moment One kid was born in Western Australia, A mother is feeling the pain of giving birth this young kid but at the same moment some where in Western India one adult is trying to rape a young Indian girl which is just fourteen years old. During this time- Somewhere in New York, There is one business man who is sitting in his chair, thinking if he wants to open his company tomorrow in the stock market or not.

Today at this very moment there is one guy in his mid thirties, strongly build near the mountains of Afghanistan thinking and preparing for the battle for suicide bombings.

At the same moment a mother in Gaza is preparing a food for her three kids and thinking that if tomorrow will be the day if she can sleep with peace.

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Now When I look and imagine such events at this moment, I think on my own life and my own problems. All of my major problems are not so much problematic. Why am I worried? Why do I think that I will have to come up with answers as soon as possible? There are lots of questions which are making my life miserable. There are only questions and no answers. I am searching for the right answer which will tell me that I am best at doing "something" which is good enough to satisfy people around me. I have a degree but those degree does not give me right job at this very moment.

I am tired, Some times I just want to keep on doing the things I like most but some times my life tells me that- just check out. When I imagine the situation those people that I described above are facing at the moment my problems are very small or is even considered as no problem at all.

What should I do now? Should I wait for the right day? or, should I just quit? I am really really bored and tired with this situation of living a life. Some times I read what my friends and great writer like Paulo has written and I get inspired but other times I feel really frustrated.

My father said once to me, "Son, There is no big problems or small problems-these are only just problems". I asked him, "How can I get rid of these problems?". Problems come and go but the way of choosing or even implementing the solution solely depends on you, he said.

I am terrified and at the same time worried when I put myself in the situation where no body I think would like to be.

Imagine you are in love with a girl who is near you, in the country you are living. Now again, Imagine there is another girl who is waiting for you in your home country. Both of these beautiful ladies like you more than you like them. They care about you. You are in the middle of nowhere and you cannot decide whom to choose. You do not actually want to choose any one of them but just want to remain with both of them.

One day, you have to leave the girl in the country that you are living and you have to go back home. How would you feel ? Will you leave her and feel sad ?

You know relationship problems start when there is distance between you and your beloved partner. How would she stand up this situation? You feel the pain and you do not want to listen anyone. you just want to hide in the corner of your room and be silent.

Will she commit suicide? What if, she decides to kill herself? Will you every forgive yourself for leaving her? What happens if you cannot tolerate this throughout your life?

These are only question and no answer smoothen the heart which is feeling the pain. There are sorrows and grief, there are agony and pain. These are bloody tears which some time just fall even your mind does not want to cry.

No body is to blame for all these, you created the problem for yourself and if your friends, family give you advice then they are looking on the perspective of what you have described. They are not feeling the same. They cannot go through your pain and sorrow. They will try to understand your situation but they will never feel the way you are feeling at this very moments and at this very time.

You call God and recall him, and close your eyes living in a lonely room of yours. You join your hand and start praying. Asking him for a help. You are saying that please give me some alternatives, will you? Please.

While you are begging for your own problems you also are thinking that God has many children who are asking for the same at this very moment.

All those people who are in trouble or in problems are begging him for help. you are no different then them. Do you think the Supreme being has the same feeling as yours? Even if he knows your problem how is your problem different then others?

Oh, God. I have taken this step to find the solutions of my problems, through my problems I want to help those who are in the same problems . Will you please bless me with the power to serve? I know your giving. I am blessed with your Nature and I will always try to spread the happiness all around.

But Now, I am alone and lonely, I need your support. I know that Finding treasure will not give my life satisfaction neither do I want to find a treasure and collect it in a Private Bank.

I want the answers to all those questions. How would I convince my love that I care more than my life for her? How would I answer my heart that whatever that is happening around at this moment is not in the hands of me? How could I ?
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Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Bush and Osama



We are together
Nobody will break our friendship

It was our strategy to tear down WTO
We will live together

For ever and ever
Bush and Osama-rocks the whole world.

Ha Ha Ha

"True love allows each person to follow his or her own path, aware that doing so can never drive them apart."

Finding a path in itself is fresh and true. Love is another phenomenon which cannot be described or interpreted. It is the fresh beauty which has no definition.

Love is mysterious feelings of an individual. It has no beginning and no end. Finding a path or landing upon a right path depends on the beauty a person sees or the potential the person sees in himself/herself.

Eternal beauty is priceless and the love is priceless too. There is constant struggle to achieve it in human lives but it will never be occupied or be achieved. The freshness of the early morning beauty cannot be achieved. It shows how every day is fresh and beautiful.

Sex, lust are not love and will not be the entry point of the love. These are physiological needs just like eating or drinking.

A person in love does not want anything and a person in love does not want to hesitate to give anything. This is eternal unconditional being.

A being which cannot be measured but can be shared with any object around.

Love could result into right path or even a wrong path. The discovery of the person to find his/her path depends solely on the person itself and his love.

See the beauty on the small child face who smiles more than Adults. See the early morning sun rise, see the love of mother when she is feeding her child from her breast. See it and feel how beautiful those moments are. These are all results of unconditional love.

A love of women by a men is different. This love has a feeling, this love has desires and lust or sex involved. Love could be without sex but the relationship then will break apart. or even will lead to breakage to some extent.

In past we have learned a love of Romeo and Juliet, and likes of other great lovers. But love today what we are showing and doing is different in many cases that I have seen. Every love that we perceive does not end up in the right land or path. Those who think that love could result into the right path it is because, the person has understood the beauty of love better than anything else.

Human desires never end, it has no beginning and no end. Love to me by special some one might be different then the love to others by their special some one. Love is never a finding since we all are searching for love. The true destination of love would be found when one day we will wake up and cherish the moments spend together with this special some one, because she might just be beside you. Sleeping like a child-close and together like never before. Her face as fresh of early morning rose will enlighten your spirit in pleasure and show you the day to work hard or ever harder.

Good day !

Quote of the day

Follow your heart, listen to your inner voice and do the things that you like most.
You will gain the most.

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

"A glass of water is Half full or half empty"

Let me broke down this statement into main elements which makes up the actual sentences. There are two important elements "Glass and Water" and two other elements "Half and Full". Now it looks little easy.

Glass
Water

Half
Full

Now let us think the meaning of these two different opinions. "Glass and Water". A glass is one element and water is another. If we put water in the glass the water will fill inside the glass and it takes it space inside the glass. The water has space. or in scientific term volume. A glass has the structure which enables the water's volume to be inside it. Now, Let us jump to the point from the perspective of the observer- When a observer sees the glass of the water, then it depends upon his transitional state of emotions.

Let us suppose, he is thirsty and he does not want to think on the glass or the water. What would he do? He will drink the water in the glass. Simple. Now let us suppose, he is not thirsty and he has some problems because just today morning he fight with his wife. His wife went to the bar with some other men. He is alone and sad. He does not have any opinion on anything. He goes to the resturant and there he saws the glass with half empty glass of the water inside the glass. He is angry and he asks the waiter to fill it.

Now let us look in the different perspective again, Let us say the observer is very happy today and he heard from his wife that he is going to be a father. He goes back to the same resturant and he sees the glass of the water which is half empty but he does not care simply because he is happy and cheerful. He drinks the water inside the glass.

