Silence

Every silence has a meaning. A silence of human, a silence in relationship, a silence of lake and a silence of wind that blows flower in the garden. Everything is connected in one way or another. All these silence, with meaning where it ask us to read the meaning from these aspects of life, plants and Nature.

Can anyone tell me why two people in relationship go into the state of silence ? Is it because they both had a fight or something or is it because they both want to go into their caves and come back after a while. What is that make people live in silence ? Too much of everything is bad. Too much of silence will lead us to violence. A violence in our mind, a violence within us. Some times it could be boon too. It depends on the environment we live.

Many people are quite vulnerable to silence, some of them they like to live in noise. A room full of noise, a place where there is crowd and lot to event happenings. In such a case people find themselves very safe and very nice. It is just because when noise is present, people assume there are some body like them who is present and doing something.

A silence teaches a lot in itself. A couple mainly go in silence just because of the some small problems they could not resolve by themselves. They both seek truth. They both want to prove that both of them are correct and none of them have done any mistake or is wrong. When one person says that he is right on some subject and the next person also says yes, she is also correct on the same subject matter then- a clash is occurred between two people. Their has to be one winner. In such a case, the argument occurs and fight begins. A silence is the last phase of all these happening. Either a girl or boy then go in silence. It is good just because it later helps in regaining the relationship.

Most of the time these silence are such a killer that, it last very long. Even a entire life. When a silence is for very long it becomes a pain. A pain which cannot be cured by any medicine or doctor. A pain which cannot be described. It is very true and very hurtfull. It is larger than the volcano eruption. It remain and you cannot avoid it. It will be there till the existence of a person.

It is easy to break a relationship if one can acquire a silence. It is also easy to come out of problem if you can go in silence. I have been told by many that I remain very silent. It is just because i simply like the peace that a silence gives me. It gives me a feeling and pleasure to look deep inside my internal body parts. In silence I can see myself going deep and look what I am doing. It just checks and re-check my body and outer world.

A silence is great teacher. It can tell you thousand different things. When you are silent especailly most of the times there is some one inside you who will talk with you. It is not you. It is the person who is driving you. It is not soul or aatma or anything. It is you- a perfect you.

The perfect you will tell you what you are feeling and what you are going through. It will just ask you to do what he wants. A perfect you. Well, it is always good to live in silence. Just sit idle some times and be silent-you will hear a lot of voices which are of yours and only yours. It will teach you that you have a perfect you inside you.

Women Vagina

A good news for those women now who wants to go back to the virginity again. Reading the article posted in New York times, I laughed many more times than the words in the article.(http://www.nytimes.com/2008/06/11/world/europe/11virgin.html?th&emc=th). It describes about the Muslim women can go back to the virginity again by simple operation in the private clinic and many more cool launches has been done for the sake of it. It is now affordable in a cheap price.

Some times it makes me laugh and some times the same topic makes me feel as it this is not good. Once you loose your virginity what is the use of doing all drama and going back to do the operations for the sake of nothing. It means that you want to live a life with your new partner with a sense of insecurity. What if one day the person finds out the truth and knows that you already had loosen your virginity by sleeping with some body else.

It is very difficult topic how we see the sex and women in many different places of the world. In europe, it does not matter a girl can sleep with those she wants to and the next day she can go and sleep with some body else. Despite the fact that a women has a son or daughter it is not the problem of another men accepting her as a wife. In contrary, in Muslim or most of the Asian world this fact is not accepted as it is seen here in Europe.

Most of the men from those part of the world will not tolerate is a women sleeps with other men or have loosen virginity just like that. It is important to keep the virginity in tact for many women. Some times I feel myself being a women and I try to feel the pain. Men will always feel relaxing or they get total joy in the pain but how about the women. Do they really feel the joy in the pain. May be to some extent but what if the extent is not extended ? What if the pain in not bounded to certain limit ?

