Am we really in love ?

This spring season, weather is fantastic, shiny, bright, with rays of light crossing your body part giving you some smile to cheer. Love is in the air this spring. Some times I think I am being addicted to it.

You can see from the last three four of the post I am writing all about love, I do not know. I am being addicted to love. I am confused, I am in puzzled, surprised and want to know what is love. In the process of knowing love, you have to first be in love.

Being in love, is similar to being alone. When you are alone you love your self, you love what you do and what you do not do. Being in love is some what similar to that. I do not what is love therefore I will tell you what it feels to be addicted in love.

When a person is addicted in love, the person constantly thinks about the person whom he thinks he should be with, the constantly thinks about that very special person in his life, he remembers all those memories he has shared with her, his memoir, his thoughts are in constant motion towards the love of her lady.

Addiction is some what similar to being addicted in sex, without sex nobody in the relationship can survive but can you ask a person to be in love especially in long distance relationship not to do sex and be in love with the person of his/her dreams ?

It depends upon the person, it also depends upon the commitment and it depends on the truthfulness, trusworthyness of your partner. How can a person be said or judged that he is talented, skillful and intelligent. Person who are educated cannot be categorised as perfect or intelligent.

The categories we give and our concept does not help in case of love, Which is very difficult itself to understand. How do you know that you are in love ? Is sex love ? Where every body knows that lust and love cannot be mixed together. Sex can never be love and love can never be sex. Is sex necessary than for love ?

Can a person be in love without sex and can a person be also in love with sex ? I think yes. A person can be in love without sex and also a person can be in love with sex. It depeneds upon the relationship you are building. It is process, it requires your commitment, it requires sweat and it should be based on truth.

When you say that you are in love how do you feel that you really are in love ? Do you really fall for your partner ? Do you think you can do whatsoever for her/him ? Do you really want to dedicate your entire life for your partner ?

If your answer is yes, then you are not in love. If your answer is no, then surely you might have some chance of being in love and if you say you do not know then their is more chances of being in love.

Do not get surprise by such interpretation. It might seem absurd but it is not. When you say a person that you are in love with him/her. You are finished. At that very point, your love is an end. You do not have anything to give. You have pour all the water in the sea to ocean and the sea is empty.

When the sea is empty their is nothing, it has lost its value, it has become a plane land. Every body will ignore the value of the sea which has turned into land. When you retain as the sea and do not tell your partner that you love however show her in some way that you are in the process. As that time, you are letting your partner guess.

When a girl is in constant guess, when a girl do not get what she really wants she will spend her whole entire life to get it. She will be more committed.


Please note the couple of lines above those are very important.I do not know from where all these thoughts comes or pops up in my mind but these are coming regularly recently in my mind. I hope this is the theory I believe in love. I do not suggest you to do the same but do think after it.

Journey of love

We can travel around the world searching for the right person in our life. What would I say that Some times the greatest journey is the distance between people. It is very difficult to find the right person in your life. You may think Miss Y is the best but at the same time you will meet some body with other good qualities that you will again re-think your mind stating Miss YY is good for me.

The choices we make, the decision we take are not always right in our life. We do mistakes and it is good practice to learn from those mistakes. The beauty of love, the kiss, caring and touch of other person gives you the feeling in your life that weather that person is suitable for you or not.

Women will always not find out that who is the right person for their own life because many of the times they are confused with themselves. She is in constant search of good person in her life. The ideal person for a women would be who cares her, kiss her, loves her, stands by her, gossips with her, gives her surprises,does many different things to impress her, makes her laugh, makes her cry and most importantly loves her more than himself.

Some times What I believe is that many of the relationship does not work out only because we love more than we love other person. The love of self is more than the love of person who is your soul mate.How many of us believe in love at first sight.? Love at first sight can happen only if you both are soul mates. The greatest difficulty is not in being in love but retaining the love. The greatest fear is not loosing your love but maintaining and giving the love.

My own personal experiences teaches me thousands of lesson that some times I get confused with the term itself. Their are many people who are in love, who are in committed relationship but due to some reasons-financial, economical, material and many such problems somehow could not be with the love. To all those I would like to say that greatest fear in their heart and mind is loosing the love, I would like to tell them that do not fear, expect and fall in trap of believing your love is good or bad.

Love cannot be judged with our feelings, love cannot be calculated by mathematics, even Einstein could not calculate it, It is your fulfillment, your commitment, and your dedication to maintain the love.Love do not remain for long only for you, you got to maintain it for yourself.

Many of the times we love ourselves than the person whom we say-"I love you". It is true. The reason behind this phenomenon is called love for individuality or self love. Which shows that we kill the things we love. When such thing happens why do we blame that our relationship didn't work out?

Be prepared for the journey of love of your soul mate, the love for your country, the love of your society and the love of your mother do not try to find any difference in them because all is fair when love is taken as love.

Oh my love.

Last night, I watched a good music recommended from a friends website. It was amazing. It somehow relates to my own life in different way. I do not want to explain it publicly. How good and beautiful that song is, The meaning I understood is some what I would like to tell you here. It is from the movie and I have not yet seen the movie.

The song has a deep meaning, meaning stating that do not forget the tears that flowed, do not forget the long nights that I remembered for you, do not forget all those moments that I waited for you.

The song asks for a love, just to see the glance or second of the person's love. The person wants to meet some one in love. She is far far from him. The gentleman is waiting and he says he will do anything for her, just to see her. The gentleman is in the state of dying, he could not live without her. He wants to meet her but he could not.