This is one way of looking at the feelings of the observer with the glass of water. There is another way of looking at the same statement.

Who is called the optimistic? Who is called the pessimistic? The optimistic can sometime be pessimistic and pessimistic and be sometime optimistic. It all depends on the time and circumstances. The good time can turn into bad and bad into good. There are never reliable map to unexplored territory and events in life.

Today I am positive and tomorrow I will be negative. No one can live life positively and no one can live life negatively. There needs a certain balance in any of the circumstances.

When something is too much then it vanishes. Imagine a Mountain and there are two people who are climbing the mountain from the two different direction. One side is the boy and the other side is the girl. These people have met in the ground zero where they know each other. They want to progress in there friendship. They want to foster there relationship. They talk, interact while they are climbing the mountain. They are slowly moving on in there life but at the same time they are also building a foundation for there life:love together. There mission is to reach at the top of the mountain and say the final word which all the men say when they get married." Yes, I do". There decision is determined by there determination and hard work.

When they reach at the top, they speak out there heart and say what they really were missing to say since they were climbing the mountains from two different perspective. After the final countdown, they have to climb down the mountain. There cannot stay there for a long. Because there home is in Ground zero near the base. Now think- why they have to fall down? Should not they stay there at the top forever? They are so happy when they just reached the top and expressed there feelings. Why do they have to come down to the earth?

Therefore, there is always the unreliable perspective on any events, culture, country, race, religion and opinions. For me something or somebody can be very nice but again, for others it might be different.

Half full or half empty has one thing in common "half". As in the mountain the story above. Full and Empty are our perspective and transition of thoughts accumulated by time and circumstance.

Change brings those transition depending upon the time.

Does Context make art?

What is art? Is art a music or is the art the art drawn by Leonardo da Vinci or by Jules Joseph. Is art the drawing that shows the artist caliber? What is that we called art? A writer art could be the text that he inputs in his plain white paper. A musician art could be the music that he plays in the audience. A lover art could be the love he shows for his lover. Art could come in many form, shapes and size. It has no limit and no boundary.

Art to me could be nothing to other. The way look at art is also different and the perception can vary from the person to the other person. Art has value because artist has created it. The value could also differ depending upon the time and circumstances.

One person can give more value to the "same stuff" and other could give no value at all. But great art is appreciated by all. There are no person without a talent. Everybody in the world comes with the talent. The showing off the talent of the person could result into the performance. The performance could give the impact to his/her audience.

Depending upon the impact his art is appreciated or depreciated. There are no good or bad artist there are only artist. The formulation of good or bad depends upon the taste of the person. These taste vary depending upon the time and the circumstance.

Some artist could show off there talent in the right place at the right time and there work is valued. But some artist could not get the right place to show there potential. To those who does not get the right place to show off there talent they choose the place where there are large number of the audience.

For example, If you consider me as the artist. Or, let us suppose for a while that I am a artist and my job is to write a comment on your blog. Now, this might not be considered a fantastic art because writing a blog is just putting an opinion on the title of the author. Well, Let us say- this is very least form of art. Which could be defined as the creation of comments depending upon your own personal experience and expertise in the field you are talking. Now, When you read all those artist and there comments, we think that they all have point to make and they are saying some valuable things about the same topic.

When every body is giving his thoughts and ideas on the same topic you cannot say that all of these people are good or great artist but you can at least say that every body is right. or every body has some form of talent. Another perspective to look at these people or least artist is that, why are they here? Most of them just are here to put the comments or thoughts or share there opinion but if you take me for example, then I am here because I have audience who are equally participating in the discussion of the topic which I am interested.

When I have large number of audience with greater thoughts and insights then surely there is the larger the impact. Well, People can always have different opinion on any of the other person's opinion.

Therefore, Context is important but not very important. For example, the musician near the busy streets of the market. Well, who will notice if he was the great musician or not great musician. Simply because, every body is moving on. There are people who are busy in there own problems. They do not have time to listen and even if very few are interested they are free or have nothing to do.

Every body is doing there work at that period of the time. Some are getting late for there work, some have train to catch, some just had fight with there partner, some is busy in thinking for there next project, some are going for the shopping, some are going to buy a drink and so on. These people are running for nothing. Why? If I have to live my life my way, I listen to what my inner voice has to say, there are always difference but which one is right and which one is wrong can be easily distinguished.

Monday, January 5, 2009

3 step process to write a damn good Novel

It is always good habit to admire somebody and be adorable. One of the good thing that encourages people to do which they are good at.

I was thrilled and little smile popped up in my face when I saw a comment at the Paulo's blog. Most of the times I put comments on his blog since there are many active bloggers or writers.

It is not to attract the large group of audience but just to share point of view among large group of people. Well, this is way life works. It is a good practice to be in such a group which can have great ideas and thoughts.

Thank you to those who think what I have been doing is good. It always encourages me to work hard and come up with something very beautiful at the end. Currently I am thinking on writing a book. Well, I do not yet know what would be the book and I do not want to disclose at this moment the details.

As In one of my post at Paulo's blog where Paulo has asked his Readers to post a Resolution for the year 09, I have one list which is to complete this project, of writing a book.

Yesterday, I completed reading a book "How to write a damn good Novel-Vol I" by James Frey. It is one of the Master Piece. There are several techniques and methods which a Novelist can use to write his own book.

The book is written in simple tone and text flow is very smooth. But I was amazed by my own abilities of reading that book in a day?. I think I am slowly improving on Reading. May be it will help me to get good grades later when I will give and exam for "English tests".

Yesterday, I also came of with some idea that how a writer could write a book while I visited some web pages. To write a Novel is very difficult thing, and many of the great writers or genius and for them too it is most difficult. It requires loads of effort and dedications. Imagine a situation where you have to sit alone and write- separate from friends, family and every body around. You are sitting with your typewriter (Well, Usually Nobody has typewriter Now a days, but Yeah with your computer and Word Processor program). Many of those who have tried to write a Novel has not completed or given up in the middle of the journey.

Well, If I have say, then I would say that-"Nothing is easy in life". Everything is well up to us to make them easy as the way we want them to.

I like the idea of writing a Novel where following approach are suitable.

1) First write a bad Novel.

This means, Write without stopping yourself. Just put your hands to the keyboards and type all your thoughts on your Word document. Do it every day, till the time you finish your work. Think of such writing as flow of your thoughts on the paper. Do not think anything else. Do not assume that, you are writing and your text structure or your sentence composition or your vocabulary or your diction, grammar are not correct. Even though you are Native English Speaker, you will have those mistakes in your paper. Just sit and write without any hesitation and without any worry.

2) Focus on completion.

If you are human and if you can think and if you have promised something to yourself then give your life to fulfill it.
This implies, you should be man of your words. Those who do not commit to what they speak or do or say, are not humans in my dictionary.

Therefore, Complete on what you have committed to yourself. There is no point to prove to anyone except yourself. If you can prove to yourself that you are good at what you are doing then you are the Master of all. No Master and No Great People will tell you this. This is one of the greatest advice that I am giving you. Just take it for granted. And Think !!!