Why do a women have to remain her virginity ? May be the question will not try to find the clear solutions but the answer to the question will also not give the proper valuable solution only because Men like to feel the pleasure through pain. I have seen very few who does not see pleasure through pain but many men does.

In europe, a women is respected in all aspects. She has the rights to decide with whom to stay and with whom to divorce. A men just follows what she think is right. A women has equally power on decision making whereas in Asia or Muslim world Men are the leaders and power is not equally divided among women. Most of the women are working in home as a house wifes or doing some minor jobs but most of the time the breadwinner is Men and he is the decision making body.

Well, Virgin or no virgin does not matter as long as a true love between both the species exits. It does not matter a vagina used by one penis or more than one as long as you know those are physical part of the body which exits in every human beings living in this planet. The most important things then comes to are we going to accept it in our lives ? Possibly not or is almost impossible to many of us.

Journey of love

We can travel around the world searching for the right person in our life. What would I say that Some times the greatest journey is the distance between people. It is very difficult to find the right person in your life. You may think Miss Y is the best but at the same time you will meet some body with other good qualities that you will again re-think your mind stating Miss YY is good for me.

The choices we make, the decision we take are not always right in our life. We do mistakes and it is good practice to learn from those mistakes. The beauty of love, the kiss, caring and touch of other person gives you the feeling in your life that weather that person is suitable for you or not.

Women will always not find out that who is the right person for their own life because many of the times they are confused with themselves. She is in constant search of good person in her life. The ideal person for a women would be who cares her, kiss her, loves her, stands by her, gossips with her, gives her surprises,does many different things to impress her, makes her laugh, makes her cry and most importantly loves her more than himself.

Some times What I believe is that many of the relationship does not work out only because we love more than we love other person. The love of self is more than the love of person who is your soul mate.How many of us believe in love at first sight.? Love at first sight can happen only if you both are soul mates. The greatest difficulty is not in being in love but retaining the love. The greatest fear is not loosing your love but maintaining and giving the love.

My own personal experiences teaches me thousands of lesson that some times I get confused with the term itself. Their are many people who are in love, who are in committed relationship but due to some reasons-financial, economical, material and many such problems somehow could not be with the love. To all those I would like to say that greatest fear in their heart and mind is loosing the love, I would like to tell them that do not fear, expect and fall in trap of believing your love is good or bad.

Love cannot be judged with our feelings, love cannot be calculated by mathematics, even Einstein could not calculate it, It is your fulfillment, your commitment, and your dedication to maintain the love.Love do not remain for long only for you, you got to maintain it for yourself.

Many of the times we love ourselves than the person whom we say-"I love you". It is true. The reason behind this phenomenon is called love for individuality or self love. Which shows that we kill the things we love. When such thing happens why do we blame that our relationship didn't work out?

Be prepared for the journey of love of your soul mate, the love for your country, the love of your society and the love of your mother do not try to find any difference in them because all is fair when love is taken as love.

Easter, Holi & Eid Mailad u Nabi

From today onwards, Easter festival is going to be celebrated. The festival which is observed by christens, the main theme is to celebrate the resurrection of Jesus. The 2008 date for the celebration is on March 23 (Western) and April 27(Easter).The egg hunts and gift giving is especially celebrated in USA and Canada whereas the family get together, religion services are also celebrated.

Next Fesitval which is very common in Nepal and India is (Hindi: होली), or Phagwa (Bhojpuri), It is a popular, Hindu spring festival, also called the Festival of Colours. In West Bengal, it is known as Dolyatra (Doljatra) or Boshonto Utsav ("spring festival").





Another Occasion is Eid Mailad u Nabi is birth day of HOLY PROPHET HAZRAT MUHAMMAD (SAW), t is most happiest day for whole Muslim Ummah. it is in Muslim month of RABI UL AWAL from ISLAMIC CALENDAR and date is 12 RABI UL AWAL.