He says to his love that do not forget seas which has seen him crying, do not forget the day which separated them apart. Love grows with time, as the wine improves every year love become stronger like a wine.

Imagine a situation where you want to meet your love and you are in the stage of dieying, you are lieying in the deathbed, you have not confessed your love for her. You have not said even that "you love her". How would you feel ?

You last breath depends on it, you cannot die only because you want to say one lovely, statement to the person who is far far away from you. The person whom you never knew that you love. The person who always loved you.

Love is the beauty which is indescribable. As the world is changing, the way of doing love or being in love is also changing, we say even when we do not mean it. We talk even if we do not know what we are talking, we think we are in love even if we do not know what "love " is.

Aloneness is the first lesson of Love, it will take time for people to understand what is aloneness. Love is statement of question that has remained unanswered. It is something which cannot be touched, something which do not have smell, it is the beauty which my mind cannot describe.

You do not know you are in love, that is good in that case you are being with yourself, in such situation you know you are being truthful to yourself. It is always good to be truthful to yourself than to act to others that you are just being honest about yourself. Do not do what others want to hear from you. Do what your inner best friend ask you to do.

Oh my love, what wil happen if I am dead and I could not say that "I loved you". Oh my love how would you live without me ? Oh my love, , ,

how would you feel when you will see my dead body lieying besides you, what would i excuse myself of not saying those worlds which your ears always wanted to hear.

Oh my love, I am sorry, It is difficult to be man of words and man of deeds at the same time. Oh my love I am sorry that I would one day hopefully feel the "love " for you.

Their are times in my life where I have not said even once my love for you, I am sorry and please forgive me if i die without saying that "i loved you".

Oh my love, you are the most beautiful person that i have ever met, Oh my love without you life is just as empty as the sea without water, what would sea do if their is no water in it ?

Oh my love, in every steps of your life, My prayers are with you, my blessings are with you and my caring, memories are with you. Oh my love, without you I am without.


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Happy New Year 2065

Happy New Year 2065. We are humans from future. Many people in the world can learn a good lesson from us. HOw ? We can teach people how one can be very close to Nature and learn a lesson from the its environment and surroundings.

Nepal is soon going to write consitutency assembly which is vital for whole country. I would like to say that- Indians we are no longer, Chinese we do not want to become so Let us be true Nepali.

People generally kill the the things they love most. We like something so much that we cannot live without it but generally we do kill those things. It is easy. It is easy to kill the things that you love. We should kill the old political rule, autocratic rule of King and we all know the fact that Nepal was only Hindu Kingdom in the world but we kill that, Now we are secular kingdom.

That was just an simple example. Happy New Year 2065 to all the people in the country, May GOD gives you what you all people desire, want and deserve in life, in society and in country.

One thing we Nepali lack is we need to think beyond we can think. We should not be limited to our thinking. We like our friends, we like to gossip, do chit-chat, have fun with friends, drink, dope, smoke but are we doing any thing except just following the stupid trend ?

Why is it difficult for us to change ? It is very easy.If every Nepali citizen belives in "doing" Our country will surely become "developed". We like the way we are. We are lazy, we do not want to work, we do not want to fight and to some extent it is good not to do anything however it is only good when your brain really needs such moments. It is not good when you make such acitivites as your hobbie.

Playing politics is good but let us leave it to our leaders, we should not play politics among ourselves. It is not good practice. Their are people who do not want to accept the fact, do not want to liste, the biggest problem those people will face is that they will not be able to give. Which means that, It will be easy for them to fake.

People always wants to show off. When I was 15-16 years of age I too was going through the same phase. I liked to show to people that I am the best, Whatever I do are good and whatever I say is correct, whatever others are saying is not correct-I do not want to take what they are saying to me. When you will not accept what others are saying to you or some how you will listen for a moment and you will try to avoid it afterwards then you are being a victim of yourself.

Do not try to destroy yourself, do not be some body else. Just be yourself. Do what you like to do, talk with those whom you like to talk, whereas one thing you have to remember is that-Listen.

Learn from what others have to say. Always remember that we are following the path which has beeen already followed by some one else. The name of those who already have followed the path before might be different, their body, religion, caste, culture might be different but they already have achieved what we are trying to achieve.

Therefore Just don't try to be imitator. If you see Buddha in the street Kill him. Only because "do not try to become Buddha". Try to be yourself.

Nepal is my birthplace where I was born, the land which gave me my space to be what I am now. I like that land. Every body does. Only thing I am trying to say is that do not just focus on your own land. Respect others people land too. Every country is unique, every person is unique and every religion is unique. We do have to respect each other only then we will end war.

My opinions might seem stupid, might be absurd, might be useless but these are my own thoughts and I do not want to blame anybody for that. If you do not like it, do not read it if you like it read it. We all have freedom of speech, space, silence, whatso ever.


This new year let us change ourselves, our mind, the way we think and the way we behave. Let us be true Nepali only by beliving in "doing".


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Unfortunate

Is it a person who is unfortunate.? Why do we use the word unfortunate does not it sound weired ? Why do we think we should use the negative word like un+fortunate. When some one says you that- You are unfortunatly ... How would you feel. Can our feelings be controlled with the word called unfortunate.

Does not it sound like, it was me who was born unfortunate, not getting any job unfortunately, or some times even was born unfortunate. Why is it difficult for us to accept the negative words like that. It is difficult only because we do not want to take it. It is difficult only because we do not consider that we are really unfortunate.

Think about the situation where you are very good at what you do and applied for the job and your recruiter says that you are unfortunately not given the specifici position you applied for. How would you feel ? It really demoralized one's will. Some times what I think is that either you select the person or do not send an email saying those stupid words like unfortunate.