3) Start writing (Re-Write) your Novel

Now After completion of your bad Novel, Re-write your Novel. This is your Novel which is going to be fresh and which you should consider for publication. Be serious on this Novel. For this Novel focus on timings, prepare Plot, Scene and Speech carefully. This will take time. Your bad Novel was completed in very short period of time and you should take the reference of your bad Novel to write a good Novel. This Novel is going to be good. You know that you have already written a Novel before in very short period of time and Now you should focus on writing your good Novel. Once you are re-writing or Starting this Novel now, you will have an idea about how your Novel will be. The text you need are already there in your bad Novel so you do not have to worry about them. Just Start fresh with proper timings, planning, plot, speech, flow, text construction so on and so forth.

This is the 3 step process which I am giving to you all to write a Novel. Let us see, if it is really helpful or not. I am trying this three step process and I hope you will like it as well.

Have a Good Week-days !

Image of the day



Artist: Jules Joseph Lefebvre
Source:
(http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/8/8b/Truth.jpg)

Quote of the day

"Enlightenment is not of the mind, it is not intellect; it is intelligence of a totally different order."

-Nature God
http://www.amazon.com/Nature-God-Santosh-Kalwar/dp/1435760913

What do you associate with flame?

"Krishna, in his eternal dance, is surrounded by flames and holds in his hand the flame that ignited the universe as well as the flame that devours all"

Flame: F L A M E

When I Googled a word called "flame". My search took me to the Wikipedia which defines the term flame as, "A flame is the visible (light-emitting) part of a fire".

F could be Fire
L could be Light
A could be Appearance
E could be Emission

Now if I want to define the flame, I would define it as- An element of fire which results into light of appearance after emission by burning itself.

May be, My first definition which I created in less than 25 seconds are wrong. But, to associate something with flame I need first to understand what the flame is.

By comparing now, definition of flame by me and by the Wikipedia- it results almost the same. Despite there might be some differences.

Anyways, What could be the flame? A burning image which is visible to our eyes. This image shows that you are alive. The image is not of others but yours and only yours. For example- Look yourself in the mirror. When you look at the mirror, what do you see? Your image. Your reflection. The visible part of you. This visible part of you is what the flame is. The visible part of the light. The light which is visible is flame. Similarly, in our lives flame is the visible part- a energy which drives us forward, backward, pauses or plays us in the way we want it to play.

Imagine you have mirror in your room. Will you look at mirror for 24 hours? Surely not, you will look at mirror only when you will desire. Similarly, when you have some desires, some passion, some burning ego inside you which you need to look at then you think of it and look at that "flame". This result not into giving you what you desire but it might just result into your inner reflection and beauty.

Coming to the quoted text in the first couple of lines of this comment, Krishna is surrounded by flame and he is also carrying a flame. May be he is did so, to prove that- Flame will give the reflection of what the world is all about.

One hand carries the flame which ignited universe and may be other hand carries flame which will devours everything. This might be because whatever we do- has two perspectives of view.

A flame has two living entity. One contains a lady and also, a gentlemen. The women perspective is to view a universe as a single. And Gentlemen perspective is to view the universe as different entity. (May be)

It could also be, A flame has two perspectives- One which admires and always agrees with whatever decision we make in our lives. Another which disagrees with whatever decision we make in our lives.

Now when we disagree with the decisions we make then it is because of the flame which devours and when we agree with whatever decision we make it might be just because of the flame which ignites.

Well- Let me stop "my burning flame" for this comment. NOW.

Sunday, January 4, 2009

"The best way to serve God is by going in search of your own dreams. Only the happy can spread happiness."

Who is God? Do I have to go back and read a Bible to know about the Christianity or Should I go back and read a Quran? for Islamic religion to know about their God. Should I go back and turn on the pages of Bhagwad Gita in Hindu religion ?

All these religious text has their "own god". Some says, Jesus was the son of the God. He came to this earth to teach us the lesson of truth and bliss. In another, There is Mohammad who is gives the knowledge about the truth and teaches us who is the God. In Hinduism, the is "Brahma, Vishnu and Mahes" three forms of God.

I am little confused with many different views on the messenger of the God, coming and speaking on earth about the God. Whatever be there views and whatever be the message, I believe they are speaking the same common language in different forms.

To serve a God?

How can a person serve a God? First to serve a God we need to understand who the God is?

Can any one tell me who is the God? Is he existing? Can we see him/her?
I am sorry but I can only see the humans, animals, plants and Nature all around. I cannot see any "Super natural power who says that he is God".

Now Your quote says that if I have to search a God, I need to search my own dreams.
How can I search my dreams which will show me a God? Is that possible. Dream is abstract. Not all dreams could become a reality. Or, if all of the dreams could become reality all the people in the world will be "King" and "Rich and Famous".

Actually, Till now I misread the word "serve" as "search". Alright, Even if I have to serve a unknown character called God. It makes me little difficult to find my own dreams. Well, there are some desires but desires does not account for the dreams.

What you "think of" could not be regarded as dreams. Talking about the second sentence which states that, only those who are happy can spread the happiness. I think yes.

But tell me one person who is fully happy. No one in this world is happy. (Sorry for generalization) But I think, this is true. Why? Simply because, every humans have problems and every humans are fighting to solve their own problems. There is no human who can say or whose inner voice would say that, he is happy.

A momentary smile does not result into happiness. Happiness is extreme form of pleasure a person can deliver to significant other or any other human around him/her.

I hope this critic is enough for the quote.

Mr. X and Miss Y

Mr. X is walking down a street near Helsinki, He watches the beautiful Catholic church near the Central railway station. He has never seen such a Church before. He admires the beauty of the church.

Just near the Church he sees the beautiful girl coming to visit the same church. She is really very pretty, He knows. She comes close to her and she stares at him, in his eyes.He is delighted and overwhelmed by the strange look of a lady.

Mr. X starts day dreaming about the Sex. He is young, medium built in his mid twenties. For him, the desire is significant and important. He is single and by looking in those great eyes of Miss Y, He is really excited and desires Sex.

The desire of Mr. X does not last long since the lady disappears after a while from the Church. Mr. X is now again alone. He was so excited and happy to mingle with this beautiful lady, Miss Y- a slim built, single and with great body.

Mr. X desires are unfulfilled. Following day at the same time, Mr. X thinks of visiting the church again, He is near the church, his eyes are searching for the Miss Y. Where is she?-he thinks. After couple of hours, Miss Y appears in the church- Mr. X was just about to feel happy and excited to start talking with Miss Y but suddenly, Mr. X sees a black man with Miss Y. His desires are shut, He becomes sad. His cheeks fall down and his eyes are in despair.

Miss Y enters the church and goes back but while Miss Y was just about to enter the church, she again looks at Mr. X- her eyes are stating a desire. The eyes are speaking to Mr. X There is a strong desire and some story to be told to Mr. X but he is little shy to go and talk with her-since Miss Y is with this black, heavily built tall guy in his late thirties.

There is some hidden mysteries that has to come out. Why she looks at me every time she visits this Catholic church?- thinks Mr. X, Is there a sense of desire in her or is there some words that I have to listen?-thinks again.


Following day, Mr. X is waiting for her to visit the church again, He is waiting for very long. Miss Y has not showed up. He is anxious. His eyes wants to connect with Miss Y eyes today too, There is a sense of desire and passion for love. May be it might turn out into great love stories who knows?- he thinks.