"we should be very careful about using some phrases like "All of the Muslims" or "The happiest day of the year". To be more clear, just for your information, I should say that the believers of a big branch of Islam don't believe in this day (Rabi o Aval 12th) as their prophet's birthday. they believe on Rabi o Aval 17th. In addition, there are many parameters that affect selecting one's happiest day of the year, for example some personal reasons like wedding anniversary or some national reasons. For example I also like today as one of the most happy day of the year not for any religious reason but as 21th of March that is ONE of the most historical celebration in human's history named Nowrouz. This is the biggest national Persian celebration. "

(Feeds from :Mohammadhadi Bordbar)



One thing is very common in all these occasions and they are celebrated during this time of year. Why are they celebrated during this time of year all of the three ? What is the reason that Prophet has to born on the same time or during the same period resurrection of Jesus. Why the Holi festival in Asia is celebrated during the same time when their is arrival of spring in west. It is not wrong or it is nothing negative in doing so but the million dollars question is it shows unlike our religion we are same.

We may have different religion, we may follow our own God and Goddess, religion, culture, festivals and so on however, we are the same ! We are same in a sense we are humans. Many of us have forgotten the fact that we are "First Humans" and then "Next-...." We are fighting for land, some one is fighting for money, others do not have peace, many of them do not have food to eat, no houses, buildings, poor deteriorating health etc. Why don't we group together and help each other some how. Why don't we give the help to those who are in need ? It is only because we think that If I have a one penny, when I will give this penny to other - that person will be one penny rich and I will be one penny poorer. It is not like that. If you have one penny that means you have many such penny.

Their are two types of phenomenon one is those types of humans who are "givers", next is those types of person who are only "takers". Especially the former one ,The person who likes to give, is outgoing, extrovert, do not care about any other things, very friendly and always wanting to do for others. "givers have heart full of love, their mind, and soul is some what similar to a vast ocean. A ocean where if you will take a glass of water it won't be empty. They think such a sense that they exit because they want to give whatever they could to this society, country, for their organization and for mother earth.

Next kind of people are those who are "takers", Those who wants to take from others. They are unfriendly, wants more than others have, introvert, not open, always want something from others such kind of people should not be mistaken with those who are in need. Those who cannot do anything by themselves. Takers especially represent to those elite group where we call them as terrorist, where we have a named them as "greatest threat of this time".

These all aspect whatever it might lead and wherever it might go- takes us to one end. Every individual in this earth knows the hard fact that we are born empty, naked and we will die empty and naked. That is why I always say that, "It is not the destination that matters, it is the path we take, a journey to the destination that matters".

To sum up, All these festivals, occasions or whatever you like to call it- Is some how connected is some way. I do not want to make any difference between any of them. We can celebrate these all together, separate as per our wish which results in one common theme. We should not forget that we are one. Some times we end up saying that "Ours is the best" ! In such case, think how far you want to expand the "ours". If you will expand "ours" limitlessly you will end up saying- "We all are best" !


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Life without you.

I am really depressed, sad and hollow. I am empty and blue. I am feeling bad about myself because I know you are not with me. I am alone, I do not trust anybody because I know nobody does trust to me. Some times I have the feeling that I should kill myself but again I remember that I am not alone anymore.

Who should I live for ? Is it for you who is very far from me or Is it my loneliness that possibly would be filled. I cannot imagine you in someone else arm because I am jealous about loosing you. I cannot say weather I love but I know I cannot live without you.

Are marriages made in heaven ? If yes, then where is this place ? I am stupid that I am asking so many questions but its not with some body else I am asking it to but with myself. I read an article about Osho today and he said that life is not about birth and death it is far more important and difficult to understand then it.

I do not want to know about life or love but I want to be close with you. How is it possible for me to quit everything and close to you ? I know the simplest solution is the most difficult to take. What is their in you that reminds me that I cannot live without you. What is that you can give it to me which I cannot live without.