How can you judge a person by seeing to their Resume, cover letter and make a statment like "a person is unfortunate".. It is not a person who is unfortunate never. It is always a company who do not want to take a fortunate people for them. It is their judgement which goes worgn. Many more things comes to play like racism, where you belong from, which languages you speak and so on.

It is difficult to accept those bitter words but one has to accept it. It is in the process of becoming strong. A man always has to face such hurdles many of the times in their life. It is not easy as women because women gets the job easily anywhere in the world.


Welcome to the world where race has not ended, it will not end. GOD sometimes created two color in the planet where Black and White. Later people combined it and made multiple colors. People still have not changed to see multiple colors in the person but they are still beliving that we should be judged by the color of the skin. Black and White is contemporary and opposite. It cannot be same, it will never be same and it won't be same in near future.

The difference is not because of color of skin or just color the difference is created in brain which is limited. Nobody wants to think beyond their limitation. No body wants to open the door for the stranger to come in. Nobody wants to accept other people in their room. Only because we fear.

When fear rules our body, our mind, our soul what can anybody think beside that. Once you overcome fear you will know that you are living a life of MAN. For now, I can tell you that we are living like cowards and we will die cowards.

We represents all of us. We is the symbol says that what we are doing has been done by some one else and we are following the path made by some body else who we call as GOD. We are doing that is good, we are living in "ing" at the end of verb that is good.

I would say that Unfortunate words should be banned in academics, or in real life to be used until and unless it is really required and unless some other human really thinks that other human is unfortunate to deserve the job or deserve to be in the world. We are not unfortunate.

Life without you.

Women are powerful, women are creative and women are most beautiful animal GOD has ever made. They are much more stronger than all we men. Men may have the powerful muscles but women has powerful brains. They are naturally strong because of what they have to go through every month.

Why are women most beautiful than men ? Their may be thousand of reasons behind that- It may be because of the structure they have which is quite different than all men. It may be because they are universal receivers. It may be because they have thousand of capabilities to take things for granted.

When it comes to relationship, it is different. As the relationship needs the combination of two people it needs the commitment of both girl and boy. We are in the world where two are quite different in the way they think, in the way they talk and in the way they live their life.


Women knows the reality despite that also she won't forget to do makeups, she knows that one day all her make up is going to be useless but instead of that she wont' forget to put it on. My personal experiences says I have seen many women wearing makeup even in her late 70's. What might be the reason behind that ?

Is it because they still believe they are attractive ? Is it because they think they should all the time put it ? Is it because they are given impression that they are beautiful animal in the world. Whatever might be the reason one reason is common to attract men.

Selection is big process for them, they will go out date with those guys who they like, they will make love with those guys who they wish to and they will break up with those guys who they don't want to stay with. In the process of relationship, it is mainly their decision that counts. It is the decision of women that matters and sometimes even hurts.

Women always wants to show off, but it can be limited. It is not true with all women. Mostly they would like to show to other women how much beautiful they are, how good men they are playing with and how their life is better than any other women. Therefore some body rightly made an statement that "All women like famous men".

To sum up, as summing up cannot be determined in case of women- I would say that women are beautiful, you must go out with her, make love with her , try to show that you like her or love her or do whatever she asks from you in spite of all these you will have to know one fact that you are still alone and she is never going to die for you.

Bring Change

The times are changing, weather are changing too, people are changing too and every one around us are seeking change. We all are fed up, we are slowly becoming bored and if not we will soon become bore.

The main idea is that their is no idea. The good thing is that their is no bad things and the answer to the question is that their is no answer. We want to change our mind, our body, our values, and many more things.

Why are we seeking change ? What is the reason that we like changes ? Reason could be many, we could even want to show people that we are good, we have talent and it some times is good to see the changes in all these aspects, or events or whatever you will like to call it.

The main reason behind change is that the word itself is very dramatic and different. We are fed up of the whole world only because we could not see many different things happening around us except terrorism, war and fight for the war. Nothing is more good than just these things.


It takes some time for the change only because we like the changes and we like surprises. Why do they always teach you in Romanticism class to be only romantic to girls by giving women surprises ? What is the reason behind it ?

It is mostly because women are the species who likes money, famous men and change a lot. They are always two steps ahead of men.
Change is good, Yes we can bring changes not only within ourselves but to the country, people around us and to every other individual who are connected to us some how. The big question now remains is how ? We can only bring change only by bring change in ourselves.


We are the creator of the climate, we are the creator of our sufferings and we are the creator of our daily mood. We do all these but we do not know or some how do not want to know who does all these things.

My opinion tells me that we are the creator no body else. Just exclude the religion from this article. I do not want to consider it here. We are the creators of the change and we can really bring the change in ourselves. How ? Just be yourself.

Human Behaviour

People are so strange and it is very difficult to understand other people. Why should we even care ? When it is needed it is again difficult to understand other around you. Their are many kinds of person and they have many indifferent behavior's.

We can take an example of one person who is very outgoing, friendly, wants to help others and always gives support, help to others and their is another totally opposite of the person I described. People like those who are outgoing, friendly and the first one kind of person but again their are those kind of people too who like later one.

It is proved that based on our thoughts, our feeling and our emotion we make our group and we want to share with them.It might be true to some extent. I do not know much about it. Playing a politics with other people is very easy.

One should always remember that when you play politics with other people or your friend for an example you may even fall in trap of being a victim some time around. It is just the matter of time. In the age of information where every individual wants to share the information or at least is happy sharing info to other around him, how would you feel if your close friends are not telling you the reality?