Mr. X wait has lasted for seven hours still he has not seen Miss Y. He is is really upset and now he has to go back home. Meanwhile there are five Mercedes coming near the church. He sees that there is a coffin being brought in the church. There are many people coming out there cars. He thinks, "who might this be?"

Outside the coffin it reads, "Miss Sanna Maria(1984-2008)".

What a nightmare?-Fiction

Yesterday, a stranger from the capital of Helsinki met his friend who came to pick of his girl friend in airport. A stranger was medium in height, nicely built and seems highly educated and wise. The stranger met his friend near the central railway station in Helsinki.

The stranger was little Surprised when he saw his friend with a girl. A stranger asked, "Hey, when are you going to United Kingdom?".Stranger's friend replied,"Today". Stranger got his reply but did not said anything in response.

Two Cops in Black dress, they were heavily built came near to his friend and said something in Finnish. Stranger despite being living in Finland for more than a year-could not understand the conversations. Stranger's friend was taken in custody and the girl was left alone.

The girl seemed to be very slim-with great tight boobs and wearing beautiful dress. She looked as if she is a Hollywood actress. This sweet girl looked at Stranger as if she needs a help now.

What should a stranger do? He has no idea what to do now-He looks back at the girls eyes, and says-Miss. "What do you think about visiting Helsinki?". The girl is little shy but says, Yes-why not?

Both the Stranger and his friend's girl are now visiting and watching the beautiful monuments, zoos and many beautiful lakes near Helsinki. By the meantime- A unidentified man-starts shooting in the town. There starts the panic in the city. The girl is terrified with such a panic-Girl sees besides her, She cannot believe herself. Stranger is gone. She thinks, Where is this guy? Why did he left in alone? Will he come back? How can I go back to the home? Are all of these Men's really like that?

After twenty minutes stranger appears near the girl and says, "This job was very easy". Girl has no idea what a Stranger is talking about. Now, He picks her up in his arms and says-Close your eyes.

When the girl closes her eyes, She wakes up screaming !!! Oh no, What a nightmare?

Saturday, January 3, 2009

Image of the day




Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Durer_Adam_and_Eve.jpg

Quote of the day

Just do more and Speak less

Friday, January 2, 2009

PP theory

I truly believe that women came into existence for the purpose of only men. There are no other purpose of women existence. This does not mean that, women do not have rights. Yes they have and they should be given equal opportunity. I think there are some group of people who does not understand the value of women existence. The more pain the more pleasure phenomenon is around the world.

PP (Pain gives Pleasure) Theory is such that, the more pain you hear from your partner the more pleasure other partner will receive.

The "PP" theory is result of my own personal experience. I think the same applies in the world back when there was Adam and Eve in Christianity and When there were God and Goddesses existence in Hinduism.

This theory has never changed and will not change ever. (Why not?) This will not change simply because those who are in pain have to take it for granted.

There are laws made for those who commit such an act. Such as Rape, Visiting brothels and selling young girls and children to any humans may it be the "white" or "black" or "big guys".

To hear such a news is interesting and at the same time sad. Those events has to be stopped or even should be limited or minimized to far greater extent.

One of the common problem of this world is- Sex trafficking, child abuse, addiction (watching porno using internet or T.V.) and most importantly terrorism.

I think many countries are fighting for

1. Oil (Petrol, gas, Kerosene and etc.)
2. Land (Kashmir in case of India and Pakistan)
3. Energy (Nuclear and Electric )
4. Power (Political, Fight for recognition )

I think many humans are fighting for

1. Sex (Sex trafficking, child abuse, pleasure)

The above four listed points can vary depending on countries and there policy but the one that is listed in the bottom will stay as long as human being exit on this planet.

I am sorry to say but I know it has no end.

Thursday, January 1, 2009

Just another day

Well, What is the difference between the last day of 2008 and the early new day of the January 01, 2009?

1.There are difference in the numbers
2.In most part of the world, the first day of 2009 is given public holidays.
3.All the three digits of the number from 31.12.2008 changes to 01.01.2009.
4.Most of the people burn fire-crackers and blast them to welcome New Year.
5.All these are done repeatedly every year.

When something is done repeatedly then it become really boring. When we do the same thing time and again then everything that is surrounded by human nature starts to become very predictable and boring.

We then suddenly start feeling depressed and then there is necessity of getting something exciting in life. Change is what our body requires.

For a change to require in our body, please think-
1. Are you celebrating your new year similarly as you did the last year?
2. Do you like the place and environment?
3. Are you faking that you are happy or are you really feeling the joy of being in different dates?
4. What is important to you holidays or new dates or your being together with friends and family?
5. Did u really waked up and smiled looking at mirror?


If you can answer these questions to yourself and you are satisfied by your own answers then you are on the right track. You have started it with refreshing mood and now is the time to carry on...

Good luck and hope is the best medicine when darkness prevails. See you soon!

Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Happy New Year

Welcome 2009 !!!

Last day of 2008

Last day of 2008 !

A new day to new calendar

May this change bring loads of happiness

To all the readers and viewers of Mybheja.

Good luck and see you in new Year 2009.




Quote of the day.

"In every steps that you take in your life-either you pass or fail. If passed step, you are on right track. If failed, you simply need to change your step."


"Every relation has robbed women."

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Monday, December 29, 2008

What is your Resolution for 2009?

This is little difficult for me-

As I am very bad at making plans and it is good idea to make a plan and work for these plans ahead. How about doing the things you like most at a given time? How about doing what your heart says? How about not planning ahead in advance.

There are people who waste time making calendars and put there events in the calendar but I just try to remember everything in my little head.

In 2008, I has some things in my mind. For example,

I will write around 365 posts in 2008 and if you will check now at the end of 2008 you will find that, I have really accomplished what I thought.
http://www.mybheja.blogspot.com
I am little doubtful if I will post 365 articles or posts in the same blog. It will depend on which place I will live. If I remain in Finland then I think, yes but if not, then I doubt on my own abilities this year.I do not know what would be my resolution in 2009 but let me try to make the list and see if I will achieve by the end of the year 2009.

There is some career accomplishments, personal voyage and many other random stuffs which I personally would like to do in 2009.

"Humans desires never end, every time we want more and more-it just never ends."

I truly believe in the above cited quotes. Therefore for coming new year 2009 which is-
2+0+0+9=11
Total is equal to Eleven

There is a book written by Paulo, called "Eleven Minutes". I have not yet read that book, I wish I could.

-May be Paulo will post his book "Eleven Minutes" in the blog and I will read them in 2009.

But just wait a moment, When we add "Eleven" i.e. 1+1=2

The final single number after the end of year 2009 is,

2+0+0+9=11 =1+1=2 (Two)

Two has a great meaning, it could mean "good" or "bad", it may also mean "right" or "wrong". In technology two means, 10 (Binary representation of decimal number 2)

When we go further deep we can find that in Electricity two mean either "on" or "off".

Now-let me see what this two has to do in my personal life. Well, Oh-

Alright, I got it.

I am presently in Finland,and Two could mean-I can go back to my home country in Nepal or might again, come back from Nepal to further study here in Finland.