People do thousand and one thing to impress their partner, girl friend and wife but what should i do to impress you despite the fact that i know you do not expect anything like me. Are we really destined to each other ? People might wonder and ponder after saying so many words about you I am asking the question are we destined for each other.

Why is that marriage fall apart and girl friend of many guys leave their boy friend ? Isn't it very difficult to answer. I like this word called difficult because everything that seems difficult to others is easy to me and everything that seems easy to others is very difficult for me.

The answer to the question is that every girl have one thing in common and that one thing is that they are jealous of other girl. Every women can either be very good to other women or either will be very god enemy. Most of the times women hate other women. They cannot see other women progress. Why ? It is because women are jealous and they are thinking too much. Sometimes they do not even think but they pretend they are thinking.

It is easy to say that they always expect the unexpected from their partners also. When their partner do not give or satisfy or could not some how satisfy her do not get me wrong with the word satisfy- it doesn't necessarily mean sexual satisfaction but the satisfaction of all kind then women start getting bored. They behave irrationally they will do something stupid which will irritate the man, boy friend and a husband. This phenomenon is usually happening therefore most of the marriages, relationship do not last long.

Do not believe me but try to learn those golden words what came just from the scratch. You will believe me when you will trust me and it is difficult to trust somebody so easily. Trust starts from the letter "t" which I have given the meaning "t"=truth and the ending of letter in word "trust" is "t" again which also means "t"=truth.

This is how I have understood and this is my philosophy of understanding the English words. I do not know history and I do not want to know them anymore. If you trust me then you will see the meaning of these words. To get an solution to an individual problem you have to have patience and wait because what I am learning is what I am presenting it.

Life without you is life without meaning, without any reason, without any climate and without any motive. I really don't know if i will be alive to see you. If I will be, I would like to die in your arms. Wish you were here to see what I am going through, everything we wish does not come true and with everything their is again nothing...Life without you...

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Two Lives

I do not know what to write, I do not have any words today to write these words to not matter as long as the feelings matter to a person. Last night I went to a friend’s house, “He said, I do not know weather I should live or kill myself” I asked him, “Why is he saying like that, what is the problem”? He does not think that life worth that much because he was in love with one girl, she was very beautiful. The girl too was in love with him. They both had very good time sharing memories, sharing food, sharing clothes and everything a nice happy couple would have. But the problem arose when one day the girl family forcefully asked her to marry a famous Doctor. The problem was that both the girl and boy were inter-caste. They did not belong to same caste. The girl was worried very much she did not knew what to decide whether she should marry a man her family is insisting on or rather marry the boy she is in love with. The guy was spell bound and he has nothing to say. He asked me this question time and again-Santosh, Why are we having this problem? What is the main cause behind this? Can you give me helpful solution? Well, I went in deep thought whole night and I finally got this idea, Life is all about living for a day. Forgot about the religion as long as you follow your heart. Two things cannot go hand in hand. One is mind and other one is heart. Religion is mixture of Mind and Heart. Mind says do this, do those? Heart says I want this. If you are deciding between what you want and what has to be done then which one you should choose? It is always the combination of these two would give you the best possible result. But if one thing misses, it will always be good to listen to your heart. Religion is one of the biggest problems our country is facing today. Every father and mother wants to marry their child with the same caste they belong to. But why? Caste does not matter as long as Feelings matter deep inside the heart. Imagine you were to die and you have just one day to live. What would you do in that case? Which caste you would choose then? Always listen to your heart, if you listen to it, you will always get what you want and you will reach where you want to go. With mind you will also reach to the destination but the challenging, entertaining, fighting, struggling journey of reaching to destination won’t be there. Life is all about learning. If the girl listens to her family members, she is not making her decision, she is living on somebody else’s decision, it is not your mistake and just let it be. So, do not worry and ask your girl also not to worry as long you both are listening to your heart, feeling silence, going back to your self and being yourself, present- in present.