We can make loud cries and have thousand big thoughts on various topics that we like to such as politics, education, research but one should first realize its importance. People who cannot some how see the success of others are the ones who are full with ego hassles. The problem is not with their thinking but the level of thinking they posses.

Those people are not silent but they would not even tell you what they are doing with others around you. Being alone is not being loneliness or feeling loneliness, Being alone is the first lesson of love.

I can say thousand things on thousand different matters but why would i say if some one does not have any interest to listen it and if it is not beneficial to some one. We have to do good to those who does good to you.


Remember in live, we learn by knowing people by your own country men, by your friends, by observing the things they do around you, by observing any other people around you and by experiencing through events they create.

Learning is the best way to know what you are currently doing. It is an art, an act which is indescribable. It may have theory but it is not concept.

Their are times when you are depressed, feeling that you have not made right choice and thinking that you should pack your stuffs and return these all times tell us one thing- You are fighting.

When you fight with your-self you will know that you are becoming strong and when you will realize you are in process of becoming strong you will become alone, lonely and silent. Welcome to the land of thousand lakes just for the sake of experiencing it.

Without Job

Life is not as simple as we think it is, It is very difficult and as days are passing it is getting even tough. We are struggling animals, we are working day and nights to survive. For our survival we need food, energy and all smaller things that keep us alive like love, laugh, respect and generously.

Suddenly I heard the news that some 80,000 jobs were taken off in USA. Wow, what a good news. It really feels good to be in one group of jobless. When I see myself now with all those 80,000 people we fall in same category of jobless. We are jobless and we should build one big community like facebook for jobless people. Well, Here I am with one simple idea of creating a community for all of us jobless people where we will make all our 80,000 employees work together for great great well-beings.

When I see myself jobless, some times I even laugh at myself-It really feels good you know only because here you are with all your academic degree written "excellent" over it but which is useless in Today's world. What type of world are we creating in present situation where we have to struggle to get a simple job.

Last night I was talking with one friend and their I said to him- From 100years down the line no humans will be needed all the world will be done by Robots. We are creating the world where people are cut and machine work is emphasized.

Learning from our past, we made computers that really cut those people who knows computers can only work. Then we are in the world where we are making Robots so, Now even dear Robot can handle many of things that human cannot handle perfectly. After 100 years we will make bigger Roborts and bigger machine such that it will be similar to Holly wood movies where machine will rule the world and humans will live in room doing nothing.

"No brain can be regarded best as human brain. No idea is greater than human idea and No imagination can be created with machine without human imagination."

This quote is my creation where every statement and every words are important in it. I am not being traditional or having a traditional thought on Technology but this thought is real thought. It is simple and it will explain why we are most respected and precious human beings.


Without job imagine a situation our fellow human has go to through, search another, how to service, what the hell is politics and government doing ?, why is their fight "to show" ? I am the best my party is best .. and so on.

They should make a voting scheme where first they should prove it by doing a well being for country, people and environment and they you elect those people who has really proved their caliber.

You got to prove yourself not by words but by deeds. Prove it and you really mean it for well-being of country. Do not eliminate job but create it. When I think today I do not have job, how would one feel secure of his/her future ? Why would I even think of my family or plan to have marriage if I am not secure at the present situation.

Without job we do not have security, we create a addicted environment and our kids will easily do drugs, we will too and we are killing our own existence by not creating equal opportunity, job and peaceful environment to survive.

In the name of Religion

In the name of religion, people are killing each other. We are easily motivated and get angry when some one says something in the name of our religion. We are like parrot in the sense that one person ask us to do something and we do it on behalf of him.

Let us not be parrot and be the real human being. We should behave properly and accept the message of all the religion. All the religions are different and they are worship in different ways. We belong to one community one society and follow what is done for the well-being of society and community.

The end result of the message of all the religion is "TRUTH", "PEACE", and "FOR THE WELL-BEING OF HUMAN AND SOCIETY". These are the core message of all the religion however they are worshiped and whatever they mean to others.

We all like to share about our own religion, we like to talk more about ours than others only because we know ours and we lack the knowledge of others. Even if we know little about other religion we do not want to talk about other religion only ours.

My country, my world, my religion, my life and my .. are all nonsense and useless. It is useful for some period of time. After that, it will be useless. We all are running in the race of what I call "my"... People hardly find time to go for "ours" Can any one or do you remember any one saying our world, our country, our religion, our life .. No it is difficult to say Ours..

A simple stupid word about the religion will create a havoc in the environment, people will forget who they are and what they are doing. They will start behaving like a wild beast. Soon you will see the fight, war and anger shown to another human just in the name of religion. It is easy. It is easy to create a problems when one can talk about the religion.

Presently their has been a lot of debate about Muslim religion and Christianity. I do not know who did it but whoever has created the difference that difference is dividing the world or let us say creating war and disputes in the mind, body, place, region and in many other places where we would not imagine it will be present.

We want to fight, Those people said something wrong about our great "Allah !" We will kill them, we are Terrorist ...." These are all the words now a days any Muslim will take it for granted. It is easy to fall in the trap without knowing that you are being controlled by some one else.

Another Person for Christianity would say-that black brown guy talked something stupid about Jesus ! Oh God, what the hell he knows about our religion.. these people ain't know anything about our religion ...."

These themes are common to start the fight between a person from Christianity and the person for Muslim community. Have you ever realized that After the end of war their is peace, their is deep silence and nothing is present except sorrow, guilt and depression of doing unhealthy act.