May be, Two means I would have two wifes. I think I have to work very hard to make this happen. Simply because Generally, People say that "Behind every successful man, there is a women". Since the economic crisis is going on these days, jobs are being cut and there are loads of problems floating in around the air. Therefore, So, I think if someday I am going to become successful then, I need not just only "a women" but may be "two women".

What else two could mean in my life,
May be I will finish my second book which I am working on currently.Since this book will be the work of fiction, and I will try to find a publisher for this one. I do not want them to "self-publish". Simply because, it does not reach to wide audience until and unless you are famous.

What else, May be couple of "Scientific Journal" should be researched and published. But I still do not know if I will first be given any position for the study. Especially the research funding for the work by the University.

I think in 365 days these resolutions are good enough and if I complete even half of these then I think I have accomplished what I have promised with myself.

Now as you said Paulo, that you will again post these list at the end of year 2009, I will summarize them below.

1) Post 365 articles, opinions and views on the blog with average post of one article every day.
http://www.mybheja.blogspot.com

2) If possible read the book "Eleven minutes" by Paulo. (if posted for free or given to me by Paulo as gift)

3) Travel back to home country Nepal (and come back again in Finland.) If not offered the Residence permit on any grounds such as study or work here in Finland then I have to see the other opportunities elsewhere.

4) Try to make two wives. The term wives does not mean that I will marry them officially but I prefer to call "wife" rather than calling them as "girl friend" simply because, I believe the term "girl friend" is misleading in this era where you keep on changing them every time. My definition of "wife" is those ladies who are dedicated and committed to you as much as you are committed and dedicated to them. (Both of them different, both of them should like me more than they like anybody else, both of them should care more about me more than any one in the entire world, both of them should help me in any given ways and both of them I should like as well more than my life.)

5) Finish my second book. A work of fiction. Currently I have started to think on this project. Let us see if I can complete it by the end of year 2009.

6)Find the suitable publisher for the my second book. (If not, then self publish.) This one is very difficult, I know.

7) May be one two papers on "Scientific Journal or Conference" by the end of the year through my research work.


OK, I must stop now. This is already very ambitious dreams and even if I complete half of them or some of them, then I will be satisfied.

Satisfaction will not come to me, if I will complete these above mentioned "To do" lists but the real satisfaction will come to me when I will start doing them.

Therefore, I would like to stop here by saying that-

"Whatever you do, whatever you get- at the end the most important of all, simply ask one question:
Are you satisfied?
If your listen from your inner voice-yes, then you are the most happiest on earth, if no-then try to ask again and say, why not?"

Good luck to you all, in 2009 !

Quote of the day

If you want to see god, look into the eyes of the child

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Christmas Poem

Today was the day when Jesus Christ was born.
Today is the day when many womens are giving birth.

Today is the day, many people are dying.
Today is the day, women and children's are crying.
Today is the day, some are happy and some are sad.

Some feel the pain and some feel the pleasure.
Some are writing poem and some are reading chime.

Whatever be the case, we all are down to re-climb.
Oh, What a beautiful day !

Should we celebrate or should be mourn ?
Should we pray or should we dine ?

Anyways, Those who believe in Christianity
Merry Christmas, those who don't Merry Christmas too.

Quote of the day

One of the land you should not miss, guess?
It is called "Finland".

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

Poison - Every Rose Has it's Thorn

We both lie silently still
In the dead of the night
Although we both lie close together
We feel miles apart inside

Was it something I said or something I did
Did my words not come out right
Though I tried not to hurt you
Though I tried
But I guess thats why they say

Chorus:
Every rose has its thorn
Just like every night has its dawn
Just like every cowboy sings his sad, sad song
Every rose has its thorn

Yeah it does

I listen to our favorite song
Playing on the radio
Hear the dj say loves a game of easy come and
Easy go
But I wonder does he know
Has he ever felt like this
And I know that youd be here right now
If I could have let you know somehow
I guess

Chorus

Though its been a while now
I can still feel so much pain
Like a knife that cuts you the wound heals
But the scar, that scar remains

Solo

I know I could have saved a love that night
If Id known what to say
Instead of makin love
We both made our separate ways

But now I hear you found somebody new
And that I never meant that much to you
To hear that tears me up inside
And to see you cuts me like a knife
I guess

Quote of the day

I am born every day and I die every day.

Comments on "What is your call?"

Just when I was writing the comments on your blog, something happened I do not know who did it but something really worse happened. The worse means, I was about to finish the comments but somehow I could not submit it in your blog because whole comments were deleted by mistake.

I am little surprised who did this? Was it me? Should I blame on the Keyboard of the computer? Should I blame on the God? Should I blame on your Web page, tell me Mr. Coelho?

What should I do? Should I say that it was my fingers which went on these keyboards and accidentally something happened? I am little confused to think NOW.

I think the previous comments that I wrote was better, I think that those comments has beautiful insights on how to express feelings at this particular moment.

What should I do now? Should I say that, I am feeling bad or should i think God does not wanted to show my true potentials for your valued question? I want your help, Just tell me what should I think? Should I think whatever happened was not my mistake or should I think that what am doing is not good?

There are many answers by many authors in your blog and I have read most of them. Some of them are stating that, they have published the books on there web pages, some of them are posting that they want to listen music, learn and educate and some still do not know what is there call?

What would be the best answer ? Our vision and emotions drive our action, but I am worried that you will not like my comment because this comment is not good then the before. The comment which I was going to "just submit", which was far better than the comment which I am writing it now.

Who is to blame on this situation? or I think I should just ignore it completely and do not blame on anybody else. Why am I thinking that this comment is not better than the comment that I wrote previously, why am I thinking that I am not good reader than others who read your questions and answer them regularly? Well, I think I should accept the things as they are.

However, How can I forget the previous event that happened just before my eyes. The comments that I was writing could not be successfully be posted because something flashed in the Screen of my computer and it went disappearing. I was so disappointed. I think I should not, but I could not forget that event. I want to but i cannot.

Let me stop now. As far as my understanding of the question- it stated that,what is that I am doing now, or thinking now ? Tell me if I am wrong.

Well, all the above sentences and paragraphs will explain you that I was fighting to right good comment on this post. This is what I was trying to do and I was all the time thinking about what is that I am doing? Since I was thinking on what is that I am doing, I was all the time thinking the event that happened just before my eyes and writing in this blog about it.

Please read this article which was published in the Newspaper
http://mybheja.blogspot.com/2007/07/live-in-moment.aspx

After reading this article you will learn what I was trying to tell you.


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Live in the moment
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Live in the moment

Past was never yours
Future will be yours

Today is the Present
Live in this Present

Actions are driven thoughts
Like a flowing river

We create and Change
We fell and wake up

But any given moment
Will show us, tell us
Speak for us and teaches us

That we are a Human
An animal which thinks

At any given moment
with pleasure and happiness

With joy and forgiveness
With sorrow and happiness

We are just humans
My dear child, Just humans
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Merry Christmas and Happy New Year 2009 to you all. May the power of God give you what you want,
tell you what you want to hear,
listen you what you want to say,
teach you what you want to learn,
show you what you want to see,
smells what you want to blossom,

May the power of God delivers you, everything.

