What type of work gives you pleasure?

From Paulo Coelho-
"Question of the week: What type of work gives you pleasure?"

In response to question asked by Paulo Coelho here is what I have to say-



Very good question Paulo,

A question has to be well understood before putting a comment or writing an article or even writing a book about it. A nice and beautiful question is such that it gives loads of lessons in our personal, professional life.

Now, the question is- “what kind of work gives pleasure”. The question has “kind of” which is asking a variety, types or the work or many of the work or different kinds of work. It contains the word called “pleasure”. Now to associate the word such as pleasure with the different kind of the work it is not easy.

A person can do many different kind of work. He can have many different identities. He can be a son, at the same time he can also be father, a humble husband, a worker in some company and so on.

If “kind of” is related with the identities then he has to change is multiple identities depending upon the time and circumstances. But again, if “kind of” is related only with the professional work then it is relatively easier than the previous explanation.

Right from the childhood to the very end of a human study we tend to change our path or destination. We do not know what is our main goal or what are we doing with the present course work in school or present work in the office. We tend to change many of the times the work that we have been doing or the course we have been attending or any social activity we are doing at the moment. To relate with the question asked, I would ask again- Why?

The main answer to this question is that- “realize it for yourself”. The most important thing in life is to understand what do you want. Do you need a money ? Do you need a pleasure ? Do you need a nice car, or big house or some materialistic things ?

The “need” drives us to the destination. The need of something will always demand from us to do something. Therefore, it is important to understand what do you need ?

After understanding for yourself, then you do the work. The work could be anything. But once we start to work we should be able to stick to it. This is the most difficult part. It is difficult because, we get lazy and we do not again want to visit the same office every day. We do not then tend to feel as if we really are finding any pleasure in such work.

While you are working, money is important but above money “determination”, “satisfaction” and “attitude” are more important. These elements will not give you the pleasure but these will motivate you to stick or hang in to the work you have been doing lately.

Work is some how related with search of soul mate. Once we understand what kind of person will be our soul mate and we then put all our effort to maintain the relationship with him or her. Similarly, work can be many but once we match the our needs with the work we have been doing; we then tend to stick with the work in front of us.

Therefore, as we are many and all our thinking is different, our taste is different definitely one will find work A better than work B but it is not the case- the most important aspect is to understand what you need and then match your needs with the work given to you. Once this is done, you will not have to search for the pleasure because it will come automatically.

Solve the greater problems.

A lot of things are there in our mind and loads of things do not always get fulfilled automatically. Each of these problems we face are faced by others like us every where in the world. Many people do not like to be happy just because they have some simple problems but look at those who are living in Africa with no food to eat and no home to live.

Look at those who live there lives in Africa with "disease such as AIDS", and problems of poverty and education. What types of world are we going to make tomorrow ? Will we be able to make the world a better place just by neglecting all those who have true inspiration to create a better world or will we just look after our own community and not to others ? It is great challenge for many who lives in peace to invite those who have broader vision for greater world and who have power to deliver good even when they live anywhere.

Tomorrow, our future will not be solved by solving our own issues but by solving the problems of those who are in need. Tomorrow, is very unknown and to figure out the unknown we must walk through the path of today. At this moment, we are busy in our day to day activity but I ask you why are we not looking after those who are facing more problems than our smaller daily problems ? We should try to seek and find some solutions to our greater problems. Example would be enormous. Some of these examples would be AIDS, Global warming,Poverty and equality, caste and creeds, race and religion and many more.

"Together we grow", is one of the slogan of European Union. The slogan tells that there are many countries inside the europe but all these countries cannot progress single they have to be united to solve the problems of all the countries and problems of the world. I like the slogan because it has greater potential than anything else.

It is always good to remember that "United" we will develop, being united we will progress and being united we will solve our greater problems. But from the place where I come up, Nepal- a country famous for bigger mountains and birthplace of Spiritual leaders Gautam Buddha. I can see only differences in the making of the country.

I do not know what kind of differences they are creating, leaders are creating but these differences are truly non-inspirational and can lead to devastating future ahead. The land of peace has been decided to be divided on the basis of Caste. A place where there are hundreds of caste and the land division based on caste and creed is not a good choice.

As the country is highly being influenced by India and most of the products are consumed from India. These country men should stand together for the greater cause and build a nation together. But to lead the country men for the greater cause none of the leaders are motivated. All these leaders are already being sell to India. These leaders are sold to India even before they come into power.

"In a country of 100 fools, if there is one intelligent than that one intelligent also have to become a fool." There are some people who have greater vision for the country and want to develop the Nations but the statement with quotation says it all for those very few greater visionaries.

If my seventh sense works for me, I would like to say that; In the place where people stand for the greater cause by joining hand in hand together to solve the global problems with great ideas, one must learn from them. If cannot learn one must look and observe how they progress and see how can we develop our nations too.

To live for ourself is easy, every body does it but to live for the problems faced by people else where is very difficult. Let us try and do difficult things. Easy is always easy, but those humans are humans who try to solve greater difficult problems. Even if you are not capable or you think you cannot do anything, just follow the path. It will take you there where some one in need will ask for your help.