Their are bigger things to worry my dear religious friends, do not fall into trap of yourself by following or being a victim or religion just be yourself. Remember that you are human first, next you are "son, daughter, nephew or what so ever for your family" and then you are country men.. your country .. your culture... your religion comes in this order. If you will prioritize the religion before you are human and if you think my religion is my life.. then you are the victim of controlled.

Do not ever be controlled by some one else always control your mind, brain and body by yourself. Please do it you will realize then the power you can have or will give to this world. The bigger problems in the world are from Nature. Imagine the situation nature can create to you and to us.

Let us help each other to help your life, your country, your religion, your world. Let us get hand in hand to deliver the food for needy, job for jobless and smile to smile less. Let us just do it.

Scent of Women

Some times you feel as if you really need some body with you, a girlfriend, your wife and the women beside you to talk share, have fun, enjoy. The situation does not let you do that. You want to be close with some one you know, some one you really care for and that person is far from you.

How would you react ? You will be mad just like me. You will have thousand and one things in your head every other humans see you as if you have broken jail. Nothing comes easy and like itself will teach you that.

Some time you want to talk with your friend but you do not want to just because you feel as if you will end up in the same situation again. You want to go dating, talk with your sweet girl again but again you cross check yourself.

When Mr. X and Miss Y are together they will share, have fun, laugh, care, fight, do every little things that they want to do together but imagine a situation where they have to be far- suddenly their is distance which aparts you ard your life. What would you think in such situation ?

Time is big teacher my dear friends, you will learn through this time and you will forget everything in this time too. You will ask yourself when you are just adult why these older people look at me like that and at some time you will be saying the same.

No Scientist ever found out the reality of time, no sceientist will capture it and no scientist will ever control it. We say their is every thing possible but I guess Time is impossible not about its discovery or new invention on it but only to find out the about it. Time is not money but time is movement how can you control the movement ?

If some one can stop the movement of entire earth and from entire human beings to all the living beings then you can capture time. Well, that is another idea.

Now, Look at the present situation of relationship where one has to find out everything about life without your partner. It is difficult. It is impossible and it really is depressing.

To sum up, Let's not get bother about it because whatever we think we prioritize it in our brain and we keep them stored once we start working on these priorities we will acheive what we wanted.

Cheers !

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Useful

Thanks god I am alive. I wake up thinking that I will be dead but suddenly I realized that I am alive, started to look at the weather outside my door it was cold, dark and raining.

How do you feel when some one speaks bad word about you ? Surely, you will not feel good but what will happen if you just do not care about what others have to say. Just be yourself.

It is the way of living a life, be yourself, by yourself be cool and calm. The movie I was yesterday was "why did i get married?" The lesson of movies is such that their are 4 couples and all these couples have problem in their marriage.

Each and every one wants to save the relaitonship. The relationship is really difficult thing to save. One thing that is catchy to the movie is about 80/20 rule. The rule I guess which has been explained nicely.

When we are married our life suddenly starts boring only because we are fed up seeing the same face time and again. The same wife each and every time with the same stuff or the same body.

Even though, she does laundry, prepares food, washes dishes and many others little things that we could not do without a women. What happens is some how other girls come in the husband's life and we like the other girl. These girls are "20". The wife is "80".

These character in the movie they have problems with their marriage but suddenly they found out one way of making it work out again just by putting everything their spouse has done in one single paper, All the negative things that your spouse has done in one side of paper and all the positive thing that your spouse has done in other side of it.


When the negative things come up more than positive things just let it go but when positive things are more than negative you will then realize what is needed to be done.

The movies is good and you should watch it once. Next movie I watched was about "After sex". This movie is very short and simple. It is all about how you feel after just mating with your partner.

The movie explains by saying that love is like a guessing game where you guess each and every time and no one is in the win-lose situation. You are every time guessing and you just guess each and every time.

Sex is the situation where both male and female are open to each other, open to show share the feelings together. In this situation both the partner are in situation where they win. It is guessing game where their is an end but love is the guessing game where their is no end.

Both movies where fantastic, It was good to get some lesson from the movie. Have a good weekend to dearest Readers.

I am Mad

Do not be suprised to see the stupid topic like the one which states-"I am Mad". I was born mad, I am going to die mad- What is that I am going to do living in the planet.

Depression is always present in our selves- Depressed of not getting job, not meeting deadlines of many project, always thinking, imagining things, if you imagine in this world what would people call you ?

Once Great Eistein Told that- "Imagination is better than knowledge". Well, I think if he was present in this world at today's complex dynamic environment he would have know what is better than what ...

I can't hate, I can't fake,People have never seen me weep like a kid and they are not going to see me cry. It may seem to thousand of people that I am laughing but when you look inside me I am crying at the same time.

Do not feel mercy, or sad about the story about this guy. He is just like that. He says- He is mad and you have to believe in him. He was victim of being told that word so much that he belives now he really is mad.

All the things are undiscovered for him. He needs his love, he wants to remind his love, he wants to breath and he is not breathing until he will meet his love. He really needs her.

Their are million reason this guy cries, but no body knows when. He is mad but he has caliber to deliver the result. Every thing seems to worry him from life, from others people faith, fate, others worries are also his worries, but why do you want to know his story because he is mad.

"Without you I am without" that's what he says, He lives in his dream world, he talks with himself, he eats he wants to eat, he thinks the way he wants to think, he appreciates other work the way he wants to do it.

Besides that- he is mad. He is mad not because he has good brain but only because he does not belong in this world. He is different but being different than others people are socked and suprised so much that they do not want to accept him some how.