Monday, December 22, 2008

Image of the week

Quote of the day.

"Greatest mind in the earth is Ordinary Mind, not Popular Mind".

Veronica Decides to Die

A book that is very well written and greatly presented. I know I have "Veronica Decides to die". It is a hard work and great art of a brilliant author. It is you "Paulo".Well done.

After reading your book, I started seriously thinking on the question which needs real research by great researchers in the world. Only one question which researchers should answer is that-

1)Why do people commit suicide?

Let me go through some of the things that I have figured out till date.There are many answers to the same question by many people and I may sometime agree on the issue and sometimes I may not agree at all.
The point is all do one thing which is "suicide", although the execution and implementation of the suicide might be different. What causes the humans to commit for suicide? I think the suicide is higher in Women than in Male but why do people have to think that they are going to quit the life?

One common cause is that,

Humans
|
Problems
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Sadness
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Depression (Extensive)
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Lack of purpose in living
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Kill yourself

The process is Six step phenomenon where these six step phenomenon works like this.

1) Humans
We all are humans and we know there are our needs, our desire, career, life, relationship, friends, family, culture, country and our vision and motto for life. We know that we are going to achieve something or want something in our life. We have this quest and search for living happily ever after and smiling all the times (especially even in worries)

2)Problems
We all face problems. Our problems can be same and at the same time it can be different too. A personal problems such as lack of skill, lack of knowledge, divorce, physically obliged, sexually dissatisfied, displeasure, also work problems, career problems, struggling to make enough money, dreams and vision which results into self problems, distress, stress, anxiety, irritation, anger and grief and many more. These are all common problems that we face in daily life.

3)Sadness
The problems are the root cause of Sadness. The problem can result into Sadness. You feel sad, because you are going though divorce. Or, let us say, you feel dissatisfied because your friends earn better salary then you do, or let us say, you are facing career problems with no position offered for higher studies and so on. Therefore, the problems can result into Sadness in our lives.

4)Depression (Extensive)
(Why?) Well, Depression because this is root cause of making you think that you should quit your life. The depression especially extensive. It might come when you are alone, when there is nobody around you. When you feel lonely and you are in darkness. This might give you enough reasons to think that you should "check out" from your life.

5)Lack of Purpose in Living
We are humans and we live on purpose. We have a good purpose to live our life simply because we are either Engineers earning a good salary and we have a nice job or we are doctors serving patient daily, or we are professor giving lecture to the student, or we are authors writing and telling our stories all around, or we are artist who is painting his vision. Life is full of purpose and without purpose we lack everything. When there is feeling of lack of purpose in living then we think well, now I do not have anything to do. What if, you imagine that you do not have anything to do? what will happen when you do not have anything to do ?

6)Kill yourself
This is the best solution when all of your previous five steps are ready. When you are gone through above five steps or even few of them then you are finally ready to "check out" from your life. You do not feel anything in this state. You do not have any opinion on any body. You cannot take any lessons inside. Nothing can go inside you. Only thing that is going to make a mark in your life NOW-Kill yourself. Now, you want to see how would "I" be after I killed myself? Where would I go? Since Nobody wants me, why should I live anymore? There is NOBODY for me? I am alone and I was alone, why should I live? What is the purpose for me to live any longer? I am a burden in this earth? a

These question will drive a human to finally quit the life.


Therefore, when a human goes through these six steps they can really go for a long long holiday. The root cause of problems should be discovered early in the life. There are many ways to avoid it. Unlike going through these problems one should actually think about doing something positive and good.

1)Everybody in this earth are unique. They are made for some purpose.
2)All humans are born special and they should die special. (Not like a coward by committing suicide.)
3)There are never any reasons for "love", there are never any reasons for you being alone.A man who loves his aloneness is capable of love, and a man who feels lonely is incapable of love.
http://mybheja.blogspot.com/2007/08/being-alone.aspx
4)Live not for yourself, live for others.
5)When you decide you want to kill yourself, first decide to smile at 1000 child.
6)Learning never stops and imagine being old writing book, telling your story to your grandchildren or your children, Everyday event adds to one page of journal in your life.
7)Think, Learn, Educate, See and Feel the world with similarities. Hope is the best medicine in darkness.

Good luck and live your life.

Sunday, December 21, 2008

Tanita Tikaram - Twist In My Sobriety

All God's children need travelling shoes
Drive your problems from here
All good people read good books
Now your conscience is clear
I hear you talk girl
Now your conscience is clear

In the morning I wipe my brow
Wipe the miles away
I like to think I can be so willed
And never do what you say
I'll never hear you
And never do what you say

Look my eyes are just holograms
Look your love has drawn red from my hands
From my hands you know you'll never be
More than twist in my sobriety
More than twist in my sobriety
More than twist in my sobriety

We just poked a little pie
For the fun people had at night
Late at night don't need hostility
The timid smile and pause to free

I don't care about their different thoughts
Different thoughts are good for me
Up in arms and chaste and whole
All God's children took their toll

Look my eyes are just holograms
Look your love has drawn red from my hands
From my hands you know you'll never be
More than twist in my sobriety
More than twist in my sobriety
More than twist in my sobriety

Cup of tea, take time to think, yea
Time to risk a life, a life, a life
Sweet and handsome
Soft and porky
You pig out 'til you've seen the light
Pig out 'til you've seen the light

Half the people read the papers
Read them good and well
Pretty people, nervous people
People have got to sell
News you have to sell

Look my eyes are just holograms
Look your love has drawn red from my hands
From my hands you know you'll never be
More than twist in my sobriety
More than twist in my sobriety
More than twist in my sobriety

Story begins...

Now I do not know why, but it feels that today she is going to take this big step and come close to me. She is the most beautiful women that I have seen. She is ever changing and blazing like never before. She looks much prettier than the red rose.

What is wrong today with this climate? Why is there sun shining when it should not shine. The temperature is below the zero and today the sun is shining above my head. Oh ! God, I am little worried but at the same time I am little happy. I want to see her. I want to take her into my arms and feel the heat.

The heat of two hearts, the hearts which are far from each other. But No way, the distance cannot make it difficult for us. The distance will never create a problem. I know. Whatever it takes, I will go and see her. Whatever be the situation- even if God does not want me to let me go, I want to just see her.

Is there any wrong in seeing the person you like? Is there any mistake that I commit in doing the things my heart wants to do? Do I have to see the difference that society sees as the blockage? Why do people talk about the sex, religion, caste, age and many of such bullish non-sense? Why should I care? I have come to the conlcusion that if we see the difference and if I see those from the eyes of the people, then I am not being myself. I am being them.

I do not want to be them no, no way. I just want to be myself. I know she like me not the society, not my race, color, religion, age and whatever. I know, she just wants to see me as I want to see her. I know she has this dramatic blaze of glory inside her. When we are together, we are only together and we do not see the world around. I know this is the most beautiful thing ever one person can imagine. I do not want to say Good bye to her. Never! I have started hating the word Goodbye. I do not now why but I do not like Goodbyes now.