Nepal or Festivals in Nepal (Holi)

We all like to share our memories, the things we have done and we also like to speak a lot about our country, culture and our own things. Why ? The big question is why do we like to share our feelings, our thoughts and tell some one about it.

We like to do these things only because we want to make aware the other person about it. By the way Who is interested in listening what you have done, achieve or wants to do in future ? Why should other person be interested in what you want to show him ? He will only be interested if he wants to listen to what you have to say and if he thinks he can learn something from you. It is quite ok to say or speak your mind or speak about country, culture or what so ever in limit. Don't over do it.

The nature of finding it how you are over doing some thing is ask yourself. Well, this if very difficult thing to do. It is difficult because we are lazy at asking to ourself, we do not have time to ask ourself; we might thing we are smart by speaking a lot about one particular subject but we are not.

It does not matter what we are going to talk only thing matters is how we are going to talk. Later when we realize that we have done mistake we want to improve but we try to improve the task by 10 to 15 % that is absolutely wrong try to improve it 10 to 15 times better than 10 to 15 % better.

Why is that I am always right and he/she is wrong ? We can make loud cries about our country, culture and our core values to people or to some one but we need to see if other party are really interested. Always stick to the point. It is the point where you have to start don't try to explain the whole paper or whole big circle you will not be able to deliver everything.

Yesterday, I had the meeting with my friends and we had the discussion on how should we present the Nepali culture. I didn't agree on what those guys were doing and I do not agree now and I will not agree till the event finishes. It is not the whole Country you are going to sell in 2 hrs. The party is organize for a festival in Nepal called "Holi". Why not to talk more no "festivals" rather than whole country "Nepal"

It is fare enough that guys are doing excellent job on preparing slides, preparing video, organizing and doing a many things on planning, arranging or what so ever. But I have my own point of views and the view is that- Just speak little about Nepal and then focus on Festivals- Starting for biggest festival to smallest and finish it.

What I believe is we are marketing our country, Every person who belongs to one country if he/she speaks about it that means they are marketing their country, culture etc. This is one need to take care about.We always focus on quantity and not the quality, It is the quality that matters not the quantity. The task to is focus on one point and tell about that particular point My dear friends will not do so because they think it is not enough. We have thousand points, We want to talk about all the 900 points out of 1000. We are not going to talk about only 1 or 2 points. Why ? It is only because we think we are speaking less. Well, My entire life is not enough to speak about my country, my home, my culture or let's say I am too small to talk about every thing about Nepal.

I am so small and my mind is so limited that even if I study and want to speak something on my country it will take 7 re-incarnation to tell 9% about my country. People wants to deliver it in 2 hrs. Wow ! Cheers !

I am not demoralizing my dear friends but I am being transparent. I am being transparent by stating that if you want to take a point of view of others then do not waste others point of view at least you got to listen it and then think for a while. Not just ignore it, just like that.

Ignoring others point of view will not make any changes, if you really want to bring some change or wish to do so. It is easier to make some one angry or make them feel uneasy or stupid in a crowd only because you think you are doing right. You assume you are smart, intelligent and respected but it is not.

"I might look stupid but I am not" (stolen from a friend quote). Well, Thank you for very pleasant ideas-as celebration is for enjoyment and Holi itself stands for forgetting whatever sin or wrong we did in past, or hurt someone knowingly or unknowinlgy. Let's forget everything and celebrate.

I am sorry to all my friends who might get hurt of what I have written. I am sorry to those who are getting hurt and I am sorry to myself. I hope you guys will also ignore my ignorance. I am in the process of unknowing people and thank you for helping me in this process.

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Learn to live in silence

There can never be single world, there is always a difference between every country, every individual, every language, every culture and every religion. We are no same. We do not want some one in our home land. We do not want to give some body the opportunity because the main reason is we think that person will rule our state or our space. He will become the leader in that state. No two person in the world can be same. The main reason for this is that we all are born same physically but we all have difference in thinking. we think in the way it has affected our inner part of our brain- May be because of our culture, climate, environment, people we have met in past and because of our parents. I do not have any real figures at the moment but I can tell you that half of the people living in this planet are poor and half of them are rich. Why half-half ? because there is balance between poor and rich. Without the balance the world would not have been stable. Today it is stable. People can live in peace but it is slowly starting to increase. The stability is starting to break. There will be times when we will kill each other. We will eat the other human flesh. There will be time in future when we will have to struggle to survive. This time will come soon in near future. In west, Individual has his life, his wife, his children and he cares about them only them. Who cares about what other people is going through ? and besides that forget about their own parents and family members. If my brother is dieing for a food and struggling for some amount of money why should I go and see him ? Why should I waste my time and money for him ? This is the concept of west. In East, People are more collectivist and they think not only me, my friends family and my wife, my children all should be cared together with me. This is too much of asking. If you are earning 500. then you always think of dividing that 500 among 5 family members. This is also no good. We people from that part of world think this is good and we do not like the concept of west because we belong to that part of world. There is difference in the way we think. That difference can be overcome if we can make some balance in our mind and say that we do not belong to both the group but somewhere in between. Then, we will have a stability in our mind. If you want to have stability in your mind and you do not want to ruin your life- just living like this. Please focus on present and learn the way of living in silence like a early morning river. Silence will teach you everything. Its not words that values but the words that comes and says you something inside your heart when you remain silent.