He wants to learn and he learns too, he shares as he is out going, he is open book where you do not have to pay to read it. He is open, you can read it easily.
Now, he is broken everything is left undiscovered, He needs but he does not know what ? He could not say what is the most important thing ? Is it his love ? Is it money ? Is it job ?

Just you got to touch him, feel him and discover by yourself. He is freezing and cold. He was left alone and he knows the fact that he will go alone.

He has different attitude but why should others worry about his attitude ? He is living in dream world. He has whole in his heart.

When you have million of words hiding inside you which are connected and talking withy you how can you be static- His heart is about to break, he is on his knees, he is giving in, he cannot breath, he is just a freak !

He was kicked out, he is a sking his self not to walk away from him. He is feeling bad, he is going into his caves I do not know when he is going to come back.

We all are Mad, If you think you are not then be happy and think again. We all are mad only in the sense that we cannot recognize or accept others as they are. People take others as they are only only when they follow the rules and regulation of society whereas once you start behaving differently then every body will call you mad.

Welcome to the world of MAD !

A day without Internet

Internet is the technology and in simplest term network of networks. It is very simple technology made up of computers and cables which are connected. Bob Kahn and Vint Cerf are the one who created this technology.

It was their logical way of finding that how could one can send around “packets” of information to another network. The basic functionality of Internet is to just send chunk of information around the network which is called as Packets. We have more and more programs that now a days using Internet as a core technology such as email, file transfer, chat etc.

Another big revolution in the field of Computers was done by Berners-Lee’s alone. He designed the World Wide Web. It was Lee’s invention which boomed the connectivity around the world.

Now, People are doing business in Internet, from pornography to yoga coaching, YouTube-“Broad Cast Yourself” to Facebook, every body is using it, every time, any time and every where. Nokia-“Connecting People” which is sole organization which generates more revenue and handles one single country to Microsoft-“Your Potential Our passion”, where you can find “information at your finger tips”.

Biggest company does not become big in one day they become big by doing smaller things in different ways. The whole idea of is that we are addicted to Internet so much that we cannot be asked to imagine a day without it.

One day I was walking back from University to Home, I was walking alone talking with my self. I realized that what will happen if we do not have Internet for a day, then for months and may be for a whole entire future.

Again, many experts will prove me wrong, but can we prove wrong to Natural disaster? Why not some one could predict it before Tsunami came? Or why could not some one even thought about it? The point is just imagine a day without it.

A day without most useful, innovative, creative, informative and reliable technology today which goes down for a day, think!

(Picture adapted from: http://www.kk.org/thetechnium/
barilan_internet-thumb.jpg )

Addiction

Why are we addicted ? What is the reason that we do the same thing time and again? Many people cannot quit alcohol, smoking habit, cigar habit and so on. Why do we take the alcohol and just keep on taking it too much.

We are addicted not only to alcohol but to many of the things that we do not know. We are addicted to sleeping, we are addicted to food, we are addicted to money and we are also addicted to sex.

Can any one tell me who is not interested in doing sex ?. you cannot find any one. We like to do the same thing time and again only because the end result what we think is pleasure. The end is that which gives us pleasure.

Some times we often get addicted to cigarette, it is just a habit we get into. The habit is something which is just an repetition of same thing time and again. We repeat, repeat and repeat.

Why some one smokes ? It differers from person to person, the opinion are countless. People might say-its my habit, its my nature, i cannot live without it, it digest my food, it look cool, my idol smoke too so i do, to remove my tension, to get pleasure, to enjoy, nothing, just like that, entertainment, so on and so forth.

These all are excuses, we are just giving some king of excuse to escape from the things that we cannot do. The thing that we cannot do is we cannot control our mind.

No body on earth or hardly anyone in this planet will find it easy to give up smoking, or drinking or what so ever they are addicted to. Why ? Only because they cannot control their mind.

You do what your mind ask you to do. You are just a car and the driver is some one else. Driver is your brain. It drives you to the place you want to go. It is controlling you. Try to control the driver. Be the Boss of your mind not the Mind who boss you.

Last night I was having the conversation with my friend and we has written the same topic about why people are addicted and what can we do to find the alternatives of alcohol. My suggestions are mentioned above to all those who are victim of the alcohol. I am just supporting my friends point of view.

Finally, I would like to say that- Ask me how to control your mind I will give you thousand and one way to achieve it. Ask me, as It is free of cost. I am not doctor, no psychologist, no professional on this subject but I am the one who controls his mind.


(Picture adapted from:http://www.uoguelph.ca/research/
news/articles/2006/photos/smoking.jpg )

Motivation

Accepting some one's work and rejecting some one's work is a process of understanding how much some one is worked.
I have seen many of the people feel very depressed when people do not like or appreciate the work of them. Why do we feel depressed or feel bad about the work when the work is not accepted. We feel bad only because we do not know how to feel good. We feel bad because we are not given the acceptance. We have not been motivated to next level.

Motivation is the key in any work we do. The level of motivation determines how much effort we have put or is going to put in any work.We may make big strategies, policies and rules but all those are wasted when a person does not feel motivated.

It is like saying that, you do you do and at last you forget what to do. Now, see the connection you are working so hard to do that you do not know what is going to come next. you are connected and deeply motivated for what you are doing.

I appreciate to all those Readers who put an effort to read what I have written. I am proud and honored by such an honorable Readers of Mybheja. I do not like my attidue because I do not check grammatical mistakes, I do not check what I have written ten times but I just go with the flow. I recommend my beloved readers to encourage me for the Next level.

Life is the journey and we are actors in the playing field. We are players, We are just playing with the script presented to us.