She is the one. The beautiful wedding dress and the beautiful look just makes me crazy all the time. I am alive now. She makes me alive. She is the one who I always wanted. I see if we had already met before. I think we had met already before. Not in this present relationship but in the past. I know I went to war and I could not come back home. I know she waited for me. I know I have done wrong by asking her to wait for me. She was alone, She was all the time waiting for me. Every day, when she looked outside from her window, there was fear and desperation in her eyes. The desire of seeing me with my bags running and coming close to her. Smiling all the time. But after a while- sun will feel the shyness and go and hide into the darkness. She waited for me so long.

I am sorry that I made her wait. I do not want to loose her again. She is the one that I have waited for more than sixteen months. She is the true beauty that I cannot stop admiring. She is the most precious gift that I ever wanted. She is the best thing that have ever happened to me. Oh God, I am so alive now. I want to start writing about all these. I want to dedicate my life is telling the story to all. I want to say that, such a romantic love and evolve from the beauty of our story. This is the story which needs to be told. This is the story which has to come out and give the lessons to those who never have fallen in love before. This is the story also for those who fight in every day life about not living together, this is the real story of these two couple who cannot live without each other even just for a second.

The journey has started and let this journey now begin...

(Author is working on a new project)

Guns n' Roses - This I Love (full new video)

This I Love by Axl Rose

And now I don't know why
She wouldn't say goodbye
But then it seems that I
Had seen it in her eyes

Though it might not be wise
I'd still have to try
With all the love
I have inside
I can't deny

I just can't let it die
'Cause her heart's just like mine
And she holds her pain inside

So if you ask me why
She wouldn't say goodbye
I know somewhere inside
There is a special light
Still shining bright
And even on the darkest night
She can't deny

So if she's somewhere near me
I hope to God she hears me
There's no one else
Could ever make me feel
I'm so alive

I hoped she'd never leave me
Please God you must believe me
I've searched the universe
And found myself
Within her eyes

No matter how I try
They say it's all a lie
So what's the use of my
Confessions to a crime
Of passions that won't die
In my heart

So if she's somewhere near me
I hope to God she hears me
There's no one else
Could ever make me feel
I'm so alive

I hoped she'd never leave me
Please God you must believe me
I've searched the universe
And found myself
Within her eyes

So now I don't know why
She wouldn't say goodbye
It might just be that I
Had seen it in her eyes
And now it seems that I
Gave up my ghost of pride
I'll never say goodbye

Friday, December 19, 2008

Madonna Material Girl

You know that we are living in a material world
And I am a material girl!!

Thursday, December 18, 2008

Free Content

Free Content is the biggest question now a days. As I have read the previous comments in your blog it appears to my knowledge that, there are multiple views on free contents.

Some of the authors have pointed out that, free content is good and some says, it is bad. Some has a great idea on how technology has transferred over the period of time.

The matter of choice should be given to humans and only humans alone. The choice of either using the computer and reading the content for free or visiting the book store and buying a book is different all together.

As a author, only thing that comes in your mind is you have a very good idea and this has to come out in public. People should be aware of what is going around and what is happening around the world also how your idea is really related and how you can benefit from your “best ideas”. At the point of writing you are not thinking about marketing or collecting big revenues or even dreaming to win a Nobel Prize for your work.

The path that I am traveling has been traveled by somebody else. There are millions and billions of humans in the world. Those who are currently alive and those who are no longer. Whatever I am doing has been done already. I am constantly thinking that I am doing something new but I also have to realize that what “I” as the person am doing has already been done or is being done somewhere in some part of the world.

Well, Although technology in every day life cannot be ignored and one has to benefit from the usage of the technology. It is always a good idea to use the technology and benefit from the advantage of it. After all this is for us.

The generation that are is evolving is most of the times posting the content on the internet- let us say for example “technorati” where there are millions of contents posted every day.These blog posts and articles have thousand of great ideas but how are they really making any point? Will they really reach to the right people at right time?

To have a greater impact and greater socialization of “your ideas” it has to be used efficiently, in a proper manner.

We do not know how to make benefit or money from our work but, “Giving is the best thing we know as the writer.”

It is good idea to deliver the content for free but at the same time it is bad idea to really give everything for free.

Well, I do not agree that “beauty is free”. Beauty cannot be free simply because it is in the nature. Simplicity of the beauty is free but beauty does not lies in being free. Let me give you one example.

Let us say, you see the flower. You see this flower which is red and your personal favorite color is also red but some how you have a color blindness and you cannot see the color red. One of your very best friends come near to you and she says, Wow what a beautiful color and flower. You cannot see the particular flower but you still admire with the beauty.

Imagine now you do not have color blindness and you can see the flower. In this situation, you will see the red flower, you appreciate the beauty of that flower but you cannot have it. It is not free. It has its own life. It is an object which lives on its own. The life cycle of this beautiful red flower is with the Nature.

Similar analogy holds true with the “free content”. The content and ideas are just floating around us all the time. The matter of choice for picking up “whose” idea could be trusted depends upon the humans all around the world.

Selection should be given to people either to use free or not. However, free does not makes the content valuable and not free does not make ideas famous.

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

नेपाल एकदिन फर्कन्छु

Subject: नेपाल एकदिन फर्कन्छु

A very touching poem by Birkhe Maila published in Sajha.com

नेपाल एकदिन फर्कन्छु (?!)

नेपाल एकदिन फर्कन्छु,
अमेरिकामा रमाउन सकिन्न!
संकल्प धेरै पटक मनमा आए।
तर, पढाइ त पुरा होस!
कलेज – डेरा, डेरा - कलेज
पढाई पनि सकियो।
यतिका बर्ष बिताईयो,
खालि हात के जानु!

नेपाल एकदिन फर्कन्छु,
अमेरिकामा रमाउन सकिन्न!
तर केहि बर्ष जागिर त खाउँ!
जागिर पनि खाइयो।
डेरा – जागिर, जागिर – डेरा
एक्लो भइएछ दुबैमा!
तर, म एक्लो भएको कुरा
मलाई भन्दा पहिला
नेपालमा आमालाई थाहा भयो!

नेपाल एकदिन साँच्चै फर्कन्छु,
अमेरिकामा रमाउन सकिन्न!
अहिले बिस दिने बिदामा आएको।
तपाईँको कपाल कति धेरै फुलेछन् आमा!
बुबा पनि कमजोर हुनुभएछ!
आमा बुबालाई मनभरि हेर्न नभ्याउँदै,
बिस दिनमा जीवन बिताउने
सम्झौता गरियो कुनै अपरिचित संग!

नेपाल एकदिन फर्कन्छु!
अमेरिकामा रमाउन सकिन्न!
तर अहिले अलिक मिल्दैन।
उसको भ्याई नभ्याई छ
मेरो बिदा उसको काम,
उसको बिदा मेरो काम!
फेरि छोरो पनि सानै छ!
छोरो अलिक ठुलो त होस!

नेपाल एकदिन फर्कन्थेँ
अमेरिकामा कहिल्यै रमाइन
तर कसलाई भेट्न जाउँ?
साथि भाईको खबर छैन
काका पनि ओछ्यान परे रे
कान्छो मामा पोहोर बिते रे!
आमा, बुबा त अब
हरदम म संगै छन्
मेरो यादमा, केवल यादमा!!
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Wednesday, December 10, 2008

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Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Monday, December 8, 2008

The Internet Way of Death

Last couple of weeks ago, some guy committed suicide on the Internet and some other people forced him to do so. There are many reviews from the experts on this issue. I think,These are all well known facts. We know that people have misbehaved on the Internet. They have shown the character of animals and they also have force others to do wrong.

But do not yet reach to the conclusion- "We always wanted this, don't we?". We wanted to change the way we live. We are in the world where decisions are being made on the machine, we do not get together off line often, we do not meet off line often.

Sorry I used the word "we". But why?, The only answer that comes with all those around is that- "It saves time".

We are moving at rapid pace with both of our eyes looking for more and more adventure. We want to achieve something in this world. When we want to achieve something then there are two ways-

1. Technological revolution.

2. Infrastructure development, Economy boom and Great Intellectual or Artificial Mind production.

We already have are very good at Number 1. Concerning Number 2, we are working it seems. (That is really good too.)


Now, Comes the important aspect- Let me give you one analogy,

What happens to a Mr. X who runs very fast in the crowded streets ?

- What are the chances that he will catch the train?

- What if he dies?

- What if he is successful ?

- What if he hurts some one around when he is running with lightning speed?

- What if he does not care?

He has very fast technology tools with him- like Wireless GPS System, He also has Nokia Maps, He has many more advance technology tools and he is using them too. Since his focus is to run in fast speed without caring anyone.

In the process he can hurt someone, isn't it ?

Anyways, I have to stop it now. The same things holds true when some one is using the content. The man wants to show that he is the best, he is capable of doing what he can, he can write something and hurt others feelings. For all this to control-

As one guy Pointed out, "how brain works, how mind works" these phenomenon becomes essential.

Anyways, Many Scientist has spend their lives understanding "ants, bees and Chimpanzee". I wonder where are the people who can some day understand "humans". It is good practice to start now. :)

Sunday, December 7, 2008

What do you associate with mouth?

Mouth is for words. The words come from this very mouth and the words are spoken from this very mouth. The words flows from your mouth. As you said Paulo, We eat, we drink and we do kiss, we even lick or we taste something from the tongue in the mouth.

Mouth is the way of input. We take in any food through this organ present in our body. Now there are different ways to look at this. We can see it spiritually, we can even see this culturally, we can even see this in many other ways that will have good meaning.

Let us see first what it signifies, If there was some creator why did he put this organ in the human body? What was the reason of putting the mouth? Why did we only take all these food materials from only mouth? Why cannot we use other organ for input. Let us say, Nose or ears or … Why we were taught that we should take our foods from the mouth and not from the other organ.

Probably these questions are very childish. These questions would be asked by very small child. And the beauty of this question is the simplicity of these question. Tomorrow, it can become a research questions for the Researchers.

When we were a small child, we were taught like this, we were feed by our mother in the mouth. Later we grew up, we came to know that the food goes inside this organ. Then slowly, we started to adopt to this environment and Nature.

The first step is the last step. Everything that we do in first becomes the last. It does not signifies that it will last for ever but it may last for ever too. Let me take you outside this topic and give you one example,

When we first experience the sex, Before the experience you do not know how it is like? Will this hurt? Will I feel the pain? Will there be pleasure, will there be trouble ? We think on many issues of the sex. But once you experience it and slowly you like it later. Because it will take some time before you will say- “Yes” it is great.

After some period of the time you start to like the sex and later you will be addicted to it. Then the whole way of doing something becomes like an addiction. You cannot live it, you cannot say-well, I do not want to do it. It become like an addiction and it continues. (Why?) Simply because, you know every body around you do this, you have learned in your book, you have been taught in the school, you have been seen your parents do this- then you slowly start thinking (Why should not I do the same?)

Therefore, Let us now get back to topic of Mouth. The mouth is same organ which takes input and we know this organ has a capabilities of speak, to take input (Whatever) and to even throw output(by speaking)

When you speak what comes out of your mouth?
-Words
When these words come out of your mouth, how is the impact?
-Depends on whom you speak and what you speak

Ultimately, the words are the root cause of everything. The words can bring some one close and the words can kill some one for no reasons.
Words can create peace and love, words can even create war and violence.

Mouth has vital role to play in the way we use it.

Isabel Allende on "A tale of Passion"

Thursday, December 4, 2008

Rwanda Internet Evolution.

"Internet Evolution's Web Wide World takes us to Rwanda, a country torn apart by genocide, and now attempting a radical transformation from an agrarian society to a knowledge-based economy, via the Internet"

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Your Opinion On : How can social communities prevent cyber-bullying?

OK, Here I go-

(First)

I have been working lately on this topic. My research paper could be found from the following link. (If you are interested on technical details together with the social aspects of using the Internet)


(Second),

I read the post written by many authors in above, Every body argues on how can the child be bought up with security and should get enough privacy.

Well, I think to some extent yes, we need to have the proper mechanism to control the content on the Internet. As we can see every day number of user accessing the online content is increasing at very rapid pace.

Till date there are 50 Countries which has the access to the Internet, according to World Fact Book. It is increasing daily and sooner or later, there will be all the countries in the world which will have access to the Internet technology.

It is a good thing not to consider the Internet as having bad effect because it is not about the technology as such, but it is all about the content available on the Internet.

There are many different kinds of humans around the globe. Some are very hard and some are very soft. Those who are hard hearted do not care about anything that comes and goes in life. But those who are soft hearted cares a lot about even a minor things in the life.

I believe that, "Women are made for multitasking" and "Men are made for "single tasking". If you see for example any women, you will easily figure out that- they perform more than one task at the same time. But we men cannot some how do more than one task at the same time.

When you are doing more than one task at the same time, there is a chance of having psychological problems. These psychological problems are not caused by the task itself but with the amount of information that flows between the task and the person involved.

There is also another way of looking at this issue. If we go more deeper in to this issue, then first of all we must understand how brain works. If we can understand how brain works then our job would be to understand how behavior is triggered ? Since till date, there is no good theory on brain or behavior. We cannot generalize the fact that "this particular thing caused this".

What I mean to say is that, when you are using the Internet you cannot say that it is because of the Internet, you have been suffering from the psychological problems.

The best solution of understanding the behavior is to have a control over own behavior. Is it possible ? If you ask me- I would say, Yes. It is very much possible to control owns behavior. There are many ways but the simplest way is to control your daily emotions. The best approach would be to use- "Punk approach". In this approach you have to understand these key functionalities.

1. You are born, you will die one day. (So will every one else !)
2. Whatever I am doing is good.
3. "Who cares !"
4. I know who I am.
5. I can control my mind.

In The punk approach the most important is (3). The statement with the quotes- "who cares". If you can understand this phenomenon, then no one is going to commit suicide on the Internet.

Therefore, It is very important to understand what goes in the mind of human and how can behavior is triggered. What makes them unhappy ? What are the major types of anxiety felt by an individual. One good web pages which can predict the behavior of humans is by Dr. Kimberly Yong. She has been doing loads of research on this issue.

http://www.netaddiction.com/ (Center for online addiction)

Mary Jander suggests that, "Cultural reticence or public affect doesn't translate into private Internet addiction." Therefore, Internet addiction is a growing trend in many countries now a days.

Social or Not social only time will tell when people will feel more types of anxiety of using the Internet technology later in future.