We should love each other, hate each other at the same time learn from each other. We like each other only because the "like" is close to us. We "dislike" others only because we do not "want" some one to be part of us.

One needs deep motivation to perform something. The deep motivation can be for example get good grades in exam, good job, good salary, performace, attitude, fighting spirit, excitment etc.

Other kind of motivation which is important is the motivation that is built inside you. Which is yours, which is hidden and you do not want to reveal it to any body. Such kind of motivation will make you the person you want to become.

Good luck !


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"This is mine"

The feelings are connected with our life in some way or another. Some times we feel good sometimes we feel bad. Is it possible to maintain a stable feelings throughout the entire life. Is it possible to be cool, calm and be silent as a lake.

How can one have same constant feeling ? The phenomenon cannot be explained. It cannot be said that one person can have same feeling all the time. Nothing is perfect and nothing can be perfect. In search of perfection we end up with nothing. We are fighting all the time, struggling, trying to find out the right match, right path and right way of living a life but at the same time we want to maintain the constant feeling.

We cannot say that we are prefect humans. We are always trying to be good, trying to prove ourselves. We are fighting all the time with ourselves. This is good, this makes sense and it is the way of progress. No body wants to accept the feedback given by some one else, no one wants to take it easily. It is not easy to accept what others say about your work, it is not easy to think on what others say or think about you or your habit or you way of living a life.


Why is that happening ? Why does the things do not come easily in our brain ? Why do we have to read thousand of books before we come to some conclusion ?. These are done only to find some relation with others.

Some one has done x amount of work but you do not know so you read his x amount of work to find out what he has done and what he has not. then you try to find out what you can do on his x amount of work. This is what happens in research. You read the books, you read others author book on a related topic to find out the "unknown" and try to put your "known" things in it.

This will not lead to creation, today people talk about the creation and they say that is the creation. Creation do not happen like that way. Creation comes from scratch. It is build with one single entity with one single thought in one single environment.

Imagine a situation where their were no human being existence in this planet. Who created the first two Adam and Eve ? Was it based on the previous work if GOD thinks that it is based on previous work why do not we have evidence ? Why we lack the evidence of the creation of First cell or first living entity in this planet.

Evidence are the way of proving that "this is mine". If you remove some of your work with "this is mine" and just think of creation you will have no time in earth to put "this is mine". People now a days are only focusing on "this is mine" and not focusing on creation itself.

In today's world we are not creating anything we are just creating a whole warehouse of articles, journals and papers which will be useless in near future. Those who are creators do not have time to acclaim what they have done.

GOD did not ever thought he did what people think of creation. GOD created it but he was unknown about what he did it. He did what he thought is good for his tribes, he did it because he was in this planet to "do". He came in this earth to show people that you should "do".

These are big issue to discuss and thousands of people will back fire me on this topic but I do not care as long as I can put my mind on it. I do not have any evidence to prove it what I said is right nor do I want to have any.


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adam_duerson/02/04/super.bowl.ads/T1_0203_secret.jpg )

Creators and Creation

Creation is an art, creators are the legends and creation takes lot of brain, I do not know how can you say one is creator as I do not see the any proper definiton that suits to fit in my this article.

How many of you will agree we are the creators of our own sufferings ? We suffer because we create those suffering for us. How many of you will agree we are the creators of our Uniqueness and we are the one to be given honours.

Creation is beauty, see the creation of the world, nature, women, sky, earth, technology so on and so forth. See means you got to see and see it through your eyes. After you see something what do you ever think ?

Seeing will give you the image in your mind, this image will try to find some meaning. When your mind tries to find the meaning of what you see then the description of the image is stored by your brain cells.

As the number of brain cells cannot be counted or is almost impossible to measure. Imagine how much of information one can store.
Every event, every people you meet, every speech, every sound and almost whatever you did in past will be stored. It is the creation of making your brain a storage machine.

Politics will never lead to peace. The aim of playing politics is to bring violence, to tell people that "I am the best" My country is "Best", My party is "Best". It will create difference and it will always create the difference. What will then create the peace ?

It goes by saying that Peace cannot be created nor can it be destroyed. We already are in peace. We are in peace but our needs do not let us live in peace. Our basic needs are creating violence too. For our basic needs we want to "get" something which result in our inner violence. For example food, shelter, clothers, fashion wear etc.

Can any one tell me what is innovation ? People think and say that innovation is art, innovation is creation but it is totally different. Creation is far bigger than Innovation. Innovation is result of human, creation is result of before human. If I would say that Alien gave rise to creation- Every body will laugh at me. !

Creation is the result of producing something outstanding, simple and elegant. It is not for purpose, it is not for cause, it is not for well-being, but it is result of huge constrution, work and hard labor. It is the drops of blood which give rise to creation. It is the effort you put each and every time to think that results in creation. It is by the virtue of your brain cells trying to struglle. When your brain cells struggle they collide with other brain cells and they form a statement. The medium for two brain cells to communicate with each other is nothing. It is empty.

I am not a biologist but I think these brain cells mate with other brain cells to give rise a pieace of information to you.
Creation and creators will always exit and will live as long as earth will live.They do not want to tell who they are, It is because they are far ahead than any human beings existing in this planet. Creators will be hidden, creation will be shown. Without Creation you will be dull, your mind will be dull, you will never progress and entire earth will be dull, unstable, immovable and blast like an atomic bomb.

It is creators who are driving the earth to 24 hr circle. Creators are movable and They make entire earth movable. Welcome to land of creators.



(Picture taken from: http://images.salon.com/news/
feature/2007/05/31/creation_museum/story.jpg )

We are ahead !

Welcome to one of the must visit country in the world. It is the beauty of Nature, creation of creator to show his creation itself. It is one of the places in earth where one should at least once visit or should have a dream to visit. It is called as "world of its own". The desire and destination of men can be different and journey is the most precious aspect which leads you to either of them. Today In west, people are trying to find some alternative to fuels, we have already started our campaign long back. We are ahead in future not because we lack oil or we have to battle to gain it. It is because we are saving energy. Imagine a situation where you have to stay eight hours without electricity. Imagine it now for your city for example New York City or Los Angles or California. Well, the imagination does not seem to be imaginative and it really seems stupid but if such think happens what will be your alternatives? We are far behind in global economy, we are regarded as third world, we come from place where people have no money to buy food but they will have smile to show you that we are happiest people in the planet. According to global happy index we are quite ahead in this context. Stop; do not go away we also are ahead in time. The yet new year for our country is around the corner. We are reaching to 2065 B.S. Comparatively we are quite far away living in third world at least in dates. Beauty lies in eyes of beholder. You have to come and visit country full of beauty to believe your eyes and ears that Nepal is happy country in Global World. We do not have Nuclear weapons, we do not have mind blowing economy, infrastructure and capital incomes but one thing we have- Peace. The country is progressing with its own political assembly poles and the leaders are leading it for the well being of country and society. Every country would have version of "this is mine, not yours". Our history always reminds us that we are from the land of "Buddha, and Highest peak in world called Mount Everest". We also are from the land of those brave "Veterans, Ghorkhali who fight not only for their own home land but still doing military services in many Western worlds. It will also be noted that we are different as each country is different. See the flags of all the countries you will surely see why you must come to visit country of rich Natural resources. We have never been ruled nor will be ruled despite being in between two giants in South Asia, India and China. We are separating two giants Nation in not only in South Asia but soon emerging to become super power countries. Nature is one of finest aspect and has huge potential for coming generation of scientist, economist, researchers and entire human beings to look forward to in coming years. We are not quite well prepared for it; it will be too late when we would realize that we have been affected by its Unexpected Nature. We are ahead in learning from Nature only because we are very close to it. Imagine a situation where you do not have to in contact with any one for week and you have been given your personal privacy, security and respect as if you are GOD. In Bible it is said that, "It took six days for GOD to make this planet and seventh day he rested". If I would be given an opportunity to ask a question I would ask where GOD did went on the seventh day. The answer is question itself, he took rest but where? Nepal. Visit and see with your own eyes. It is the New Year celebration happening in one corner of globe where all other corners are having busy working life. Welcome to visit Nepal for its cultural heritage, future technology which is the “Power of Green” as said by Thomas Friedman.

America is preparing for the alternatives to find the solution from environment; we are finding how we can get more close to it. The world is yours only when you think world as one single entity. We have more than 200 countries divided according to power of religion, politics, economy and global infrastructure so on and so forth however, we forget that we are humans with one the one common dimension, color (may be different because of adaptation according to environment) , ability to think, and sensitive to emotions. We think we are close to Nature and Nature teaches us thousand plus one lessons in one day, nothing comes easy to it as nothing comes easy to us. Let us make it one not by dividing it into pieces for smaller cause but for the unexpected behavior of Nature for far greater cause than we can even imagine.

Why you are Finnish ?

The Finland, lands of finns where every finns are very close to Nature. Now, Can any one other than Finnish People think they too are Finnish ?. Yes, This is what I think. You are also finnish if you have "sisu" I don't know the English meaning of this word built in inside you.

The meaning of this word is very simple.As simple as it can get, it simply says that you do what you say or think you will do. As far as my understanding, it is like if you say something than you do that thing. Now, How many of us do such activities ? We say something and we do something else. We often forget what we said a moment ago. Their is thousands of media footage about the Finland and depressing Nature of Coutry but None of the gentleman has ever thought why ?

The reason is the reason itself. What do you do to earn a trust or build a relationship. I would say the most important aspect in relationship is either you have to be a man of the words or you will no longer will have good relationship. To build Trust between two people the basic stuff is to be the man of your words. I would say Finnish People are exactly that.

If you mean it, then only you should say it. If you do not mean it why should you waste your energy. Just be silent. Just live with your-self. We may talk bigs, make loud cries or have great speech on our future, our past or what so ever but What I personally think you are wasting your time speaking all nonsense. You have all the knowledge in world to build Rockets, Big explosive bombs and what so ever but you do not have common sense to understand that our feets should always be in earth not in sky.

The last sentence is important and these will tell you why you are Finnish. It is not because you don't say "I love you !" Why should you ? Just tell me, its like routine- You follow it every day, you say it even you do not mean it. It have become routine and you are just following the routine.

Every thing is boring when it becomes routine. Expereice something new, learn from the beauty of nature. Nothing is stable in Nature itself. Why should it be ? It shows great different pattern in sky every day just to say that I am different than yesterday, It has so many different colors , so many different climate and so many things that my words limit them to tell you.

Nature will tell you that you have to become strong, at the same time you have to be emotional, you have to weep, you also have to laugh, sing by the singing of birds, wind will tell you you also should flow with time and as per own habit, flow with me, rain will teach you that you need to wash your dirt whenever you feel you are dirty. Washing of dirt does not mean only your skin but to your soul.

Imagine your life, it is just like a vehile. It needs the drive and the drive here What I personally believe is Nature. We are build from it, we cannot live without it and we will die for it oneday ! Welcome to Nature God.


(Picture taken from:http://www.finstitute.gr.jp/
images/ivana-56-1124226107_000.jpg )